Monday, December 31, 2012
My youngest son is currently in Shanghai. He is trying to venture into some business with his elder brother. In order to assist him, I always tried to inspire him with words. Today Shanghai was cold and snowing, when he sent over some of the pictures taken from their apartment.
While admiring those snaps taken, I wrote some words for him to understand. I said... "Snow has it's white beauty that you don't see back home. But you have to bear with it's extreme cold. In life you have to face the good & the bad. Look at the good and drop the bad, then you will see the beauty in front of you. It's like now you see the white beauty of those falling snow full of grow and excitement. Enjoy the sceneries son".
He replied, "Oh my God! Can't believe u actually thought of this. Very meaningful. Thanks again to have brighten up my day dad".
My final advices to him... "As we grow we might face obstacles and down falls. Take each fall as learning lesson. These are challenges of our lives. They make us stronger and we learn to be smarter. We gain to be wise. Is called Wisdom".
He asked.. "So! Do you think I'm a little wiser now dad?"
I said.. "Not yet! U are still learning with intelligence. Intelligence is the ability to learn. And smartness is the ability to apply what u have learned. Unless u are prepared to apply what dad had thought u, you won't be considered as smart. Remember! Smart people control intelligent people. They also earn more than the intelligent one".
I hope the above benefits my young readers too.
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Yesterday my eldest son sent me a message from abroad... Merry Xmas dad.
I wrote him a long reply... When I was a little boy, I knew nothing about what was Xmas. I was adopted in a typical Chinese family who didn't celebrate Xmas. And Xmas was just like a normal day when I still needed to help my father's coffee shop. Later when I turned to be a teenager, Xmas was fun and parties, dancing the Cha Cha or the Twist. When I got marry, Xmas was to buy presents for my three naughty sons. Or having great time to get drunk with friends. Now! Today Xmas for me is to make others smile and be happy. Everyday is Xmas time for me. I don't wait for the one day a year to celebrate Xmas because everyday is a giving day to me. Either I give moral support or financial assistance to others if I encountered them. I am a Santa to those who need help.
In short my son said To me everyday is a good day too.
I told him this true story... I just spoke to Mrs Lim, a family friend of many years. Her dad lives in Muar, a small town in the south, had a severe fall few days ago. He is 96 years old. The fall was bad that broke his back, and he could not walk any more. Mrs Lim, the only daughter doesn't know what to do. Her husband is a stroke patient who needs her attention at home in KL. The old man's wife passed away few years ago. Her two elder brothers in Muar are reluctant to engage full time maid to help and care for the sickly father. Their wives or the daughters in law are not in good term with the old man too. Mrs Lim is poor and she is supported by her own grown up three children. I guess the entire family of this old uncle, from children to grand children could be more than 20 members and yet could not raise fund to help. What a shame! Without hesitation on the phone, I told Mrs Lim, I'm prepared to sponsor to pay for the financial support for her dad. She could not believe that statement! If you don't feel good, please go back and tell all your family members whether they are also prepared to go along with me to assist their father.
Talking to my son... I said this is Xmas to me coz I am a Santa to those who need me everyday. In the spirit of Xmas, by giving is to make others smile and be happy.
Happy Xmas to all my readers.
Monday, December 24, 2012
Some of our successful life insurance lady agents are perfectionists. They are very professional in their work indeed, high income earners and extremely intelligence they are. However they are also very demanding and aggressive in character. They expect everyone under them to be as efficient as them. To their clients they are obliging and friendly but whenever they speak or communicate with the working staffs, their approaches could be hostile and arrogance. They expect all the staffs to think and work like them, and they expect for immediate response and results. Their letters and emails aren't diplomatic and friendly but rather are rude and crafty. They have beauty but poor in brain.
For whatever happened, I believe there are consequences and endings. 'Good attracts Good' & 'Bad attracts Bad'. Because of this high expectation in these lady's demands, their lives are stressful and they are easily agitated. Is difficult for them to get good sincere friends, even more difficult to be loved by truthful man. Divorce is common for them and usually they end up living alone as single ladies. Yes! Rich and famous they are but sad and lonesome in heart all the time.
