False image of the young

Twenty five years ago I asked an old friend this question, "Chong, when you are truly rich and successful one day, what type of brand new Mercedes will you be buying." He replied, "If that day could happen, I won't be buying any new Mercedes but just any simple second hand car will do." I was surprised and could not understand his meaning at that time. I asked again, "Why? Please enlighten me?" Chong was patience and went further, "If I had made it to be successful, when I don't have to prove to any one else further, why should I need to have an expensive car then. It is now that I am not there yet, when I still need others to support me, I have to show to look successful. Perhaps I need the new car now."

Unfortunately at that time, I was still relatively young and could not accept his logic. However as I grew to be wiser, I fully agree with Chong's words and advices. Today I can see many young entrepreneurs, self employed personnel or salesperson who are driving expensive cars, I believe they are not really successful yet. Psychological they want others to think that they are, when they are not. They lack knowledge and the understanding of life. To replace their personal confident, they dress to look impressive externally. In fact this is a false image which they don't realise. Perhaps another younger mind could be taken but for an experience person, he should be able to see the truth.

A good expensive car is ideal but a mind with knowledge and wisdom is even more power. Chong's words were right, when you are truly successful and understand life, the external isn't important any more. Our sights are deceiving from the expensive surrounding but the mind and the heart are not.

I think is true,"Beautiful young people are accidents of nature. Beautiful old people are art of life."

Bringing up a child.

Grace has been my client, since she started working as a young clerk 15 years ago. She was brought up by a firm and strong up bringing to make her a capable and independent woman. Not only she is efficient to assist her husband business, she still has time to take care of her son. According to her, most children are neglected by the present busy parents of today. Not Grace, cause she wants to make sure that her son of five, to be properly cared and groomed for the future.

Everyday without fail, she makes it a point to send her son to the nearby kinder garden. The time spend while fetching the boy, allows her to talk and understand with him. At times she might be busy in her office, she won't allow the son to be picked up by anyone except her. The way she explained, relates that she certainly enjoyed every moment with her son. I felt so guilty that I didn't do it when I was given those opportunity 30 years ago. However, Grace encouraged me that I should take my grand children as a next alternatives. Grace, I will try and thank you for reminding.

Although Grace is still relatively a young mother, she knows how to teach and guide the boy. She does not allow the present environment to suppress his child growing. Rather to let her boy idle unnecessary to play with Lego or Games Boy at home, she toughened her child to the natural surrounding. She claimed as a girl, she could climb trees and swim often. Whenever possible, she now sent her son to Jadak Baik for children camping. Or just going to their relative villages, to experience the climbing of trees, catching spiders and wandering into mother's nature. She always reminded her boy not to listen and trust strangers, when his family isn't around him. In case if he was lost in any shopping malls, he should be brave and seek help from the rightful authorities. At all times, the boy can remember his parents names and telephone numbers. In order to be convinced, Grace had tested her smart young son on such situations, when the mum and dad pretended to be out of sight from him. They were proud to know her boy responded and reacted well without mistakes. These are the effort and results of proper mothering.

Grave, I am so happy to have listened to your stories. I am sure your family would be well taken care, as long as you are the mother and wife to them. Soon you will be having another child as you are now pregnant, I wish you good luck and be always happy in whatever you intend to do.

Meaningful quote; "To live a pure unselfish life, one must count nothing as one's own in the midst of abundance." spoken by Siddhartha Gautama

Dogs lock with their bitches after ejaculation.

Dog is man's best friend, faithful and loyal. I add to them, all male dogs are caring to their bitches. Whenever they have sexual contacts, they lock themselves very closely to each other. Even after the males ejaculation, they are still tied and locked into the intimate position. Not like man, who immediately after ejaculation with their sexual partners, they usually leave the females. From a recent survey I read on man sexual behaviour, most men did not bother to caress or hold to their lovers after sex. Most likely, they stood up to smoke, had some drinks, walked around the room, took bath or rushed to go back to their wives. Few would be caring or passionate enough to hold on to their lovers even after their exciting ejaculation. Looks like dogs are better understanding lovers than us.

Perhaps dogs have natural instinct to appreciate, whenever they are treated nice. Not like us again who seldom appreciate what are given. Most of us are selfish or unless there are incentives to be offered, then we would take the effort to do it. Sad to say, although dogs are only animal with a much lower level of intelligent, they have better and stronger empathy of mind than man. We should be as faithful, loyal and good sexual mates like them.

Spoken by H. Jackson Brown, "Remember that the happiest people are not those getting more, but those giving more."

Cat's pleasurable pain

Are you aware that when cats mate, they yell in screaming pain? Many could be thinking that they are having a furious fight. The loud crying in the form of 'MeooooW!.... MeoooW!.... MeooooooW!' could be heard. In fact, this is the joyful pain of cat's mating. Many don't even know that the penis of male cat has torn facing backward. Imagine when they have sexual contact, the female suffers in extreme pain and yet she enjoys having it. The male cat gets even more excited hearing the heavy meooow meooow. Perhaps in life, we need pain to appreciate the pleasure in living. So the next time when we face any pains, don't complain but cry ourselves out. The sounding of a joyful cry can create and excite someone near. No pain no gain.

Spoken by Leslie Caron, "In order to have great happiness, you have to have great pain and unhappiness - otherwise how would you know you're happy?"

Do u prefer one or more loves?

