Monday, May 31, 2010

I sell Happiness.

My most often asked question. What is my profession? My answer is 'I sell happiness'. People thought I was a motivator, entertainer, singer, actor, or a preacher! I normally replied I am more than that. Beside these I am also a father or brother to those I had a chance to meet in this life. As long as they live, I would try my level best to make everyone understand the real truth of life and gather all happiness along the way. I am patience to listen, and my wisdom allows me to understand. Most of the time, I seldom fail to find a solution to my friends' living problems and obstacles. Believe me, the main factor for not being happy is always LOVE. Too much is not good and too little is equally bad. My presence is to make them realise what is needed to achieve true happiness in our societies.

Selling happiness is my profession. This happiness goes beyond death. No joke! Cause I provide the peace of mind which is tagged together with happiness. The whole package comes with a full program of Life Insurance product tailored with all the love gifts and thoughts.

Conclusion... my profession allows me to inspire and assist those that needed my knowledge while they live. In any eventualities that happened, be it as severe illnesses or death, they rest assured no burden would be bestowed on their loved one. Yes! I sell happiness from living now to the next life.

Happiness is possible when you have these -
Kindness in words creates confidence.
Kindness in thinking creates profundity.
Kindness in giving creates love. --Lao Tsu

Sunday, May 30, 2010

A White bird.

There was this caucasian guy sunbathing in the nude, at a stretch of beach in Tanjong Bungah, Penang. Then a little Chinese girl came up to him, and he quickly covered his private parts with a newspaper.

The little girl asked him, "What is under there?" And this Mat-Salleh answered ... "Oh, it's bird!"

The girl went away, and the man fell asleep. When he woke up, he found himself in a hospital bed, and in great pain.

A doctor comes up to him and asks, "What really happened?" The man squirming in pain and embarrassment, could hardly utter. "I don't know. I was at Tanjong Bungah beach sunbathing and I fell asleep after talking to a little Chinese girl, no older than four or five."

The doctor next makes a report on behalf of his patient, and later two police officers go to the beach to gather more information from witnesses on what really happened.

When they get to the beach, they see this cute girl the patient has described earlier. She is still playing in the sand. The first policeman tries to find out if she had done anything wrong to the poor chap now lying in immense pain in the Pulau-Tikus hospital.

She very confidently and innocently answers, "I did not do anything to that white uncle. He was sleeping and snoring very loudly. I just played with his bird, and after a while, he spit at me. He was a very bad bird. His vomit dirtied my whole face.

So I twisted the bird's head, burned his nest with my daddy's matches, and used my grandpa's walking stick to smash his two eggs there."

So ......... never, ever lie to a child !!!!

Saturday, May 29, 2010


People say there is no difference between COMPLETE & FINISH.

But there is a big difference....

When you love the right one you are COMPLETE & When you love the wrong one you are FINISHED!

Learn something if you are doubtful - "Love the heart that hurts you, but never hurt the heart that loves you" - Vipin Sharma.

Friday, May 28, 2010

Is money more important than love?

Is claimed, True Love has to be shared willingly. No couple could be able to live happily without giving and receiving whole heartily together. Caring and having concern for each other paves a good relationship for life. What is hers belongs to him, and what is his belongs to her as well. Even the so called most precious, private and sacred human organs (Pussy & Dicky) could be shared.

Sometimes I ponder whether true love really lies! In the course of the many years of selling and interacting with thousand of couples, money matter is the main issue that possibly separates the couples' sharing in love. In money concerns, what belongs to the man has to be shared together with the woman. But what belongs to the woman, most likely cannot be shared. It belongs to her strictly!

Many homes were broken because the husbands could not fulfill the obligation and responsibilities on money management. Especially when the man is earning less and the woman isn't willing to part with her saving. Quarrels and arguments happen when money is involved. At that point of time, they should have asked..."Is money more important than love?" Think about it my readers.

Little darling always said - “Money is not the most important thing in the world. Love is. Fortunately, I love money.”

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Giving sincere appreciation.

The Malaysian Chinese Culture is a bit different in bringing up babies. Never praise directly to a baby with good compliments. Example; your baby is strong, he is smart or clever or she is beautiful. Both the parents won't like these truthful admiration. You have to word them by the opposite way. They would be much happier, if you say... the baby is naughty or ugly. The Chinese here is superstitious, they believe if good appreciations are given, their babies might not grow to be strong, smart or beautiful eventually. So for those foreigners who are visiting our land, please be careful when you meet cute little Chinese babies here.

Is a bit sad, the grown up Chinese babies of today still haven't changed much. They have cultivated the old habits of saying the opposite way as giving admiration. Little darling of mine, likes to play joke on me. She saw a good posting on my blog, instead of offering a sincere comment to reveal her heart, she might say I had stolen her ideas and wrote what belongs to her. Or she might say, this posting is only 'so so' but in fact she admired it so much. I just wonder why she was so reluctant to reveal her real truthful compliment for a person she loves. Knowing this is our Chinese Culture, and perhaps is also the way we live, most people do not wish to tell the truth of the heart. Is difficult to give sincere admiration but to criticise and condemn is much easier. I hope she would change her thought when she reads this title today.

