Monday, August 31, 2009

Paul Harvey writes.

Good things must be shared.......

Can you answer this riddle?

Here is a pretty neat little thing from Paul Harvey. See if you can guess the riddle at the end.

Paul Harvey Writes:
We tried so hard to make things better for our kids that we made them worse. For my grandchildren, I'd like better.

I'd really like for them to know about hand me down clothes and homemade ice cream and leftover meat loaf sandwiches. I really would.

I hope you learn humility by being humiliated, and that you learn honesty by being cheated.
I hope you learn to make your own bed and mow the lawn and wash the car.
And I really hope nobody gives you a brand new car when you are sixteen.

It will be good if at least one time you can see puppies born and your old dog put to sleep.
I hope you get a black eye fighting for something you believe in.

I hope you have to share a bedroom with your younger brother/sister. And it's all right if you have to draw a line down the middle of the room, but when he wants to crawl under the covers with you because he's scared, I hope you let him.

When you want to see a movie and your little brother/sister wants to tag along, I hope you'll let him/her.

I hope you have to walk uphill to school with your friends and that you live in a town where you can do it safely.

On rainy days when you have to catch a ride, I hope you don't ask your driver to drop you two blocks away so you won't be seen riding with someone as uncool as your Mom.

If you want a slingshot, I hope your Dad teaches you how to make one instead of buying one.
I hope you learn to dig in the dirt and read books.

When you learn to use computers, I hope you also learn to add and subtract in your head.
I hope you get teased by your friends when you have your first crush on a boy\girl, and when you talk back to your mother that you learn what ivory soap tastes like.

May you skin your knee climbing a mountain, burn your hand on a stove and stick your tongue on a frozen flagpole.

I don't care if you try a beer once, but I hope you don't like it.. And if a friend offers you dope or a joint, I hope you realize he is not your friend.

I sure hope you make time to sit on a porch with your Grandma/Grandpa and go fishing with your Uncle.

May you feel sorrow at a funeral and joy during the holidays.

I hope your mother punishes you when you throw a baseball through your neighbor's window and that she hugs you and kisses you at Hannukah/Christmas time when you give her a plaster mold of your hand.

These things I wish for you - tough times and disappointment, hard work and happiness. To me, it's the only way to appreciate life.

Written with a pen.. Sealed with a kiss. I'm here for you. And if I die before you do, I'll go to heaven and wait for you.

Send this to all of your friends. We secure our friends, not by accepting favors, but by doing them.

Paul Harvey RIDDLE:
When asked this riddle, 80% of kindergarten kids got the answer, compared to 17% of Stanford Universityseniors.

What is greater than God, More evil than the devil, The poor have it, The rich need it, And if you eat it, you'll die?

Sunday, August 30, 2009

Slimming Centre.

Click to enlarge cartoon......................................................................................................

I laughed until i could not breath and i like to share it with my Sunday's readers.

Food for thought - "My way of joking is to tell the truth, It's the funniest joke in the world" — George Bernard Shaw.

Saturday, August 29, 2009

Relaxation is important.

A joker shared his story....

In 1923, Who Was:

1. President of the largest steel company?
2.. President of the largest gas company?
3. President of the New York stock Exchange?
4. Greatest wheat speculator?
5. President of the Bank of International Settlement?
6. Great Bear of Wall Street?

These men were considered some of the worlds most successful of their days..
Now, 80 years later do you know what ultimately became of them?

The Answers:

1. The president of the largest steel company.
Charles Schwab, died a pauper.

2. The president of the largest gas company,
Edward Hopson, went insane.

3. The president of the NYSE, Richard Whitney,
was released from prison to die at home.

4. The greatest wheat speculator, Arthur Cooger,
died abroad, penniless.

5. The president of the Bank of International Settlement,
shot himself.

6 The Great Bear of Wall Street, Cosabee Livermore,
also committed suicide

However, in that same year, 1923, the PGA Champion
and the winner of the most important golf tournament, the US Open, was Gene Sarazen.
What became of him?
He played golf until he was 92,
died in 1999 at the age of 95.
He was financially secure at the time of his death.

The Moral: Fuck work... Play golf.

Food for thought - "Show me a worrying person and I will show you a person who does not know how to relax" — Albert E. Cliffe

Friday, August 28, 2009

U have to stay longer to make it easy in selling.

Selling tip....

Selling life insurance is like preaching a religion. The longer you preach, the better your preaching would be. All preacher start a hard way in the spiritual world, and not all could remain in this holy acceptance. As a young preacher, he has to master the spiritual teaching and later be able to recite his holy book from front to back and back to front. At the beginning, he has to carry his holy book wherever he goes. He needs to quote the chapters and verses with it when he preaches and conducts sermons. Not all he sees and approaches would believe in him. With patience, tolerance and strong belief, he matures to be a stronger preacher. He understands the implication of his holy teaching, he knows how to relate the chapters and verses to laymen terms, he listens and to understand his followers, his words tend to be sweeter and loving, his presence earns respect and value, and everyone loves to meet him. As he grows to be a senior preacher, he needs not preach anymore because everyone wants to be blessed by him. He just has to lay his hand over your head and softly says, "Child I Bless You!" The one who is blessed by him would feel nice and delighted. He has this divine energy and force because he had walked the spiritual life for more than thirty years.

I believe selling life insurance is the same. At the beginning i tried to master all about the insurance products, even when i could recite my rate book in details, nobody was prepared to buy insurance from me. Walking the same path like a preacher, i have been selling this religion for twenty eight years. Today i don't carry any laptop or reference charts to sell like most younger agents do. I only bring along my warm heart and wisdom of life to share with my prospective clients. The minute i think they are ready, i just have to say,"Please put your OK here on our proposal form and i will make sure everything is in order for you". The many years of commitment, sincerity and passion over my work, i too have earned the divine energy and force to be accepted by my clients.

