What's love............

Something worth knowing.....

During the mating season, the female sits on a nesting ring while the males searches the entire beach for the pebbles looking for the smoothest one to present to their chosen female.

Once a pebble has been selected, the male penguins presents the pebble as a token of love to the chosen female and if she takes the pebble and places it on her nest then she has accepted that penguin as her mate.

Love quotes... "Love is not about how much you say, 'I Love You' but how much you prove that its true".

Black and white has many implications in life.

Black goes well with white. Black indicates attention and white is a neutral colour. Surprisingly when these both colours are matched together, they are striking and attractive to see. If a lady dresses a black blouse and a white skirt, all eyes would be on her. Or if a gentleman wears a white coat with a black pant, I'm sure he would look great as well. Colours do play an important part of life.

If black and white are compatible and are appealing to our human sight, does it go well with 'love and romance?' My answers are yes and no. If a black or dark man stands besides a white or fair lady, the lady will stand out very well. All attention and admiration would be over towards the lady. And if the lady is the girlfriend to the man, most likely he would feel good and proud. However if a black or darker lady stands together with a white or fairer man, the opposite might happen. The man tends to capture more attention over the lady. And if the man is the boyfriend, she might gradually get jealous over the admiration of her man. I had seen many conflicts and separation of couples just because of skin colours. Perhaps the affected couples might not even know and aware that their colour differences is the main cause of their misunderstanding.

From a far or looking from a distance, an ideal compatible couple is one, when the man has to be darker than his woman. While standing with her darker man, she being fairer looks attractive and adorable. The black and white has the effect of our wondering eyes. Still refuse to accept my words, then go out to see for yourself to believe.

I LOVE YOU, SWEETHEART....

This is going to be interesting....

There was a group of women at a seminar on how to live in a loving relationship with your husband.

The women were asked, ‘How many of you love your husbands?’ All the women raised their hands.

Then they were asked, ‘When was the last time you told your husband you loved him?’

Some women answered today, some yesterday, some didn’t remember.

The women were then told to take their phones and send the following text: I love you, sweetheart.

Then the women were told to exchange phones and read the responding text messages.

Here are some of the replies.

1. Who is this?

2. Eh, mother of my children, are you sick?

3. I love you too.

4. What now? Did you crash the car again?

5. I don’t understand what you mean?

6. What did you do now? I won’t forgive you this time.

7. ?!?

8. Don’t beat about the bush, just tell me how much you need?

9. Am I dreaming?

10. If you don’t tell me who this message is actually for, someone will die.

11. I asked you not to drink anymore. I’ll leave if you are tired of me. 

Looking for my perfect man....

Jenny is a 50 years old lawyer and Dr Hajit is 60. Both are my clients who are very successful in their profession. Except that both are single ladies. Their clients admire their success and achievement but deep down in their heart, they are actually unhappy professionals because they are lonesome without a family. Recently I had a chance to speak to them, when they poured to share their sorrow with me. Yes! They might have the financial success in hand but they lack the physical support from a man. Though they are very independent ladies, they still have a weak spot. At times when they cried, they wished there was a man who could provide his shoulder to lean on. Sad as they are, they feel empty with sorrow and cry in silent alone.

Asked them why they don't look for a male partner or a companion? Their answers were... Not easy to get the right ideal man! They had been thinking of this special man for years, and yet they could not locate him.

My advice to them was... Most men are afraid of too intelligent women. Intelligent ladies are difficult to cope with as intelligence comes with pride, boastful, egoistic, possessive, arrogance and temper. Men prefer a less intelligent lady. Men like smart ladies who are more understanding, caring, kind and loving. 

For Jenny and Hajit, I suggested to them that whenever they happened to meet an ideal man in front, please play dumb and stupid. Perhaps you stand a better chance to win over these men. 

How true this saying - "Some women can't find a GOOD MAN cause they're too busy looking for a perfect man"

Are you in love...........

The girlfriend asks her boyfriend..."Would you be jealous if you see me with other male friends? Or if I came home late, would you be angry?"

Most young men would say, "Yes. I would be jealous and angry as well".

What about me? Perhaps when I was young like them, I could be the same too. Even I might not tell the truth to my girlfriend, my heart would still be heart broken. 

Today is a different story! I will tell my sweetheart... No! Go ahead to meet your friends, be they the ladies or the gentlemen. And if ever you were late coming home, I'm sure you have a good reason. 

