Complication in marriage.....

Marry the one you love
or
Love the one you marry ?????

Read on to find out please.....

Two men, one American and an Indian were sitting in a bar and discussing about their family problems. Shot after shot. The Indian man said to the American: "We have problem in India. We can't marry the one whom we love. You know my parents are forcing me to get married to this so called homely and domesticated girl from a village whom I haven't even met once. We call this an arranged marriage. I don't want to marry a woman whom I don't love. I told my parents that openly and now have a hell of a lot of family problems."

The American said: "Talking about love marriages, in America we can marry the one we love. Let me tell you my story. I married a widow whom I deeply loved and dated her for three years. After a couple of years, my father fell in love with my step-daughter and married her, so my father became my son-in-law and I became my father's father-in-law. Legally now my daughter is my mother and my wife is my grandmother. More problems occurred when I had a son. My son is my father's brother and so he is my uncle. The situation turned worse when my father had a son. Now my father's son, my brother, is my grandson. Ultimately, I have become my own grandfather and I am my own grandson.

And you say you have family problems?"

The Indian fainted...

The Homeless man.....

Most of our Malaysian have gone for a long holiday this week. If you happened to be around, let me amuse you a bit with this story...

A man was walking down the street when he was accosted by a particularly dirty and shabby-looking homeless man who asked him for a couple of dollars for dinner.

The man took out his wallet, extracted two dollars and asked, "If I give you this money, will you buy some beer with it instead?"

"No, I stopped drinking years ago," the homeless man said.

"Will you use it to gamble instead of buying food?" the man asked.

"No, I don't gamble," the homeless man said. "I need everything I can get just to stay alive."

"Will you spend the money on green fees at a golf course instead of food?" the man asked.

"Are you NUTS!" replied the homeless man. "I haven't played golf in 20 years!"

"Well," said the man, "I'm not going to give you two dollars. Instead, I'm going to take you home for a terrific dinner cooked by my wife."

The homeless man was astounded, "Won't your wife be furious with you for doing that? I know I'm dirty, and I probably smell pretty bad."

The man replied, "Hey, man, that's okay! I just want her to see what a man looks like who's given up beer, gambling, and golf!"

A heart a horse likes........

In the course of selling life insurance for the past 30 years, I had seen many well learned and intelligent agent who came to join our career aggressively but left the trade sooner than expected. On their name cards, it's imprinted with all sorts of credential, memberships holding, leagues they representing, positions and academic qualifications. Some even have Doctrine or MBA for showing their level of excellence.

Surprisingly those who have nothing to show but are basically simple minded agents with a big heart, lasted much longer in this challenging business than the intelligent one. The reason is also simple because - "A horse doesn't care how much you know, until he knows how much you care"- Pat Parelli.

Princess Melt.......

Weekend story.....

Once upon a time there lived a king.
The king had a beautiful daughter, the PRINCESS.

But there was a problem. Everything the princess touched would melt.

No matter what;

Metal,

Wood,

Stone,

Anything she touched would melt.

Because of this, men were afraid of her. Nobody would dare marry her.

The king despaired. What could he do to help his daughter?

He consulted his wizards and magicians.
One wizard told the king, 'If your daughter touches one thing that does not melt in her hands,
she will be cured.'

The king was overjoyed and came up with a plan next day, he held a competition.
Any man that could bring his daughter an object that would not melt would marry her and
inherit the king's wealth.

THREE YOUNG PRINCES TOOK UP THE CHALLENGE.

The first brought a sword of the finest steel.

But alas, when the princess touched it, it melted, and the prince went away sadly.

The second prince brought diamonds.

He thought diamonds are the hardest substance in the world and would not melt.
But alas, once the princess touched them, they melted. He too was sent away disappointed.
:-[

The third prince approached. He told the princess,

'Put your hand in my pocket and feel what is in there.'

The princess did as she was told, though she turned red.

She felt something hard.. She held it in her hand.

And it did not melt!!!

The king was overjoyed. Everybody in the kingdom was overjoyed. And the third prince married the princess and they both lived happily ever after.

Innocent virgins getting marry.............

A young Chinese couple get married.

She's a virgin & they are both waiters. Truth be told, he is a virgin too, but she doesn't know that.

On their wedding night, she covers naked under the sheets, as her husband undresses in the darkness. He climbs into bed next to her and tries to be reassuring.

"My darring," he whispers, "I know dis you first time and you berry flighten. I pomise you, I give you anyting you want, I do anyting juss anyting you want. You juss ask. Whatchu want?" he says, trying to sound experienced and worldly, which he hopes will impress her.

A thoughtful silence follows, and he waits patiently and eagerly for her request.

She eventually shyly whispers back, "I want to try someting I have heard about from other girls ... Nummaa 69".

More thoughtful silence, but this time from him Eventually, in a puzzled tone he asks her...
"You want ... Garlic Chicken with corrifrowa?"