One more part, I like to share with my readers. A sad lonely lady had missed and lost her male secret admirer on the phone. Earlier both were chatting for many weeks on the line. The male was speaking so romantically and faithfully with her, trying all out to impress the lonesome lady friend. Instead of telling the truth that she loves talking and listening his voice, she spoke the opposite way that she is afraid to talk to him. The timid man stopped calling her the next day and the lady waited in vain. So sorry for the lady for not giving her sincere appreciation.

Food for thought - “Always remember, everyone is hungry for praise and starving for honest appreciation!” - David Brandt Berg quotes

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Sex is communication.

What is sex to you? To a little child, he would be shy hearing this odd word. To the many friends I had asked, these are the common replies; sex is love, is an enjoyment, is fun, is for distressing, is for physical satisfaction, is a form of exercising, is good for the heart, is for pleasure, is an addiction and more.

One that captured me most was an attractive lady who claimed sex is communication. According to her, when two person are in love, mutual understanding is vital to keep their relationship in order. The listening and caring of each other has to be in placed. Talking and interacting is good but the ideal communication is when both are making love together. That is when deep feeling for each other becomes more intense than normal. One has to give willingly and the other partner receives with plenty of pleasure and joy. Sex communication is reflected by expression and crying for each other. The ultimate aim is to understand each other better. I had to salute this lady who has so much of wisdom in life.

For the thought - "Sex is always about emotions. Good sex is about free emotions; bad sex is about blocked emotions" - Deepak Chopra.

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Can you control temptation?

Physically man is stronger than woman but i had to agree with little darling, who said woman is stronger in controlling temptation.

Imagine this. A beautiful lady is sitting on the lap of a man. Do you think is impossible that this man is able to control himself by not touching and fiddling the woman. I think is difficult, unless he is a sick man. Most likely his mind might go wild and crazy, and if the lady is going to shake and move her buttock a little, the worst might come from him. Yes! Strong in physical, weak in mind.

According to little darling, most women who have no interest over any men, it's not easy for men to distract the ladies. Men could be sitting on them, their thought is the least be bothered. Unless she has the feeling for the man, she would not do anything on him. Yes! Weaker in physical but stronger in mind.

Don't believe, try this simple test too. If you are a lady, try twinkle your eyes to an on coming gentleman. I am sure he would smile in return and might not take his attention away from you. However if you are a man, please don't try this twinkling coz all women would run away from you.

If you are a man, protects your woman in every possible way. And if you are a woman, please shields your man from the outside temptation as we are of a much weaker opposite sex in mind control.

Food for thought - “It is good to be without vices, but it is not good to be without temptations” - Walter Bagehot quotes

Monday, May 24, 2010

Think before you speak.

Something interesting I learned from Nafiah. Most people speak with a flowing mind without thinking first but when you think first before speaking, you make no mistake in thoughts and words.

Ever since Nafiah has two wives, one is legal and the other yet to be, he realised he has to be careful in talking in his two different homes. What he had done and arranged for in one home, could not be revealed in the other. A slip of his tongue, might cause suspicious and blunder. He loves his two women and could not afford to break them apart. So each time at their houses, he has to remember what need to be spoken and not. He started to learn to think first before talking. The result is fantastic! After marrying for several years, both marriages are kept secret and happy in every sense. To 'think first and talk' also helps Nafiah to excel well in his successful business.

What about you? You speak without bothering to think or you think first before talking. Successful people always think first before speaking. Because they want to make sure they speak right and correctly, and most important not to offend their listeners. Furthermore learning to speak effectively and confidently is truly an art.

Something we can learn - "Before you speak, think -Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind? Will it hurt anyone? Will it improve on the silence?" - Sri Sathya Sai Baba quotes

Sunday, May 23, 2010

Heaven or Hell

Is only a joke...

Idiots are Clever People Three men: a philosopher, a mathematician and an idiot, were out riding in the car when it crashed into a tree. Before anyone knows it, the three men found themselves standing before the Gates of Heaven, where the Devil was standing nearby.

"Gentlemen," the Devil started, "Due to the fact that Heaven is now overcrowded, therefore it was agreed to limit the number of people entering Heaven. If anyone of you can ask me a question which I don't know or cannot answer, then you're worthy enough to go to Heaven; if not, then you'll come with me to Hell."

The philosopher then stepped up, "OK, give me the most comprehensive report on Socrates' teachings," With a snap of his finger, a stack of paper appeared next to the Devil. The philosopher read it and concluded it was correct. "Then, go to Hell!" With another snap of his finger, the philosopher disappeared.

The mathematician then asked, "Give me the most complicated formula you can ever think of!" With a snap of his finger, another stack of paper appeared. The mathematician read it and reluctantly agreed it was correct. "Then, go to Hell!" With another snap of his finger, the mathematician disappeared too.