Why I could say no to my sweetheart is because I trust her from the bottom of my heart. The first step in loving someone is TRUST. Without trust, no relationship could last. To have trust both parties have to put effort to build a close and a beautiful relationship. Both need to be patient to learn and to understand each other. One has to be a loving giver and the other receives whole heartily. 

A confident lover is one who possesses kindness, not boastful, not proud, not rude in behaviour, not self seeking, not easily angered and keeps no record of wrongs. He/ she is generous, fun, interesting, intelligence, smart, loving, caring and always willing to give. If you have these qualities of being a good lover, you would not be afraid of another person courting away your love.

However, if there is another gentleman who possesses all these qualities and love my sweetheart twice more than me, and also manage to win her from my arm, I would sadly have to give way to this rightful man to love  her then. Sad and sorrowful I will be but when you love another person truthfully, you have to accept the defeat when she has found another better person in her life. So! The only way to avoid such happening, a good lover will not take things for granted. I personally will make sure I won't fail to love my sweetheart. 

I hope these little pointers on LOVE could be useful to those who are in love. 

Specially to my little darling - 

May our relationship last forever.

May I sail upon your sea. 

May we go through life together. 

May there be always be a WE.

The first kiss has magic.......

Shirley from Manila, a relative visited my home recently. A sweet charming lady of 77 with a lot of love. When her husband was alive, she was a devoting wife who showered her man with romance. I always termed them as love birds till death. During her stay here she quoted three meaningful expression of "kiss" to our family.

What is kiss? 

The first kiss is magic

The second kiss is intimate

and so sad the rest is merely routine all the way till the end.

Our first kiss to our lovers is always magical which leads to intimate and romance. I wonder how long this intimacy would last. Gradually the following kisses are just routine in nature, trying to make our partners happy for the short moment together. Agree?

World's oldest dad, 96, has sex four times a night

Who say you are too old to make baby?? Read on to find out more....

Farm labourer Ramajit Raghav, 96, who became the world's oldest dad two years ago, has set new standards of virility following the birth of his second son. But his 52-year-old wife Shakuntala Devi is no slouch in the fertility department either.

According to The Times Of India, she gave birth to a healthy baby named Ranjeet at a primary healthcare centre on 5th October. The couple from the northern India state Haryana—about 50km from Delhi—welcomed their first child, Vikramajeet, in November 2010.

Ramajit told reporters that when he walked up to the doctors and revealed he was the father, they all burst into laughter. "They just laughed, but they were very surprised. What can I do? This is all God's wish," said the proud papa.

Having received his "two gifts from God", Ramajit has decided that God's been generous enough, so Shakuntala will be undergoing a tubectomy operation—a permanent contraception surgical procedure to prevent pregnancies.

Despite getting thinner as he nears his century mark, Ramajit was apparently a wrestler in his younger days, and he has high hopes for his sons, according to The Mirror. "I have been a farmer all my life," he said. "I want them to become high ranking government workers."

He also said that a daily diet of almonds, butter and milk has kept him sexually active right through his twilight years.

"My neighbours are jealous and they keep asking me for my secret," he revealed. "I do it three to four times a night. I'm healthy and I enjoy sex with my wife. I think it's very important for a husband and wife to have sex regularly."

Until he met Shakuntala 22 years ago, Ramajit said he had remained a bachelor. "But she didn't have any family or friends around, so I wanted to help her," he recalled. "We fell in love later."

Shakuntala believes she would have been dead by now if not for Ramajit's caring ways. "It doesn't matter how old he is, I love him and I care for him dearly even, though he shouts at me sometimes," she said.

"He doesn't seem old to me, he can make love like any 25-year-old man, even better because he can go on all night, and he makes a wonderful father."

Source: The Times Of India, The Mirror

Jealousy in love........

Is it wrong to have jealousy in love? Took me a long time to understand. 

When I was in my teenage, my first puppy love was a total failure. I got jealous with my girlfriend quite easily, and without realising I became too over possessive and later I lost her totally. 

Well! What is jealousy then? As emotions go, jealousy is neither subtle nor kind, but it is definitely complex, encompassing feelings from fear of abandonment to rage to humiliation. It strikes both men and women when they perceive a third-party threat to a valued relationship, and that distinguishes it from envy, which involves wanting something someone else has. Conventional wisdom holds that jealousy is a necessary emotion because it preserves social bonds, but it more often destroys them. And it can give rise to relationship violence. Sounds scary... Right?

