Bad for good in life

"Beautiful young people are accidents of nature...

Beautiful old people are art of life."

These few words were collected many years ago, when I could not understand them better than today. When we were young, we make mistakes without realising them. We disturbed others with intention or at times without intention. We were rebellious and our parents were so worried over us. We fought at the slightest anger. We caused hatreds more than joyfulness. These were the bad part of life when we were young.

In everything, we have the negative and the positive part of life. We have to be sick, in order to appreciate good health. We have to be poor to understand the suffering of living. So when we are rich, we would be kind to the poor. We need to be sad at times and wish we could be happier soon. If is too hot the season, we would be complaining but when the rain comes, we smile the wetness of the surrounding.

Its normal to experience the naughtiness of younger days, but when we are much older, we turn to be wiser. That would be the time, we understand the bad and good of life. Good alone isn't good coz when bad occurred, we would not know how to overcome the ugly part of living. Bad by itself is definitely bad. Unless we grow to change and improve ourselves in life. Those few words on top are written with true meaning of our world between the beautifulness of young and old.

Creative selling

One of my closed colleague, a lady insurance agent is back selling. She has been in insurance for almost 7 years but the last two years were the difficult one. Most agents when they are distracted, would loose interest in selling. I am glad she sms me to say she is sowing at the moment. Sowing means prospecting.

Like farming, before you can harvest, farmers have to sow their land first. Similarly before agents who can gather their sales, they need to prospect and create new approaches. I advise her, sowing isn't enough because every agent in town would also be doing the same manner. Don't forget we have more than 100,000 agents selling at the same times, making selling insurance as a very competitive career. Unless she does things that others don't.

Selling insurance has to be creative. Hard work is good but would be better if you could master the art of selling. The Art of Selling is to sell but yet you don't sell. You are selling but your clients won't feel that you are selling to them. They buy because they need your products and not because you ask them to buy. It sounds funny but with a bit of time and understanding, selling becomes a hobby or an art.

To be a successful insurance agent, she has to know her job at 100%. She should know all her products, company profiles, laws and regulations, personal and business insurances, claims procedures, underwriting and etc. But on selling, she needs only to apply 10% of what she knows. The 90% of success depends on how much she understands the art of selling and the facts of life to people she encounters. Most agents who fail in this business is because they apply 90% of what they know on insurances and practise 10% of selling and not understanding the true facts of life.

I sincerely hope this lady associate and those who are not doing well currently could change their styles of selling. We sell hopes and promises. Not just insurance products.

Specially for my fellow colleagues; "Succeed in believing that you will not fail. Use diligence and determination to set your sail."

Are men seeing women as a sex object?

One of my girl friend said, "All men are the same! Whenever they look at a woman, they would take us as a sex object." I didn't catch her meaning, "My dear, what do you mean by that statement?" She explained, "The way you look at me, you think of sex. That would be your first objective."

Perhaps that would be true, but women cannot just blame man as they are the one who create that temptation themselves. Look around the world of the female fashion today. Most ladies dress very attractively. From top to bottom they look gorgeous when all eyes are at them. Those that wear shirts would leave one or two top buttons unbuttoned. We can almost see the valley of their bosoms with that opening gap. Their clothing are relatively soft and light which are almost transparent. We can see the colour of their bras or not wearing them. Their jeans are unbelievable! They are tight and almost like falling down. One pull and I am sure their jeans would fall out. If you see them at the front, you can imagine where their pussies would be. Or perhaps they wear skirts which are so short that you can see the colour of their panties.

If you ask them, "My dear, why are you wearing like these?" She would replied," Alah! These are fashion that all women love to dress. We have to keep up to date. I am already an auntie but I still need to dress young lah."

So! They have forgotten that this world has male and female. Between women and women, they dress to compete and to admire each another. However, between women and men, we see each other differently. Men would admire their beauty but because of their over dressing, without them realising, temptation bound to be created to a certain extent. Unless we live in the spiritual world where there is little colour in living, then temptation would be totally well taken out.

For that girl friend of mine who said that I only look at her as a sex object, I would like to remind her. That there are three types of men who would look at women in different ways. The first type would be men who are not interested in female because they are not healthy or sick. How beautiful a lady you are, the least he would be interested in you. The second type would be those that you think they are not interested in women but in actual fact they like so much. Except that they don't have the courage to see and approach ladies. Instead of directly looking and admiring female sexiness, they quietly stare when you don't notice them. The third would be those like me who has the confident to see you directly. To admire and appreciate the beauty of women. Of course, the sexual thought would be there at the same times which is beyond our control.

My dear,"Would you like to be admired with your beauty or you prefer that all men are least interested to look at you. Not forgetting you have spend so much time and effort to look so seductive and attractive."

Conclusion; Women love to be admired but they can't stop men to admire them our way. They like and yet they say they don't like. Again the heart and mind are playing tricks on them.

"Its impossible not to see and yet pretend that didn't see."

