Lovesick is painful.

I think of all sicknesses, love sick is the most severe pain of the mind and the heart. And of all rejections, love rejection is the most unbearable rejection for mankind. When you are rejected out of love and fallen love sick, no medicine of any kind could remedy the situation. The mind will be sorrowful and the heart will be in pain. Your emotion is imbalance when everything is meaningless to you. You don't feel like working, you have no appetite for food, your personal drive decreases, you don't like to mix and you can't sleep. Definitely health will be affected and this is termed as love sick. As your heart has no happiness and no love, you see the world as ugly and unfriendly. To all my readers, try to avoid love sick at all costs.

Recently I encountered three lady friends who were facing the above suffering. The first was Shirley, a typical Chinese educated housewife who was on the verge to divorce her husband. The man neglected the wife and they quarrelled most of the time. I only knew about it, when she called me to check whether I know the address of our local Marriage Bureau. She intended to seek the bureau separation and divorce. Instead of suggesting to meet the bureau, I acted as a marriage counsellor. I was preaching the religion of love. Explaining the definition of what is true love. One important question I asked her, "Tell me frankly, deep in your heart. Do u still have the love for your man?" She was shy but replied with a yes. I told her the meaning of love. Love has plenty of patience and tolerance. Love has no jealousy and not selfish. Love is willing and caring. I continued to explain the three roles of being a woman for the man; as wife, good friend and a lover. She was only a wife to him and she had forgotten the roles of being a good friend and lover. She had never called her husband as dear, honey, darling or sweetheart. She was not romantic as a wife. How could a man loves a woman when she did not know how to love him as well. I was glad, she realised her mistakes with my simple illustration. Promptly she admitted her mistakes. Her last statement, "Thank you so much! You have saved my marriage."

The second lady was Laila who has a relationship with a man for many years. One day she called to tell me that she is leaving the country because she wanted to leave her love. She was full of sorrow and pain from the words she wrote. I begged her to read my blog before leaving. Please read under the romance column where I had written many stories on love matters. I did not know whether she read but out of my surprise, I received her messages today as:

Laila; "Thanks my dear for all the lovely words of wisdom found in your Blog really motivating. Happy New Year!"

RF; "Glad u love them. Tell me. what have u learned my dear?"

Laila; "Quite a lot in particular give more and never stop loving."

RF; "Remember...Love has magic and miracle."

Laila; "Ok! will do and thanks a million for the advice too. It has made myself realised what I have missed out in life."

RF; "I am glad u got your love again."

Laila; "Yes and having a birthday celebration with my love this evening."

Laila I am happy for you. Love has got miracle. It works only when you understand the meaning of it. Laila thought she knew at first. Not when she was enlightened by the actual definition and application of this magical word.

The third lady was Pp who was frightened out of love. She is a sweet lady who refused to be loved again. Her fear was due to bad experiences out from one marriage and another from a recent painful relationship. I sincerely beg her to read my blog again for I believe she will see some light in my words of love. In order for me to offer my confident, I write this special poem for her to read. Hopefully she believes Love has got magic and miracle.

For Pp:

It the game of love -

It doesn't really matter who won or lost.

When u think of your past love,

u may view it as a failure.

But when u find a new love,

u view the past as a teacher.

Love will always find a way.

Will always win.