What about today? With a lot of understanding and knowing the true meaning of love, I have to accept love has to be borne with full trust between two persons. In trusting each other, they avoid the emotion of being jealous over one another. Jealousy usually leads to control or trying to possess another person's freedom. Jealousy ends with anger and hate. Always avoid this feeling. 

But is good to have a little jealous! When I'm with some attractive ladies around, and I could see my little darling's eyes are jealous over them because of their presence and their admiration for me, I would feel wanted. Knowing she is jealous for a short moment of time without creating any fuss, I feel great and accepted by her. Or if I came home late in the night, little darling called to see whether I'm back, indicates she has concern for me. Yes! I'm sure she must had some jealousy out of her thought, wondering why I was late. The jealousy carries some form of concern and care too. 

Conclusion: Isn't wrong to be jealous in love but make sure is controllable and manageable. 

Food for thought - "Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy" - Robert A. Heinlein

Should I pick a young or older wife???

old man with mature woman

old man with young woman

I have a good friend,still single at age 55, who intends to look for a girlfriend. I am wondering whether to consider him as lucky or not lucky for never ever fallen in love before. He is perfectly a normal healthy man who is responsible and committed to his legal employment. Perhaps he was too busy, first to take care of both his elderly parents who had lately passed away, and later making sure that his younger brothers and sisters are all settled down in their lives. All his responsibilities and obligations as the eldest in the family are fully cleared by now, and with some hard saving through the many years, he is seriously wanting to get an ideal woman to love and eventually marry her too.

The good friend seek my advices. He is pondering whether to befriend young lady below age 25 or to look for much older woman!!! Not forgetting he is already touching 55 today.

Mmmmm!!! Tough question to me!!! Using my personal observation in the romance world, I offer my view to my inexperience friend who is looking for a love mate . Younger ladies are usually beautiful and sexy to admire. They are always pleasant to look at, especially by the older men. BUT! Their understanding of life is definitely shallow and weak being that they are still young in age. With little experience in loving someone, they might not truly understand the real sense of this word, LOVE. Whereas much older women, who could be a divorcee or a widow is more realistic. A divorcee and a widow have the experience of being loved, understand the feeling of what is love. With their relationship of the past, they might appreciate the present if another acceptable man comes around again. A good relationship between a man and a woman, requires a lot of understanding. Both have to be tolerance and be patience with one another. Yes! If you pick a young lady who could capture your attention with her external beauty, but most likely she might not have the patience and tolerance for a much older man. Is only the beauty for the eyes but plenty of stress and tension for his mind later. Be practical my friend. Though a divorcee or a widow might not have a wonderful past, they make a better choice if another opportunity is given to them. 

A good piece of advice for my friend - "The beauty of a woman isn't judged by the way she combs her hair or how she dresses herself. The beauty of a woman is shown in her heart where love resides".

Any better suggestion out there please?

Too Possessive in love is wrong...Part 2

I had written this title.. "Too Possessive in love is wrong" on 21 April 2011 before. I had many new readers who are captured by this interesting post constantly. Few asked for help. Perhaps I should have Part 2 today to talk a little more on this common problem facing most young lovers of today.

R said...

Hi Robert,

I dunno if it was accidental that i read this post now. My relation is in trouble and its bcoz of me. i was too much possessive on her. but gradually she made me realize that it was bad. i changed a bit. but whenever we get to spend less time, my possessive attitude comes out and because of that, i hurt her a lot.

i totally don't like this. i don't want to hurt her.

i want her to be happy always. so i am thinking of breaking up and letting her feel free.

is this decision of mine correct.

Suman said...

I have the same problem like "R".

but the only difference is that my lover left me because of my over possessiveness..she dont want to stay with me anymore. frankly speaking i am having lack of confidence. i can go any extent to rectify myself.but i dont want to loose her. in our last conversation she told me that until & unless she feels love for me, she will not come back again... she is my kohinoor diamond i dont want to loose her... please help me.

