Monday, April 30, 2012

How to win an argument?

Sweet young thing asked, "Would you agree don't argue with 'Stupid' people for they will bring you to their level and they will bite you by their experience?"

RF; "Play dumb and you will win!"

I learned it from Dale Carnegie when I was still schooling. He wrote; The best way to avoid an argument is to keep quiet. Coz the more you talk, the more you become furious. So let the other person speak his mind and gradually he would get tired. Finally the winner is the one who play dumb. 

Remember - "The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it" - Quoted by Dale Carnegie

Sunday, April 29, 2012

The Triumph Rider!

A Triumph rider walked into a drug store in Waco, Texas and asked to talk to a male pharmacist.

The woman he was talking to said that she was the only pharmacist and as she and her sister owned the store, there were no males employed there.

She then asked if she could help him. The biker said that it was something that he would be much more comfortable discussing with a male pharmacist.

The female pharmacist assured him that she was completely professional, and whatever it was that he needed to discuss, he could be confident that she would treat him with the highest level of professionalism.

The biker then agreed and began by saying ........

'This is tough for me to discuss, but I have a ..... Permanent Erection. It causes me a lot of problems, and severe embarrassment, and I was wondering what you could give me for it.'

The pharmacist said ....... 'Just a minute, I'll talk to my sister.'

When she returned, she said ...... We discussed it at length, and the absolute best we can do is as follows:

1/3 ownership in the store .......
A company pickup truck ........
Five home cooked dinners a week .........
And $3,000 a month in living expenses.

Saturday, April 28, 2012


Please excuse the four-letter words toward the end of the following story...I would have deleted  them, but the story wouldn't be the same.

A  young Jewish couple got married and went on their honeymoon. When they got back,the bride immediately called her mother.

"Well", said her mother, "so how was the honeymoon?"

"Oh mama", she replied, "The honeymoon was wonderful! So romantic"... Suddenly she burst out crying.

"But, mama, as soon as we returned, Sam started using the most horrible language – things I'd  never heard before!

I mean, all these awful four-letter words!

You've got to take me home!!


"Sarah, Sarah", her mother said, "Calm down!

You need to stay with your husband and work this out. Now, tell me, what could be so awful?

WHAT four-letter words?"

"Please don't make me tell you, mama," wept the daughter. "I'm so embarrassed, they're just too  awful!


"Darling, baby, you must tell me what has you so upset. Tell your mother these horrible four-letter  words!"

Sobbing,the bride said,"Oh, Mama...he used words like: "DUST, WASH, IRON, and COOK...

"I'll pick you up in twenty minutes," said her mother.

Friday, April 27, 2012

Honest & sincere compliment.....

This happened over in my club.. 

Male member; "Hi handsome, you look great".

RF; "You make my day by addressing this name to me. I haven't received such compliment for a long time!"

Member; "You mean nobody call you by Mr Handsome?"

RF; "Yes! Male friends seldom call me as handsome, BUT most ladies and women love to call me handsome or even young man".

Male Member was caught with that statement. He didn't know how to response. Perhaps he was slow to think.

RF; "Do you know the different between ladies calling a man handsome over a man calling another man  as handsome?"

Member was slow again to react, "Really? I don't see any different!!"

RF; "Let me explain the different".......

When a woman addresses you as Handsome, she might have two different intentions. Either she has the sincerity to see you as truly a handsome man to her or she doesn't see you at all as a handsome person but yet called you as handsome. The upper is a genuine compliment, whereas the latter is for the sake of gaining some favour from the man. A not so clever man might be taken for a ride and feel happy over such sweet recognition from the lady's giver. A naughty and playful guy like me, I would certainly be able to see the different. See her eyes and listen to her voice, and with some experiences, the truth would be revealed. On the other hand, man seldom behaves like woman. When a man addresses another man as handsome, you rest assure that is the real compliment for his friend.

RF; "You really make my day friend".

Food for thought - "Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around" -
Leo Buscaglia quotes

Thursday, April 26, 2012

Wealth cannot last more than 3 generations....

How true is the proverb above???

The Chinese has a strong belief. No wealth could last three generations for a family. A poor man could work hard in his life time, sending his children to the best education and finally he became rich. His children could have seen the father's hardship while they were young. The education enable the children to continue the father's business, expanding and increasing their wealth. However by the time the grand old man has his grand children, the family's wealth and richness could be over spent by the third generation. Reason; non of the grand children has ever seen the suffering of their grand father who started life with his empty pocket. Whereas the grand children's pockets are always loaded with the millions. The grand children are over pampered and the cash are there to spoil them in life. 

