Be Generous.......................................

A thought worth sharing.......

A rich man once asked his priest, "Why does everybody call me stingy when everyone knows that when I die I will leave everything I have to this temple?"

The priest said: "There once was a pig and a cow. The pig was unpopular and the cow was loved by all in the village. This puzzled the pig.

The pig said to the cow: ‘People speak warmly of your good nature and your helpful attitude. They think you are very generous because each day you give them milk, butter and cheese. But how about me? I give them everything I have. I give them the famous sausages, bacon and ham i.e. my entire body. Yet no one likes me. Why is that?’

The priest continued: "Do you know what the cow answered?

The cow said, 'Perhaps it is because I give while I am still living.' 

Sometimes the greatness of a man can be measured not so much by what he does, as by what he doesn't do.

The Cockroach Theory For Self-Developmen​t.....

Is worth sharing, read on please.....

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic  stricken face  and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone  in her group also got panicky.  The lady  finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it  landed on  another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. 

The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of  throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour? If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it  near to perfection, without any chaos.

It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the  disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.

I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife  that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the  disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.

It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that  creates chaos in my life.

Lessons learnt from the story:

I understood, I should not react in life.

I should always respond.

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are  always instinctive whereas responses are always well  thought of, and likely to be just right to save a situation from going  out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to  avoid making decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or in a hurry. 

Make a decision promptly....

This simple proverb helped two of my friends last week.... "Is not wrong to make a wrong decision but it's very wrong not to make any decision."

A business friend was having sleepless nights because his business was failing. He had spent a lot of money and effort on it. His pride refused to let him to discontinue or close the operation. He thought by some connections, he might make it again. However he could not make a decision, until when he had a chance to meet up with me. I advised him with the above statement. A 'yes' or a 'no' is a decision but by not making a decision is definitely wrong. Not making a decision would depress the mind. 

Next day, this friend called me on the phone. He said he could sleep very well last night because he had finally made a decision to close his entire business. He need not have to think about it any more.

Another younger friend was facing another problem. He was living in anxiety because he darn not approach a girl he likes. He has known this girl for a couple of weeks through another good friend. He knows her phone number and yet was afraid to call her. He wanted to invite her for an outing, but was shy and afraid to date her. In silence he kept thinking over her. With encouragement I offered my simple proverb to this timid man. If you don't make a decision to call her, you won't know whether she likes you too. 

A week later, when I saw him again, I could see his face was smiling. Reason... He had finally decided to call the girl who didn't hesitate to accept his date willingly. 

So, the next time if you ever face any problems, please remember this quote.. "Is not wrong to make a wrong decision but it's very wrong not to make any decision."     

Simplicity of life...........

Sharing wisdom with an old friend, Chakra, we talked about Simplicity of Life.

When one is poor, to live simple and humble is easy because you have no choice. With low income and no saving, you have to live within your means. Not when one is rich and successful! Imagine when you are loaded with the thousands or the millions of cash in hand, and yet be satisfied with the old car you have be driving for years. All your rich friends are staying in the luxurious and expensive homes but you are contented with the old house which you own before you got rich. Definitely not easy! Because being rich and successful, the pride and self esteem will naturally tempt you to spend more. But if you could still live simple and humble, when you are wealthy, then you are truly classified as the most elite class of all. 

Food for thought - “It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minuted to ruin it. If you think about that you'll do things differently.” - Warren Buffett.

Listen through your heart.......

By coincidence I met Omprakash today on the street. I hadn't seen him for quite awhile, a handsome young man of 27 I admired. Looking at his eyes, I could see he wasn't at ease and I strongly believe something must be disturbing him. Though he was on the run then, he was quick to seek my opinion for a problem that was in his mind.

He is working with a current company for 5 years, and he intends to quit because a business venture is waiting for him. He wasn't sure when to submit his resignation, today, end of the month or later!! He asked for my suggestion.

This was what I told him... Work with your heart. The heart could always tell  what you like. Is only the mind that disturb the emotion all the time. The heart says 'yes' but the surrounding and the friends gave you different thoughts and ideas, which in turn might influence your mind. If the heart tells what you love and like to do, don't listen to others. Follow your heart because the heart is always pure and sincere, whereas the mind could be corrupted. Once you have decided what your passion is, be brave to make the decision and work on it. To be successful, one has to be brave and courageous, including making prompt decisions. Is not wrong to make a wrong decision but not making any decision is wrong. After all no one could be prefect, but if you allow yourself to be brave and follow your heart to make those rightful decisions, you would eventually be successful in life. If you love that business venture, be brave to make up your mind today. 