September 4, 2012 5:23 AM

RF said 

Hi Suman, Young lovers normally behave this way. It takes time before they learn. It's good that you should treat her like a friend first. Meanwhile both of you should give each other the freedom to mix freely with others. By experiencing and knowing more friends, you would understand yourself better. Just like you have to study many years in education before you could gain the degree. Right? So! Don't be disheartened. Go out, move on and see the world outside. If only you could smile again, would your sweetheart loves you again. Good luck to you. And thank you for reading my blog. 

Little darling read the comments. She revealed her feeling and said...

yes sweet....it takes lot of experiences in life to know what actual love is....i am not saying that i am good but i know i have been through, experienced and understand what true love is all about.... it takes too much of pain, anxiety, hate, sacrifice,  sharing & etc to know it....But i am glad that today I am stronger, I know what I want.....I am experiencing this beautiful of love, enjoying and tasting too good from you my love....thank you baby for coming into my love and sharing your wonderful, fun and exciting love journey with me.....I love you 10wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh......

Suman.. Do you know why little darling loves me so much? Loving a person is to trust her and give the best of myself to make her feel good all the time. Let her have all the freedom. The more you control her, the more she feels being possessed and that's when she feels miserable and upset.  Remember, love doesn't delight in evil but rather it rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

You like to add on please.....!!!!

Trial Marriage..................

TS is an attractive young lady, single at 28 years young. Recently she found a new boyfriend who is 9 years older than her. All this while, TS has been staying with her parents. Few days ago, she sounded to her mum that she wants to move out of the house. The couple wishes to rent their own apartment and has intention to stay in together. The mother asked what is the real reason for moving out, when the home gives her so much of freedom and comfort. More so she doesn't need to pay a single cent staying at home.

The daughter was very direct to her mother. Mum! I want to live in together with my boyfriend. Before I get marry to this man, I must see whether I could stay along with him in one shelter. Living together allows me to understand him faster. If it fails, then he won't be my future husband.

The mother was shocked! Unable to speak a word. Took her awhile before she could raise her objection. Both daughter and mother argued and quarrelled for the past one week and yet the problem isn't solved. They are my relatives and I'm caught in the in between. Mother requested me to talk to her and the daughter wanted me to explain to the older lady of the house.

Me! I am at lost as well. I'm seeking you readers to offer me some views and advices. Please??

I only know this proverb - "True Love burns the brightest, but the brightest flames leave the deepest scars."

Thinking of you.......

Have you ever being asked this question by a person you love... "Darling how many times in a day that you think of me?" And how would you reply?

I tell you, it's going to be tough. Someone might simply reply with a number, say 12 times. But why not 11 times or 10 times! Is she or him telling the truth? How could they be able to remember that exact number of times. I believe they aren't telling the truth. They just mention the number to please the other loved one.

Today, my little darling asked me this same question... "Darling how many times in a day that you think of me? My reply to her was... "All the time because you are always in my heart".

She was overwhelmed with feeling ... "Yeahhhhh!!! All the time. All the days. All my life in every way and every moment you are always there for me. I love you".

So ladies & gentlemen, if you want to know how your loved one loves you, you better be the first to ask this romantic question for the day. Good luck.

Specially for her - " If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk forever in my garden." 

True love is always bonded by constant talking and listenig

A lasting relationship is when one loves talking and the other likes listening. The constant talking and listening keeps their get together alive and interesting. At the same time the conversation allows good communication and making sure the couple could understand each other better as a soul mate forever. Even at the later part of their old age when they have very few friends alive, their love of talking could still keep their companionship going. Reason because there is another partner who loves listening while the other likes talking. 

If you are one couple with neither one likes to talk, I believe your romance relationship might be uninteresting. And the danger is, when at old age both might be unhappy and have nothing to share. A sorrowful heart is a sad heart for both.

On the other hand, if both the couple are good talkers and both are lousy listeners, might not end out well either. Talking too much without pausing and allowing the other person to understand could create anger and frustration. If this happen, I guess there would be a lot of argument and fighting within the couple.

The best compatible couple is one who loves talking and the other one adores to listen. One good example is Robert Foo and his little darling. He talks with passion from earth to the moon, he could talk from night till the morning and yet she is happy to listen his ever exciting stories and wisdom. Now when she isn't around, he might as well talk to all his readers through blogging here. 

Food for thought - "To listen well, is as powerful a means of influence as to talk well, and is as essential to all true conversation" - Chinese Proverbs quotes.

To be in love again.