Luck comes when one works harder....

Selling tips......

One property agent is supposed to sell one of my old apartment. He hadn't contacted me for quite awhile. Curious to know about his progress, I sent him a message, "Hi Young man. Any good news about my property?" He replied, "Hi Robert! One buyer getting bank loan & buyer coming tomorrow. Will keep you updated on developments. Thanks. Luck luck luck pls come!"

I was quick to respond him, "Luck alone isn't good enough. I believe in action more. The heart & the mind have to sink together to make things possible".

To me in selling, luck only comes when there are much activities involved. When the salesperson who doesn't see many prospects, his sales bound to be low. Whereas another salesman who is prepared to see unlimited prospects, I'm sure his sales would be good. Luck is justified by seeing more people. To my agent who intends to dispose my property, I wish he could contact more people out there.

I believe in this proverb - "Be prepared, work hard, and hope for a little luck. Recognize that the harder you work and the better prepared you are, the more luck you might have" - Ed Bradley

Three stages of life for everyone of us....

Three stages of life. A young graduate finds difficult in gaining employment because he has no working experience. A middle aged person complains that the world is too competitive when he has to face many challenges. Wait until they are like my age, they might not even be able to get up.

Once you pass the age of sixties, the aging process comes rapidly. I remember when I was much younger, without exercising my physical could still be strong. My muscle was firm and my stamina was good. Today! If I missed a week of not going to the gym, my muscle would easily get loosen, making me feel lousy and lethargy. Not running for two weeks, my stamina might deteriorate. Pushing myself to exercise at our age isn't easy either. We need a lot of determination and encouragement from the within and outside factors to maintain our regular exercising. Don't believe me! Walk in to a gym, you could hardly see any senior veteran doing their workout.

The aging process not only affect the body, we could see the changes on our skin and the face. In order to look good and tidy, I have to learn to beautify myself with all types of cream and lotion. I have to be brave to let beautician to massage my facial and body. Finally is our brain. Aging slows the thought and memory. I have to keep reminding myself to live a positive minded person. I have to be courageous to feel young as ever. I must not fail to fall in love again.

To the young graduate and the middle aged man, your problems are not problem. They are just life experiences everyone has to go through in their lives. If you could sustain and clear all these obstacles of the present, I'm sure you would be stronger to prepare yourself for the aging that will come in the later part of your life. I'm at my final stage and I'm also looking forward to face it without complain or sorrow. For I know all of us have only one life to live. Therefore make the best of what we are....


So true - “We come fresh to the different stages of life, and in each of them we are quite inexperienced, no matter how old we are” - François de la Rochefoucauld quotes

Selling life insurance is my hobby....

Thirty years ago when I became a life insurance agent, most of my good friends ran away from me. They felt that I might be a nuisance to them. They were afraid to see a life insurance agent. Some even claimed that selling life insurance was degrading and considered as not a noble profession of all selling. I could still remember two of them saying selling insurance is like a beggar. I was almost demoralized with this remark. Thank God! My inner conscious kept me going.

Today is a different story. All those good friends who are still alive, wish that they should have been a life insurance agent. Some had left for a better world elsewhere. Those who are still around, are retired and not wanted in any employment or business. Passing time is the most difficult task in their daily lives. They could not mix with their younger generation and the youngsters are afraid of their attitude and behaviour. They pass their pleasurable time yanking old mother stories among the old folks. They feel that their value and pride aren't needed anymore.

Admiring me in every sense, they could see I have all the energy and enthusiasm. There isn't a single day when I have nothing to do. My hand phone, sms and emails kept reaching me. Whereas they are at lost in today's high tech world. Reading my personal blog amused them. I have got friends from the school going kids to the pensioners. I speak with confidence and pride. Most important I have many admirers from near and afar who are willing to listen to my wisdom and life. The amount of dears, honeys and darlings who kept surrounding me made them go crazy and jealous. The different between us is I'm still very much wanted whereas they have to be kept within themselves for company.

Yes! Selling life insurance makes a lot of different. I used to tell these friends. Talking is my hobby. And when I could make others happy and to see them smile, I know my hobby works. Selling life insurance allows me to talk until the last day of my breath.

This is my tag line too - "I am a very lucky man. I am living my life with my hobby as my profession" - Jim Sullivan

Black & White.....

Colours are wanders of the world. Without colour, the world would have been a dead planet. White has no colour and black has nothing to see. But when white and black are mixed together, it captures the eyes of everyone. White depicts neutrality and black represents attention and admiration. A black woman and a white man, leaves the woman unattractive but when a darker man stands besides a fairer lady, they look more compatible because the lady tends to be more attractive and her man appears stronger in personality.