I'm glad I started with an Empty Pocket and I hope my children would not spoil my grand children. What about you there?

Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Has love got jealousy???

Sweet young thing (SYT) asked, "Has love got jealousy?"

Yes! A little jealousy is normal but definitely not too much. A little jealousy indicates the lovers have concern for each other. Jealousy is unavoidable because emotion is also uncontrollable in every one of us. However when one party who cannot control this jealousy emotion, this particular lover might turn love into hate or tend to be possessive in their relationship. Hate in turn could lead to many unhappy behaviours and too possessive in love could be unpleasant as well. The only way to overcome hate and possessiveness, is Trust. Unless you have the patience and tolerance, Trust would not be developed. So! When you have trust, you eliminate the emotion of jealousy in love. 

I warned SYT, when you have no jealousy over your love, it means you no longer love your partner too. Meaning, when you don't like and love your mate any more, you naturally won't be bother with him. Care and concern is out in your mind. So! You still need a little jealousy to maintain a good love relationship. You have to buy a 'love's barometer' to determine your jealousy level. So when it shows you are at a dangerous level, you better come to read my Wisdom of Life again.

Food for thought - "Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time" - Arab Proverb quotes. 

Tuesday, April 24, 2012

Lower your expectation.....

Your city might be different. Mine... Kuala Lumpur where I reside always has a lot of complaints. They complain no maid is available, because currently our government is blocking the import of new maids from our neighbouring countries. Those who could still have maids working with them, also complain that their maids are lousy. Without maid is a problem for working couples with young children or to get good maid is equally difficult! 

Complaint and more complaint! I used to ask this statement; you say employing a good maid is difficult, but is also not easy to marry an understanding wife as well. Both are home makers who care and maintain a comfortable house. The different is, the wives sleep with the master of the home, whereas the maids sleep alone. Right? But mind you, some masters forced their maids to sleep with them too. Especially when the ladies aren't at home in the night.

To have an understanding wife who is prepared to give up her career, the husband has to love her enough. Otherwise no wife is willing to sacrifice their lucrative income and position for the family. An understanding husband would definitely appreciate the wife's role in the house. He constantly would inspire and motivate her because their house work could not be easy either. He cannot yell at her for mistakes make, he cannot scold her for not getting up early or perhaps he cannot complain for not making a nice meal for the children. The only way is to provide encouragement and love for her. And I'm sure most wives would be the most ideal home maker for the house then.

What about maids? So sorry! Most employers prefer to pay the least and expect to get the maximum result from maids. Worst still, no love and encouragement is given to maid from the family. Their expectation is so relatively high, almost expecting to be better than their wives. So when maids are unable to serve to their satisfaction, all anger and temper arise within the maids and their employers. 

The best way to overcome and to treat all maids, is to apply these three universal rules, "Incentive, Threat and Love from the heart". Everyone likes money and gifts. Give incentives to motivate the maids. Or if incentive could not be effective, apply threat as a second alternative. Sack her if necessary. I believe applying love from a sincere heart is the most powerful tool to encourage most maids to work harder. When Incentive and Love are not given, threat alone could be dangerous. If you are one employer who only knows how to use threat to make your maid to work, I guess you would be having the most unhappiest maid to work for you. Suggest you should change. 

I always follow this proverb - "Lower your expectations of earth. This isn't heaven, so don't expect it to be" - Max Lucado quotes

Monday, April 23, 2012

Three types of listener......

When some one gives you advices, are you the type who would listen?

I believe there are three types of listener. The first type won't like to listen. No matter what suggestions and advices, they would totally reject them. The second type are those who listen, but they are not the least interested  to apply what have been related, though the advices could be good. The third type are those who listen, take into consideration the good suggestions and immediately apply what have been offered.

I classified the first type of listener as 'stupid'. They prefer to learn from their own mistakes in life, rather than learning from others. Usually they are the prideful kind and refuse to accept other people's views. I suggest to stay away from this type of listener.

I have a good friend who used to advise others who needed help. As a senior, every relatives and friends accept his opinion. He is wise enough to see others problems, and he offers effective solutions. The funny part of him is, whenever any of his relatives suggested good sincere advices to him, he would listen but he would never take their advices. Today he is already 70 years old, not successful in his small family business, unhealthy and not a happy man either. Good listener but stubborn and prideful to take advices. I classified him to be the second type here.

Those friends and relatives who listened from this old man's words, and later applied what they had been told, are currently doing well and live happily with their families. The wise man's wisdom worked extremely well, for they listened and they applied. These are the third type of listener. Luckily I'm in this group of people too.