This title "To be in love again" was written on 27 Dec 2007, the more I read it again the more I like it. Have I changed, 'NO!'. In fact I enjoy even more on writing now. And I am glad I still love my little darling as ever. For those who haven't read this title before, please share my feeling here.....

Love is a splendor and to be in love is splendorous. When a person is in love, his eyes show the grow. His heart flows with happiness and joy which stimulates his mind with blissfulness. The thought of his love excites his life. Everything he sees is beautiful and looks like there is no obstacle ahead. He looks forward to a new day as a challenge. To be with his love and to make her happy. In turn, she creates hopes for the man. Hope is like another force which can work wander to both lovers. Love is translated into positive energy which can enhance a person's well being. His personality is pleasant, calm in nature, sweetness in words and confidence in personal drive. Over all, his performance at work will definitely be better and his life will be more meaningful as well. All successful person have someone to love in order to go for the extra miles.

Nobody could live alone and be happy. The smarter one won't. If you happen to be reading this blog now and are not in love yet, don't be stubborn, give yourself a chance to allow another human being of your opposite sex to fall in love with you. You will be surprised, how much you have missed out in life. In order for me to have a heartfelt age of 38 turning 37, I have to fall in love again. I hope the lady whom I love dearest be reading my romantic blog too. Dear darling, thank you for allowing me to fall in love again one more time.

The words from an admirable lady spurs me, "No man can be truly happy until he translates the words from the Golden Rules into deeds and shares happiness with others."

Has love got jealousy???

Sweet young thing (SYT) asked, "Has love got jealousy?"

Yes! A little jealousy is normal but definitely not too much. A little jealousy indicates the lovers have concern for each other. Jealousy is unavoidable because emotion is also uncontrollable in every one of us. However when one party who cannot control this jealousy emotion, this particular lover might turn love into hate or tend to be possessive in their relationship. Hate in turn could lead to many unhappy behaviours and too possessive in love could be unpleasant as well. The only way to overcome hate and possessiveness, is Trust. Unless you have the patience and tolerance, Trust would not be developed. So! When you have trust, you eliminate the emotion of jealousy in love. 

I warned SYT, when you have no jealousy over your love, it means you no longer love your partner too. Meaning, when you don't like and love your mate any more, you naturally won't be bother with him. Care and concern is out in your mind. So! You still need a little jealousy to maintain a good love relationship. You have to buy a 'love's barometer' to determine your jealousy level. So when it shows you are at a dangerous level, you better come to read my Wisdom of Life again.

Food for thought - "Love sees sharply, hatred sees even more sharp, but Jealousy sees the sharpest for it is love and hate at the same time" - Arab Proverb quotes. 

My Ideal Man............

Cherry is one of my great lady admirer who often seek my wisdom. She has been working in various part of the world. She is only 28, attractive, loving and still single. In her heart, she longs to fall in love with the right man. Yesterday she sent me a message; "I wanna to share something with you. Finally I met someone who is really caring and thoughtful".

RF: Who is the lucky man my dear?

Cherry:  He is older than me. He is 34 years old British from London.

RF: Wow!

Cherry: Working at French Restaurant as executive chef.

RF: I see. Don't rush my dear. Take your time to get to know him better.

Cherry: N Kenji the Japanese guy came to Singapore to see me. I realized he isn't my type. 

RF: Mix more freely. Don't just stick to one man. See the differences of the many men u know. Including RF as well.

Cherry: Haha! RF is the best. Nothing to compare.

RF: The one who get jealous. Throw him away. Understand?

Cherry: Haha! Yeah! I got it! 

RF: The one who has all the patience and have tolerance, consider him then. Perhaps an older man is even better.

Cherry: Yeah! he is older than all the earlier guys I knew.

Specially for Cherry and all single ladies who are looking for an ideal soul mate. An ideal man is one who has patience for his love. He is kind, thoughtful, not boastful, not proud, not rude, not a hot temper person, intelligence and smart, interesting and fun, exciting and humorous, generous, caring and loving,  full of confidence and independence, strong and healthy, has plenty of drive and always willing to give his heart to his love. He should be trustworthy and not a possessive man. He is a giver and never would get jealous whenever he sees his love is with another man. He is a motivator and a mentor to his mate. He loves his lady unconditionally. Coz he believes true love never fails.

Most important thing for man!!!