I think colour plays a very important role in our society. Colour itself has tremendous impact on human mind and feeling. I have a little child friend, a girl who is born from an Indian father and a Chinese mother. She has the mixture of both parents. With her dad, she looks fairer but with her mum, she is much darker. My guesses are she loves her dad more though he is an unloving man and she likes her mum with a bit of jealousy in thought, because the mother stole the limelight with her fairer complexion. Nothing could be done. Except! If this little girl who one day might get marry, I hope she could meet another man who is black. The black man would definitely place her to be fairer of all. This is my personal opinion.

View quotes by Malcom X - "When I'm born I'm black, when I grow up I'm black, when I'm in the sun I'm black, when I'm sick I'm black, when I die I'm black, and you... when you're born you're pink, when you grow up you're white, when you're cold you're blue, when you're sick you're blue, when you die you're green and you dare call me coloured".

I make her scream......

I thought I was a hero until I read this story, one you should look at before you start the week. I bet you would laugh. Otherwise don't come back to this blog again....

The Italian says: "Last night I massaged my wife all over her body with the finest olive oil, then we made passionate love and I made her scream non stop for five minutes."

The Frenchman says: "Last night I massaged my wife all over her body with special aphrodisiac oil, and then we made passionate love. I made her scream for fifteen minutes straight."

The Indian says: That's nothing. Last night I massaged my wife all over her body with a special butter. I caressed her entire body with the butter, and then made love and I made her scream for two long hours."

The Italian and Frenchman, astonished, asked, "Two hours, phenomenal! How did you do it to make her scream for two hours?" ...

The Indian: "I wiped my hands on the curtains."

For a little more fun quotes - "I scream, you scream...We all scream for ice cream!" & "A little bit of ah ah ah , a little bit of uh uh uh then bam!"

CARRY YOUR BURDENS AND SORROWS....

A Sunday joke.....

A HUSBAND COMES HOME FROM CHURCH;
HE GREETS HIS WIFE AND LIFTS HER UP.
HE THEN CARRIED HER AROUND THE HOUSE.

THE WIFE WAS SO SURPRISED AND SHE ASKED "DID THE BISHOP PREACH ABOUT BEING ROMANTIC"?

THE HUSBAND SAID, "NO, HE SAID WE MUST CARRY OUR BURDENS AND SORROWS."

Give a man a fish.....

Years back, it was....
Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he can feed himself for life. (Chinese Version).

Later, it became.....
Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Give a fish a man, and he'll eat for a week. ( Japanese Style)


Today....
Give a man a fish and he has food for a day; teach him how to fish and you can get rid of him for the entire weekend ~ Zenna Schaffer.



Nobody has taught me how to fish. Otherwise I won't be sitting here to blog on the weekend.

The Power of YES........

Today I had a chance to meet my client Paul Raaj who is a consultant in Zazen Health Solutions. He brought in the subject of The Power of YES.

The Yes is always better than a No. Yes is positive, whereas a No could be negative. To test his point, he suggested me to stand up, closed my eyes and to speak aloud the YES repeatedly for several times. While I was doing it, I could feel my head was moving ahead because saying the word YES, I had to throw by voice out vigorously. This allowed my head to push outward as well. Whereas when I spoke the word NO, my head was falling backward instead. The sounding of the NO was a sunken voice which retrieved inwardly. Conclusion the YES was more powerful than the NO.

So the next time when one is down, please don't be afraid to yell aloud the YES. Believe me it would immediately change your mindset to be more positive in outlook. Thank you for sharing Paul.

Specially for Paul - "I only have 'yes' men around me. Who needs 'no' men?" - Mae West

I'm still carrying my briefcase in selling.

As a salesman I have been carrying my briefcase for more than 44 years. Today I'm still proud to work along with it whenever I conduct my business. I really do not know the other part of the world, but right in my country Malaysia no salesman carries it anymore. When I first started selling life insurance with Prudential, our British logo was a man carrying a briefcase. It represented the professionalism of our agencies, the man who listens and always understanding. Not today! Non of our agents has briefcase. They carry haversacks with their laptops and the ladies use their handbags. They have lost their pride to carry the briefcase. On checking with many agents, they feel shy to use the old way of working with briefcase. Using a briefcase indicates the person is a salesperson. Indirectly they are shameful to be known as selling.

Not me! My briefcase is my pride and I feel great to be a super salesman selling life insurance. To prove my words. Yesterday while visiting one of my prospect in his office, his CEO of the company happened to come into his room for a casual chat. I was introduced to him as a friend to his staff. While chatting he was sharp to see my personal briefcase besides the chair I was sitting. He was so captured and attracted to this black leather shinning briefcase. With my permission, he touched my bag with admiration. According to him, he too hadn't seen any salesperson using such expensive briefcase for a very long time. He believes only those who are professional enough in whatever they profess could carry such bags as their working tools.