My only advices for these successful career ladies... Expect a little, never hate, live simple and give a lot. Adopting these four golden rules would make you a happier person gradually.
Food for thought - “Anger always comes from frustrated expectations” - Elliott Larson Quotes.
Sunday, December 23, 2012
Friday, December 21, 2012
In its annual '5 in 5' predictions, IBM forecasted that in five years, computers will gain the five senses and be able to experience the world as humans.
To me, God gave human the five senses but soon computers might have these senses too. God never create the computer but it was invented by man. Are we as good as God now! I doubt so. God is always The Almighty. Then will the above statement by IBM be truthful and be possible. May be someone out there could enlighten us.
Thursday, December 20, 2012
I have known Gurdip for more than 25 years. Started as a small scale money lender, today Gurdip got his finance license and is operating his finance company with a big team. At his office, he was showing me his new company logo and requested me to give some suggestions to improve on the marketing layout.
I told him I'm not an art director, neither am I an artist but rather I'm a creative wise man who believes in the power of words. Words can inspire and can motivate the mind. I suggested to him to pick a good and meaningful proverb, preferable quoted by great and renowned person, and then print out those words as the tag line for his company. As a finance company, a quote related to money would be ideal. His company might be a new establishment but if the proverb is quoted by someone who is famous, those words might carry a lot of attraction to his business. Meaning you borrow strength from another greater force. Immediately the idea caught Gurdip and he wanted me to look for a proper proverb for him.
This morning I sent him this line quoted by Benjamin Franklin who said, "If you would be wealthy, think of saving as well as getting". Don't forget this famous quote was written 300 years ago and these wise words still applied of today. Without hesitation my good friend took my advice.
Wednesday, December 19, 2012
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Taking Charge Of Your Responses In Close Relationships
In relationships with your loved ones, when looking at the other, sometimes positive emotions are generated and sometimes negative. On the one hand, joy, love and happiness is generated on being with them; but then attachment, dependency and expectations are generated.
In such situations, you are more focused on others and are always looking at the other person's behaviour, you stop seeing yourself and being aware of your reactions and taking the responsibility for the responses that you create.
You get frustrated when the other person does not meet your expectations. As you depend on them, if they don't act as you would like, if they don't reach home or call you at the time you would like; all this frustrates you. You radiate this energy to the other: "they are not doing what they should be doing," and so you feel frustrated and discontented.
All the while that you hold the other one responsible for your frustration, you are not in charge of your own reactions, because you have given power to the other to dominate your emotional world. It is there that you lose your freedom. You lose your freedom because you give to the other, in the name of love, power over your own moods. You allow the others' energy to enter your inner world and cause inside you frustration, bad moods, irritation, sorrow and a mental and emotional dependence where you are constantly thinking about where they are, what they have to do, what they have to say, where they have to go, and all this consumes a lot of your mental energy. Wanting to control the other and the frustration that it brings with it uses up a lot of emotional energy.
Never try to control other’s life e.g. some parents try to control their kids (life) even after their marriage and thus create lot of confusions. Instead of trying to change everyone, let us change ourselves to live a Happy Life as also allowing others!
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Beautiful pictures... Right?
Of the five senses: Sight, Hearing, Smell, Taste & Touches.... The last is the most intense and fulfilling. It's soothing, warm and could distress. Any anger, frustration and stress could be released with a touch from the loved one. If the animal's kingdom and the birds need it, we of the human race would definitely need it more. If you are not doing well, unhappy at the moment, lonesome, lack drive and no enthusiasm to live, most likely you are short of human touches. Go out! Hug someone your know. Either your mother, father, brothers, sisters or me here. I'm willing to touch you too because I'm equally hungry for the warm touches as well.
Food for thoughts -
"A hug is like a boomerang - you get it back right away" ~Bil Keane, "Family Circus"
"Everybody needs a hug. It changes your metabolism" ~ Leo Buscaglia
Monday, December 17, 2012
What is a good handshake?
