If u love the man, be with him.

Edi and Siew Lan are one loving married couple, I have known for many years. Recently Edi is posted to work in Indonesia, not knowing when he could return. Leaving Siew Lan to manage and care for their three teenage children at home. I called on phone to Siew Lan today to check on their life insurance matters. On our conversation, she was frank to review she missed her husband badly. Although there are regular flights to Jakarta everyday, she isn't prepared to spend this unnecessary expenses. She is planning to see him only during Xmas.

Before I ended this telephone chat, I asked whether I could offer some personal advices to her. She replied with a whole hearted yes. This was what I told her. "Man & woman are different in chemistry. Man could be contented with just one need...a woman he loves. Whereas woman has ninety nine different needs to get satisfaction of life. She can be happy with children, her parents, friends, holidays, diamonds, cars, shopping and many more things out of life. If you don't see your husband often, you can still be happy with other happenings here. Not your darling Edi there. Without the lady he loves to accompany him, on a longer duration of time, he might be sad. From sadness, it leads to frustration which could translate into depression and stress later. If the man isn't a faithful man, he might look for another woman to satisfy his desire and lust. As I know Edi well, he is definitely a one man one woman's husband, would remain faithful till he comes home. However if he continues to suppress his sexual needs, he might turn to be a stressful person. A stressful man is an unhappy man. An unhappy man can be a sick man. The outcome does not look beautiful for him and the family then. My advice is, don't wait until the year end to visit him. Don't try to save the cost of the flights to see him either. Make it a point to be with him monthly. I am sure he will be happy to see the wife he loves more often. Don't be penny smart pound foolish. Gives him the love and attention wherever he is, my dear Siew Lan."

Siew Lan said, "Robert, you speak more wisdom of life than our church. Thank you for enlightening me. If you are not this direct in words, nobody would be brave to explain like what you did. I will book a flight sooner to see my darling."

Do you know - "A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z...the one who invented alphabets was a genius. But he made a mistake by keeping 'U' and 'I' so far."