Later he instructed his staff that I should fix an appointment with him because he really wants to know what I sell. I have a good personality and my briefcase enhances my value. So sad! Today non of our sales agents knows how to appreciate the beauty of a briefcase in selling.

Food for thought - "Take pride in your work at all times. Remember, respect for an umpire is created off the field as well as on" - Ford Frick

High headed son with a left over fortune.....

A mother asked me to help her 31 years old son to get a job. The child has two degrees from Great Britain and has never worked permanently in one company ever since he came back seven years ago. For the last five years he was only working as free lance staff. Qualifying in advertising media, he is prepared to take designation of a copywriter or an art director. Any position lower than these two, he isn't interested. In fact he was offered several times on jobs related to advertising but he rejected all these offers. Reasons were, either positions were not to his expectation, or the places of employment were to far from his home or the salary was low.

With my strong network, the mother requested for my favour to assist his son to obtain a glamorous job with good salary plus the company should be around their neighbourhood. What a request!!! I really couldn't imagine how the mum could ask such favour.

I didn't totally reject her request. I was brave to tell her that I think the son has attitude problem. If he isn't going to change his way of thinking, it would be difficult for him to seek any employment. I suggested to her, being the family is Christian, she has to encourage the son to attend Sunday Church services. Perhaps that is the place where free advices and guidance could be provided.

Before we ended our discusssion, the mother told me her deceased husband had left the son some fortune. Because of the easy asset in hand, the son isn't bother to work hard to fend for himself. See! Money is good. But too much money could spoil a person. So sad for him!!!

The high headed son should know - “Money is a good servant but a bad master.” - Francis Bacon, Sr. quotes

How to make the fastest One Million?

Selling tips.

One young friend asked me this question. How to make the fastest one Million cash?

My answer was quite simple. Either you have to make one person to give you the One Million, or 1000 people to give you the One Thousand or 100 people to give you the ten thousands. If you don't have the one charitable person who is willing to part his One Million for you or you think to approach the 1000 people are to many to meet, then try the possible of the 100 prospects who are prepared to offer you each of their ten thousand. 100 multiple by 10000 is One Million. See the 100 people with sincerity and make them happy until they cannot resist to offer you this ten thousand as earned income. Selling life insurance could make this happened.

Do you know - "When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless" - Pema Chodron

Lady Handbags are clean ?

All ladies love handbags, especially my little darling. They buy not just one or two but buy whenever they see another better one in front of them. If you are one who loves handbags, please read on....

HANDBAGS

Have you ever noticed girls who set their handbags on public toilet floors, then go directly to their dining tables and set it on the table? It's not always the 'restaurant food' that causes stomach distress. Sometimes 'what you don't know will hurt you'!

Read on.............
Mom got so upset when guests came in the door and plopped their handbags down on the counter where she was cooking or setting up food. She always said that handbags are really dirty, because of where they have been.

It's something just about every woman carries with them. While we may know what's inside our handbags, do you have any idea what's on the outside? Women carry handbags everywhere; from the office to public toilets to the floor of the car. Most women won't be caught without their handbags, but did you ever stop to think about where your handbag goes during the day.

'I drive a school bus, so my handbag has been on the floor of the bus a lot,' says one woman. 'On! The floor of my car, and in toilets.' 'I put my handbag in grocery shopping carts and on the floor of the toilet,' says another woman 'and of course in my home which should be clean.'

We decided to find out if handbags harbor a lot of bacteria. We learned how to test them at Nelson Laboratories in Salt Lake , and then we set out to test the average woman's handbag.

Most women told us they didn't stop to think about what was on the bottom of their handbag. Most said at home they usually set their handbags on top of kitchen tables and counters where food is prepared. Most of the ladies we talked to told us they wouldn't be surprised if their handbags were at least a little bit dirty.

It turns out handbags are so surprisingly dirty, even the microbiologist who tested them was shocked.

Microbiologist Amy Karen of Nelson Labs says nearly all of the handbags tested were not only high in bacteria, but high in harmful kinds of bacteria. Pseudomonas can cause eye infections, staphylococcus aurous can cause serious skin infections, and salmonella and e-coli found on the handbags could make people very sick.

In one sampling, four of five handbags tested positive for salmonella, and that's not the worst of it. 'There is fecal contamination on the handbags' says Amy. Leather or vinyl handbags tended to be cleaner than cloth handbags, and lifestyle seemed to play a role. People with kids tended to have dirtier handbags than those without, with one exception.

The handbag of one single woman who frequented nightclubs had one of the worst contaminations of all. 'Some type of feces, or possibly vomit' says Amy.

So the moral of this story is that your handbag won't kill you, but it does have the potential to make you very sick if you keep it on places where you eat. Use hooks to hang your handbag at home and in toilets, and don't put it on your desk, a restaurant table, or on your kitchen countertop.