Omprakash was enlightened. He said, "Thank you Robert. I will gave my resignation today. You are almost like A God sent messenger." 

Yes! Angel comes in many form. 

Food for thought - "You have to master not only the art of listening to your head, you must also master listening to your heart and listening to your gut" - Carly Fiorina quotes

Mother has the secret weapon........

To think back my younger days, I remember as father to my three children, I was the most wanted in the family. I was the master of the home because I was the bread winner. I captured more attention than their mother. For whatever they wanted as children, as a responsible dad I didn't fail not to give to the kids. When they were little kids, I bought them toys. I took them to holidays and pampered them with gifts and clothing. When they were schooling, all their fees and pocket money were well taken care by me. They took me as a Santa Claus right up to their oversea studies. I had a lot of value those days, because they needed money from me. 

What about now? A bit sad because they no longer take me as a great Santa Claus any more. All my children are working and in turn they have to take care of their families. Whereas today, their mother steals the limelight and attraction from me. You know why? Because she knows the taste bugs of all her children, including those grand little brothers and sister too. Though she has no money to be given, but she understands and knows exactly what food and meals to be served and cooked for them. So even the children could be working far, they are always too eager to be with the mother. They know mother's food is always the best. And for me, I had nothing to offer to them now. So the best way to stay connected with my children is be their friends. 

A warning to the younger mothers of today. Please learn to cook as a mother. Otherwise later in life, you might have no secret weapon to hold the family together. I have two daughters in law who are professionals who do not know how to cook. I wonder what would be the outcome in another 15 years from today, when all their children have grown up. Well! That's not my responsibility any more. 

Specially for all mothers - "Mothers hold their children's hands for a short while, but their hearts forever."

Sweet words can melt the heart............

Last Friday I posted this title, "A sincere heart, creative mind and a sweet mouth". On the comment's column, Mr Lonely asked... "What is if a person is kind but do not have sweet mouth and creative mind?"

The answer is quite simple, that person is going to be lonesome.

You might be kind but when the heart isn't happy, the mind will never be able to think creatively. To be kind, one has to willingly serve, to share, to listen and to understand others. Just saying kind but nothing is being done would not gain the emotion and feeling of the mind. When one is prepared to go out and reach out to others, something bound to happen. If truly your heart has the kindness, you naturally would offer your services and assistance to those who might need your help. The process of attempting to render your help will make you feel satisfying and happy. Happiness is to see others happier because of yourself.

Next! When you heart is happy, joyful and with full of love, the mind automatically will react simultaneously to the action. The action excites the mind which leads to creative and impact thoughts. These creative and impact thoughts signal the mouth to function. You tend to speak with enthusiasm and excitement. Your words are pleasant and sweet to listen. And I'm pretty sure, your eyes will also sparkle and grow with love. 

Mr Lonely, if you have these eyes of love, you will not be lonesome any more because your love would capture the attention of many lady admirers and your sweet mouth would melt their hearts. 

• Anonymous
  "Please God, make my words today sweet and tender, for tomorrow I may have to eat them"

See the bright side of the bad....

Husband and wife went to have lunch at the club house. The wife was very furious and upset because her order was delayed. Upon checking with the waiter, they reset her order again. However they made another mistake by serving her meal to another table. Though the food was served to her much later, she really didn't enjoy it any more. Later the evening she told her husband, she would not patronise this restaurant again.

Being a positive minded man, he consoled his sweetheart. Nobody is perfect. If those waiters and captain at the restaurant are so efficient, they would have been a boss to themselves. Not forgetting most of them are not local workers too. Darling, we should see the good part of everything. Forget this one incident of their mistakes. Would you agree, the environment in the club house and the restaurant is pleasant and comfortable? The waiters are neatly dressed, and they always smiled and greeted us when we visited them. The view of the swimming pool and the garden outside is good to admire. We could stay in the restaurant for hours doing our work and yet nobody would mind. We can't sit too long in other restaurants outside, unless we continue to order food. Parking at the club house is easy and free. 

Finally the wife said you are right darling. I should not complain any more. There are more good points than bad.

Moral of the story: Most people could not see the brighter side of our lives. Is always easy to determine the wrongs and confront mistakes. We complain more than we appreciate.