So readers out there! Are you reading my post just for fun and entertainment or are you the type who read and also apply what you have gained from reading the Wisdom of Life here. Please tell me if you aren't the shy one.

Powerful quote -"Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself" -    Eleanor Roosevelt

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Nursing Homes......

I bet you would laugh....

Those days, no parents would be sent to the old folks home when they were getting old. The children, especially the sons had to make sure their ageing parents were cared for. They had the wisdom of Respect & Love to be bestowed to the elders. Was definitely a shame to any son who didn't care for his parents! I personally took care of my parents, though they were my adopted father and mother, until their last day on earth. And I definitely had no regret over this issue. So sad! Today, I wonder whether our children could follow our footstep. See the picture below and you decide whether this could happen to yourself...

To all My Senior Friends, you might need the services of this nursing home!

Saturday, April 21, 2012

Prayers granted......

Appukuttan walks into a restaurant in Abu Dhabi with a full-grown camel behind him, and as he sits, the waiter comes over and asks for their order.

 Appukuttan says, 'Enike nalu barotayum oru motta roast,' [I want 4 porottas and 1 egg roast] and turns to the camel, 'Ninnake endanu vendiye?' [what do you want?]' 'Ennikum adhu thanne,'  [ I'll have the same] says the camel demurely.

 A short time later the waiter returns with the order. 'That will be 15.30 dhirams please,' and Appukuttan reaches into his pocket and pulls out exact change for payment.

 The next day, Appukuttan and the camel come again and Appukuttan says, 'Enike nalu barotayum oru motta roast''. 'Ennikum adhu thanne,' (ditto) says the camel demurely.  

Once again Appukutt an reaches into his pocket and pays with the exact change.

This becomes a routine until late one evening, the two enter again. 'The usual?' asks the waiter. 'Innu vyazhazhchai alle, enniku 5 appavum oru kozhi stew,' [ today is Thursday so I'll have 5 appams and chicken stew] says Appukuttan. 'Ennikum adhu thanne,' [ same for me ] says the camel demurely.

 A short time later the waiter comes with the order and says, 'That will be 12.62 dirhams.' Once again Appukuttan pulls exact change out of his pocket and places it on the table.

The waiter can't hold back his curiosity any longer. 'Excuse me, saar. How do you manage to always come up with the exact change out of your pocket every time?'

'Well,' says Appukuttan, 'several years ago I was cleaning the 'thatumburam ' [attic] and I found an old 'villakku' [lamp] . When I rubbed it a Yakshi appeared and offered me two wishes. My first wish was that if I ever had to pay for anything, just put my hand in my pocket, and the right amount of money would always be there.'

'Oogran'! [ Great] says the waiter. 'Most people would wish for a million rupees or something, but you'll always be as rich as you want for as long as you live!'

'That's right! Whether it's a gallon of milk, a Benz car or a Roll Royce , the exact money is always there' says Appukuttan.

The waiter asks, 'One other thing, sir, Ningal endina ee ottakathinem kondu nadakunnathu?'' [why are you always accompanied by this camel].

Appukuttan sighs and answers, 'My second wish was for a tall female with long legs, full lips, large eyes with long eyelashes who agrees with everything I say........'

There is always a catch when you get your prayers answered.
P.S. Don't miss the tomorrow Sunday's joke. I bet you would laugh until your pant falls down.

Friday, April 20, 2012

My Ideal Man............

Cherry is one of my great lady admirer who often seek my wisdom. She has been working in various part of the world. She is only 28, attractive, loving and still single. In her heart, she longs to fall in love with the right man. Yesterday she sent me a message; "I wanna to share something with you. Finally I met someone who is really caring and thoughtful".

RF: Who is the lucky man my dear?

Cherry:  He is older than me. He is 34 years old British from London.

RF: Wow!

Cherry: Working at French Restaurant as executive chef.

RF: I see. Don't rush my dear. Take your time to get to know him better.

Cherry: N Kenji the Japanese guy came to Singapore to see me. I realized he isn't my type. 

RF: Mix more freely. Don't just stick to one man. See the differences of the many men u know. Including RF as well.

Cherry: Haha! RF is the best. Nothing to compare.

RF: The one who get jealous. Throw him away. Understand?

Cherry: Haha! Yeah! I got it! 

RF: The one who has all the patience and have tolerance, consider him then. Perhaps an older man is even better.

Cherry: Yeah! he is older than all the earlier guys I knew.