The idiot then stepped forward and said, "Bring me a chair!" The Devil brought forward a chair. "Drill 7 holes on the seat." The Devil did just that. The idiot then sat on the chair and let out a very loud fart. Standing up, he asked, "Which hole did my fart come out from?" The Devil inspected the seat and said, "The third hole from the right." "Wrong," said the idiot, "it's from my asshole." The idiot went to Heaven.

My belief - "You can turn painful situations around through laughter. If you can find humour in anything, even poverty, you can survive it" - Bill Cosby.

I hope you laugh more.......

Saturday, May 22, 2010

To Be 6 Again..

A man was sitting on the edge of the bed, watching his wife, who was looking at herself in the mirror.

Since her birthday was not far off he asked what she'd like to have for her birthday.

'I'd like to be six again', she replied, still looking in the mirror .

On the morning of her Birthday, he arose early, made her a nice big bowl of Lucky Charms, and then took her to Six Flags theme park. What a day!

He put her on every ride in the park; the Death Slide, the Wall of Fear, the Screaming Roller Coaster, everything there was.

Five hours later they staggered out of the theme park. Her head was reeling and her stomach felt upside down.

He then took her to a McDonald's where he ordered her a Happy Meal with extra fries and a chocolate shake. Then it was off to a movie, popcorn, a soda pop, and her favorite candy, M&M's. What a fabulous adventure!

Finally she wobbled home with her husband and collapsed into bed exhausted.

He leaned over his wife with a big smile and lovingly asked, 'Well Dear, what was it like being six again?'

Her eyes slowly opened and her expression suddenly changed.

'I meant my dress size, you retard!!!'

The moral of the story: Even when a man is listening, he is gonna get it wrong.

Friday, May 21, 2010

Never sell to an uncomfortable prospect.

Selling tips...

A closed lady colleague once asked me this question; "How to encounter a bitchy client who is stingy, selfish, unpunctual, irresponsible, boastful, calculative and always criticise of others? BUT she has money!"

Is simple! I let another agent to have her. In order for me to maintain a fruitful and beautiful selling career, I rather pick prospects who might earn less but have a sincere respect for another human being. I consider myself lucky to have good clientele who admire and appreciate my services rendered. Because I pick and select all my prospects first. The important criteria is...both client and agent must be comfortable with each other first before making the sales. Never judge the potential of the sales in term of value or size. Rather assess the behaviour and manner of the buyers. Please keep this as the golden rule of selling because it will help you to enjoy this career for life.

Food for thought - "If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you'll achieve the same results." - Tony Robbins Quotes

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Are you a sweet talker?

One of my buddy WW is resigning from his present job to join a marketing company. He has a great dream and felt further personal development could be learnt from the next place of opportunity. This is his sixth time changing of work, and he has just turned 30. Today over a cup of coffee, he likes to seek my view and advices.

This was my frank assessment for WW. He would not be successful in marketing or selling, unless he knows how to court and tackle girls. All young aggressive normal healthy man, I am sure would like to have girlfriends. Naturally is boys look for girls. In order to win over a female; a male has to be brave, understanding, thick skinned, fun looking and most important has the skill to speak effectively and confidently. Are you a Sweet Talker?

I have known WW for almost three years, and yet have not seen him with a special woman. He looks a normal gentleman to me, and I am sure he likes to be loved upon by a girlfriend. Selling is like approaching a lady, when the man has the intention to befriend the woman. Selling needs courage, persistence, tolerance, patience, understanding and the ability to speak well. If WW could not even get one lady out of the million, what makes him thinks he could convince the hundred or thousand prospects to buy. Conclusion: He must be shy and lack personal confidence. I believe all super salesperson are fantastic sweet talker and they have many girlfriends. Oooop! Oooop! Not me. I am a sweet talker but only one little darling.

I threw a challenge to WW. If you really want to be a successful marketeer, prove to me you could win the heart of a lady you like. I allow him three months to complete this special assignment. The last day is 31st August, is also our National Independent day. He left me with a cheeky smile, and I am wondering whether he has chickened out.

Specially for WW before he starts his project - “Sweet talks has the ability to attract one and all. On the contrary vitriolic speech keeps people away” - Yajur Veda quotes

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

I always stay young.

Siva really made my day. He said I am getting younger each time he met me. He wanted to know my secret. And here i like to share to everyone who reads my blog.

The old has to mix with the young. When that happen, the young would learn faster and could understand more about facts of life from the older friends. In turn, the old gains the youthfulness and strength from the younger friends. Most of my younger friends see things which they have never seen and heard, until I enlighten them with wisdom or the light of life. At the same time they spur me with drive, add more colour and action to me personally. All my little brothers and sisters, and most of all my little darling are the one who have changed my way of life.

What happen if the young and the young mix together? They might create trouble, disturb the peace, wasting pleasurable time and unproductive in manner. The worst are the old and the old meet. They talk endlessly about the past, regretting the undone and rotting their lives without a purpose. Not me! Because you are reading the work of Robert Foo... youngest man of the year.