One that the person who receives could feel the warm and sincerity from the giver. Whenever I meet anyone, either I know or the first time we meet, I make sure that my right hand is the first to raise to offer my handshake to the person in front of me. In order for the receiver to feel my warm and sincerity, my facial has to show the enthusiasm and my gesture has to be polite and appealing. To throw out this manner, my heart has to be truthful and willing. To balance the thought, my mind has to be positive and aggressive. With the heart and mind working along side by side, my hand would definitely have the energy to hold the friend in front of me.
Out of the five important senses of human being; sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch, a good handshake needs at least three to justify the quality of it. My friends could see my smiling gesture, they hear my words of compliment and they could feel the touch of my comfortable hand. The combination of all these requirements, let the receiver to feel the warm and sincerity when a good handshake is given. With more practises, you could also be able to give out Chi Energy to those who receive your super handshakes. Yes! Handshakes are important in our daily life, especially meeting people and doing businesses.
Tip - "The most important things in those first few seconds are, basically, a firm handshake and a smile, good eye contact and really paying attention" Pat Schaumann
Sunday, December 16, 2012
I know I'm quite emotional anyway, even so this story especially touched me ...
A couple were Christmas shopping on Christmas Eve and the whole place
was heaving, packed with other last minute shoppers.
Walking through the shopping centre the surprised wife looked up from
a window display and noticed her husband was nowhere to be seen. She
knew they had lots still to do and she became very upset.
She rummaged in her handbag and found her mobile phoned then used it
to call her husband to ask him where he was.
The husband in a calm voice replied: "Darling, you remember the
jewellery shop we went into five years ago, where you fell in love
with that diamond necklace that we could not afford and I told you
that one day I would get it for you...?"
His wife's eyes filled with tears of emotion, she began to cry softly
and stifling a sob she whispered:"Yes, I remember that jewellery
"Well," he said, "I'm in the pub next to it!"
Friday, December 14, 2012
Little darling is helping her client to get young children to enrol for a new tutorial college. Is school holiday here and there is an English in house learning class for 4 days, specially for weak students who could not communicate in this language. Through little darling's strong net work, she is encouraging parents to bring their children for this learning session. Though the course is reasonably priced, not many parents could afford it but little darling is prepared to sponsor half the fee for each child who is coming.
Little darling spoke to be me with excitement because there are a handful of children who have enrolled for the class next week. She said, "Why am I so happy dear? I had to waste a lot of time to convince many parents to participate in this English program. I don't gain a cent from the enrolment and yet have to pay half the learning fees to the college. Not forgetting much time was wasted for the past month!"
I told her... "Happiness is to make others happy. Happiness is to help others succeed in life. Happiness is to make others smile because of you doing it dear. Congratulation."
Thursday, December 13, 2012
They said 'smoking and drinking' helps to build better business relationship. Is it true?? I'm a non smoker and a non drinker but I have been doing business for the past 45 years and still could conduct business pretty well.
I remembered 30 years ago when I was a rookie life insurance agent, I tried all ways to meet prospects, made them to be my friends and later sell them my products. There was one occasion when I was introduced to a millionaire at a lunch, where he was entertained by his business associates. Over at the grand table, his guests and the boss were all drinkers and heavy smokers. I was introduced to them as an agent selling life insurance. One of them offered me his cigarette as a welcome gesture which I politely rejected. He was caught with a surprise! I had to tell him that I don't smoke. The next minute the boss offered me a glass of brandy and suggested that I had to drink it 'bottom up' before I could be considered to be their friend. Oh My God! That glass of brandy was never my taste. I took up the courage to tell them that I don't drink too. They were laughing heavily. Their remarks, "How can a salesman don't smoke and don't drink???" I tried to apologise and to seek for their forgiveness.
Finally the boss said... If you don't drink but if you could allow me to pour half the glass of brandy over your head, I would still accept you as a friend with us".
I was not angry but rather I was desperate with his rules. Without hesitation I offered my head to let him pour the drink over me, because I was serious to prove that truly I wasn't a drinker. That arrogant man did what he said and I allowed him to do it with a smile without anger shown. All of them became my friends and they accepted me as a man who doesn't smoke and drink.