Specially for Cherry and all single ladies who are looking for an ideal soul mate. An ideal man is one who has patience for his love. He is kind, thoughtful, not boastful, not proud, not rude, not a hot temper person, intelligence and smart, interesting and fun, exciting and humorous, generous, caring and loving,  full of confidence and independence, strong and healthy, has plenty of drive and always willing to give his heart to his love. He should be trustworthy and not a possessive man. He is a giver and never would get jealous whenever he sees his love is with another man. He is a motivator and a mentor to his mate. He loves his lady unconditionally. Coz he believes true love never fails.

Thursday, April 19, 2012

Men's morning erection....

Henry is an old veteran runner in our club. I had seen him running everyday without fail in our gym. He could be on the treadmill running non stop for two hours beating all the younger members there. Lately I didn't see him around.  On checking with the members, I was told he fell three times on difference occasions while exercising inside the gym. The last fall was quite bad, when he hit something, had a concussion and bleeding furiously on the head. He was admitted immediately.

Few days ago, I was happy to see him in the club again. Though he had lost some weight, he was still cheerful and looked normal to me. As an additive runner, he finds it difficult to stop running totally. Doctors who examined him, could not find the fault either. It could be low pressure when he was running that led him to fall, or ageing could have caught in him. However he still insisted to continue to run, but with a more careful and slower pace.

Since I'm older than him by three years, and as an older brother I would like to give him my personal attention and advices. The best way to determine whether Henry could continue to exercise and to run on the machine, I asked him this sensitive question. "May I know whether your little brother down there could still have morning erection currently?" For the simple minded readers, little brother is the penis. Henry wasn't shy at all, he replied with an instant Yes! Strong as ever he claimed.

A normal healthy male adult, immaterial of what age, would definitely have erection in the early morning. The erection indicates that the man is strong and normal in every sense. Unless the man is sick and not healthy, he would never have this erection because his physical is weak. Why I could tell you this simple logic, is because I never fail to have my morning erection too. Age is not the factor. As long as one knows how to take care his body, his mind and heart, the erection could still be strong as ever. Yes! Henry my great friend, you can continue to run as much as you like coz I termed you as healthy and normal to me. Congratulation!

Have a laugh - "God gave men a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time" - Robin Williams quotes.

Wednesday, April 18, 2012

At this age I prefer girls in front...

Richard Tham is my childhood friend whom we studied together. He is only a few months older than me, and I used to call him as big brother. Perhaps all my naughtiness could be taught by him when I was a kid. 

Few days ago was his birthday, which I won't forget. We used to party together those days, whenever we celebrated our younger birthdays. Nevertheless I sent him a personal birthday's wishes on that day.

I wrote; "Specially to my great buddy and big brother Richard... 'Winning isn't everything, but wanting to win is'  and you have it because today is your birthday. Happy Birthday and Gooooo for it".

Later he replied; "Thank you very much for your blessing".

As naughty as ever I'm, I forwarded another message to my brother; "A good day to be crowed with beautiful ladies. Pick one who could stand behind you. Coz it said.. Every successful man has a woman behind".

Another short reply from him; "At this age I prefer girls in front".

I was glad my brother still has humour but so sad to see this short quote of his. He prefers girls in front means he isn't interested in the corporate world. He no longer has the personal drive and enthusiasm to excel, when once he was an important figure in the Business Market. My bigger brother has finally retired and prefers to admire all the girls in front. On the hand, for those men who prefer women behind, are the one who still could perform and lead in the working world. Thanks The Almighty! I still love a special woman who could stand behind me. One who is more intelligence and smarter than me but willing to inspire and motivate me to reach my success. I wish my bigger brother could change his thought but being that I'm not a woman, it would be too difficult for me to change his stubborn mind now.

Moral of the story: Written words could determine the inner mind. 

Food for thought - "Life is full of surprises...good and bad. Why not surprise someone with a hug today!"

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

No problem! No opportunity!

Over a chat conversation with my eldest son, who is currently working in China, the topic of 'problems offer opportunities' was brought up again. Though he is away for many years, he keeps track of what is happening back home. He knows our country are still facing many problems unsolved. Those who were considered as intelligent or had the brain, could have migrated elsewhere. They think a country which has no problem would be a better place to reside. To me, I think they are selfish and just want an easy way out of life. They didn't realise that the greener pasture is all the time back home....Here!

I told and explained to my son, the intelligent one would escape the reality of life but the smart one takes problems as an opportunity in every sense. In China or any fully developed countries, you might not see any defect in their overall systems. However if you do have real intelligence, you would be able to see so much of unsolved issues here. Plus if you have the smartness, all these unsolved problems are money making opportunities. So! Those who had left the country are considered as not so smart actually. 