Trust me my fellow colleagues, the longer you stay in this business, the easier the business would be for you. Love the career and the business would love you.

Food for thought - "Success is sweet and sweeter if long delayed and gotten through many struggles and defeats." - Amos Bronson Alcott

Thursday, August 27, 2009

I was brought up by the cane.

Johnny Woo, a young tenant who is staying in my house is a well behaved gentleman, and i almost treated him like a son. Over a dinner, as we were discussing the subject of raising and teaching children, he wasn't shy to reveal how he was caned by his dad and uncle when he was a child. The caning and punishment made him a well discipline person of today, he never hated his dad and uncle for correcting his wrongs.

Yes! Those were the days when caning was the way to teach youngsters who were not behaving. I was caned in the school for fooling around. When i was only four, my mum was so furious over my wrong, tied my both hands, hanged me up without touching the floor and caned me properly until today i would never forget this episode. I was sad, frightened and a bit angry over mum but without those heavy and severe punishment, i would have not landed to what i am of today. "Thank you mum, you had taught me to me right".

All my three sons had the similar treatment like when i was young. Non had escaped my powerful cane. I even went to their schools each new year to approach their class teachers, to give permission to them, to punish my sons if they were at wrong. I promised them i would not take action against them for caning my children, but rather i had to be thankful to the teachers for teaching my sons. Of my three sons, the eldest one Alvin was the most naughtiest. He had the most caning from me. Mind you! Today he is the bravest, out going, aggressive, ambitious and talented man. The other two are equally well behaved and kind hearted. Non regretted for being caned by their father.

Today i don't see the cane anymore. Though two of my sons are married, their children are lucky not to see the cane in their homes. Their dads are scolding and nagging their children and they had forgotten how to cane their young. Sorry sons! I can't do it for you anymore. Time has changed. They have replaced the cane with Love but i hope it works for these children.

You have another choice - "Then spare the rod and spoil the child." - Samuel Butler

Wednesday, August 26, 2009

Everyday is an exciting and a happy day.

Warren Wong called me yesterday, he asked "How was my weekend?:)"

I replied, "The weekend was wonderful, i believe everyday is an exciting day. You have to make it happen. Today is another interesting day and i am sure it would. What about you hero? He didn't respond back.

He might be wondering how everyday could be an exciting and interesting day! To me the eventful and unforgettable day has to be made and created by myself. Excitement or Happiness won't come by itself, neither would i expect others to make it happen for me. In order to make a happy day today, i have to make others happier and merrier. To have an exciting day, i create unexpected excitement for my friends. To have a fun day, i make sure everyone i meet is going to laugh because of my sense of humour and jokes. To have an interesting day, i share the best of my knowledge and wisdom to those who need them. To have an appreciative day, i entertain and offer meals or drinks to my buddies. To be loved upon, i give my whole heart to those who deserve it. I end my day with so much to ponder about, the best is to write them on my blog now and let the world to read. The day has passed but i am sure tomorrow will be another interesting and a happy day for me. What about you? Don't let the ideal time and day to slip away from your hand.

A powerful phrase i learned from a good friend, Dato Abu Zaki - "The hand that gives is better than the hand which receives".

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Traditional verses the western medication.

Yaacob called in panic to inform me that her daughter was admitted to the hospital. She was only nineteen, and suffering from acute tonsillitis. Because of the infection and swelling of her tonsils were very bad, the attending doctor advised the father to allow them to conduct a tonsillectomy immediately while she was still in their care. As the daughter was preparing her coming school examination, she hesitated on this surgery.

Over the telephone, i told the father to stay calm, and advised him not to proceed to the operation. I explained, there are two types of medical doctors in Malaysia. One would be the western trained and the second is the Russian or Chinese taught. The westerner depends solely on machines and immediate surgery, whereas the Russian or Chinese which you might consider as traditional and old fashion, they work on verbal and touches. Meaning they would first ask to understand the root and the cause of sickness, plus the feel and senses by touching the sick physically. Is only when medication could not be solved, they would consider the machine and operation. I prefer the second treatment.

I told Yaacob i am a half doctor by experience on my work. Due to the acute tonsillitis of the poor girl, her nose was blocked and she could not breath properly. I instructed the father to see a pharmacist outside where he could be recommended some good medication on Nasal Spray, Suspension. This medical spray could immediately relieve her blocked nose. For her daily vitamin consumption, she has to take the Vitamin C of 1000mg everyday to strengthen her immune system. Her body weight tells me she wasn't exercising, she needs to run everyday. As her nose was sensitive, it was better for her not to sleep in the air-conditioner bedroom. Although the air-con was comfortable to her sleep, she was actually breathing dry and not fresh air.

Few weeks later, Yaacob told me her daughter had fully recovered from her sickness. The tonsillectomy wasn't necessary. Bad for the hospital and the doctors because they had not made the money from the patient. I had also save some medical charges and fees for my Insurance Company.

Moral of the story; Intelligence isn't enough, you have to be smart to understand the facts of lives. Not all advices given by the intelligent are true, you have to be smarter to outwit them.

I learned this story when i was a little boy - "Bre'r Rabbit prides himself in being able to outwit Bre'r Fox every time".

Monday, August 24, 2009

Winning loves & sales, apply 90:10 formula

Selling Tips....

Winning a girl's heart and gaining a sale, apply the 90:10 formula. What is the 90 against 10?

