Something to share with you. When I was a little boy, I used to hear this saying from the old folks, especially when married couples were quarrelling in their houses. In Chinese they said, "Take your quarrels and fight it out from the top of the bed to the bottom!!!" I was scratching my head and was wondering how husband and wife could fight on their bed and solved their problems! No one was willing to explain to this innocent child, me.
As I grew gradually all the naughtiness came. One can be angry and upset at any place and time, but nobody could get angry and be frustrated when you are making love. If you don't believe me, try this... the next time while you are having sex with your partner, try and see whether you could scold and show temper at that moment of pleasure. If you do, I think you are not a normal person.
For all married couples and those who are in love, make a vow to make love when both are having confrontation and conflict. Before things turn worst beyond rescue, the physical touch and hugs could melt all iron fists and all unhappy heart instantly. Yes! Today I too advise all my friends to take their family quarrels and fight them out on bed. It works beautifully.
Sara Paddison, Hidden Power of the Heart - "As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product".
As I grew gradually all the naughtiness came. One can be angry and upset at any place and time, but nobody could get angry and be frustrated when you are making love. If you don't believe me, try this... the next time while you are having sex with your partner, try and see whether you could scold and show temper at that moment of pleasure. If you do, I think you are not a normal person.
For all married couples and those who are in love, make a vow to make love when both are having confrontation and conflict. Before things turn worst beyond rescue, the physical touch and hugs could melt all iron fists and all unhappy heart instantly. Yes! Today I too advise all my friends to take their family quarrels and fight them out on bed. It works beautifully.
Sara Paddison, Hidden Power of the Heart - "As you continue to send out love, the energy returns to you in a regenerating spiral... As love accumulates, it keeps your system in balance and harmony. Love is the tool, and more love is the end product".
Dear Mr Wise man,
ReplyDeleteIt is an interesting point of view indeed! To drown anger with sex! For those who have tried, they know very well that while it does solve the anger, it is only temporary, as temporary as the pleasure itself. The anger will very soon return, with vengeance! Unless one takes the opportunity to rationally discuss the problem and find a permanent solution in between the anger/sex bouts!
Hi Anonymous,
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading my blog.
What you said is absolutely correct. Sex alone is only temporary, the unhappy couple has to discuss the problem rationally.
However sex allows a space to have the opportunity to talk over again. Otherwise confrontation alone won't solve any problem.
These social problems would take a book to complete the full enlightenment. While blogging is short posting to spur our thought. Otherwise i might not even see you here. Right?
I had also written many short titles regarding love and romance. Please feel free to read and offer your comments as well.
Thank you once again.
You are both correct...Love is a strong positive emotion while sex is the expression of that affection or feelings. Yes, sex during quarrels could halt the fury but that is temporary and cannot dissolve entirely the anger in our hearts. The best thing is to dwell into the problem first and dig the root cause so that it could be settled. Sex during quarrel is just like trimming the weeds and the next day it will grow again..dig it deeper so that it will die permanently. In that regard sex will be more passionate, more exciting and the couple can discuss things intimately.
ReplyDeleteMy quote: "Quarrel is an act of a normal couple but dealing with it passionately and reasonably is an act of loving and healthy couple"
ulysses
Hi Ulysses,
ReplyDeleteWell explained. Didn't know this title striked many attention today. Good for everyone. Looks like the young man there must be good sex maker and lover. Huhu!!!
My quote to you: "Living in favourable & unfavourable situation is called 'part of life', but smiling in all situation called Art Of Life".
My quote to you my dear friend Robert: "Life alone is an Art, but making life perfectly balanced is a masterpiece!"
ReplyDeleteHave a nice day my friend and all the bloggers out there!
ulysses
Hi Ulysses,
ReplyDeleteI know i can't be perfect in life but i still would try to be a masterpiece myself.
Thats a wonderful comment for me. Thank you so much.