I reminded my son, though your dad was only a school drop out, he could still managed to send the sons to study abroad. Reason is simply because he knows how to identify problems. As long as life on earth is uncertain, life insurance is greatly needed. As long as sicknesses and illnesses could not be solved, life insurance is still saleable. As long as death is the final destination, life insurance is still wanted much by the world. Intelligence alone might not be good enough to sell as a life insurance agent. Smartness to understand the problems of life is the prime factor to succeed. 

Son, our country has many challenging problems and being that you have the intelligence and the smartness like your naughty dad, Malaysia is still the dream home for us. Remember; "No problem! No opportunity!". He replied with a strong affirmative that he will be back soon. Hooray!!!!

Food for thought - "Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem a turned it into an opportunity." Joseph Sugarman

Monday, April 16, 2012

Problems are opportunities....

Life is always full of problems. How do you solve your problems?

In my younger days, I would write all my problems on a piece of white paper. Read them first, then crumbled it and throw that piece of paper into the rubbish bin. At the same time, I would also shout aloud "Go to hell with these problems!" Mentally it helped to erase these unnecessary problems that might disturb my mind. Believe me, it works very well.

Today there is no problem that couldn't be solved. The only problem that cannot be solved is when one is dead. Death is unsolvable! Other than death, all problems have solution to them. An intelligent person might be disturbed with problems, but a wise person takes problems as opportunities. 

Food for thought "Each problem has hidden in it an opportunity so powerful that it literally dwarfs the problem. The greatest success stories were created by people who recognized a problem a turned it into an opportunity." - Joseph Sugarman

Sunday, April 15, 2012

Legal jokes--- no charge...

The lawyer's son wanted to follow in his father's footsteps, so he went to law school. He graduated with Honours, and then went home to join his father's legal firm. At the end of his first day at work he rushed into his father's office, and said, "Father, you know what, in one day I managed to solve the accident case that you've been working on for 10 years!" His father responded : " You idiot, we lived on the funding of that case for 10 years!" 

Saturday, April 14, 2012

Medical examination..........

While examining his lady patient, the doctor tells her: "Your heart, lungs, pulse & BP are fine. Now let me see that little thing which gets you ladies into all kinds of trouble."

The lady started taking off her panties.....

Doctor, stopping her: "No! No! Please put on your clothes. Just show me your tongue."

Friday, April 13, 2012

I help others to save....

When is my most exciting time for a sale? Is it closing a big sale? Perhaps twenty years ago, I would have said yes. Today handing over cheques personally, especially educational matured payment for any child would be my most thrilling moment.

Yesterday, I had a chance to hand over a full payment of 16 years to the father who diligently paid his children educational policies. I insisted the daughter to be presence. At their office, I was introduced to all his staffs. The father and also the boss of the company was too proud to mention my name. Robert has been my agent for more than 20 years, and today he is delivering my daughter's educational payment for her. 

Though the cheque and the payment could be small to the father now, because when I sold him this policy he was not successful yet. Today he is a wealthy and a famous person in town. I showed the cheque to his daughter. I showed my old photostated proposal form which his dad had signed 16 years ago. At that time, she was only 4 years old. Her height was only 3 feet 4 inches and her weight was just above 30 pound then. The love of your dad compelled him to save for you without fail for the last 16 years. During these 16 years, your dad had to face many challenges and hardships. Though it was tough then, your dad could still maintain to pay this premium into your policy. He knew you are smart and intelligence and he had to save for you. While I was relating the story to her, the dad was smiling all along. I knew he was equally happy for his achievement.

Before I ended, I asked the daughter whether she could repeat the same task like what his dad had done. Your dad had saved 16 years for you. Now could you save another 16 years for your future, upon completing your studies, when you would be working then. Both her dad's eyes and mine were looking at her. She responded with... Yes yes yes!!!! I was too glad to shake her hand firmly. In my heart the happiness was indescribable. I had made the father to save 20 years ago, and now I could also encourage the grown up daughter to save too. Before I left, father and daughter walked me right up to the lift to bid  me farewell. I could see both their eyes were very grateful to this friend who happened to be their faithful agent who cares.

Food for thought - "All days are not same. Save for a rainy day. When you don't work, savings will work for you." - M.K. Soni quotes

Thursday, April 12, 2012

A third generation's sale...

Today is such a wonderful day because a couple had effected a plan for their new born. Arina and Edris are both my clients. Edris's late father was also my client, who passed away almost 20 years ago. The sweet little baby girl is called Sara who touched my heart. She has the resemblance of the grand father.