To court a lady you love, you have to know what she likes and doesn't like. What are her favorite food, games, interests, hobbies, movies, colours, etc? Understand her mood and character. Able to adjust and accommodate her behaviour. Willing to entertain, help, assist and make her happy at all time. The '90' is the attention given to her, whereas the '10' is what you have to impress her.

Selling, especially selling life insurance works the same principle. To win over a client, you have to understand everything all about your client. Is he married, single, widower or perhaps he is a gay. Every status of a person is different, a married person has different obligation, and a gay has different scope of lives. You could identify their needs and wants, you could view their happiness or sadness, and accept what they are. Some are hot temper, arrogance, fearful, timid and unfriendly, but you have the skill to adapt and appease all types of character. You give your '90' fullest attention to understand them, while selling the '10' of yourself, products and services only.

My 90:10 works pretty well in my forty years of selling, including chasing for love and romance.

Please try! It works!

I apply this statement too -"By concentrating single-mindedly on your most important task, you can reduce the time required to complete it by 50 percent or more" - Brian Tracy

Sunday, August 23, 2009

The art of breathing

Good things must be shared....

The nose has a left and a right side; we use both to inhale and exhale.

Actually they are different; you would be able to feel the difference.

The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon.

During a headache, try to close your right nasal passage and use your left nasal passage to breathe.

In about 5 mins, your headache will be gone? If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left passage and breathe through the right.

After a while, you will feel your mind is refreshed.

Right side belongs to 'hot', so it gets heated up easily, left side belongs to 'cold'.

Most females breathe with their left nasal passage, so they get "cooled off" faster.

Most of the guys breathe with their right , they get worked up.

Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right? ?

If left is faster, you will feel tired.

So, close your left passage and use your right for breathing, you will get refreshed quickly.

This can be taught to kids, but it is more effective when practised by adults.

This alternative natural therapy without medication is something that has been experienced.

Food for thought - "Just the act of breathing slowly and deeply can have a very calming effect".

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Dog is faithful & bird is loving.

Dog is the best friend to man. No matter how poor or rich you are, as long as you are the master who feeds the dogs, they will forever be faithful and loyal to you. Everyone would accept this as a true fact of life. However the funny part is, i have not seen a faithful male dog to his bitch, which might have mated with him. On mating, the male would be very close and intimate with the bitch but when the game is over, you hardly could see him around to care for her. When the bitch is pregnant, he isn't be responsible and you rest assure he won't be the father to care and babysit the puppies when they are born.

Not the birds! Birds are very loving to each other. They would be faithful and sincere as long as they live. They build their nest together, they help and take turns to hatch their eggs, the father would look for worms and the mother protects their little birds, and he would never leave them until the little ones could be independence by themselves. However the funny part is, birds have no loyalty to man. You can be feeding and caring them from young, the minute you let open the cage, i bet they would fly away sooner as unexpected from their master.

Moral of my story; no creature, animal or bird are prefect. We as human is considered the most intelligent living being on earth, has to be smart and witty. We pick the best qualities from them; be as faithful as the dog to their masters and be as responsible and loving like the birds to care for the families and their loved ones. The combination of these characters help us to be more perfect in this animal kingdom.

Food for the thought - "Perfection consists not in doing extraordinary things, but in doing ordinary things extraordinarily well." - Angelique Arnauld

Friday, August 21, 2009

Don't take others to be Fools.

Something to ponder about...

Indian mom comes to visit her son Kumar for dinner.....who lives with an Indian girl roommate Sunita. During the course of the meal, his mother couldn't help but notice how pretty Kumar's roommate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between the two, and this had only made her more curious.

Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between Kumar and his roommate than met the eye. Reading his mom's thoughts, Kumar volunteered, 'I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you, Sunita and I are just roommates'.

About a week later, Sunita came to Kumar saying, 'Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find the silver plate. You don't suppose she took it, do you?' Kumar said,'Well, I doubt it, but I'll email her, just to be sure.'

So he sat down and wrote....
Dear Mother: I'm not saying that you 'did' take the silver plate from my house, I’m not saying that you 'did not' take the silver plate. But the fact remains that it has been missing ever since you were here for dinner.

Love, Kumar

Several days later, Kumar received an email from his Mother which read...

Dear Son: I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Sunita, and I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with Sunita. But the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her OWN bed, she would have found the silver plate by now under the pillow...

Love, Mom.

Lesson of the day: Don't Lie to Your Mother or take others to be “FOOLS”..........

Thursday, August 20, 2009

Successful man with his happy woman

This proverb says, "For every successful man there is always a woman behind" but i have to add, "For every happy woman, there is always an understanding man besides".

The man is successful because the woman behind loves him willingly. Her loves excite him, her loves motivate him and her loves inspire him endlessly. Is not easy to walk the life path, when unforeseen obstacles and problems come everyday. If the man has a happy woman who could provide sincere admiration and appreciation, everything is possible for him. However the sad part is, when the woman isn't happy and has forgotten to play the role of admirer, appreciator, motivator and to inspire her man, the successful man might turn to be unsuccessful again. So if the successful man is a smart person, he has to be always understanding to know what his woman wants and needs. He has to make her happy all the time, making sure she remains to be the woman behind who spurs and peps up his live till the end.

A friendly advice to the ladies, spot the strength and value of your hero but tune down his weaknesses and defects. He needs your admiration and appreciation more than your complain and criticism. The world could be against him but your support and affection overrule all difficulties ahead. If you can't do it, then you are not his woman behind to lead him to success.

A brotherly suggestion to the men, love your woman as though she is the last female for you. Making happy a woman is to love her with all your might, protect her and let her have the sense of security, give her your fullest trust and strongest belief, and be faithful and sincere from the heart and soul.

