RAISING THE DEAD!!!

Grandma and Grandpa were watching a healing service on the television. 

The evangelist called to all who wanted to be healed to go to their television set, place one hand on the TV and the other hand on the body part where they wanted to be healed. 

Grandma got up and slowly hobbled to the television set, placed her right hand on the set and her left hand on her arthritic shoulder that was causing her to have great pain. 

Then Grandpa got up, went to the TV, placed his right hand on the set and his left hand on his crotch. 

Grandma scowled at him and said, "I guess you just don't get it. The purpose of doing this is to heal the sick, not to raise the dead."

Have you got many Mentors in life?

What is mentoring?

Mentoring is most often defined as a professional relationship in which an experienced person (the mentor) assists another (the mentoree) in developing specific skills and knowledge that will enhance the less experienced person’s professional and personal growth.

Julius has been my mentoree while he was still a student more than 20 years ago. Yesterday he called to seek my permission, allowing myself to be his son's mentor. His son is 17 years young, tall and handsome. The father is a fast learner and quick to apply what he has learned. To me, he is definitely an intelligent and a smart person. Though he is only 46 at age, his thought could be wiser and knowledgeable than me today. He speaks well and has super personality. He has a crafty character and plenty of witty humour. Where does he learns his skill? Simple! Through the past years, he has had gathered many mentors who had taught him much about life. And one of his mentor is the naughty Robert Foo. Now he is even smarter, he advises his son to be my mentoree while looking for more mentors elsewhere. 

An old proverb - "A wise man learns by the mistakes of others, a fool by his own" - Latin Proverb

Father is spending million on son's wedding....

Was trying to meet another great friend, Dato Z this morning. Apparently he was busy and he suggested to call him after June. On checking with this successful self made man, who has made his millions by himself, he is currently preparing his eldest son's wedding. Casually I asked him, Dato when you got marry 30 years ago, did your dad arranged the marriage for you. He said No! Everything was done and paid by me.

Ahhhh! What a world is now? Last two weeks when I attended another Dato son's wedding dinner, he spent almost a million for that function. This Dato was never born rich, his father was working as a plantation worker. It was his studies and hard work, that churned him to be rich and powerful. Today Dato Z walked almost the same path like him, to be rich and famous. Both their children have just completed their studies abroad and have never experienced to work for others yet. From reliable sources, Dato Z could be spending two millions on his son's entire function and preparation. I really can't imagine how lucky their children are! 

At the same time, I am wondering whether it's good and benefiting for these sons who have not proven their lives's value yet, but yet they have the opportunities to taste the rich life of living. Looking back at myself, I was like my two great friends, who had to work and save before we could get marry ourselves. The hardship and endurance of the yesteryear, moulded us to be strong and resilience to all weathers of today. Whereas today, the rich fathers are spending the millions to marry their children away. In kind they are flowering them with happiness and blessing, hoping the glamour and attraction would motivate and inspire them to do well. Whether it works, time could only tell. I open my sight to see the future ahead. The learning process is wisdom.

Food for thought - "A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty"~Author Unknown

Every cloud has a silver lining.

Today while stopping my car at a traffic light junction, I noticed an elderly Indian man who was peddling his products. He looked sickly, and was limping with a stiff leg. He was walking swiftly between cars to cars while waiting for the green light to change. Holding in his one hand were three packets of tissue, which he was trying to sell to the motorists. Each time he looked into the windows of those cars, showing his expression that he needed their help. He was appealing for sympathy and almost like begging for money in exchange for the tissues. I was observing from the distance, and sad to say there wasn't any one who really bother to look at this poor old man. Soon he was right besides my car when I could see in his eyes, telling me whether I could buy his tissues. Without hesitation I took some coins from my compartment and gave him the money immediately. I told him I don't need the tissue and he replied me with a quick smile before moving  upward to seek further help. Looking through my side mirror, I saw no motorist buying his tissue either.

What a poor old man who still had the courage and determination to survive under such situation! The road was a dangerous place to peddle and the temperature was hot. At the same time, I wondered what happened to our people who had no empathy and feeling for others. 