Experts say you should think of your handbag the same way you would a pair of shoes. 'If you think about putting a pair of shoes on your countertops, that's the same thing you're doing when you put your handbag on the countertops.'

Your handbag has gone where individuals before you have walked, sat, sneezed, coughed, spat, urinated, emptied bowels, etc!

Do you really want to bring that home with you? The microbiologists at Nelson also said cleaning a handbag will help. Wash cloth handbags and use leather cleaner to clean the bottom of leather handbags.

THIS IS WORTH SHARING!!! PLEASE PASS THIS ON TO YOUR GRANDMOTHERS, MOMS, DAUGHTERS, GRANDDAUGHTERS AND GIRLFRIENDS !! !!

Sex with a wrong boyfriend!!!!!

How can this mistake happened.....

Woman had sex with wrong 'boyfriend'

A Chinese woman mistook a stranger to be her boyfriend and had sex with him.

Later when she lodged a report, police said it was difficult to charge the man as the woman voluntarily had sex with him.

The woman, 26, and her boyfriend had attended a friend's birthday party and left late at night.

Thinking that it was too late to go home, they decided to stay at a hostel in Guizhou, China.

In the middle of the night, she went to the common toilet outside the room.

But when she returned, she entered the wrong room.

After getting into the bed, the man in the bed wanted to have sex with her. Thinking that he was her boyfriend, she had sex with him.

Later the woman found out that the man was not her boyfriend and reported to the police.

Source: Guizhou Commercial Daily / China Daily
Published Aug 10 2011

Other side of the coin......

A Mother was reading a magazine and her cute little daughter every now and then distracted her. To keep her busy, she tore one page on which was printed the map of the world. She tore it into pieces and asked her to go to her room and put them together to make the map again.

She was sure her daughter would take a lot more time and probably whole of day to get it done. But the little one came back within minutes with perfect map.

When she asked how she could do it so quickly, she said, "Oh Mom, there is a man's face on the other side of the paper. I made the face perfect to get the map right." she ran outside to play leaving the mother surprised.�

Moral :

Perhaps there is always the other side to whatever you experience in this world. This story indirectly teaches a lesson. That is, whenever we come across a challenge or a puzzling situation, look at the other side...and will be surprised to see an easy way to tackle the problem or an acute difficulty.

Can't live without my phone........

Believe me, the above message applies on most of us. Including myself too! I had been using hand phone for more than 25 years now. Those early days it started with the big atur car phone when the mobile hand phone wasn't available then. Today the hand phone is part of me. But yesterday when I left home for work, I forgotten to carry my iPhone along. I thought I could move on without it. No! I felt terribly strange, I wasn't comfortable, I felt like being part naked, the world seemed disconnected in my working system, my mind was disorientated and disorganised. Since I couldn't continue to work, I drove home again to pick up my beloved tool which is my iPhone. So! The above message is right.

Anyway be careful with this communication toy. Coz it might cause more harm than good. Please see below the true happening, a lesson to be learnt.

THE GIRL BUSY ON PHONE : GETS TRAPPED !

The girl did not have time to leave the bus, She was busy talking on phone. Her head was caught between the door leaf of the bus. The driver did not notice the passenger and traveled a few meters, until he heard people screaming from the salon..

DON'T TALK ON PHONE WHILE ON THE MOVE!

A lesson to be learned. How many of us use the phone ( either to talk or to send messages) while driving, crossing the road and doing whatever else. Pls learn from all the lessons. HEAVEN CAN WAIT!

What is happiness?

Too touching not to share this story.....

My wife called, 'How long will you be with that newspaper? Will you come here and make your darling daughter eat her food?'

I tossed the paper away and rushed to the scene. My only daughter, Sindu, looked frightened; tears were welling up in her eyes. In front of her was a bowl filled to its brim with curd rice. Sindu is a nice child, quite intelligent for her age.

I cleared my throat and picked up the bowl. “Sindu, darling, why don't you take a few mouthful of this curd rice? Just for Dad's sake, dear.”

Sindu softened a bit and wiped her tears with the back of her hands. “Ok, Dad. I will eat - not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole lot of this. But, you should...” Sindu hesitated. “Dad, if I eat this entire curd Rice, will you give me whatever I ask for?”

“Promise.” I covered the pink soft hand extended by my daughter with mine, and clinched the deal. Now I became a bit anxious. “Sindu, dear, you shouldn't insist on getting a computer or any such expensive items. Dad does not have that kind of money right now. Ok?”

“No, Dad. I do not want anything expensive.” Slowly and painfully, she finished eating the whole quantity. I was silently angry with my wife and my mother for forcing my child to eat something that she detested.

After the ordeal was through, Sindu came to me with her eyes wide with expectation. All our attention was on her.

“Dad, I want to have my head shaved off, this Sunday!” was her demand.

“Atrocious!” shouted my wife, “A girl child having her head shaved off? Impossible!”