With this combination of love between the man and woman, success and happiness are assured. I do hope, the one whom i love most is reading this message which i wrote from my heart too.

Food for the heart - "Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could." - Barbara De Angelis

Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Women prefer a darker man.

Sharon is a beautiful mixture of Portuguese and Indian origin. She isn't fair like the European but she looks more darker like our local Malay's appearance. I remember twenty years ago when two men who were trying their level best to court her, it took awhile for Sharon to pick the right candidate. Jeswant was a handsome, fair and intelligent medical doctor who was the first to know Sharon then. Came later Mohan who was a black Negro Indian, also interested in this sweet young girl. Jeswant had a magnificent personality, well polished in character and kind hearted. Mohan, a sub-contractor who was rough in maner was uneducated. Everyone guessed Sharon would definitely marry Jeswant one day. To our surprised, finally Sharon got marry to Mohan. I was the boss to Sharon at that time, and i was curious to know the reason. This was what she told me. Read on.

As Jeswant was fair in appearance, Sharon being dark in colour, the man would over shadow her personality. Whereas Mohan was charcoal black, Sharon would stand out fairer against her man. She would be more attractive when she was with Mohan. With Jeswant she looked ugly and uncomfortable, though he was much an ideal lover over Mohan. Mind! What a way women pick and select their men! Perhaps the sight is more important than the heart. Now i know why my little darling has fallen in love with me. My handicaps make her more prettier and sexier when she stands beside me.

Interesting proverb - "Woman cannot be content with health and agility: she must make exorbitant efforts to appear something that never could exist without a diligent perversion of nature. Is it too much to ask that women be spared the daily struggle for superhuman beauty in order to offer it to the caresses of a subhumanly ugly mate?" - Germaine Greer

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

At 72 he still needs love too to stay alive.

YS is a retired widower, aged 72 years young. Since his wife passed away seven years ago, he was living a very quiet live by himself. He had a bypass six year ago and currently is suffering from Parkinson's disease. Though he is restricted in many ways, slow in movement and action, he could still put on a beautiful smile whenever i met him. He still keeps his old car and drive out to the town. He spoke with pride and always full of enthusiasm, and never allowed his handicap to deter his living. I was puzzled at first where he got all his energies, until i was introduced to his girlfriend, Jenny whom she has known for more than a year.

See! Nothing works until the charming lady came to touch his heart and soul. Jenny is twenty years younger, a divorcee for more than twenty years too, finds that YS is a gentleman who is caring and wise. Everyday they both communicate on the hand phone and they would meet during the weekend when Jenny needs not work. Last Saturday they drove off to the beach to experience the intimacy of the evening and night together the first time. YS gave his gentle and fatherly advices and Jenny spurred him with her feminine charm. Before leaving for the trip, YS promised he would try his level best to regain his manhood and to satisfy the woman who had missed the forbidden apple for so long in her lives. To make sure he could succeed, he had bought four blue diamond shaped pills, namely VIAGRA from his usual pharmacist. He believed these magical pills plus the true love from his partner would definitely bring joy and hope to them. I wish them best of luck here.

Moral of my story; No person on earth could live alone happily. Man and woman need each other. Love & romance motivates the younger couples to do well in career and to the older ones, they need love as well to keep them alive.

Food for the heart - "The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together." - Barbara De Angelis.

Monday, August 17, 2009

How to stop aging & stay on track.

I had a poem written on 31 Mar 2005 when one of our senior director was called to retire. Out of his feeling i penned these few words...

"Looks like when a person is aging, his value also decreases.
But the fact is, it takes time to learn and only when you are old, perhaps you might gain some wisdom of life. But again when you are there, your value is no longer needed.
These are misery facts of life".

This sad poem came into my mind again because i had a few closed associates who are about my senior tender age, had left this industry, when they are no longer selling anymore. They had been working along with me for more than twenty over years in selling life insurance. They have vast experience and knowledge in work and understanding of people. However due to the environment, working conditions and rules, they had lost the interest to continue to serve.

Selling life insurance is a noble profession and it takes time to master this career. All companies are sales and profit orientated, when they seek and recognise those who could bring in the immediate results. The younger and more dynamic agents have a better edge over the aging agents. Rules and laws keep changing when the seniors find it difficult to accept the change. Most older agents feel rejected and unwanted. Though they might have all the knowledge, the companies do not know how to tap their wisdom. With restriction and strict control over their contracts, these rejected agents lost their heart and desire to continue this career. So sad for them.

My advice to those who are coming near to my wisdom age; forget your real age but feel and think young, be brave and courageous, accept changes and keep learning, be naughty and cheeky, be adventurous and prepare to take some risks, inject plenty of love and happiness into your empty heart, mix with only positive and aggressive people, willing to give more than you should be receiving, lower down your unnecessary pride and self esteem, always smile until your jaw is tired and do have friends like Robert Foo.

Food for thought - "If you succeed in judging yourself rightly, then you are indeed a man of true wisdom" — A. de Saint-Exupery.

Sunday, August 16, 2009

Can you make your woman laugh?

Law of shine and i shine brighter.
With a bit of practice, you can always make it longer.

Sometimes our dreams can be distracted by tiny things.

Love partners have to be compatible. Otherwise they hate each others.
Jokes and cartoons relate true facts of lives. Please laugh and don't be shy about them. After all they can happen to us too.
Specially for the men to know - "If you can make a woman laugh you can do anything with her." - Nicol Williamson

Saturday, August 15, 2009

In love...listen with the heart.