Today after 30 years, my good friend the boss who is now at 80 has retired from his business. He has a mild stroke and could hardly walk. He has stopped drinking and smoking. And all those friends, business associates and suppliers have forgotten him now. And I'm the only salesman who still visit him whenever I passed his place. Each time when I dropped over at his shop, I could see in his eyes that he was very happy to see me again. A salesman who doesn't smoke and drink but yet could still remember and to cherish our true friendship. Yes! I will always remember his pouring of brandy over my head.
Food for thought - First the man takes a drink; then the drink takes a drink; then the drink takes the man.
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
"A tongue has no bones, but it's already strong enough to break a heart, and we can't take back the words we've spoken or heal the wounds we've made, so be careful with your words."
Triple Filter Test story. --- One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students?"
"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."
"Triple filter?" asked the man.
"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to filter what you're going to say. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it."
"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"
"No, on the contrary ...".
"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, even though you're not certain it's true?".
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed. Socrates continued." You may still pass the test though, because there is a third filter - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"
"No, not really..."
"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?"
Have you ever tried living up to it? Do you believe people can?
Well.. Don't just sit there! Share this lesson! this is a good one!
Tuesday, December 11, 2012
I was having a coffee break with Rose Tham today at SS2 P Jaya. We meet three times a year to discuss about her family insurance programmes. Though SS2 is a very busy shopping venue with limited parking bays, I could get a parking right in front of our usual Hailam Kompitam where we always meet.
I was early when Rose arrived and she could identify my Honda was parked right at the door step of the Kompitam. She was curious by asking, "Robert! How could you always be able to park your car in such a convenient place here. Each time we meet, I used to see that you have no problem with parking with your car. Though the place is busy you are always lucky to find one lot for yourself. Tell me what is your trick?"
I told her. There is no trick at all but rather is my belief that works. Each time when I needed to meet some one important, I always talk to the Almighty Universe for help. I seek His Strength and Power to allow me to get an ideal parking place upon reaching my destinations. I focus my mind, strongly to believe that there is one parking lot make empty for me on arrival. Believe me! I have been practising my mindset on such unbelievable request ever since I was selling life insurance. Being tight with appointments and driving in our hectic cities, Kuala Lumpur and P Jaya, it isn't easy to look for parking, especially during the peak hours of the day. Thanks The Almighty Universe! I really have no problem working and moving around to get my business done. I always be able to get the right parking place, and this really have solved and saved a lot of my time and convenience. Like I told Rose, no trick but a strong positive belief that I will get one when I reach there.
Quote on mindset - Once your mindset changes, everything on the outside will change along with it.” - Steve Maraboli, Life, the truth, and Being Free.
Monday, December 10, 2012
I was glad I spoke to Kadija recently. She is a 25 years young single attractively woman, working for the past 4 years as a corporate lady earning a decent income of 5k a month. Not only she is intelligence, she is a very kind person who loves her parents greatly. Ever since she completed her university education and took this job four years ago, she had never pocketed her salary herself. The first month when she drew her pay, she went straight to both her parents and gave her entire earned income to them. She felt that her income should be given to her ageing parents. She remembered when she was young, it was the parents who took care of her. From the day she went to the nursery class till her final year at the university, it was the parents who were responsible to her financial. Though the father was not rich, he never failed to give what she wanted at those younger days of her life. Sometime father had to borrow to provide her for the needed fund on her education then. He paid and gave those cash willingly to her loved darling daughter of the house. Now that Kadija is a grown up lady, she felt it is her full responsibility to repay her kindness to both her great parents. Each time when she drew her salary, she will cash out the exact pay from her ATM bank and would be proud and happy to handover this cash to both father and mother at home. In turn parents would give her $10 per day for her to go to work everyday. In case if she needs extra cash urgently, she would then ask her parents again. She promised that even if she gets marry one day and is still working, she will continue to give her income to her parents till the day when both are not in this world.
Giving her earned income every month to her parents is a joy and happiness for Kadija. A rare breed and practice you hardly could find today. I cried while listening from my dear friend. Because I remembered when I was young and when I took my first job at the age of 18, I also gave my entire salary of only $138 to my mother who was still alive then. It was not in my mind that salary earned should be kept by me. A son's duty is to earn as much as he could, and gives all his income to the parents instead. My mother cried with tears when I gave my first payroll to her. I asked mum why you cry! She said my son is now a grown up child and mum cried because I know my son loves me. I could only give three years of my salary to mother, because three years later she left the world.