“Never in our family!” My mother rasped. “She has been watching too much of television. Our culture is getting totally spoiled with these TV programs!”

“Sindu, darling, why don't you ask for something else? We will be sad seeing you with a clean-shaven head.”

“Please, Sindu, why don't you try to understand our feelings?” I tried to plead with her.

“Dad, you saw how difficult it was for me to eat that curd rice.” Sindu was in tears. “And you promised to grant me whatever I ask for. Now, you are going back on your words. Was it not you who told me the story of King Harishchandra, and its moral that we should honor our promises no matter what?”

It was time for me to call the shots. “Our promise must be kept.”

“Are you out of your mind?” chorused my mother and wife.

“No. If we go back on our promises, she will never learn to honour her own. Sindu, your wish will be fulfilled.”

With her head clean-shaven, Sindu had a round-face, and her eyes looked big and beautiful.

On Monday morning, I dropped her at her school. It was a sight to watch my hairless Sindu walking towards her classroom. She turned around and waved. I waved back with a smile. Just then, a boy alighted from a car, and shouted, “Sinduja, please wait for me!” What struck me was the hairless head of that boy. “May be, that is the in-stuff,” I thought.

“Sir, your daughter Sinduja is great indeed!” Without introducing herself, a lady got out of the car, and continued, “that boy who is walking along with your daughter is my son Harish. He is suffering from... leukaemia.” She paused to muffle her sobs. “Harish could not attend the school for the whole of the last month. He lost all his hair due to the side effects of the chemotherapy.

He refused to come back to school fearing the unintentional but cruel teasing of the schoolmates. Sinduja visited him last week, and promised him that she will take care of the teasing issue. But, I never imagined she would sacrifice her lovely hair for the sake of my son! Sir, you and your wife are blessed to have such a noble soul as your daughter.”

I stood transfixed and then, I wept. “My little Angel, you are teaching me how selfless real love is!”

The happiest people on this planet are not those who live on their own terms but are those who change their terms for the ones whom they love...

Children have creative mind........

Hahaha! I laughed while looking at this humorous picture.

By the way, if you happened to be the parent of this child, how would you react!!!

Are you going to jump and get angry over him? Or Embarrassed because your friends are around? Or scold him for being naughty? Serious! Think about it please.

For me, I would laugh furiously and not the least be shameful, and neither would I be angry over him. I believe all growing kids are innocent. Being playful, cheeky, mischievous and naughty of them are all signs of braveness and creativeness in their growing. They might grow to be intelligence and smart later. One little boy who behaved like the above child is the one who is writing this message to all to read now.

Albert Einstein said, ‘To stimulate creativity, one must develop the childlike inclination for play and the childlike desire for recognition.’

Tarzan & Tarzanee......

I'm pretty sure most of us had seen Tarzan's movies, especially with his lady's Jane. The one I like best is Tarzan and Tarzanee. For those who haven't seen it, please click further to have a better blow up picture.

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Sometimes we played Tarzan at home and it's wonderful if we could have a Tarzanee to play along with us. If Tarzan could not live without a mate in the wild, you and me can't either.

“Tarzan is direct; he doesn't ask Jane if they might have a meaningful relationship or if they can get together for lunch sometime.” - Richard Kahn quotes

Your Colon & Your Health

Some interesting facts of Colon......

Kids are proud to show off their 'poop'—but most adults rarely glance inside the toilet bowl. But the truth is...Examining your poop is one of the best ways to find out what's really going on in your body. So take this quick quiz to get the inside scoop on your poop!
Question #1: How long does it take you to have a bowel movement?

[ ]Less than 60 seconds [ ]More than two minutes

Answer: Healthy bowel movements happen within 60 seconds of sitting on the toilet. The stool should easily come out without straining, grunting or any discomfort. It should have the consistency of toothpaste. If you have time to read a newspaper while sitting on the toilet—you probably have a problem with constipation or poor bowel health.
Question #2: What is the shape of your stool?
[ ]Long like a banana [ ]round, hard pellets [ ]thin, pencil-shaped

Answer: Healthy stool averages about four to six inches long and are shaped like a banana or a torpedo. Very narrow, pencil-shaped stool is a sign your colon walls are impacted or you have polyps or growths on the inside of your colon or rectum. This causes the stool to squeeze to get through. Stress can also create narrow stool.

Hard, round or pellet-shaped stool is a possible sign of poor liver function, lack of exercise, dehydration or constipation.
Question #3: Is your stool accompanied by foul odor?