He could not be wrong - "Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty. Anyone who keeps learning stays young. The greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young" - Henry Ford

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Lovesick at 60.

I was introduced to Lai who desperately needed some advices and suggestion. He is exactly 60 of age and in very bad shape because of lovesick. Yes! I really mean lovesick, a sickness that could not be treated medically. He couldn't sleep, eat and conduct his daily business in trading. Over night his hair had turned grey and he looked exhausted and tired. Nobody knew about his personal problem. He could not tell to his family, neither could he seek a younger person's view and opinion. Those who are more senior, might be laughing at him or they themselves might not even know how to advise him. His insurance agent who is younger than him, brought this timid business man to see me personally.

Lai is married with all his children grown up. Though he has a wife, they are not in talking term. Ten years ago he fell in love with another woman who is 10 years younger than him. He brought her to work along in his trading company. You might say, she was like a mistress and a secretary to this lucky man. She was a committed staff and a faithful lover at the beginning. Everything seemed beautiful and nice for them, until lately when another man came into their lives. This man happened to be the ex-boyfriend to the lady. He is younger, more caring, more loving than the older Lai who is unromantic at all. Lai's mistress is blaming him for taking her for granted all these years. She doesn't feel the sense of security and happiness with Lai. She doesn't feel to be loved and cared upon by the old fashion man. She has left her job with Lai and trying new things elsewhere. All these happened only two months ago. Poor Lai is saddened with unspoken words.

Out of sympathy, i asked to confirm with Lai whether he still loves his mistress who has betrayed his emotion. Though Lai is sorrowful, angry and jealous but he confessed his love with her is still strong. My assessment on him is, 'a weak lover who didn't reveal his heart openly.' During their ten years of relationship, not one time did Lai spoke these beautiful three magical words to his lady..."I Love You."

These are my advices to him. Be brave in love. Be romantic and caring. Be fun and humorous with your love. Be patience and tolerance in love. Be understanding and responsible for her. Everyone makes mistakes, and mistakes are considered as our teachers, including Love Mistakes. Forget your past. If you still love her, go for her and tell her you still love her. What this younger boyfriend could do, you have to do better, either in romance or action. Love could only be overcome if you do away with your pride and arrogance. If you love her, don't try to possess her and control her. After all love is freedom and you have to trust her to earn her confidence. Lastly, if she could get true love and happiness from another better man, please be a willing loser. Because when you really love a person, you allow that person to pick the best ideal choice. Love isn't selfish. Lai left us with an enlightened heart.

My belief - "Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for them."

Monday, May 17, 2010

Silent Sorrow for the husband.

I had a chance to have breakfast with JL whom i have known for more than 35 years. He had retired from his business 12 years ago. Out of boredom, two years later he started to learn selling of properties. Today he stands tall at 70 of age when enjoys his new found career of 10 years now. Out of our conversation, i shared my ability of the 'third eye' at looking in him. He was too eager to know how i assessed his thought and feeling.

Brother, your eyes tell me you are at 50 over 50. Fifty percent you are happy and i believe the other half you are not. I am certain you enjoy what you are doing at the moment, especially having a career which allows you to meet people. However you have sorrow and frustration at heart which reflected through your eyes. Most likely you are not happy at home, you lack the inner love of yourself.

JL was caught with surprise. With a broad smile, he was frank to say 'YES' to me. With my patience and understanding ear, this was what he related. At 70, JL is considered a very healthy person in physical and mind. Otherwise he won't be selling, driving and meeting people almost everyday. An intelligent healthy man, immaterial of age needs love & sex. Though JL has a wife who is in her late fifties, has not been sleeping with the husband for more than 10 years. They sleep in different rooms. According to JL, his wife has lost interest in love making when she turned 50. Whereas he is still very much interested in sex, even till today. He is the type of man who is faithful, honest and would never like to take advantage from females. The wife is possessive, hot temper and the jealous type. In order to satisfy his personal sexual urge and needs, he quietly masturbates himself in his bedroom while seeing those video X porno alone. Each time when he finished his self satisfaction and entertainment, he felt lousy and disgusted with it.

There was a day, when accidentally his wife came into his room and saw him masturbating. Instead of care and concern, she scolded the man with this statement. "I am a woman who can control myself and abstain from sex, why can't you as a man. Shame on you!" With such confrontation, the husband obviously lost his face and pride.

I don't have to continue to write this uneventful & sad story, because i know you readers could understand what lies beneath. My good friend is living in 'Silent Sorrow.' He is happy outwardly but inwardly he is definitely an unhappy man. I sincerely hope this true episode could enlighten many couples who might be facing the same dilemma like JL and wife. Love has understanding. Love has care and concern for each other.

Silent Sorrow - “Tears are words the heart can't express”

Sunday, May 16, 2010

This will make your day great.

"Friendship isn't about who you have known the longest. It's about those who came and never left your side ...."

Saturday, May 15, 2010

Self Confidence By 11 Simple Rules.