The world has changed. I wonder how many children of today could be like Kadija.
Food for thought - Love Your Parents . We are so busy growing up, we often forget they are also growing old.
Sunday, December 09, 2012
A Pakistani resident in the US phoned his burqa clad Mom in Pakistan.Khan: "Ammi, I have a big problem; I got AIDS. What shall I do? Will I come back home, to our native village?
Mom: Son, don't do that; don't come here!
Khan: Why Ammi?
Mom: If you come here, your darling wife will catch AIDS. And from your wife, it'll spread to your brother,
And from your brother to the maid,
And from the maid to your Dad,
From Dad to my sister (your aunt),
And from your aunt to her hubby,
And from her hubby to ME,
And from me to our chauffeur,
And from the chauffeur to your sis,
And if your sis catches AIDS, the whole damn village will catch AIDS!
It won't be very long before village after village, and then whole country goes down with aids!
For the sake of the Kaid-e-Azam, you HAVE GOT to save Pakistan!
Do not come back, my beloved son!!!
Friday, December 07, 2012
I really enjoyed reading this....
(Taken from the Alpha magazine, from Sophie P. 12 year old girl, New
Today I am going to talk about FARTS. Some people think farts are rude and
some people, like me, think farts are funny.
Farting is a fact of life. Everybody farts, Kings, Cinema stars, little children,
Saints and sinners. We will fart until the day we die.
Do you know why we fart?
Winds or farts, whatever you like to call them, are the production of the mixture of
gasses in the digestive tract. They are by-products of the digestive process. The
average person farts 14 times a day.
Farts are made up of the following: Nitrogen, the main ingredient making up 59 per
cent, next behind is Hydrogen 21 per cent, 9 per cent Carbon Dioxide, 7 per cent
Oxygen, and 1 per cent other stuff. But listen to this – hydrogen sulphide is the
compound that makes them stink!
Here are some top farters:
If you are going to fart, do not sit next to flames, because farts are very flammable.
Please do not panic if you find yourself trapped in a small space as it is impossible to
suffocate in your own product.
Anyway, next time you fart, don’t think it is rude. Just know that everybody, including
bottles of soft drinks, has to fart.
And now, why put this story in our bulletin? Because it was there, in this respectable
magazine called Alpha, next to a passage explaining the words of Jesus about
“spitting out the gnat and swallowing the camel”.
The story reminds us that we are all human beings, all equal in a way because we are
all made of the same clay.
Thursday, December 06, 2012
At their 54th anniversary, my friends made a decision to distribute their combined assets among their living heirs. Their rationale, Para walang gulo. (To avoid trouble). They added one proviso: While still alive, income from these properties will be used to maintain our present lifestyle inclusive of medical expenses, extravagant trips and unlimited shopping.
That's easy, replied the heirs. The income was substantial to indulge the old folks with a bonus that the heirs can use in any manner they wanted.
The first year passed without a hitch, but soon the problem surfaced. Each child used all kinds of tactics to keep the money from his parents. It reached a point where the poor retirees had to beg for sustenance, robbing them of the dignity they worked hard to uphold.
What went wrong?
Bad decision, said a cautious friend who warned the couple of this scenario. Children are so unreliable when it comes to inherited money. Money received, which was not expected and not a direct result of something they worked for, is not given the same value as money earned with their own sweat and tears. They lose their sense of propriety; gratitude is tainted
by greed and decency gone. This is compounded by in-laws who can tilt or convince their respective spouses to throw out good sense and filial affection like soiled rugs, Honey, they're going to die anyway, so why waste good money on them?
