Wednesday, July 10, 2013

The Cockroach Theory For Self-Developmen​t.....

Is worth sharing, read on please.....

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic  stricken face  and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone  in her group also got panicky.  The lady  finally managed to push the cockroach away but  landed on  another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. 
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of  throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it  near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the  disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife  that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the  disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that  creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are  always instinctive whereas responses are always well  thought of, and likely to be just right to save a situation from going  out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to  avoid making decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or in a hurry.