Self confidence gives us the freedom to commit mistakes and cope with failure without making us feel worthless. If only we have confidence in ourselves, can we gain confidence of others. After all, most people are reluctant to back a project thats being pitched by someone who is nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic. On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who spoke clearly, who held his or her head high, who answered questions assuredly, and who readily admitted when he/she did not know something.

So where do you rate yourself on the scale of 1-10 for your confidence level? Do you think you fall in the low confidence bracket? Here is some good news for you. And the good news is that self-confidence can be learned and built on.

Lets start the process of building self-confidence. Remember there is no quick fix solution for it. Nonetheless, practice makes a man perfect. So all you have to do is try and implement the following given tips in your day to day life.

Recognize your insecurities: We all have insecurities in life. It can be anything from acne, to regrets, to friends at school. Giving a name to the things which make you feel unworthy, ashamed or inferior helps to combat them. You can try to pen down your thoughts and you will find that it makes you feel much lighter and happier. Remember that no one is perfect. The man or woman sitting next to you might have the same amount of insecurities as you have. If writing doesnt come easily to you, you might want to talk it out with your friends or loved ones. Sharing your thoughts will help relieve the burden you have been carrying all alone.

Identify your successes: No matter how insecure you might feel, God has blessed each one of us with some talent. Discover the things you are good at and then focus on improving them. Give yourself permission to take pride in your talents. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which youve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.

Be thankful for what you have: A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether its emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

Be positive: Avoid self-pity or sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others.

Dress sharp: Although clothes don't make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. When you dont look good, you dont feel good. It changes the way you carry yourself and interact with people. This doesn'tt mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes.

Walk faster: Your gait tells a lot about your personality. Is it slow? Tired? Painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. You can increase yourself confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

Compliment other people: When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, youll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

Take the front seat: Back benchers might seem to have a lot of fun in schools and colleges but that does nothing to boost their self confidence. Don't be afraid to get noticed. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over your irrational fear of getting noticed and build your self confidence.

Speak up: Its a general observation that many people are afraid to speak or ask questions in a group discussion or a public gathering. They are afraid that they might be judged for saying something stupid. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you'll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

Work out: A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. If you are fit, you are surrounded by positivity and energy. If you are out of shape you feel unattractive. This leads to demoralization. Just a little discipline in your life can help shape up your self confidence in a big way.

Smile: Last but not the least; try to smile as much as possible. People are always appreciative of a smiling face. You will be welcomed by anyone who comes in your contact. A smiling face is always received with warmth and affection. Acceptance and recognition from others helps in building self confidence.

Friday, May 14, 2010

I solve the unhappiness first.

Selling Tips...

I was asked by some of my fellow colleagues, what is my effective selling method. I told them the best approach is the "Happiness & Unhappiness." These two words puzzled them. Read on and you would understand.

Each time when i met my prospects or my existing clients, i always see their facial first. The face, especially the eyes could reveal so much of their mind and heart. My senses and instinct could tell whether the person in front of me is happy or unhappy. Most of the time, people are unhappy due to many reasons. The common reasons are problems related to family, health, career, financial and love. When these happened, I would try my level best to listen and to understand the person's sorrow and frustration. A patience ears and an attentive eye of mine play an important role to the meeting. With some experiences of life and a little wisdom, i normally could provide solution to all those i met with unhappiness. If i could solve their personal problems by healing their mind and heart, selling life insurance to them is much easier later.

On the hand, if i met those who were riding high with full of joy and happiness, adding another love's product as life insurance for them is the right thing to do.

The key to success in selling life insurance is to be willing to solve and help those who might need your assistance, eventually without expecting, sales just come naturally. Unless you believe this statement, the magic might not work on you.

Our company's slogan - "Always listening & always understanding."

Thursday, May 13, 2010

How to flush away your sadness?

Most people i met found it difficult to forget their worries and frustration. Without a peaceful mind, they would not be not able to think well. Without a happy heart, working might be hindered too.

The best way to forget all your sorrows and unhappiness, try this simple method. Write down all your bad thoughts and negative feelings on a clean piece of paper. Look at them one more time. Immediately tear this one paper into many parts and pieces. Throw them all into the toilet bowl and flush it down. At the same time, speak aggressively aloud to yourself...."Damn you! I will flush you out of my mind." Trust me! It works all the time for me.

For those ladies who are upset when their mates have betrayed them, flush them in the toilet bowl and you would definitely feel much better.

Food for the thought - "Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go." -- Author Unknown

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Heal The Hurt

Well spoken..........

When you blame others for your troubles, you give them Control of your life. Free yourself from your own anger, From your own resentment, and you'll find vastly more room For serenity and abundance.

It's bad enough if someone has wronged you in the past. Is It of any value for you to continue suffering from it?

Your best strategy is not to prolong the pain, or expand Upon it. Your best strategy is to get past it as quickly as Possible.

Whether or not anyone deserves your forgiveness is not the Point. The point is, you deserve to forgive, to take back Control of your life, so that you can live abundantly.

Your forgiveness may not even make a difference to those you Forgive, if they're even aware of it. For you, it makes all The difference in the world.