This elderly man recalled my past memory. I could still remember when I first started selling life insurance 30 years ago, a good friend threw me a depressing remark. I was learning to sell and I was trying to approach this particular friend. He didn't buy but instead condemned that selling life insurance is worst off than begging. That statement hurt me badly and I couldn't work for the next one week. It took me days before I took up the courage to sell again. I told myself that I couldn't let one person to demotivate me and I had to prove to him that selling is a noble profession. Thanks to The Almighty he was wrong indeed. 

Before I drove further away from that old man, I prayed in my heart that he would have the blessing to remain strong and courageous to face the unfriendly motorists. Coz I believe, "Every cloud has a silver lining".

Who is this special woman for a successful man?

I love this proverb; "For every successful man that's always a woman behind". But there was once a great friend sounded loud to me, when he said, "It did not say, For every successful man there is always a wife behind!" 

That statement made me pondered deep in my thought, "who is then that woman who could stand behind a successful man?" A mother is a woman, a sister is a woman and a wife is also a woman too. Question... Who is this special woman who could help the man to be successful?

In soul searching, I believe I have found this wonderful woman for the man. Check me if I am wrong, after all I'm not a Saint. 

Firstly for the woman to assist her man to be successful, she has to be truthfully in love with him. She understands the real meaning of love. The main ingredients of love are trust, patience and kindness. She has to be intelligence and smart but never over shadow her strength on him. She could be shining like a star outwardly with her friends but with him, she lets him leads and rules. At any time when she could see his mistakes and flaws, she silently offers her tender advices and suggestions. Though she might be upset and angry over certain conflicts, she would not show her temper and be rude over her lover. Rather to use her emotion and aggressiveness, she applies her feminine charm and attraction to win over her mate. She might be violence to others or be cleverer than others, but definitely she would not approach such behaviour with him. She always treats him tenderly and lovingly, applying motivation with passion and inspiring with love. She offers her patient ears whenever he is sad, she rejoices with him when he achieves his success and she constantly provides hopes and creates dreams. Lastly she would never get tired whenever she is with him. She just want him to be successful to the world without any condition laid. 

Yes! To have such a special woman for a man isn't easy. And that's why the saying goes; "For every successful man that's always a woman behind". I have found mine. Have you gentlemen?

Just for a laugh! This morning over a meeting with a very successful CEO of an advertising house, he claimed with a new remark, "For every successful man, he needs a few women behind". Well! I have not done my soul searching on it yet. Would write more when the time come.

What is a real friend?

Last week I attended a Dato's son wedding. It was a grand one for it was his eldest son's marriage to a beautiful lady. The 1200 guests were all rich and famous celebrities, many politicians and royal families were also invited. I'm sure my friend must had spent a lot of money and effort to plan for such glamorous dinner.

Few days later after the function, Dato called me on phone. Casually he asked me whether I enjoyed the dinner. Of course! I told him. He wasn't satisfied with my direct response. He wanted me to tell him what I like and dislike, or a truthful comment. I hesitated for a moment. Wondering whether I should reveal what I saw. I knew most people would not like to hear unpleasant comments. Not forgetting my friend is a powerful man with high status in town.

I took up the courage to speak my heart. Of the many wedding dinners I had attended, yours was the most unforgettable one. Every details were well planned. the food was delicious, the setting was nicely decorated, the shows were interesting and the perfume gifts on the table for the guests were so meaningful. Your son, the groom spoke very well. I didn't know he could speak so confidently on stage. The second person who spoke for the nite was you, as the father for the bride and bride groom. I knew you spoke from your heart, except that you did not speak with the emotion. Your tune of voice was rather flat. A dull voice might not attract the ears of your guests. Otherwise it was still a good speech delivered to all your friends there.

My friend listened patiently. He wasn't disturbed at all  by my comments but rather he was happy to know his weaknesses. He told me he called many of his so called closed friends but non ever mentioned about his flaws. All the messages he received congratulating his perfect speech for the night. And I was the only one who dare to tell him his mistakes.

Moral of this story is: A real friend would always tell the truth to his friends. No matter whether is good or bad. "Only your real friends will tell you when your face is dirty" ~ Sicilian Proverb

Dedication & Interest...

For a boy its easier to pick up a 40 - 50 kg girl.

But for the same boy its difficult to pick up a 14.2 kg Gas cylinder.

Moral of the story: Dedication & Interest matters!!