Last night was a beautiful night when we witnessed two love birds met the first time. On Ah Fei's birthday, he invited Wati and some friends to a simple dinner. Both Ah Fei and Wati are my friends. Ah Fei is a simple jovial man and Wati is a sweet loving lady. It was three months ago Wati requested a favour to recommend and introduce an ideal boyfriend to her. I know it wasn't an easy task because an ideal person doesn't come easy. In my mind, Ah Fei could be the ideal man but there might be many obstacles to match them together.

Most couples fall in love by sight first, they believe seeing face to face is important, and they are too eager to meet by the first knowing. The traditional couples put their fate with their parents who decide their matching. They trust their parents are wiser to pick and select their ideal partner for live. I favour the second choice, as the eyes could be deceiving, whereas the ears to listen is even more powerful.

The two love birds were chatting on phone for two month, they did not know how each look like. They used their senses on listening and hearing to imagine each other. They were having fun, laughter and stories telling to amuse themselves. They could talk till the late night without getting bored. They began to like and care more for each other. They had feeling in their heart. Though they had not met yet but they had already accepted themselves willingly as good friends. On the night yesterday, when they both met, Wati and friends who accompanied her laughed endlessly upon seeing Ah Fei. Reason... Ah Fei who is only 36 is a bald headed young man. However Wati wasn't the least be bother about the hairless man because she sees the beauty of her man from the heart and not with the face. The dinner ended beautifully and i was told later they continued to chat again from their home on phone until the early morning. I wish them best of luck. Yes! Listening is better than judging by sighting alone.

Food for the heart - "Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could." - Barbara De Angelis

Friday, August 14, 2009

Opposite of love is hate

Today is Ah Fei 's birthday. Happy Birthday brother. I had introduced Wati to him and tonite is the first time they are going to meet over his dinner. They had been communicating for the past two months on hand phone only, and i am sure the excitement for tonite should be interesting.

Before they meet, i advised Ah Fei to be serious in this friendship or later could blossom into a relationship. Please don't use the 'Touch & Go' approach coz it would cause misery and sorrow to either party. According to him, he had never ever fallen in love before though he might have some casual girl friends of the past.

I explained to him these. Love has pleasure and pain. When you are loved upon, the joy and happiness is pleasurable but when you are thrown out off love, the pain could be unbearable. The opposite of love is hate. This happen when one is rejected out of love. A normal person could be well behaved in manner, but when hate overrules him or her mind, they could be wild, crazy, mad and unreasonable.

These can happen to anyone who is deeply affected by love. You scold with anger, your words are nasty and vulgar to your ex-lover. You might disturb, spy and stalk his/ her movement. You might be violent by punching and slapping your ex. Or perhaps you might get drunk and forget everything, Some might take revenge by sleeping with other men, or calling prostitutes to release his frustration. The worst are those who could not control themselves, they commit sucide or to attack and kill their lovers. Hate blinds and is dangerous.

I know Wati is an attractive, innocent and an adorable girl. Equally my brother, Ah Fei is an eligible intelligent man whom i have confidence with. However love is unpredictable and uncontrollable in feeling. I hope Ah Fei and Wati are mature enough to know what they want in lives. Let your five senses decide whether you both are compatible to each other. Time is the answer to your love. Best of luck to Ah Fei and Wati.

Don't Hate - "Always remember others may hate you but those who hate you don't win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself".

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Exercise with a positive mental attitude.

A new senior veteran just joined our gym. He was walking on the treadmill, when i went over to greet him. I gave him a jovial thumb up's sign and said, "Welcome to our club. You are doing well and please keep it up". Breathing hard and shaking his head, he replied, "I am getting old!" Looking at his face, i believe he should be around my tender age. I encouraged him further, "The word 'old' should be taken away from our mind. Keep exercising and we shall be healthier and younger. At the same time, be brave to admire those attractive and beautiful ladies around. They can make us feel young as well". He did not laugh or smile, and instead he responded, "No! Don't look at women. We should be looking and admiring the green nature around us. Looking at women is bad for our age!" I was caught here and i had to keep silence. He could be right you know!

While i was at the other corner working on my iron, i was thinking to myself. Thanks God! Luckily i was not him, who looks weak and haggard, serious in look and has no sense of humour, and unfriendly. One could be exercising but without the positive mental attitude, our physical and appearance might not fully benefit from the exercises. The different in both of us, he feels old and accepted to be old, whereas i feel young and smell young. I drew attention from the members around but he had to be left alone. Everyone has a choice and my choice is to be young as long as i live.

Food for the heart - "Life is 10 percent what you make it and 90 percent how you take it." - Irving Berlin

Wednesday, August 12, 2009

To save a broken heart.

Are you in love at the moment? If you are, i feel happy for you. There are many broken loves which often happen, due to many causes. Some are intentional, whereas some could be unintentional. In order to save those who might be facing some unforeseen problems on love & romance, i like to share a bit of my personal experience and observation.

No Attention. All loves begin with full attention and attention needs effort and time. Without attention, no man and woman could fall in love. To fall in love is easy but to maintain falling in love for a longer period is extremely hard. Once the attention towards the other partner is decreasing, suspicious and doubts could creep into their mind. If both partners could stay on track for a least more than two years with increasing attention for each other, i guess they have a better chance to be together.

Finance. To be in love, money is the prime mover. Whereas the Chinese has a wrong proverb which said 'Romance can be survived by merely drinking water". No ladies would be happy if their men are penniless or stingy. You don't expect the women to be paying the bills all the time. Right?

Communication. All issues and problems could be solved if only effective communication is there. Most couples have misunderstanding because they are not prepared to spend more time to talk and discuss. Example...the lady is admired by other men or the man is attracted by many other women, unless the couple is willing to communicate openly and truthfully, jealousy and unhappiness might occurred.