When it is you who is feeling the hurt, it is also you who Can heal the hurt. Heal the hurt, and move past the pain, With forgiveness.

By Ralph Marston

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Money for the charming lady.

This charming lady was trying to test my wisdom. She wanted me to speak..."I am Money!" I was wondering why of all titles and subjects she picked this word. Perhaps she loves money more than anything else in this world.

Well! I told her 100,000 years ago when money was not in existence, the world then could be more simpler and happier. We used the barter-like method to trade. We exchanged what we had among ourselves, we were not corrupted and we traded according to what we had. U gave me your heart and i offered you my love.

When money was invented, the whole world turned differently. Let me put it in poetry to this admirable lady who is expecting the thought of me as Money.....

Money! Money!

Money can make the world goes round.

Too much money can also turn our senses down.

Money isn't money if isn't utilized.

Money spend can contribute to economical growth.

More so, if it's spent to save a person's life.

Too much money can be evil.

Too little money can be sorrowful.

Just have enough would do.

Money makes us happy.

Too much money makes us crazy.

No money makes us sad.

Too much money makes us lack.

Little money makes us humble.

Too much money makes us crumble.

Money is important but money isn't de least important.

Money brings us hope but money also brings us droop.

Be happy with what we have and be happy with what we don't have.

Money would make de world but money would also make our dreamworld.

I sincerely hope my charming lady won't just fall for money alone.

Monday, May 10, 2010

Tipping without the pain.

Do you know how sincere is your giving heart? Quite simple! The next time when you are dining with some friends try to speak to your heart. You and your guests are efficiently served with the best services at the table. You are well satisfied with the food and the comfortable environment. On paying the bills, you are returned with the change of some red and green notes plus coins by the attending waiter.

At that moment, what are you going to say to the smiling waiter holding a tray with your receipt and the change. Are you going to take back all the notes, coins and receipt, and merely say a Thank You to the waiter? Or perhaps you feel uncomfortable to take everything back because all your guests are around? Not giving something as tips might make you feel stingy to your friends. Giving all the change might be too heavy as a tip and you would feel lousy to yourself later. Or you are the type who appreciate good services and willing to give all the remaining change to the deserving waiters, plus a nice pat for him or her as good encouragement.

Good tipping is not just a manner but also a personal measurement of how caring your heart is. Is only yourself who know how sincere you are at tipping. If you are the type who is willing to tip and to offer good compliment to those who serve you well, i certainly should rank you as a person who has a giving heart. You are definitely a joyful and a happy person and i am too pleased to meet you here.

Food for thought - “If you have much, give of your wealth; If you have little, give of your heart” - Arab Proverb quotes

Sunday, May 09, 2010

The Nun and the Soldier.

A soldier ran up to a nun. Out of breath he asked, 'Please, may I hide under your skirt. I'll explain later.' The nun agreed. A moment later two Military Police ran up and asked, Sister, have you seen a soldier?' The nun replied, 'He went that way.'

After the MPs ran off, the soldier crawled out from under her skirt and said, 'I can't thank you enough Sister. You see, I don't want to go to Afghanistan. 'The nun said, 'I understand completely.'

The soldier added, 'I hope I'm not rude, but you have a great pair of legs!'The nun replied, 'If you had looked a little higher, you would have seen a great pair of balls....I don't want to go to Afghanistan either.'

Something to ponder - "I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love." — Marilyn Monroe

Saturday, May 08, 2010

Brain Value.

In the hospital the relatives gathered in the waiting room, where their family member lay gravely ill.

Finally, the doctor came in looking tired and somber. "I'm afraid I'm the bearer of bad news," he said as he surveyed the worried faces. "The only hope left for your loved one at this time is a brain Transplant. It's an experimental procedure, very risky but it is the only hope. Insurance will cover the procedure, but you will have to pay for the Brain Yourselves."

The family members sat silently as they absorbed the news. After a great Length of time, someone asked, "Well, how much does a brain cost?"

The doctor quickly responded, "RM 50,000 for a Male brain, and RM 200 for a Female brain."

The moment turned awkward. Men in the room tried not to smile, avoiding Eye contact with the women, but some actually smirked. A man unable to Control his curiosity, blurted out the question everyone wanted to ask, "Why is the male brain so much more?"

The doctor smiled at the childish innocence and explained to the entire Group, "It's just standard pricing procedure. We have to mark down the Price of the female brains, because they've actually been used, the male Brains are hardly ever used by the owners. So they are as good as new."

How true - “You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy.” - Erica Jong quote

Friday, May 07, 2010

Do you have a giving heart?

Ping is a very responsible daughter who has been paying regular allowances to her ageing parents. Though she is not the eldest in her family, her two elder brothers and one younger sister who are all married are not bother to understand the welfare of their parents. They always take for granted that Ping would take care of them.