Can this happened to you gentlemen??? Read on please....

You were on heat, and wanting to have intimacy with your wife. Before going to work in the morning, you gave a signal to her. Perhaps you might be a direct person, you said, " Darling! lets do it tonight!". Your wife replied with a loving Yes.

Anxiously you were excited the whole day, when you did everything well. However coming to bed time, your wife looked tired. She gave her reasons; your parents came and she had to entertain them. She took them out for all day's shopping and eating. She said, "Darling I'm tired. Let's try tomorrow yah?" Well! She is your wife and the old folks are your parents. In your heart you shunned with a sad note..."Mmmmmmhh!!!"

Next morning the same thing, you gave another signal to your sweet wife who responded with a big smile. You knew she would not fail you again. You did well in the office and the whole day, you were looking forward to the night. After a good bath before jumping onto the bed, your wife looked a bit depressed to say a few unkind words to you. The day was so busy for her, she needed to chauffeur the children to school because the bus driver was sick and unable to take the children. In between she had to go to the supermarket because the groceries were running out at home. One of her good friend was admitted and she had to visit her at the hospital. She was groaning with exhaustion, "I'm so sorry darling! Shall we try again tomorrow?" What have you got to say? You could not force a loved one to participate on bed mating without willingness. Right? You slept with frustration and dissatisfaction.  

Next morning, instead of you giving the signal, your wife was at your arm and whispering softly to your ear, "We shall do it tonight sweetheart!!!" Wow! You felt terribly good and excited again. Before you went home, you drove to the gym, ran and toughen your muscle from top to bottom. In your mind, you were preparing and looking so much for the night. Upon arrival home, your wife gave you a very sad tune of voice. She said, "Darling! I'm so sorry again. My best friend came this morning as well". Best friend to them is the menstrual lady who come periodically each month. What! At this time of the week. Your mind boiled and the heart saddened to the extreme. You had waited three day and you had controlled your strong desire for too long. Anger and more anger but you could not do anything about it. You slept with frustration again.

Next morning upon reaching the office, your boss was waiting at your desk. He didn't look happy either. He yelled at you, "What have you been doing? You haven't delivered your work . Do you know this assignment is very important to us?" In your mind you said, "Shit!! Fxxx!!! My most important thing at home also hasn't done yet!"

Fact of life is when man's important need is done, he could perform better at work. Abstaining from his sexual gratification, would make all men unhappy and unproductive. 

Food for thought - "Women need a reason to have sex. Men just need a place" - Billy Crystal quotes.

Man... Is virginity important till marriage?

Is Virginity important to you? I mean when you know your girlfriend or your wife isn't a virgin, would you feel upset over it! Asking the older generation, most claimed they are. They felt their women had betrayed them. However the younger people really don't mind about it. I think not Raj who is my regular reader and I'm sure he is a young fellow, would wish his lover is a virgin. 

What about me? Perhaps when I was a young man, I would like my lover to be a virgin too. But through the years when I have gathered much understanding of life, a virgin might not make a perfect lover. A virgin could have never experienced contact with another man! A virgin might have never fallen in love before. A virgin is one who has never attempted intimacy or sexual relationship with the opposite sex.

To me, a most understanding and a lovable woman, is one who has gone through life. A life when she has to experience mistakes and to face obstacles. It's the mistakes she learns and the obstacles offer her challenges. Though she might suffer in pain when her loves were rejected or even cheated, she became stronger and more matured as she grows. The past lovers could be considered as her teachers who taught her to be better lover for the right man who comes finally in her life. 

Gentleman! Are you aware that a virgin could never be a good sexual partner. Reason is simply she knows nothing on bed yet. Right? So why cry when you find that your girl isn't a virgin then? Be happy lah! 

Food for thought - "I slept with faith and found a corpse in my arms on awakening: I drank and danced all night with doubt and found her a virgin in the morning" - Aleister Crowley quotes

Sex is important in life.

John was an aggressive Architect partner for an established firm. The entire company's insurance was handled by me. How lucky I am! End of last year, while visiting their Chairman, he was complaining that John wasn't to himself. He was extremely quiet, no drive and lost all his enthusiasm in working. The boss was worried and the young partner would not want to reveal his problems. Robert being an Angel  could help, he said.