[ ]Yes [ ]No

Answer: Gas or odor is a sign of a bacterial imbalance in your intestinal flora. The "bad" bacteria release foul-smelling gases and toxins that can cramp your colon and create embarrassing odors. You can eliminate this odor by removing debris and encrusted feces from the walls of your intestines and restoring the balance in your intestinal flora.
Question #4: What color is your stool?
[ ]Yellow [ ]Green [ ]Brown [ ]Gray [ ]Black [ ]Bright red

According to Mayo Clinic research, all shades of brown and even green are considered normal stool colors. And the foods you eat can affect the color of your stool. For example, beets, tomato juice, blueberries, popsicles and green leafy vegetables can affect your stool color. However, a distinct change in stool color can be a warning sign for health problems.

Yellow-colored stool indicates your food is moving too quickly through your digestive tract—as in the case of diarrhea. If stool is greasy or foul-smelling, it may indicate excess fat caused by malabsorption of nutrients.
Green-colored stool means your food isn't properly being processed through your intestines. As a result, bile isn't broken down—and gives your stool that green color. Green stool can also mean you're eating too much sugar, fruits and vegetables and not enough grains or salt.

Gray or ashy colored stool indicates undigested fats or heavy use of prescription or over-the-counter drugs that contain aluminum hydroxide. It can also indicate a lack of bile in the stool that may be caused by a bile duct obstruction.

Black stool is a serious warning sign for bleeding in the upper gastrointestinal tract—possibly the stomach.

Bright red stool may indicate bleeding in the lower intestinal tract—possibly the large intestine or rectum. Hemorrhoids may also be the source of the bleeding.
Question #5: Do you pass gas while you're having a bowel movement or have you noticed air or bubbles in your stool?

[ ]Yes [ ]No

Answer: Air or bubbles in stool can indicate an intestinal imbalance. Gas producing bacteria may be overgrowing and competing with the healthier flora in your gut.

Please know this: A normal bowel movement happens within 60 seconds of sitting on the toilet.
There should be no straining, pain, bleeding or foul odor accompanied with your bowel movements.
And wiping afterwards should be easy and simple—using just one or two pieces of toilet paper!
If that's not your experience in the bathroom—then you need to give your intestines a thorough internal cleaning!


When your colon is in danger—it will do anything and everything to send out an S.O.S. for health!
If you notice strong body odor—especially under your arm pits......Or if your friends shy away and frequently offer you breath mints—LISTEN to your colon—it's screaming for help!

And INTESTINAL parasites can also trigger:

Painful gas and bloating
Irritable bowels
Runny stool or diarrhea
Allergies
Skin outbreaks
Insomnia
Poor immune system
Muscle pain and joint soreness
And much more!

So Have a Damn Good SHIT

English some years ago.....

Forty years ago, pussy was read as cat.......

Today pussy is different......

Relevant to those above forty.....

When I was 10 - rubber meant eraser, ass meant donkey, gay meant
happy, straight meant linear, making out meant 'logical detection',
Cock meant rooster, pussy meant cat, stag meant a male deer, prick
meant a jab, poke meant a nudge, chick meant a baby hen, screw meant a
carpenter's implement and a Tit was always for Tat!! Damn! -
english has changed so much !!!!!

Santa's Baby......

Santa Singh's wife was expecting and the baby was due any day.
Santa was very confident it would be a boy and was looking forward to
the delivery day. As fate would have it, he was transferred to another
city and had to join office immediately. Before going, he asked his father-in-law to send a telegram confirming the birth of his son. But
in order to avoid giving party to his office colleagues he asks his
father -in-law to write "the clock has arrived" and he will understand
that the son is born..

The D-day arrived. His wife delivered a cute little baby girl.
Now Santa's father-in-law didn't know what to do. If he writes "the
clock has arrived" Santa will think he has got a Son. If he writes "the
clock has not arrived" Santa will get worried that something serious has
happened. But being a very intelligent person, he finds a solution and sends the telegram.

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Santa received the telegram opened it eagerly and reads

"The clock has arrived, but the "pendulum" is missing".

A beautiful comment I received......

The truth from another life insurance agent.....

Avtar had left a new comment on your post "The formula for staying longer in selling...." ( dated on 28 July 2011)

Dear Robert,

I'm very glad to have found your blog today. It's truly inspired me.....

I've been struggling to sell life insurance for a little over a year. Prior to joining Life Insurance industry, I was very successful in my previous career. I ran 3 companies with many people working for me. I assumed that if I was successful in business, I would be successful in selling Life Insurance. However, due to the downturn, I had to wrap up my businesses and here I enter Life Insurance business.....

I joined this business only for one reason. Because it paid a lot of $$$ Dollars $$$ (which was completely misleading). By looking at the top-producers of my company - the Million dollar submissions, month after month.

In the past, I've always served people and enjoyed doing it. All my previous jobs were in the service industry and I could not understand why I was failing at selling Life Insurance and not enjoying it. My perception was obviously very flawed!

But arriving at your blog and reading a little about you and your posts has truly been quite a game changer.

Thank you for all these wonderful posts, the wisdom, the inspiration, the guidance. One day I shall grow up to be like you.