No sex. Too much sex is good, but once without sex within a couple, doubts and suspicious would appear again. Sex is bonding for each other. Sex creates the sense of needing each other. NO sex from one partner is a big problem.

Peer Pressure. These could be expectation from within and outside environment. Your partner has high hope and value on you, which you might not be able to fulfill. Or the parents from either side are not agreeable to your status, race, position, religion and education.

The above five common issues effect and influence love & romance most of the time. Unless you are aware and understand the way of lives as how sensitive humans are, you might be the next target of a broken relationship. These information were gathered from this special dear i talked to today. Thank you for sharing your best moment of time with me, i had learned tremendously from you. You will always be my special dear no matter what happen.

Food for the heart - "What I needed most was to love and to be loved, eager to be caught. Happily I wrapped those painful bonds around me; and sure enough, I would be lashed with the red-hot pokers or jealousy, by suspicions and fear, by burst of anger and quarrels." - St. Augustine

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Insurance is a very scary word

A joke with a selling tip...

Two good friends were walking pass a quiet cemetery. One was wearing a pair of running shoe and the other brought along a talisman and a Cross. In case if they meet a ghost, the running shoe might help one to run faster and the talisman and Cross might frighten the ghost away. Not too long, a ghost appeared. The one who worn the shoe was unable to run because he was trembling in fear. He shouted to his friend, "Throw out your talisman and Cross please!" His friend was equally scared replied, "I lost them!" Instead he handed over his name card to the ghost behind. Upon reading the name card, the ghost disappeared immediately. What happened? On the name card it was written, the agent was from a life insurance company.

Moral of the story:- If you are a life insurance agent, never give your insurance name card to a prospect on your first visit. Even ghosts disappeared when they know you are an agent. What more if they are new acquaintances! The word INSURANCE is a very scary one. I only give this card to those whom i don't intend to do their business. Funny isn't it?

Food for thought - "The ability of a person to atone has always been the most remarkable of human features" — Leon Uris

Monday, August 10, 2009

Three stages of selling.

Selling tips..

Ah Fei asked, "Sifu, can i follow your selling systems? You talk rubbish and yet people just buy from you!" Yes! Rubbish could be recycled for repeated usage. If you understand life, selling is going to be much easier.

This was what i explained to this young man. Selling is like courting. In lives, love & romance works differently at various age. When you are at the twenties, you have to be thick skin to chase for girls you like. Later at the thirties or forties, you have to be classy and polished, so that ladies are attracted to you. Eventually when you reach fifties and above, your respect and charismatic personality is the prime mover for women to fall in love with you.

Selling works the same principle like love & romance, also depending on one's age group. The younger salesperson has to work extremely hard to prove his worthiness. You have nothing to show, no experience and knowledge yet, but your hard work and sincerity are your assets and strength. At the middle age, professionalism is the key success in selling. Your selling system has to be tip top, you have to master the art of selling from prospecting to closing, and you need to have a profound knowledge to work. At my so called tender age, i only talk rubbish as what Ah Fei said. Rubbish to me is; to be able to talk and share the facts of life, to be able to understand all those who interact with me and enlighten them to a happier path of life. My career is no longer my job but rather a passionate hobby to me for live.

To Ah Fei, if you want to succeed in your career, please be a professional and not just as an amateur. On your love path, you need to polish your romantic approaches as well, otherwise you might miss the boat with Wati, the attractive lady who has the interest over you at the moment.

To all the lady readers - "When you meet a man, you judge him by his clothes, when you leave you judge him by his heart" - Russian Proverb.

Sunday, August 09, 2009

3 Stages of Life.

Teenage............ Have Time + Energy..... But no money...........

Working Age....... Have Money + Energy ............ But no Time...

Old Age......... Have Time + Money ............... But No Energy .....

Food for thought - "Time is a companion that goes with us on a journey. It reminds us to cherish each moment, because it will never come again. What we leave behind is not as important as how we have lived" - Captain Jean-Luc Picard

Saturday, August 08, 2009


Dear is arrogance, darling is stingy and sweetheart is soft hearted. The three went out for an enjoyable dinner one nite. Upon finishing the meal, dear was smart to excuse herself first to visit the washroom. Next was darling who was witty enough to also excuse herself to enquire information at the front desk. Sweetheart was left alone, until she had to clear the total bill by herself. While walking out of the restaurant later, she met her two friends out in the shopping mall, where both were window shopping together. They just stared at her and asked, "have you paid the bill?" Sweetheart was boiling in anger!

This could happen anywhere on earth. There are two types of spender; one who is willing to pay generously for others and the second, is the one who likes others to pay for them. The first type of spender is kind and sincere, whereas the second is selfish and rude. As far as i am concerned, i prefer to be the payor rather than to be a receiver. Is my honour to pay and entertain all those who are with me, no matter who they are and i pray and wish i could go on to do so until i am not here on earth. I know if i could continue to pay with pride and happiness, God must have really taken care of me by virtue of HIS blessing. I should not be the least bother whether dear or darling are willing spenders or not. As long as my sweetheart paid the bill willingly without complaint and sorrow, i would be proud of her too.

Specially for this sweetheart - "If you're a generous person you'll have no trouble admitting that somebody else is good. If you're a better person you'll find it's total impossibility." - Source Unknown

Friday, August 07, 2009

Uncommon and creative selling

Selling tips..

Ah Fei was shaking his head and looking depressed. He was not getting head way because the business phone calls he made recently were unsuccessful. All the prospecting calls he attempted were rejecting him and not allowing him for any appointment. Can't blame him for being so sad lately.