Twenty years ago when the late father passed away due to a severe heart attack, his four sons were still studying. It was the timely life insurance that took care of the family financial. The home mortgages and the children studies were well taken care. And I was the proud insurance agent who was behind the claim, making sure that all payments were fulfilled. When Edris who is the third son, graduated and finally gained employment, made no hesitation to buy policies from me few years ago. Along the way his girl friend, later became his wife, was also my client. Selling this baby's plan is called a third generation's sale. Meaning, from grand parents to the grand children, all the various covers are sold by one single agent faithfully representing one company.

To be a three generation's agent, one has to be different. The main factors are loyalty, trust, love, passion and most important the drive must still remains. Why I say drive is important, is because when one is ageing... to stay healthy, youthful, full of enthusiasm, fun and willing to strive for the extra miles could be difficult. Thanks to the Almighty, HE blesses me with all these unique charm and qualities. I will try to sell the 4th generation's sale.

Bob Moawad
Quality begins on the inside... and then works its way out.

Wednesday, April 11, 2012

Is selling a tough job?

Someone asked, "Is selling a tough job?" 

My reply was... If you are a man and finds it difficult to win over a girl you love, then selling is going to be tough for you. To tackle girls, man has to be brave, not shy, intelligence & smart, be talkative, kind, caring, generous, friendly, good personality, sincere, trustworthy & honest, not boastful, not rude, humorous and the fun type, patience & has plenty of perseveres,and has a loving heart. If a gentleman has all these qualities, many women could easily fall for him. Similarly selling requires these qualities too.

The same fellow asked .. "What about for woman?"

My reply was... If a woman is attractive, sexy and intelligence, all men would just chase for her. Otherwise have a beautiful heart, man like me will go for her then. In selling is the same for woman. If she has these type of qualities, customers would just buy from her. That's why female makes better salesperson than males.

Food for thought - "A young man or woman seriously considering selling as a career must, first of all, have a genuine interest in other people, their problems, their aspirations and needs."

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Most important thing for man!!!

Can this happened to you gentlemen??? Read on please....

You were on heat, and wanting to have intimacy with your wife. Before going to work in the morning, you gave a signal to her. Perhaps you might be a direct person, you said, " Darling! lets do it tonight!". Your wife replied with a loving Yes.

Anxiously you were excited the whole day, when you did everything well. However coming to bed time, your wife looked tired. She gave her reasons; your parents came and she had to entertain them. She took them out for all day's shopping and eating. She said, "Darling I'm tired. Let's try tomorrow yah?" Well! She is your wife and the old folks are your parents. In your heart you shunned with a sad note..."Mmmmmmhh!!!"

Next morning the same thing, you gave another signal to your sweet wife who responded with a big smile. You knew she would not fail you again. You did well in the office and the whole day, you were looking forward to the night. After a good bath before jumping onto the bed, your wife looked a bit depressed to say a few unkind words to you. The day was so busy for her, she needed to chauffeur the children to school because the bus driver was sick and unable to take the children. In between she had to go to the supermarket because the groceries were running out at home. One of her good friend was admitted and she had to visit her at the hospital. She was groaning with exhaustion, "I'm so sorry darling! Shall we try again tomorrow?" What have you got to say? You could not force a loved one to participate on bed mating without willingness. Right? You slept with frustration and dissatisfaction.  

Next morning, instead of you giving the signal, your wife was at your arm and whispering softly to your ear, "We shall do it tonight sweetheart!!!" Wow! You felt terribly good and excited again. Before you went home, you drove to the gym, ran and toughen your muscle from top to bottom. In your mind, you were preparing and looking so much for the night. Upon arrival home, your wife gave you a very sad tune of voice. She said, "Darling! I'm so sorry again. My best friend came this morning as well". Best friend to them is the menstrual lady who come periodically each month. What! At this time of the week. Your mind boiled and the heart saddened to the extreme. You had waited three day and you had controlled your strong desire for too long. Anger and more anger but you could not do anything about it. You slept with frustration again.

Next morning upon reaching the office, your boss was waiting at your desk. He didn't look happy either. He yelled at you, "What have you been doing? You haven't delivered your work . Do you know this assignment is very important to us?" In your mind you said, "Shit!! Fxxx!!! My most important thing at home also hasn't done yet!"

Fact of life is when man's important need is done, he could perform better at work. Abstaining from his sexual gratification, would make all men unhappy and unproductive. 

Food for thought - "Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place" - Billy Crystal quotes.