To avoid falling into this vulnerable, pitiful state, keep these 10 tips in mind:
1. Do not retire. If you're over-aged, retire and get all the benefits but find another income-generating job or open a business that will keep you active physically and mentally. Travel and bond with true friends, play a sport, learn a new hobby and volunteer in your community or parish. Don't loaf around. Your spouse will hate you because you've become a sloppy, listless bum with nothing good to say about the household and things that you never bothered about before. Solve crossword puzzles, play Scrabble, write your memoirs, and above all, read ...this will keep you alert and keep Alzheimer at bay.
2. Live in your own place to enjoy independence, privacy and a solo life. If you move in with your children, your rank or degree of importance is reduced to that of a bed spacer who has no place of honor or, worse, like crumbling furniture merely displayed with no added value. Might you kowtow to conform to their own rules that are not kind, considerate or mindful of
you? If you witness your children engaged in a war of will and wits with your grandchildren, whom will you side with? Will they even appreciate your arbitration? Remind your children that silence is not a sign of weakness; you are merely processing data that is taking longer to complete.
3. Hold on to your nest egg, bank deposits and assets. If you want to help your children, do give, but not to the extent that you wipe out your life's earnings, singing heroically not a shirt on my back nor a penny to my name. Staying solvent and in the black is a good hedge against all kinds of tempests. You will sleep better, you will not be afraid to express your opinion and you will be confident about yourself.
5. Expand your circle of friends to include young ones who will definitely outlive your old BFFs. Keep up with new inventions, trends, music and lifestyle including all the scams and schemes you should guard against. Remember that when you mix with the young, you also open a fresh avenue to channel your thoughts, experiences and values through so that the lessons you learned are not lost, forgotten or buried with you.
6. Be well groomed and smelling fresh of spring water all the time. There's nothing more depressing than seeing people exhale when you walk by because you reek of baul (camphor chest) or lupa (dirt). Old age or bust, don't look and smell like a corpse when you're not one yet.
7. Do not meddle in the life of your children. If they ask for your counsel, give it, but be ready to accept that they may not take it. Their situations in life cannot be compared to the situations that you experienced in your life. The playing field has changed and they need to develop their own set of survival skills. If you raised them to be street smart, they can handle themselves in tough situations and be able to read people. Champion and encourage their dreams and desires but on their own terms.
8. Do not use old age as your shield and justification for turning grumpy. There's nothing more annoying than an arrogant, old fool. Welcome each day as another chance to be kind and forgiving, to yourself and to others.
9. Listen to what others may say. Do not throw your weight around just because you are a septuagenarian or a nonagenarian. You are not a depository of knowledge. Even if the roles have been reversed, make growing old a fun-filled, pleasant experience for you and your brood.
10. Pray always and focus on your eternal life. You will definitely leave everything behind, a final journey detached from burden and care. Be more accepting that, sooner, not later, you will croak. Prepare your swan song with a humble and contrite heart. If you believe in a merciful and loving God, there is no need to strut like a star. Nobody is.
Wednesday, December 05, 2012
Sex is good, sex is fine, doggy style or 69, just for fun, or getting paid, everyone likes getting laid.
Lovable, cuddable, sex able, flexible, I'm just so damn incredible
Is sex dirty? Only if its done right.
Pizza is a lot like sex. When it's good, it's really good. When it's bad, it's still pretty good.
C'mon abuse me more, I like it!
Come on, say it again. I'm a perfect devil. Tell me how bad I am. It makes me feel so good!
Love. Words can express it good, feelings can express it better. Hard pounding motions express it best.
Sex relieves tension - love causes it.
Sorry! Does any of these quotes disturbed you? If you happened to read them in the day, you might be annoyed but if is late night now you might be thrilled over them.
The world comes in the form of good and bad. You could be a gentleman or a lady who speaks with politeness all the time but without the presence of the outside world, both gentleman and lady could be the wildest creatures in a stormy night together. Gentle outside but wild inside! I believe all of us have this instinct... Good and the Bad.
Tuesday, December 04, 2012
Well spoken! And I have to do it everyday just like what Dalai Lama said.
I have been collecting birthday of my friends for more than 40 years and I never failed to greet them each and every year. Almost everyday on my personal calender, I have friends celebrating their birthday. Today is Chen Jiun Bao's birthday. He was my classmate when we were in form 4 and 5. I can say it's more than 48 years of friendship now. Though we don't meet so often, I make it a point to reach up to him on his great day... Today!