In order to help this closed associate of mine, i insisted Ah Fei to reveal his way and style of making prospecting phone calls. This was exacting how he did it....

Fei.."Hello there! Can i speak to Miss Wati?"
Wati.. "Yes! Speaking here".
Fei.. "I am Mr Faisal from Prudential Assurance. I would like to have an appointment with you, to show you our Financial Planning Program. Is today or tomorrow convenient for you Wati?"
Wati.. "I am not interested!" (Immediately she hanged down the phone.)
Fei... (rejected and disheartened.)

I think Ah Fei had been too serious and formal in his telephone approach. He should try this...

Robert.. "Hello there! Can i speak to the lovely lady, Miss Wati?"
Wati... "Yes! Speaking here and who is there please?"
Robert.. "I am abang Robert, my dear Wati. Your sweet name is recommended by your handsome friend, Ah Fei. He was speaking highly of you my dear. And i guess so because your voice sounds wonderful and pleasant to me".
Wati.. "What can i do for you Robert?"
Robert.. I represent Prudential. Ah Fei suggested that i should show you our latest Happy & Fun Planning Program, especially for young people like you."
Wati... (Puzzle!!!) "What is this Happy & Fun program?
Robert.. "This program is indeed exciting and interesting. It would be difficult for me to explain on the phone. But if you allow me to show you at your office, i assure would definitely like it. Can you allow me to see you today or tomorrow?"
Wati.. (Curious!!!) "Please come and see me today at 5pm".

Selling tips to Ah Fei and all my colleagues. Take all calls and selling as fun. Play along with sense of humour lightly. Offer a lot of admiration and appreciation. Have the courage to speak clearly and confidently like a great friend to all prospects. Be different, be creative and be yourself.

My strong belief - "Do the common things, in an uncommon way. The world will be at your command" - George Washington.

Thursday, August 06, 2009

Laugh Please!

Punjabi Mathematics.

A Punjabi woman says to her mother:
'I'm divorcing Ranjit... all he wants is anal sex! anal sex!!.. and my asshole is now the size of a 50 cent coin when it used to be the size of a 5 cent coin!!

The Mother responds:
'Dear Sheila - You're married to a millionaire lawyer ...
you live in an 7 bedroom mansion in Damansara
you drive a Mercedes ...
you get RM10,000 a week allowance ...
you take 6 vacations a year .....,you got 5 maids,
2 drivers,3 gardeners,2 cooks
.....and you want to throw all that away for a mere 45 cents???

The joke was shared by a good friend, a professor and as naughty like me. We believe...All work no play, makes Jack a dull boy. Do you know - "Hearty laughter is a good way to jog internally without having to go outdoors? - Norman Cousins

Wednesday, August 05, 2009

Are you a gentleman to ladies?

I am glad my good friend, Fariza has finally found her ideal partner, a Caucasian and not a Malaysian. She had married once, many lovers and all are local males. Not one could really make her happy in love. Until she brought up her courage to fall in love with a foreigner who is of different culture and faith.

I agreed with Fariza, most of our men here are not true gentlemen. In the first place, we are not as romantic as what we claimed. Perhaps romantic to us might be just the few moment on bed and after that, we lost the loving care and attention towards our ladies in attendance. Can't blame our women, they are afraid to fall in love with the courting men, who are inconsiderate!

The other weaknesses i personally observed, most of us are arrogance with high ego, especially after falling in love with their ladies. We are selfish and ungenerous, especially on financial matters. Go to the restaurants and observe yourself. Over at the cashier counter, you would notice all bills are shared by their friends. The male has no courtesy to pay for the females, unless he has benefit over the companies. Sometimes even young lovers insist to share their expenses, for every single cent counts. We have not learned the pride to pay for another friend, more so for females. Thanks God! I never allow ladies to pay whenever they are with me.

On tipping! We are really bad. We expect high and efficient services but we shy away on tipping. Not only are the men, the ladies are equally the same. I hope my little darling has learned to tip and appreciate those who rendered service to her. Unless we, the males are prepared to change our attitude and approach, we wound never be considered as true gentleman like this Caucasian.

I like this statement - "Anyone can be heroic from time to time, but a gentleman is something you have to be all the time." - Luigi Pirandello

Tuesday, August 04, 2009

Eyes reveal thought.

Tesh is my God daughter and she is only sweet fourteen. Whenever she spoke with me, she was afraid to look at my eyes. I guessed she was shy! The last i advised her, its a manner to speak with another person face to face and preferable eye to eye.

I gave her a few good tips. The eyes reveal the hidden thoughts of the person. The eyes show the joy and sadness of oneself. Sometimes a person might pretend to be happy, but the eyes reflect the truth of sorrow. To know a person better, sight his sincerity and passion from the eyes because the gesture and movement of them show. A con man has suspicious eyes and a kind hearted one has a warm friendly look. A cocky eye is dangerous, a sneaky eye is treacherous and a snaky eye has to be avoided at all cost. In love the eye flashes with romance and blissfulness. Not out of love when the eye is dead. When is agreeable, eye signals faster than the lip because it shines and grows. Be careful when is disagreeable, coz that is the time anger and frustration could be thrown from the sight as well.

In selling understanding the beauty of our eyes because that is the place where all information could be gathered without the prospects relating the truth. For love and romance, the more you have to master the magic of this vision because the eye has a pathway to the heart where love resides. Tesh has a pair of loving eyes, they tell me she is an intelligent, caring, adventurous and an interesting lady. I am so proud of her and equally her mum has a beautiful pair of sexy eyes too.