Food for thought - "Good things can be bad if you look at the dark side. Bad things can be good if you look at the bright side".

I found someone's iPhone....

Two months ago, my youngest son lost his iPhone while being entertained in a karaoke outlet. He was  tipsy after a few glasses of beer, and forgotten where he had left the phone. He tried to call his phone number but the person who took the phone had apparently locked it and had no intention to give it back. 

Few days later my eldest grandson was robbed away his new iPhone while travelling in a taxi in Shanghai. He couldn't believe a taxi driver had intention to cheat an innocent child. Repeatedly he attempted to call his number, but the daring cab driver refused to respond. Gone was his phone he loved so much.

Two days ago while on a short holiday at a resort, I found an iPhone while walking around the playground. It was the latest model with bright red frame. The phone was locked and I couldn't call out to reach it's owner. With little darling with me, we both waited at a nearby restaurant for the phone to ring. True enough! A short while later, the panic owner called and I told him that the phone was with me. Immediately not too long, a handsome young man appeared in front of us. He was too pleased to see us with his lost phone. He wanted to pay for our meals which I declined. I told him he didn't have to do any favour, except be more careful in keeping his phone. The phone might not be expensive, but the information in it is definitely very costly to loose. He left with many thank you said, and promised he would be more careful in his way of life.

Moral of these three stories: 

The first... By being not honest to return, founder of the phone felt excited and happy. 

The second... By cheating, the person felt great and thrill to achieve his motives.

The third... By being honest, the giver felt happy and joyful.

Conclusion: Everyone of us needs different energies to satisfy our inner self. The bad cannot survive as good, and neither the good can live to act as bad. So whether you like it or not, we have to face the reality of life as   good and evil are inseparable. 

My flower blooms at 65........

There was an old Chinese saying, "Man's life begins at 41 years old, just like a flower got bloomed!!!" Meaning... At earlier age, they were considered as flower bud, not matured and the fragrance could not be smelled yet. Upon reaching 41, that's when the flower bloomed and the smell of perfume attracted all the bees and ants. At that age, he captured the attention of all surrounding ladies and many women could die in the hand of these 41 aged gentlemen.

Ahem! Sorry to the 41! Today 41 is treated like a child, when they know nothing of life yet. My version.. "Today man's life begins only at 65 years of age, the flower just got bloomed!!!" We understand life better, we are more tolerance, we speak from the heart, we are more forgiving, we are kind and loving, and we could give all the time to the deserving one. At our age, we attract more lady admirers than before. The ladies won't die in our hand, but rather we melt their heart and their souls. 

Thanks God! My flower just got bloomed.

Well said... “Love is a peaceful feeling, like a flower hugging a butterfly.
” - Jarod Kintz

Life is like a growing tree....

This is my third posting on this title which has a lot to tell about life. My earlier postings were in June 03 2007 and April 14 2008. I am sure, many of my readers have not read it yet.

Life is like a growing tree. The deeper its root, the stronger it will remain. Most Malaysian trees are not deeply rooted because we have plenty of rainfall to cater its water retention. They look green and elegant from the outside but if a huge storm arises, these trees would also be rooted quite easily. Not like countries where rainfall is scarce, their trees grow deeper and wider. Their leaves may not be as green as ours but they can withstand even a hurricane storm.

Growing up is like a growing tree. Our youths of today are given too much of pampering. They have not seen the suffering of the yesteryear. They have not eaten the bitter taste nor they have gone through any hardship. Comfort and luxuries are always available right at their doors. Parents would be too happy to chauffeur them in and out. Perhaps they don't even need to think when their minds are so dependable on their computers and games. They would never have a chance to grow deeper to understand the real truth of living and surviving. Their lives are not rooted. Consequently at the later part of their lives, if they face the uncertainties and the unknowns, they shall be torn apart easily.

Too much water for a growing tree is bad. Similarly too much love and affection for the growing children is treacherous. For these are the facts of life you can't escape.

A poem I like to share; "The realization of Happiness happens only after experience of pain. If we desire to blossom like flower in the garden of life, then we must learn the art of adjusting our life with the Thorns!"