Monday, April 09, 2012

Man... Is virginity important till marriage?

Is Virginity important to you? I mean when you know your girlfriend or your wife isn't a virgin, would you feel upset over it! Asking the older generation, most claimed they are. They felt their women had betrayed them. However the younger people really don't mind about it. I think not Raj who is my regular reader and I'm sure he is a young fellow, would wish his lover is a virgin. 

What about me? Perhaps when I was a young man, I would like my lover to be a virgin too. But through the years when I have gathered much understanding of life, a virgin might not make a perfect lover. A virgin could have never experienced contact with another man! A virgin might have never fallen in love before. A virgin is one who has never attempted intimacy or sexual relationship with the opposite sex.

To me, a most understanding and a lovable woman, is one who has gone through life. A life when she has to experience mistakes and to face obstacles. It's the mistakes she learns and the obstacles offer her challenges. Though she might suffer in pain when her loves were rejected or even cheated, she became stronger and more matured as she grows. The past lovers could be considered as her teachers who taught her to be better lover for the right man who comes finally in her life. 

Gentleman! Are you aware that a virgin could never be a good sexual partner. Reason is simply she knows nothing on bed yet. Right? So why cry when you find that your girl isn't a virgin then? Be happy lah! 

Food for thought - "I slept with faith and found a corpse in my arms on awakening: I drank and danced all night with doubt and found her a virgin in the morning" - Aleister Crowley quotes

Sunday, April 08, 2012

Smoking in the rain.......

Not allowed to smoke inside, Jane and Arlene are outside their nursing home,  having a drink and a smoke, when it starts to rain. Jane pulls out a condom, cuts off the end, puts it over her cigarette, and continues smoking.
Arlene: What in the hell is that?
Jane: A condom. This way my cigarette doesn't get wet.
Arlene: Where did you get it?
Jane: You can get them at any pharmacy.
The next day, Arlene hobbles herself into the local pharmacy and announces to the pharmacist that she wants a box of condoms.
The pharmacist, obviously embarrassed, looks at her kind of strangely (she is after all, over 80 years of age), but very delicately asks what brand of condom she  prefers.
'Doesn't matter Sonny, as long as it fits on a Camel.'
The pharmacist fainted. 

Saturday, April 07, 2012

A lie detector....

A father buys a lie detecting robot that slaps a person when he lies. 
The father decides to test it out on his son at supper. 
"Where were you last night?" "I was at the library. "The robot slaps the son.
"Okay, I was at a friend's house." "Doing what?" asks the father."Watching a movie, 'Toy Story.'" 
The robot slaps the son."Okay, it was porn!" cries the son. 
The father yells, "What? When I was your age, I didn't know what porn was!" 
The robot slaps the father. 
The mother laughs and says, "He certainly is your son!" The robot slaps the mother.

Friday, April 06, 2012

My daily survival kit......

Little darling asked what's my 10 tools for my daily survival kit?

According to her, the article she read said "For women should be a gorgeous push up bra, chocolate, a cutest pair of comfortable flat shoe to replace those killer heels, favourite scent, a spare pair of shirt, pin needles and thread, get lippy (lipstick), breath freshener, flawless nails and vibrant accessories".

Oh for me, they are "a pair of good shoe, pen, a piece of white paper, hand phone, nice cup of coffee, naughtiness, sense of humour, smiles, wisdom and my sincere heart". As long as I carry these 10 tools with me, I will survive no matter where I go. What about you?

Food for thought - Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. - Leo Buscaglia

Thursday, April 05, 2012

You can be virgin again!!!

Man divorces wife over fake hymen
A Saudi woman wanted to give her husband a pleasant surprise on their second marriage anniversary by telling him that she was a 'virgin again' by using an artificial hymen from China.

Instead of applauding his wife, he divorced her. They were celebrating their wedding anniversary at home in the Saudi capital in Riyadh when the woman happily revealed her 'new virginity' secret. The man, however, was not amused. He divorced her immediately.

The Sharq daily quoted sources close to the couple as saying that the man suspected his wife of not being a virgin before their marriage as she could have used an artificial hymen then too. 

The Arabic language newspaper did not identify the couple nor did it say how the woman obtained the hymen. Such items are strictly banned in Saudi Arabia, one of the most conservative Muslim nations. During intercourse, the artificial hymen will begin to ooze out a red liquid that looks like blood.