Earthly, Family & Intimate Loves

From Spiritual teaching, I was taught there are three types of love on earth. They are Earthly love, Family love and Intimate love. The three loves complete the cycle of life for spiritual happiness.

They are very logically defined and I believe it is worth thinking about. First is the Earthly Love which is given to others. As the saying goes, "Happiness is to see others happy." We should offer our unconditional love to the world. By doing so, we give more than we should receive and it is almost like a one way traffic. It is tiring and not all are prepared to constantly give with sincerity.

The second is the Family Love which we whole heartily give to our surrounding family members. At the same times, they in turn would also offer their love and care towards you, when you would feel the feeling of acceptance again. The support of family love is important because they offer you encouragement and motivation which you may not gain from the earthly love.

The third is the Intimate love which I consider to be paramount important. It is an intimate relationship between a man and a woman who truly loves one another. The giving and sharing of feeling and understanding allows the couple to be united. It is the most intense affection of the three loves because it allows physical contact when contentment and sexual satisfaction can be fulfilled.

To face the challenges of life isn't easy, when there are so many obstacles and problems that we have to encounter. There are many who are willing to serve the outside world with love but without those love from your supportive family, you might be drained away with your energy quite easily. For those who are even more ambitious to rich to the top, earthly and family loves are not enough to sustain your enthusiasm and drive. You need the intimate love to strengthen your confident to the highest level. If you look around this world, those who are super successful and powerful have the completion of these three loves combine together. This is fact of life that we have to accept.

Famour quote by Zig Ziglar, "You can get everything you want, if you would just help enough people get what they want."

Good manner but wrong intention

Is a manner to say, "How are you?" Not many would say it sincerely. If you don't believe me, the next time when someone approaches you, either on phone or in person, take a bit of time to observe. You would be surprised that most say these three words out of manner and not out from the heart.

To see a friend or a stranger, it is a manner to start with an opening words. Most of the time, "How are you?" is the starter to any discussion or meeting. If these three simple words are spoken with the real intention from the heart of knowing how is the person in front of you, it should be spoken with full enthusiasm and smile. The person who hears them, should be felt with warm and feeling of acceptance. Because he knows that you really have intention to know his self being. Regret to say, most of the time, these gesture are spoken so fast that your listeners don't even have the time to reply. "How are you?" is followed by another question of real intention. Perhaps the next questions are meant to be the main purposes of doing business or for a favour.

A lot of businesses or selling are lost because the sincerity of the"How are you?" is not spoken right. Since it is the starter question for an approach, remember to spend some time to understand the effect of saying it. Say it with sweetness and be serious about your gesture. Allow your friend to hear your full intention. Do not go into another question, until your friend replies to "How are you?" It sound simple to apply but we tend to forget when we do it.

Interesting quote by Lao Tzu; "Do you have patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear? Can you remain unmoving till the right action arises by itself?"

In love we look better.

My experience through selling, tells me that love grows with energy. Whether a male or a female, with or without love in them, you could see the different. Without love, both sexes would look dull on their faces but with love, they are the most beautiful creatures on earth.

When a man is in love, he carries more enthusiasm and energy. His eyes sparkle with joy and attention. His mind is alert and creative, willing to go for the extra miles. Given any responsibilities or work, he would be too keen to accomplish them. His life is meaningful and has purposes. Whereas a man who has no love or lost his love, life would be dull and sorrowful. His esteem and energy are low when nothing could motivate and excite him. He has no direction or dream. Success of life would be difficult for him to challenge.

Similarly when a woman is in love, she looks more attractive and sweeter. Her eyes reflex the desire and romance. Her thoughts or moods are obliging and warm. Even her bosoms are full and firmer in look. Her personality draws attention. However a woman has no love or not interested to be in love, her face sags with dullness. She can put all the cosmetics to beautify herself, yet her attractiveness would still be artificial and unromantic. Perhaps she would turn arrogant, selfish and hot temper unnecessary. Woman is like a car! If a car is properly taken care with love, its engine performs efficiently and its outlook shines with envy.

This is again the Miracle of Love. Love added with affection and sex, enhance the relationship of man and woman. I believe God created this beautiful purpose of love for us to live happily ever after. So! If you want to live wonderfully in life, seek your own love and fall in love.

One secret admirer sent me these few words which could be true and I like to share, "Sex, hugging, touching, holding, rubbing, kissing are good. They stimulate the body to produce its natural hormones which are needed for good health and longevity." Believe or not, you have to try!

Love Quote

Quite sometimes back, I received an interesting message from an older friend with a Love Quote: "A woman can forgive a man for the harm he does her....but she can never forgive him for the sacrifices he makes on her."





Not quite true, a man could be faithful and sincere but without value and wealth, equally a woman could leave him. Faithfulness isn't enough coz has he the means and ways to make her happy and contented in life. After all this world is too materialistic and possessive to live in.