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What I Want In A Man!
Original List:

1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates finer things
9.. Full of thoughtful surprises

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32)

1. Nice looking
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Listens more than talks
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42)

1. Not too ugly
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
4. Nods head when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
8.. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
10. Shaves most weekends

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52)

1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
5. Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off the couch on weekends
7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
9. Remembers your name on occasion
10. Shaves some weekends

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62)

1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when asleep
5. Remembers why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears some clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers that it's the weekend

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72)

1. Breathing.
2. Doesn't miss the toilet.

AFTER BEING MARRIED FOR 44 YEARS, I TOOK A CAREFUL LOOK AT MY WIFE ONE DAY AND SAID, "HONEY, 44 YEARS AGO WE HAD A CHEAP APARTMENT, A CHEAP CAR, SLEPT ON A SOFA BED AND WATCHED A 10-INCH BLACK AND WHITE TV, BUT I GOT TO SLEEP EVERY NIGHT WITH A HOT 25-YEAR-OLD GAL.

NOW I HAVE A $500,000.00 HOME, A $45,000...00 CAR, NICE BIG BED AND PLASMA SCREEN TV, BUT I'M SLEEPING WITH A 65-YEAR-OLD WOMAN. IT SEEMS TO ME THAT YOU'RE NOT HOLDING UP YOUR SIDE OF THINGS."

MY WIFE IS A VERY REASONABLE WOMAN. SHE TOLD ME TO GO OUT AND FIND A HOT 25-YEAR-OLD GAL, AND SHE WOULD MAKE SURE THAT I WOULD ONCE AGAIN BE LIVING IN A CHEAP APARTMENT, DRIVING A CHEAP CAR, SLEEPING ON A SOFA BED AND WATCHING A 10-INCH BLACK AND WHITE TV.

AREN'T OLDER WOMEN GREAT? THEY REALLY KNOW HOW TO SOLVE YOUR MID-LIFE CRISIS!

I like sleeping.

Most older folks used to say, as they grow older they tend to sleep lesser. They sleep early in the night and get up before dawn. They only need to sleep less than five hours. Definitely not me! I love sleeping and i need to sleep at least eight hours a day. Usually i sleep after writing my blog at midnight and please don't disturb me until the next morning at eight. Perhaps i am still a growing child who requires to sleep more than seven hours. Otherwise i would not be a happy person on the day.

I have a friend Lee who claims that sleeping is a waste of time. Sleeping is unproductive he said. He spends every minute a day doing something useful. When everybody in his house is asleep, he would still be working at something. He usually sleeps at 2am and gets up at 4am. I wonder how the two hours of sleep is sufficient for him. Believe or not, he is still in tip top condition at age of 57 currently. One person who doesn't enjoy sleeping.

I had also read articles which confirmed that there are few living males in the world who don't need to sleep at all. Sleeping is never in their mind. Their bodies are built in such a way that they could survive as normal people without rest. In order to pass the day, all of them have three different employments to occupy themselves. Thanks God I am not one of them.

Come this morning i will be going to the airport soon. I have booked a flight to Bangkok where i intend to stay for about four nights. Purpose is to relax and sleep as much as possible before coming home. You think i am stupid? No!!!! Sleeping allows one to recharge and distress ourselves. Perhaps this is one reason i am still young and healthy.

Consider this - “I divide my time as follows: half the time I sleep, the other half I dream. I never dream when I sleep, for that would be a pity, for sleeping is the highest accomplishment of genius.” - Soren Kierkegaard quotes

I need encouragement too.

Steph is a very strong character lady who claims she is one person that doesn't need encouragement and admiration from others. She shuns and rejects all compliments given to her. I don't think she is telling the truth because i believe everyone on earth needs to be appreciated one way or another. The only different is, one who is being admired would accept and appreciate the givers whole heartily. They accept the compliments with a big 'Thank You' from their heart. The other one only feels good in their heart silently and refuse to speak over it. They normally stare at the givers without even returning a smile. Meaning, they like to hear sweet nice words given but do not like to revive their inner happiness.

Not me! I like to be recognised and being admired. Recognisation and admiration motivate me to improve further. They create positive energies, which could inspire beyond imagination.

Few days back i received an unexpected email from a reader, and i like to share my happiness over her compliment for me. She wrote....

Hi Robert,
Glad you are back in KL again. I am 1 month behind you in reading your blog. Just imagine you need time to think and write but I only read yet could not catch up. Before you went to China, I am at par with you but recently I have been busy with work organising for my company's BMW showroom opening but I am determined to catch up with you by using BMW's twin engine turbo speed.!!!

Well I always like to read your blog 1st thing in the morning or lunch time as it is entertaining as well as amusing, naughty sometimes, enlightening and knowledgeable. It covers a wide range of topics that are applicable to our life that is why you called it Wisdom of Life...... I like to see the pictures as well as cartoons that are so funny. It applies to the topic that you are writing. The only thing that I don't like is when you write on selling life insurance as this does not apply to me but I read it anyhow.

Keep on writing and I am sure you have many readers out there who appreciate what you have written and that is someone like me.

Regards
Lai Har

I replied her immediately...Hi My Dear Lai Hai,
This letter from you really makes my day. The thoughtfulness of you makes my blog worth writing for everyone to read everyday. Is true! Isn't easy to write everyday. You need to create the time and interest to do it. Most important to have the right and interesting ideas and topics to benefit the readers. Is tough but please keep encouraging me from time to time. Thank you so much again.