Another wiser Anonymous said...

very wise, and i agree with much of what you said. today i saw a beautiful tree and it got me thinking; life is a tree, the roots is our subconscious; hidden from view but they are the true virtue of who we are. The trunk of the tree is our past and present life; it is there for everyone to see,there might be some scars, but only to show we have adapted and grown past them. The branches is our future; so many paths before us, some bigger and so small but eventually they all lead us to the end. You must ask yourself, when you reach the end, will you be on top of the tree soaking up all the sun has to offer, looking back on the long beautiful life you have lived. Or will you be towards the bottom of the tree, taking the shortest and most unfulfilling path that was laid before you?

January 31, 2013 at 12:52 PM

To outwit the evil, you have to be smarter....

During the last school holiday, my eldest grand son, Brandon visited his father who is working in Shanghai. Brandon is an intelligent student who is 14 years old, and studying in Singapore. Being an independent child he is capable to move around most of the time by himself. 

While he was in Shanghai, something devastated happened that broke his heart badly. He was taking a taxi to visit his friend. Upon arriving there, he gave a one hundred note to pay for the fare. And the taxi driver told him that he had no small change for the hundred. He suggested to the boy to change it from the nearby shop and instructing Brandon to put his hand phone in the taxi. He said he would wait for him there. Without hesitating Brandon rushed out to attempt changing for those loose change as a favour for the driver. However when he came back to the same spot, that taxi wasn't around any more. No driver and no taxi!!! He was shocked. He couldn't believe that the driver had drove off. He waited! Finally he realised, the driver had cheated him. The driver had taken his expensive iPhone, a present the mother had bought for him only 8 days ago. A gift he wanted so much for doing well in his studies. He was so upset, he would not even care if he died that minute. He cried walking home and the entire holiday wasn't a happy one.

Later I was told about this episode and of course I felt bad and sad for my grandson I love so much too. I could only say to him... Brandon, for anything to happen, there is always a reason. Try to take it as for a good reason. You could have been a nice boy, and being naive, you tend to trust everyone, especially the adults. But the world isn't that as rosy as you thought. There are the good and the bad people around. From the outside they look good, but if you could see them from the inside, they are the worst off people you could not believe. Yes! You might have been cheated by a man, but that sad experience was a teaching you would not forget as long as you live. I'm sure you are going to be more careful in trusting people from now onwards. You can be smart but there are smart people who might be evil and cunning. So to avoid those evil smart, you have to be a greater smart person to outwit them. Books can't teach you but the mistakes you encounter in life will make you stronger and greater in smartness. Yes! You will be because you are my grandson. 

Food for thought - "A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them" - John C. Maxwell.

Is money the most important thing in life.....

I can sleep, can you?

Continue from yesterday title. 

After advising Ho in the rest room, we could see two of our fellow club members, Mike and Henry were sleeping beside the spa pool. Both Mike and Henry are in the early sixties, semi retired and spending most of the afternoon exercising, steam bath and finally dosed off on the cement floor with towels covering part of their bodies. I showed Ho how peacefully our friends could sleep. Mike was only a factory manager and Henry was a bar captain with the Hilton before they retired. They are ordinary people with no creed in them. They are satisfied with what they have and they live a very simple life. They carry no hatred of others and they live happily with no worry. Unless you have peace and calmness, you would not be able to sleep in the afternoon like both Mike and Henry.

Ho is rich and successful in business but find it difficult to relax or even sleep. On the other hand, Mike and Henry are not but they could doze off any time of the day. Ho is stressful and sad, while Mike and Henry who are much older are healthier and their faces shine brightly. 

Moral of the story - Is money that very important in life??? You have to decide yourself.

Eleanor Roosevelt said...

"He who loses money, loses much; He who loses a friend, loses much more; He who loses faith, loses all"

Good overrules Evil......

While getting ready to workout in the gym, I saw Ho who didn't look good. I used to see him cheerful and always loved running on the hill. Lately I could see he wasn't smiling and had lost a lot of weight. Instead of walking into the gym room, I sat down with him in the rest room to listen to his problems.

Ho is only 52. A very intelligent man who made himself a multi millionaire within the last 20 years in business. He started with only $100,000 and partnership with another friend, who is a sleeping partner. From his sheer hard work and smartness, he built their company to a value of $30 Million today, and is still expanding. But being rich they are currently, both the two partners are having conflicts. The sleeping partner who is holding the share of 55% is suing Ho who is the key person of the company. He is the one who built the millions while his friend slept all these 20 years. He couldn't believe his good friend and partner could take him to court. He is extremely frustrated, sorrowful and painful in heart. 