This is true fact - "An animal will always look for a person's intentions by looking them right in the eyes." - H. Powers

Monday, August 03, 2009

Peace of mind.

A story from a spiritual friend...

Once Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. This was in the initial days. While they were traveling, they happened to pass a lake. They stopped there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty.. Do get me some water from that lake there.”

The disciple walked up to the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that right at that moment, a bullock cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid. The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink!” So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”

After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently went back to the lake. This time too he found that the lake was muddy. He returned and informed Buddha about the same. After sometime, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back. The disciple reached the lake to find the lake absolutely clean and clear with pure water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to be had. So he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha. Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple and said,“See what you did to make the water clean. You let it be…. and the mud settled down on its own – and you got clear water.

Your mind is also like that! When it is disturbed, just let it be. Give it a little time. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen. It is effortless.” What did Buddha emphasize here? He said, “It is effortless.” Having ‘Peace of Mind’ is not a strenuous job; it is an effortless process!

This is a very blissful story with lessons of STRENGTH....COURAGE to pursue....have loads of PATIENCE..... In life everything goes on... Keep Going. Have a peaceful Life ! KEEP SMILING not because of something but inspite of everything.

Teamwork RF2P is here.

Less Me More We...

Recently i had formed a team, namely RF2P, comprising of myself, Fizah, Faisal and Pris who are prepared to share our experiences of work. In our course of selling life insurance, we have had gathered some knowledge and understanding of how people live and work. Our nation has created the theme OneMalaysia with the hope and vision that we could live and work together happily as a team of one nationality. Yes! Teamwork begins from the family, where the man leads his woman and children. Without happy homes, there would be no happy and committed people to work for all the companies. Without people and the winning companies, our country would not prosper and be peaceful. With this concept in mind, we opened our arm to our friends, who invited us to their place of work to deliver our TEAMWORK presentation.

Last week, we were invited to two different platforms to share our thought. The two companies were High Point Nurani and Sym World, who have great vision and strength. We did our part by motivating all their staffs, we introduced the 30 attributes of a star performer and explaining the important of having the right attitude in lives. We convinced them that a positive attitude person is always a likable person who gives more willingly. We proved to them that right attitude is even more powerful than being intelligent by having exciting games and plays, which needed teamwork and strategic planning to work. The sharing ended with plenty of fun, they learned what is integrity, humility, sense of humour, self drive, determination, confidence, responsible, effective communication, organized, good listener, empathy, focus, decisive, belief, goal oriented, enthusiasm, common sense, detail master, dependable, dedicated and loyalty.

The bosses asked what was our charges for the entire shows. We replied...give us your smiles and plenty of love. One of the Director Dato Harith sms me this text; "I personally feel that we had benefited from your team performance. At least Shaari and Haji Wadud held my hand during the game without hesitation. We made a good start and look forward for another session. Thank you very much and regards to your team RF2P".

Though RF2P had spent many hours of preparation on these sharing, my teammates enjoyed every moment of our work together. I reminded them...Happiness is to see others happy as well, and succeeding in lives. Definitely we are not ending here but rather we are only beginning, we expect more invitation to come.

The definition of teamwork is "Co-operative effort by the members of a group or team to achieve a common goal".

Sunday, August 02, 2009

Every problem has a solution.

Many years ago in a small Indian village, a farmer had the misfortune of owing a large sum of money to a female village moneylender. The female moneylender, who was old, fat and ugly, fancied the farmer’s handsome son. So she proposed a bargain. She said she would forego the farmer’s debt if she could marry his son. Both the farmer and his son were horrified by the proposal. So the cunning female moneylender suggested that they let Providence decide the matter. She told them that she would put a black pebble and a white pebble into an empty moneybag. Then the son would have to pick one pebble from the bag. If he picked the black pebble, he would become her husband and her father’s debt would be forgiven. If he picked the white pebble he need not marry her and his father’s debt would still be forgiven. But if he refused to pick a pebble, his father would be thrown into jail. They were standing on a pebble-strewn path in the farmer’s field. As they talked, the moneylender bent over to pick up two pebbles. As she picked them up, the sharp-eyed son noticed that she had picked up two black pebbles and put them into the bag. She then asked the son to pick a pebble from the bag.

Now, imagine that you were standing in the field. What would you have done if you were the son? If you had to advise him, what would you have told him? Careful analysis would produce three possibilities: The son should refuse to take a pebble. The son should show that there were two black pebbles in the bag and expose the moneylender as a lying, backstabbing female cheat. The son should pick a black pebble and sacrifice himself in order to save his father from his debt and imprisonment.

Take a moment to ponder over the story. The above story is used with the hope that it will make us appreciate the difference between lateral and logical thinking. The son’s dilemma cannot be solved with traditional logical thinking. Think of the consequences if he chooses the above logical answers. What would you recommend to the son to do? Well, here is what he did….
What's the answer?
The son put his hand into the bag and drew out a pebble. Without looking at it, he fumbled and let it fall onto the pebble-strewn path where it immediately became lost among all the other pebbles. ‘Oh, how clumsy of me,’ he said. ‘But never mind, if you look into the bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.’ Since the remaining pebble is black, it must be assumed that he had picked the white one. And since the moneylender dared not admit her dishonesty, the son changed what seemed an impossible situation into an extremely advantageous one.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Most complex problems do have a solution. It is only that we don’t attempt to think. A man is but a product of his thoughts… M. K. Gandhi.

Saturday, August 01, 2009

Just want to make you smile.

Weekend jokes.
I collect adult cartoons too. You can either giggle in your heart or laugh aloud, because a little humour is good for our health.
Garrison Keillor said "Humour is a presence in the world - like grace - and shines on everybody".