Warmest Regards,

Robert. Still trying to be naughty.

Gives encouragement -"The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results." - Anthony Robbins

Last Hours.

A Sunday's laugh....

Morris returns from the doctor and tells his wife that the doctor has told him that he has only 24 hours to live.

Given the prognosis, Morris asks his wife for sex. Naturally, she agrees, so they make love.

About 6 hours later, the husband goes to his wife and says, 'Honey, you know I now have only 18 hours to live. Could we please do it one more time?'

Of course, the wife agrees, and they do it again.

Later, as the man gets into bed, he looks at his watch and realizes that he now has only 8 hours left.

He touches his wife's shoulder and asks, 'Honey, please... just one more time before I die.' She says, 'Of course, Dear,' and they make love for the third time. After this session, the wife rolls over and falls to sleep. Morris, however, worried about his impending death, tosses and turns, until he's down to 4 more hours. He taps his wife, who rouses. 'Honey, I have only 4 more hours.

Do you think we could...'

At this point the wife sits up and says, 'Listen Morris, enough is enough I have to get up in the morning... you don't.'

Love, sex and the male brain.

To understand the male brain, suggest to read on...

(CNN) -- Although women the world over have been doing it for centuries, we can't really blame a guy for being a guy. And this is especially true now that we know that the male and female brains have some profound differences.

Our brains are mostly alike. We are the same species, after all. But the differences can sometimes make it seem like we are worlds apart.

The "defend your turf" area -- dorsal premammillary nucleus -- is larger in the male brain and contains special circuits to detect territorial challenges by other males. And his amygdala, the alarm system for threats, fear and danger is also larger in men. These brain differences make men more alert than women to potential turf threats.

Meanwhile, the "I feel what you feel" part of the brain -- mirror-neuron system -- is larger and more active in the female brain. So women can naturally get in sync with others' emotions by reading facial expressions, interpreting tone of voice and other nonverbal emotional cues.

Perhaps the biggest difference between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. Not only that, but beginning in their teens, they produce 200 to 250 percent more testosterone than they did during pre-adolescence.

If testosterone were beer, a 9-year-old boy would be getting the equivalent of a cup a day. But a 15-year-old would be getting the equivalent of nearly two gallons a day. This fuels their sexual engines and makes it impossible for them to stop thinking about female body parts and sex.

There's the 'Man Trance,' that glazed-eye look a man gets when he sees breasts. -- Louann Brizendine.

Editor's note: Dr. Louann Brizendine is a member of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and the National Board of Medical Examiners, and a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. She is founder and director of the Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic. She wrote "The Female Brain" and, just released, "The Male Brain."

My personal view for the ladies..So the next round when we, the men are staring at you, please forgive us because we really can't control our brain as we are 2.5 times more sexual pursuit over yours. As for those gentlemen, don't try to suppress your brain when you are attracted to a gorgeous sexy lady. Its our natural instinct to think likewise.

Suggested my Dr. Louanu Brizendine....

The human brain is the best learning machine on the planet and human beings are capable of making major changes in our lives. But there are some things that the male brain and female brain are not likely to change anytime soon. And it makes more sense to deal with these brain realities, than to argue with them or ignoring them.

The best advice I have for women is make peace with the male brain. Let men be men.

Down but not defeated.

Khor is a beautiful fair lady. Though she is in her late fifties, she looks so much younger. She has all the beauties of a true hearted woman and yet she is still single, not willing to get marry when she was even younger. The reason was simply Khor was born as a polio victim. Her left leg is badly affected and she has to walk with a limp. With a very inferior complex, she seldom mixes and works independently as a self employed tailor operates through a little apartment.

Her both parents had gone, and all her brothers and sisters are happily married staying on their own, leaving Khor to age by herself. I had a chance to speak with her lately, when i could sense she was speaking with so much of truth from the heart. According to her, she never had many opportunities to speak with men because most males avoided her when they saw her defect. Her heartaches and her mind ponders with sorrow. She never wish to live long in life, as living is miserable to her.

This was what i told her. You are considered a special child at birth. As a polio victim, you live without sin, you speak from the heart whereas most normal people speak with the mind. The heart is always pure and sincere, whereas the mind could be corrupted and sinful in thought. Though you have a deformity on your leg, you have a beautiful heart and soul which is more important. I judge a person not from her look but rather from her within and i am sure there are many wisdom people would think likewise. Khor was flattered and i promised to call her as often as possible to make sure life is worth living no matter what happened.

Specially to my friend Khor - "The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."

No man is indispensible.

I spoke with my good friend, Hanafiah this morning. On phone he told me that he was sad and frustrated because his partner had left him.

I was wondering which partner at first! Was it his business partner or his sweetheart partner at home? Thanks God! It was his business partner. A business partner can come and go but not a sweetheart. When a business partner left him, he might be lost for a moment. Emotionally he could feel angry, frustrated, upset and rejected. If his sweetheart leaves him, not only his mind is disturbed, his heart would be at severe pain.

Meaning.. Hanafiah currently is only having pain in his mind but his heart is as loving as ever because his sweetheart is still besides him.

Suggestion to my good friend. Nothing is permanent. Since he could not get along with his working partner, he still has friends like us to cheer him up. More so the sweetheart at home should stand by him now. Don't forget... nobody is indispensable in this world. Hanafiah, you do have the ability to work by yourself because you have the intelligence and smartness too.

Edward Bulwer-Lytton (1803-1873) Quoted - "The pen is mightier than the sword"

Hanafiah... are you the pen or the sword?