Recently while Ping who was trying to arrange the medical insurance for her parents, she realised the premium has gone up tremendously due to the current high medical cost in our industry. She knew it would be difficult for herself alone to bear the heavy charges on the coverage, she seek the assistance of her siblings. The minute she talked and to discuss the sharing of payment among the four, non was prepared to listen and to assist. They put so much of confrontation and argument, until the sorrowful Ping had to cry silently. All claimed they love father and mother, but they love money even much more.

Out of sympathy, i had a chance to listen this story from this poor girl whom i admire all these years. Again i took out my yellow name card, and insisted Ping to read those lines imprinted.

She read aloud, "The Mind grows by taking in, but The Heart grows by giving out." Unless Ping could let her heart grows by giving out, she would not be happy with her brothers and sister. As an Angel, i reminded Ping that only those who have are specially blessed will have a giving heart.

Specially for Ping who is still in doubts - "Always there is a drop of madness in love, yet always there is a drop of reason in madness" - F. Nietzshe quote.

Thursday, May 06, 2010

The heart grows by giving out.

To the loved one i shared this piece of thought..
I always carried a special name card. A card without the company i represent, but rather is a personal card depicting my personality and my belief. On one surface you sure to laugh when you read those contents, and the next page is worded with this powerful phrase; My belief: The Mind grows by taking in, but The Heart grows by giving out."

Each time when i encountered friends who were facing some life problems, i would not hesitate to offer this magical name card to them. I would ask them to read aloud this sentence, "The Mind grows by taking in, but The Heart grows by giving out."

Most people taught they understood the proverb because it sounded simple in language. However deep down the line, it has so much to give and take in life. I used to explain to my friends, the minute one stop to learn in life, immaterial of how young or old you are, your life will be at a standstill. When you stop to learn, you will not progress and your mind will not expand. Soon you will be left behind, when everything seems so uninteresting to you anymore. You should be more confidence when you have a learning mind which grows by being knowledgeable in every sense of this world.

Having a learning mind without a contented heart is another setback most people face. The heart is where you have to willingly give all the time. Willing to share, willing to help, willing to contribute and willing to give your love whole heartily without condition and expectation, will definitely makes you a joyful and a happy human being on earth. Most friends taught they have a willing heart but at the end of our discussion, money is the main sensitive issue which most people are not willing to give. Money is the vital attraction which all of us need and want. The minute when money is involved, there bound to have some feeling and emotion. Either you don't benefit or you might lose some form of value, the heart might consider not to give willingly or the heart might feel the pain of losing. The unique of the heart when you are prepared and have accepted to grow by giving out, you are one step higher than the one who refused to understand this power of thought.

Unless you truly have some wisdom or wise enough to follow a wiser person, it's difficult to allow the heart to grow by giving out all the time. For the mind to grow by taking in is easy but the second part is meant for the blessed one. For those who could practise this way of life in good faith, i am sure your mind will be peaceful and calm, making you a happy person on earth. I speak from the heart.

Wednesday, May 05, 2010

Action speaks louder than words.

This is one comment from one of my reader AL who wrote...

Recently i had a chat with my friend, he said he was worried about the poor and it was very cruel to be in peace when others were suffering. Though I told him only worry never saved anyone, rather one should do as much as then can and be in peace & happiness, but he gave one sarcastic comment and went offline..

Well he choose to be worried (though he has no plan to execute to solve the problem) instead of doing what ever he can and be in peace. See?

The door of happiness always open for us, but how many can actually see and accept it? The choice is always ours, ignore or accept it.


Specially for you my dear AL... "Whoever is happy will make others happy too" spoken by Mark Twain. And tell that friend of yours; "The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are but on how happy others can be because of you" And i believe the highest level of happiness is when one who could help people without people asking. My dear AL, the different between you and your friend is, he has knowledge but you have wisdom.

Tuesday, May 04, 2010

How distinctive are you?

I like this word Distinctive. It means having a special quality, style, attractiveness, etc.; notable. I always asked myself; "How distinctive i am?"

I believe i am special, distinctive enough to move on in life to the greatest. Though i might not be financially rich and wealthy, i have a rich heart to share willingly. I am brave and courageous and age is never a factor to deter my growth. I have a wonderful hobby which i have developed, that is selling life insurance, allowing me to reach lives and helping them along the way. I have a midas touch which makes everyone likes me, be they the young or old, especially my little darling so sweet and understand, who loves me so much. I have this religion so called as LOVE which makes me distinctive.

What about you? How distinctive are you? Do you feel you have it? If you don't, is high time you have to soul search yourself. Otherwise you might find walking this life isn't going to be easy! Distinctive people are proud to be here to walk a life with passion and love.

How true - "Every man and woman is born into the world to do something unique and something distinctive and if he or she does not do it, it will never be done" - Benjamin E. Mays

Monday, May 03, 2010

A tale of two bank notes.

Two newly printed bank notes found themselves together in a man's wallet. The first was a RM1 note; the other was a RM100 note. They noticed that their serial numbers ended with 8888, smiled at each other and promised they would meet again, somewhere, some day.