This was an article I read which caught my mind about virgin of our women. I remember those olden days when a man got marry, his newly wed wife had to prove she is still a virgin on the night of her wedding. Before the man and the woman called it a night, the mother of the house would give her son a white clean towel to keep. What the couple would do in the room, you and I would know for sure! But the next morning when they got up, the son had to give back the white towel to his mother. If the towel was soaked with red blood, the mother would like her new married daughter in law. Red indicates she is a virgin. However when there is no red, except white on the same towel, mother would be the most unhappiest person. Reason... that woman isn't a virgin.

Today! Good news for all women. You can get artificial hymen and you can be virgin again. Hooray!

Wednesday, April 04, 2012

How do you go finding customers in selling life insurance?

Selling tips...

Thank you Robert!  One question I have for you is your approach with the customer… do you go about finding customers to sell life insurance to?  Once you have an opportunity to communicate with the customer…..what type of questions do you ask them?

Thank you. 


My reply:

Hi Don,

So sorry! Was away for the weekend with my sweetheart. 

There are three ways to prospect:
1. Ask your friends but they are reluctant to give. ( Usually these are rookie agents who are new in our business)
2. Ask your friends again, who give some names but you cannot reveal and mention their names.
3. You don't ask name or prospect, but yet your clients insist you have to see their friends and relatives.

I strongly believe every agent has to start from number one, including myself. Is only those who are determined and are prepared to face all types of obstacles would make it. I have not asked for prospect from my friends since 20 years ago. They recommend all their ideal associates to me and they are too proud and too happy for me to deal business with them. Reason... I have earned their trust and respect.

A good sales person will never ask for a sale whenever they have the first opportunity to meet. Rather they start to sell their values and market their personalities first. I prefer to approach by 'giving' first rather than to 'receive' from my potential customers. Until I earn my respect and knowing they are also comfortable with me, I will never mention a single word of my products. The minute I could sense they have accepted me as a true friend, I might casually ask this tag line... "May I share how I work and render my services to my clients?"

I hope these few ideas could be useful to you Don.



Tuesday, April 03, 2012

How to approach people about life insurance?

Selling Tips....
Hi Robert,

I stumbled upon your blog on line while researching information for funeral expense.  I, too, sell life insurance.  I have been at it for about 2 years now and was wondering if I could correspond with you?  I would like to gain some wisdom from you as to how to approach people about life insurance?  You have been very successful and that is important to me.  

My frustration with the American culture, unlike other cultures, is that many U.S. citizens do not place a high priority or value on the need for life insurance.  We live in a culture where many are distrusting, skeptical, and only interested in what is in it for them, so to speak.  Additionally, with the economy performing poorly, many feel they simple cannot afford “another bill”.  

Anyway, any assistance you are willing to offer would be greatly appreciated!

Warm regards,

Don (from US)

My reply to him:
Hi Don,

Nice to know you through my post. Always feel free to pen your words here with me.

It might be difficult to write all about my selling skill but I would try my best to make you understand. 

Life insurance is a miracle product which could be sold in good time or bad time. I had gone through it for three decades and had never failed in the business. The simple reason is I love my job and I believe in it.

Many people sell life insurance because of the financial returns and usually these agents could not last very long. My hobby is talking & sharing, and selling life insurance allows me to talk and to share endlessly. And I'm sure it would keep me occupy until my last breath on earth.

My definition of Happiness is ... To help others succeed in life. And Thanks God! My hobby and career allow me to fulfill my dreams in all. 

I sincerely hope these little thoughts could enlighten your disturbed mind. 


Robert Foo  

Monday, April 02, 2012

How to remain single and be happy?

A lady's friend, LH requested me to write an article on how to be single and happy despite society perception.

I told her isn't going to be easy for me. Nevertheless I would try my dear.

Being a single person might be lonesome and I think the best way to overcome it is to have a lot of friends. I mean good friends who could cheer and understand you. Be honest to yourself... Get a job or career you love and not just the money you like. A passionate work might keep you occupy permanently, whereas money alone could bore you later in life. Remember you live happily for yourself and not to live for the sake of others. So to overcome the outside influences, build confidence within yourself. Keep repeating yourself that you are an independent and capable lady. Most important save as much as possible because when you have a fat account, it creates financial freedom and confidence in you automatically. Read constantly Wisdom of life to enlighten your thought. If you still not happy, please for heaven sake don't remain single then. 

Specially for LH - "You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You're on your own. And you know what you know. You are the guy who'll decide where to go"- Dr. Seuss

Sunday, April 01, 2012

Men are kind.....

Men are very kind & Women are very selfish!


Most women don't like to help unknown men. But all men are ready any time to help unknown women.

This is true fact of life and not April Fool.