Thank you again.

Kindest regards
Avtar Mamotra
Dubai, United Arab Emirates


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My reply to him.....

Hi Avtar,

You have a very pleasant face from the photo posted here. Suit well for selling life insurance. Add more passion and patience in this career, I'm sure you would succeed.

Thank you for reading my blog.

Healthy eating..................................

Do you know the different between eating healthy food and healthy eating? I thought was the same, until I met a Nutritionist who explained the differences.

Eating healthy food alone isn't sufficient to make you a healthy person. Healthy eating is the right way to live a much healthier life. Three important factors related to healthy eating; 1. The right time to eat 2. The right eating habits & 3. A balance of healthy diet.

Healthy eating is not about strict nutrition philosophies, staying unrealistically thin, or depriving yourself of the foods you love. Rather, it’s about feeling great, having more energy, and keeping yourself as healthy as possible– all of which can be achieved by learning some nutrition basics and using them in a way that works for you.

Healthy eating begins with learning how to “eat smart”—it’s not just what you eat, but how you eat. Your food choices can reduce your risk of illnesses such as heart disease, cancer, and diabetes, as well as defend against depression. Additionally, learning the habits of healthy eating can boost your energy, sharpen your memory and stabilize your mood. You can expand your range of healthy food choices and learn how to plan ahead to create and maintain a satisfying, healthy diet.

So! Think about it. Not just eating healthy food but rather healthy eating for a fruitful and energetic life.

Believe this statement -"Those who have no time for healthy eating will sooner or later have to find time for illness." – Edward Stanley.

I always attract those married guys!!!

Amlost had left a new comment on one of post "Difference Between 'Love' and 'Like'":

She said, "love or like is a forbidden word for me as i always attract those married guys, i wonder if there's anyway to stop it?"

I replied her, "I think you are a very matured lady who is attractive and sexy. Being mature you tend to be intelligence, and not many unmarried guys who are younger might draw your attention. However those who are married are older and they are smarter to capture your interest. Definitely you can't stop what is happening because these are all facts of life one has to accept. I wish you luck and thank you for reading my blog."

Yes! I'm sure Amlost understood my simple explanation. The fact is most women matured faster than men of the same age group. In their early twenties, girls might think males who are in their thirties as old but in fact they are more suitable for them. The difference of ten years and more make those gentlemen as interesting and intelligence for the girls. However as being young, naive and innocent, these girls prefer to attach to those boys who are of the same age group at the beginning. By the time they realised their mistakes with several breakups or divorces, the girls are no longer young anymore. As turning ladies, they are more attracted to older men now, who are more stable in every way. Assuming the ladies are in their thirties and are looking for their ideal male partners who should be in their forties and above. Is it possible for a successful man who is above 40, healthy, fun looking and wealthy but yet not attached or even married??? The chances could be limited and few, unless those men aren't doing well or having personal problems in themselves. Is like what Amlost claimed she is always attracted to married guys.

My personal view. Girl should get marry in their twenties, whereas the man should be in their thirties. Ideally should be ten years different of age between them. The wife would forever be young to the husband and the man would constantly be guiding and loving his wife.

The Neurotic's Notebook in 1960 wrote - "How can a man marry wisely in his twenties? The girl he's going to wind up wanting hasn't even been born" ~ Mignon McLaughlin.

A Happy Marriage needs.....

Each time when I see a quarrel between a husband and his wife, I would give my friendly advices to both of them separately. My advice is quite simple.

To the man I said... Be a responsible husband at home. Speak to her like a best friend. Love her as a lover. To the lady I said... Be a caring wife for the family. Talk to him like a best friend. Romance with him like a new lover. Play the three roles as recommended and the marriage would not fail.

The funny part of life is, all married couples started as friends, became lovers and later got marry. However when they became husband and wife, they have forgotten to be friends and lovers. And that is when the problem starts.

Specially for my married children - "A wedding anniversary is the celebration of love, trust, partnership, tolerance and tenacity. The order varies for any given year" ~ Paul Sweeney

A Wise Father's Letter to His Son......

Very Useful to all of us.....

Beautiful letter written by a father to his son

Following is a letter to his son from a renowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster / Child Psychologist. The words are actually applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents.! This applies to daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear Son ,

I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons :

1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable; nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.

2. I am your father, and if I don't tell you these,no one else will.

3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches.

Remember the following as you go through life....
1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I. To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don't hastily regard him as a real friend.2. No one is indispensable, nothing in the world that you must possess. Once you understand this idea,it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don't want you anymore,or when you lose what/who you love most.

3. Life is short. When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.

4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one's mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness. Don't over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don't over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.

5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life. One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!

6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.

7. You honor your words, but don't expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don't expect people to be good to you. If you don't understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.

8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!

9. No matter how much time I have with you, let's treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

Regards,
Your Dad