Later over a cup of coffee with John, he told me his personal sad story. He is a strong Catholic, a faithful husband and loves his dear wife. Being intelligence he is, full of energy and aggressiveness, his sexual drive is equally high as well. However his wife who is at 38, is very career orientated has low sex esteem instead. In her mind sex isn't important. Being a caring husband, he didn't force his wife to satisfy his personal needs. 

One evening while he was masturbating himself in the bedroom, unexpectedly his wife came home to see the man playing his little brother. Instead of understanding the poor husband, she yelled and scolded the man. She used hurting words, "All men are dirt & Good for nothing! If I as woman could control myself, why not you!". She warned him not to repeat the same act again. Otherwise she would leave him permanently.

He cried, felt shameful and humiliated. Being a loving husband, he obeyed. Being a religious person, he didn't seek for separation, neither did he commit any vices but remain a faithful husband with a silent sorrow in heart. With such action, the unhappy man turned depress and lost his interest in everything.

As an Angel, I invited both husband and wife who are also my responsible clients to a dinner. In order for me to speak with the lady alone, the husband was smart enough to excuse himself for a call of nature. During this period, I spoke various topics with the wife. My favourite subject was "Man and Woman!"

I shared... All healthy normal men, immaterial of their age group need sex. She agreed! There are only five ways to satisfy man's needs for their gratification on sex.  They are number one... pay a prostitute, two... a girlfriend, three.. a wife, four... by self masturbating, or five... to hold back.

Holding back and doing nothing would lead to frustration. A frustrating man is always an unhappy person. Masturbating for the teenagers is curiosity, while masturbating by a grown up is definitely degrading. Seeking the services of a prostitute is not meant for a successful man. Is only a coward or one who has inferior complex might pay another woman to satisfy him. A brave and confidence man should be able to win over a girl to love him willingly. Or better still marry the woman and stay happy ever after.

My question to her was... "If a man has a wife, which is the best way to satisfy the man's sexual needs?" I didn't need to go further because she knew my implication. One month later The Chairman asked me what magic had I given to his partner because he was back to his normal self now, His face was bright and smiling again. I knew too the wife had taken my advice to love and to help his husband. Yes! Sex is very important in life

Woody Allen quote - "Sex between a man and a woman can be absolutely wonderful - provided you get between the right man and the right woman" 

Who is my ideal love?

I played guardian to a family without a father. Bryan and Bell had lost their father 10 years ago, due to a heart attack The boy is currently 22 and his sister is 19. They were lucky because their single mother works as a teacher took loving care on them. Last Sunday I had an interesting morning breakfast with the entire family. The mother requested me to talk with them because I hadn't seen them for two years. 

My favourite topic was discussed... Love & Romance.

The son is in his final year with a local University and the daughter is still doing her O-level. Both don't have lover yet. Except the girl who is sexy and attractive, has many male admirers at the moment. Mum is a bit worried over her dear girl. To the son, I encouraged him to do well in his studies and later get a good career. He can mix freely but try not to be serious with any girlfriend. The best time to fall in love could be after 30 years of age or even later. Is always ideal for a man to be older than a woman. Don't be afraid to see a different of 10 years apart. An older man is more knowledgeable and wiser, allowing him to lead and guide his mate. Not forgetting women age faster than men. So if you had a much younger wife later, you should be able to see her young forever. Sight is faster than hearing and the eyes always deceive the mind. As long as the wife is much younger in age, the eyes of the man would see the woman as young till the end. Son! Don't have to rush to fall in love now. As you are only 22 today, perhaps your ideal lady is only 12 at the moment. So! Wait for another 10 years before you locate your love.

As for the daughter, I encouraged her to mix freely with as many friends as possible. Don't stick to the same age group. Be brave to meet those who are even 10 years your senior. You might think a man who is 30 years of age could be old to you, but if you allow him to share his mind, you would definitely see the power and intelligence of him. An older man has more patience, is more understanding, more caring and willing to serve. If you ever could find such a man, please give him a chance to fall in love with you. The best and ideal time for a girl to get marry is not exceeding 30 years of age.

To prove that man is always younger than woman, I sat close to their mother with one arm over her shoulder. I asked them who has the older look, mother or me. Both children replied, we look like the same age. For their information, their mother is 53 and the naughty man here is 64. They could not believe it. Well! That's the facts of life.

Something I learned - "I like men who have a future and women who have a past" - Oscar Wide quotes