There is a saying, "For every successful man, there is a lady behind." The question is, what type of lady that can help man to be successful. From my experiences in life, most successful and powerful men, have different women to assist their goals and success in their lives journey.

Lets not go far and not quote name. In our land, Malaysia we have many self made billionaires who turned from rag to riches. There was a poor man from a little town who came to the city 30 years ago to seek for fortune. He started working as a salesman and later went into a small scale business. As he gathered strength and connected to the right parties, he became powerful and weathy. Today he has several public companies under his arm. He is well respected and hold a title of a Tan Sri in front of his name.

This successful man, has three ladies behind him. His first lady is his wife whom he married before he became rich. He considered this wife as his traditional spouse who gave him his legitimate sons. He only returned to this wife's home during festival and important functions.

The second wife's house is his permanent resident where he goes back to sleep every night without fail. However he treats this lady more like a best friend who always advises and offers encouragement. In fact, the second wife is the smartest of the three ladies. She is a thinker, adviser and motivator to the man.

The third wife is a lover who knows how to charm and tickle the stressful husband. Whenever Tan Sri is lonely or sexually excited, his personal driver drives him to this romantic wife during the afternoon hideout. He might be an arrogant and hot temper business person, but each time when he visits his sexy third wife's home, she could turn him blissfully and contented in manner.

Perhaps the saying, "For every successful man, there is a lady" might not be practical after all to every man. Cause the one lady could not shoulder such heavy tasks as to be a perfect wife, friend and lover to an aggressive and ambitious man. For those men who are satisfied to have one woman who can play the role of the three parts, I think they are considered as very lucky and blessed in all ways. I wish they should love her more then.

Spoken by Bernard Meltzer,"Success is getting and achieving what you want. Happiness is wanting and being content what you get."

Not just a wife but a best friend & lover too.

Alvin and Fionne are one couple I admire so much. They started as friends and later became best friends. From best friends they turned lovers. One day, Alvin proposed to marry Fionne who accepted without hesitation. Today, the husband and wife team is happily married with the man as successful in business and the wife is so loving as a full time housewife. I have known them for more than 35years since attended their wedding also at the same time. Knowing and understanding their beautiful relationship, allows me to write some meaningful facts of life here.

Most women who got marry after many years, tend to forget their roles as partner to their males. They remain as wives to be responsible to the families. They cook, wash and take care of household chores. They care and raise their children. Some even have to look after their parent-in-laws as their own parents. Fionne is not only a good house wife but she remains as a best friend and also a lover to Alvin. As a best friend to him, she listens with admiration all the spoken words. When Alvin is down at times, Fionne would be there to console or even offer encouragement. They can both talk endlessly without loosing interest, cause one is a talker and the other is a good listener. Not forgetting they are still considered as best friends. The beautiful part of them is, they behave as lovers as well. Fionne has not forgotten her role as a lover who always romances with Alvin. They hold hands whenever they are out. She dates Alvin as her boy friend. The hugging and kissing are a daily affair, which most friends would envy about. She would address him as darling and in turn he would call her as my dear. Alvin is certainly a contented man, because not only he has a responsible and caring wife, he also has a faithful and a best friend cum a romantic lover to always stands beside him. No wonder he can be so successful in life. The super energy he gains from this lady, can move him to conquer even the toughest territories on earth.

Equally most men who had married for a long time, tend to forget their roles with their female partners too. As husbands, they work hard and be providers to their families. Almost all household chores are given to the wives or perhaps maids are there to assist. Alvin is a good husband but he has not forgotten he is also the best friend to Fionne. Ever since he has known her, endlessly he gives his unconditional assistance and advices to her. His stories and sharing excites her. His knowledge and wisdom amuses the listening lady. His sincere love remains. He still courts her like a lover. His warm and abundant love, tickles her to the utmost. Until she surrenders whole heartily without regret to this man.

The morale of this story; For a man to do well in life, he needs a woman who can play the role of a wife, a friend and a lover. For a lady to be cheerful in life, she needs also a man who can be husband, friend and lover too. The combination of spouse, friend and lover relationship can sail the lives journey forever happily and successfully.

A funny quote,"Behind every successful woman, there is a satisfied man but behind a satisfied woman, there is an exhausted man."

We look better when in love.

Love has its miracle magic. We have to see to believe. Man who is in love has better enthusiasm in life than another man who hasn't. The lady who loves him, energizes his entire self. Beyond his imagination, his performance and spirit work wander. Everyday is a marvellous day to him. The ticklish thought of her love moves him further. He smiles every moment of his day. His eyes would be bright and his look is too willing to comprehend with everyone he encounters.

The woman who is in love, is equally charming and attractive. Her face always looks sweeter and her skin is smoother and shining. Her eyes are not dull but rather full of energy. She is more sexier and more tempting in personality. She has more drive in life and her character is more natural. Those who meet up with her, could feel her friendliness and warm. She walks tall with elegant. Her firmer bosoms offer her the feminine confident that all eyes would envy.

In Chinese we have the Ying & Yang when the man meets the woman. The combination of these two energies create a powerful strength which can benefit the couple who is truly in love. By the Ying itself or the Yang alone, they are weaker and less active in lives. If you see a man who is not willing to strive in life or a woman who hasn't the sexual desire in appearance, most likely they have no intimate love in them.

Meaning of ABCDEFG, "A boy can do everything for girl." The other opposite meaning of GFEDCBA is, "Girls forgot everything done & catches new boy again."