By listening I understood his dilemma. To enlighten him I shared with him the 'Good & The Evil' forces all of us have to face on earth. For a evil person to gain his energy, he has to practise all the bad deeds of life. No evil person would enjoy being good. The more he cheats, the more he loves it. Whereas a good person gains his energy by practising all the sincere and good things of life. No good person would like being evil. The more good thoughts and sincere intentions he gives, the more he feel nice and wonderful. Advising Ho I said... for you to win, never challenge your friend. Be forgiving, tactful, friendly, willing to loose and to give, never show your anger but rather smile as much for him. The more you play the good role, the more you would feel better. Otherwise you face frustration and stressfulness, which in the long run might affect your well being. A lighter heart is always calm and peaceful my friend. 

Food for thought - "The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naïve forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget" - Thomas Szasz

Past, Present and The Future....

Talking to a young man who was attempting to change his prospective of life. He considered himself as a failure because he hadn't achieved anything, though most of his friends have done well in business or in career. He was mixing with the wrong group since as a teenager, when he took up smoking and drinking. Not strong minded was he, when he could see only the bad part of life. His personal drive was weak and had a negative perception of everyone he met. Though he needed attention and was hungry to be loved, he didn't know how to express himself to his family and to those who were closed with him. His heart was sad when he had to cry silently in the late night by himself. He saw the world as ugly because his heart wasn't happy at all. Wherever he worked, he found it difficult to interact with his colleagues and the surrounding.

Thanks The Almighty Universe. I was given a chance to speak with him lately. As a preacher without any particular faith, I managed to reach up and touched his sorrowful heart. I spoke with softness and logic, understanding his mind and sadness. When a heart speaks with another heart, it usually speak the truth of life. I was amazed that this young man finally accepted my blessing, and is prepared to change over a new leaf of life. From rock bottom, he is willing to change and is prepared to climb the obstacles of life again. From a mind of negative, I inspired him to think positively. Motivating him to think only the brighter part of life. 

Taking him as a son I said... To be a good Angel, one has to understand what is a Devil. And to understand what is good, one has to experience what is evil of life first. In view you had seen what was hell, and had tasted the forbidden apple, you are now capable to understand the entire life of good and bad. Son! It's definitely not late for you to prove yourself that you can do well in life. In fact, I believe you can do better than those who had never experienced what you had gone through in life. I was one before. I was a rascal, good for nothing, not good in studies, a lone ranger, playful and a mischievous boy. BUT! With the so called as an unpleasant start in life, today the past had made me a stronger person who could understand the good and the evil of what life is. Yes! I strongly believe you will succeed in life. 

Food for thought - "If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present" - Lao Tzu 

Respect non living things.....

I was driving a relative to the station when he heard me murmuring to myself. He asked whether I was talking to him or???

I told him I was talking to my car. He was surprised to see my weird look! I explained, I take all things, including plants and creatures as living things like us. Each time when I go inside my car and before I start my drive, I will pat the car steering and talk to her... "Hi my darling Honda, morning. Let's have fun again today. I  would drive carefully to take care of you, and please do take care of me as well. Okay?"

To many people, they think car is just a car but to me she is a real living thing with life like us. I respect her and feel for her, and I believe she would react the same. Ever since I bought her a couple of years back, she has been taking good care of me. Rain or shines, she covers me. In danger, she shields me and she is prepared to rough out all the journeys with me without complain. Similarly I have to be faithful and kind to her at all time. Believe me, I have never encountered any accident while with her. Thank you darling Honda.

My relative was shaking his head. I wonder whether he believed!!! What about you there?

Moral of the story- Respect all living and non living things around us. 

Poor child not happy........

Each birthday, Christmas, Chinese New Year or any festivals, "B" will insists gifts from his parents or from his near relatives. B is only a young child of 14. To him a present will be the best way to make himself happy. But mind you, it has to be expensive items, otherwise he might not even want them. He tells everyone, if you love me, buy gifts I like. Can't really blame him because he was brought up in a broken family. The father and mother were separated when he was only two. And both parents remarried and are staying apart, leaving the poor child alone most of the time. To him, he felt the world owes him, blaming both parents for not loving him enough.

My belief... "The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched but can only be felt from the heart". 