And they did meet again one year later on Sunday 2nd January 2005 at the 8.30am Mass in the Assumption Church. They were in the same collection bag with many other RM100 notes as well as others red and green notes.

The RM100 note looked as fresh as the day when it was printed. There were no stains or wrinkles on it.

"I am the highest note in Malaysia," it said. "People treat me with respect but i do not move much. I just go from one bank to another, or from one lady's purse to a supermarket a month later. Life is a bit dull."

The smaller note looked very old and worn out. It had stains of sweat and grease and two corners were missing. It had moved from one place to another, from school canteen to coffee shop to a beggar's pocket. It had even gone through a washing machine and had come out looking very pale.

"But," the little note said, "Life is never dull. Unlike cameras and hand phones that lose part of their value all the time, even if i look very old i am always worth the same amount: exactly RM One! And what gives me the most satisfaction is that i often go to church on Sundays, at least once a month!"

Story written by Rev. Andrew Volle, MEP...he really has wisdom.

Food for thought - "There are many things in life that will catch your eye, but only a few will catch your heart. Pursue those."--Michael Nolan.

Sunday, May 02, 2010

Heart to Heart with Teresa Hsu, 112

The power of laughter

kept some 200 people in stitches during her talk on ‘Love All Serve All’ at the Malaysian Buddhist Association hall in Penang last Friday.

For the bubbly Chinese-born Singaporean, who is affectionately known as Singapore’s Mother Teresa, laughter is definitely the best medicine.

Born in 1898, the 112-year-old social worker extraordinaire keeps young and active by happily doing charity work.

Kicking off the question and answer session, Hsu, who was accompanied by her friend Sharana Rao, said she was born “very, very poor” and the toughest part of her life was when she had to pick grass to eat as she was “very, very hungry”.

“It was at that moment I thought to myself that no one should ever go through what I went through,” she said.

When asked the secret to her longevity and good health, Hsu responded, “Ha, ha, ha! Make sure your heart is always happy”.

She also said eating one raw egg every day for breakfast could be another reason for her good health.

“Once someone told me that raw egg is poisonous to which I replied ‘never mind, I thrive on poison’,” she said.

Hsu, who was born in Swatow, Guangdong Province, China, attended school only at 27. She ran away to Hong Kong when she was 16 to escape an arranged marriage.

Having witnessed the suffering of the wounded during World War II, she recognised a calling to serve and at the age of 47, managed to convince the London Nursing College to accept her as a mature student.

She subsequently travelled around Europe to help the sick and needy and was even invited by German Jewish refugees to work in a hospital in Paraguay.

In 1961, Hsu arrived in Singapore to care for her ailing mother and founded the Home for the Aged Sick in Singapore. She has since made the republic her home.

In 2005, Hsu received the Special Recognition Award from the Singapore Government in recognition of her contribution to the country.

Hsu had the audience laughing with her sharp and witty answers to questions. When asked how much rice she ate every day, she replied, “I don’t eat rice, I have no teeth and therefore, I cannot chew”.

To another question on whether she had ever fallen sick, she quipped, “The sick demons forgot to visit me.”

Hsu also imparted words of wisdom to the audience by telling them that when somebody says anything unpleasant, just don’t listen.

“If someone also says they are not happy, go all out to make them happy because if you love everybody with all the love in your heart, then you’ll be happy, ha, ha, ha,” she laughed.

On death, Hsu said she normally does not console the relatives of the deceased but instead makes them laugh.

She told the audience how she got a lady whose uncle had died to laugh and sing along to a Cantonese kindergarten song.

Hsu also said whenever she was faced with a problem, she would try to solve it but if she could not, then she just accepted it.

To another question, she said she wasn’t born naturally caring but shared an incident that deeply affected and changed her. Her late mother once dug up potatoes to feed the family but gave away the entire pot to a starving beggar who arrived at their doorstep with a child.

“That was the day I learnt that to give what you have in your hand to others is a great blessing,” she said.

When asked how important religion was to her, Hsu said, “Nobody ever told me what a religion was”.

She cited an incident when a Buddhist man and a Christian lady were arguing and singing praises about their respective religions.

She told them, “Brother and sister, there’s just one door”.

From Teresa...
"My wish is to smile throughout my life,.."
" Everybody is a brother and sister .."
" My religion is LOVE .."

Saturday, May 01, 2010


I really can't hold myself laughing....ha! ha! ha! ........

Joe and John are close friends. One day Joe drop in to see John in his office and notice that John have a very beautiful Asian secretary:

Joe : "Your secretary is very sexy..."

John : "Ah, thanks Joe. It's actually a special robot from Japan. I named it "Sweety." If you squeeze its right breast, it takes notes. If you squeeze its left breast, it types. I'll lend her to you for a day and you can see for yourself " said John. Joe agreed and excitedly took "sweety" home.

Early next morning Joe called from hospital and shouted: "John! you BASTARD......!! You did not tell me Sweety's pussy is a pencil sharpener!!!

To all bosses - "Sex is the most beautiful thing that can take place between a happily married man and his secretary" - View quotes by Barry Humphries