So sorry for "B"! To this poor child I know, his most beautiful things are those he needs to see and to be touched. And these are temporary happiness which might not last long. In order to chase for his happiness, B has to continuously seek for presents and gifts. I only wish if his both divorced parents could understand and are prepared to spend more time with him. What he really needs isn't those seeing or touching but the true love of being wanted. Perhaps the three magical words of "I Love You" could be the most beautiful things for him, if only the parents could translate the feeling to his aching heart. The three of them are equally very close to me. I wish his parents could be enlightened by this post. 

Merry Xmas.....

Yesterday my eldest son sent me a message from abroad... Merry Xmas dad.

I wrote him a long reply... When I was a little boy, I knew nothing about what was Xmas. I was adopted in a typical Chinese family who didn't celebrate Xmas. And Xmas was just like a normal day when I still needed to help my father's coffee shop. Later when I turned to be a teenager, Xmas was fun and parties, dancing the  Cha Cha or the Twist. When I got marry, Xmas was to buy presents for my three naughty sons. Or having great time to get drunk with friends. Now! Today Xmas for me is to make others smile and be happy. Everyday is Xmas time for me. I don't wait for the one day a year to celebrate Xmas because everyday is a giving day to me. Either I give moral support or financial assistance to others if I encountered them. I am a Santa to those who need help.

In short my son said To me everyday is a good day too.

I told him this true story... I just spoke to Mrs Lim, a family friend of many years. Her dad lives in Muar, a small town in the south, had a severe fall few days ago. He is 96 years old. The fall was bad that broke his back, and he could not walk any more. Mrs Lim, the only daughter doesn't know what to do. Her husband is a stroke patient who needs her attention at home in KL. The old man's wife passed away few years ago. Her two elder brothers in Muar are reluctant to engage full time maid to help and care for the sickly father. Their wives or the daughters in law are not in good term with the old man too. Mrs Lim is poor and she is supported by her own grown up three children. I guess the entire family of this old uncle, from children to grand children could be more than 20 members and yet could not raise fund to help. What a shame! Without hesitation on the phone, I told Mrs Lim, I'm prepared to sponsor to pay for the financial support for her dad. She could not believe that statement! If you don't feel good, please go back and tell all your family members  whether they are also prepared to go along with me to assist their father. 

Talking to my son... I said this is Xmas to me coz I am a Santa to those who need me everyday. In the spirit of Xmas, by giving is to make others smile and be happy.

Happy Xmas to all my readers. 

Lower your expectation... ladies!!!!

Some of our successful life insurance lady agents are perfectionists. They are very professional in their work indeed, high income earners and extremely intelligence they are. However they are also very demanding and aggressive in character. They expect everyone under them to be as efficient as them. To their clients they are obliging and friendly but whenever they speak or communicate with the working staffs, their approaches could be hostile and arrogance. They expect all the staffs to think and work like them, and they expect for immediate response and results. Their letters and emails aren't diplomatic and friendly but rather are rude and crafty. They have beauty but poor in brain.

For whatever happened, I believe there are consequences and endings. 'Good attracts Good' & 'Bad attracts Bad'. Because of this high expectation in these lady's demands, their lives are stressful and they are easily agitated. Is difficult for them to get good sincere friends, even more difficult to be loved by truthful man. Divorce is common for them and usually they end up living alone as single ladies. Yes! Rich and famous they are but sad and lonesome in heart all the time.  

My only advices for these successful career ladies... Expect a little, never hate, live simple and give a lot. Adopting these four golden rules would make you a happier person gradually.

Food for thought -  “Anger always comes from frustrated expectations” - Elliott Larson Quotes.

Words can inspire and motivate......

I have known Gurdip for more than 25 years. Started as a small scale money lender, today Gurdip got his finance license and is operating his finance company with a big team. At his office, he was showing me his new company logo and requested me to give some suggestions to improve on the marketing layout.

I told him I'm not an art director, neither am I an artist but rather I'm a creative wise man who believes in the power of words. Words can inspire and can motivate the mind. I suggested to him to pick a good and meaningful proverb, preferable quoted by great and renowned person, and then print out those words as the tag line for his company. As a finance company, a quote related to money would be ideal. His company might be a new establishment but if the proverb is quoted by someone who is famous, those words might carry a lot of attraction to his business. Meaning you borrow strength from another greater force. Immediately the idea caught Gurdip and he wanted me to look for a proper proverb for him.

This morning I sent him this line quoted by Benjamin Franklin who said, "If you would be wealthy, think of saving as well as getting". Don't forget this famous quote was written 300 years ago and these wise words still applied of today. Without hesitation my good friend took my advice.