The early morning before Jiun Bao got up, I quickly sent him a message... "You are like a super bike, the older it be the rusty it shall be but once polish and fine tuning, the engine shines and roars with speed. Happy Birthday to this admirable friend Jiun Bao."
Later when he got up, my wishes was the first he saw. He replied, "Thank you very much. You are always a very good friend of mine."
Not satisfied with his mood, I sent another text to him... "A good day to date your darling wife for a candle light dinner strictly for only both you. Remember to kiss and hug her dearly. Then send the bills to me. What is friend for. Good luck."
He was speechless. And I knew he was so happy for I'm the only classmate who could still remember his 65 years' young birthday. I learned from the great Master Dalai Lama, and I practised what I had learned.
Monday, December 03, 2012
Can the old mixes with the young? Or can the young mixes with the old? It's debatable but generally I think its difficulty for these both young and older generation to meet and talk freely together.
My experiences... When I was in the forties, I saw those older club members who were in the late fifties or sixties were the most unfriendly class. Though they might had gained some financial standing and statues at that age, they were prideful and unapproachable to the younger groups. Their look was stern and serious, creating a fear for the younger people to meet up with them. Inside the gym room if ever they bother to visit then, they looked weak and lifeless to me. I was never impressed upon by them and I knew one day I would be at their age. Deep down in my heart, I told myself then I would avoid at all cost not to be like them. Not to be old, unhealthy, weak, unfriendly, unapproachable, selfish, prideful and unpopular.
Twenty years had passed by. If you ever got the chance to visit my club house in KL today, let me entertain you at our place and see to believe the different. I'm the oldest senior member, especially inside the gym but the youngest in heart and the most playful one who always create fun and laughter for the young and the old here. Each time I walked into the gym to exercise, all members would be happy to see me. They knew I would never fail to make things exciting for them. Yes! I had proven myself that I wish not to be like those old unfriendly members of the yesteryear. The only way to befriend the younger people is to low down our esteem. Speak to them at their level, speak to their tune and language. Don't wait for them but rather I have to approach and rub shoulder with these younger gentlemen. Once we could communicate and interact together, friendship and relationship could be built easily.
Tell you what. The secret of keeping young is to have a lot of younger people around as friends. Try please!
I like this quote - "One of the best parts of growing older? You can flirt all you like since you've become harmless" ~ Liz Smith
Sunday, December 02, 2012
'There is more to tell, Father... She started to repay me with sexual
favours. This happened several times a week, and sometimes twice on Sunday.'
The priest said, 'That was a long time ago and by doing what you did, you placed the two of you in great danger. But two people under those circumstances can easily succumb to the weakness of the flesh. However, if you are truly sorry for your actions, you are indeed forgiven.'
'Thank you, Father. That's a great load off my mind. I do have one more question.'
'And what is that?' asked the priest.
'Should I tell her the war is over?'
Friday, November 30, 2012
"You cannot taste me, until you undress me?"
“You cannot eat me unless you lick me"
- Ice cream
“You cannot play with me unless you blow me"
“You cannot enjoy me unless you suck me"
"You make me wet & put me in your mouth everyday"
" You cannot eat me unless you spread me"
…and the Most Killer One
"You cannot kiss me unless you praise me"
Thursday, November 29, 2012
A lady agent of 18 years in the business asked me this question. A client had bought a plan with her and insisted to be given a discount from the sales. She doesn't want to give discount and also afraid to loose the customer at the same time. How lah???
I have been in the business for 30 years, and I kept to my principle that no discount would be given. Commission is our blood line or income to keep us in the career. Without the income from the sales generated, I won't think it's possible for me to stay in this challenging business for this long.
I gave up my job thirty years ago to venture into this noble profession, selling life insurance. A career without basic salary and other benefits. I had to learn and relearned all about this industry to update my progress as I work along. There is no boss to dictate my path, while I control and manage my destiny. I have to be brave and courageous to face the unknown. I have to take constant rejections and objections from the unfriendly prospects and yet to remain in this tough selling. For those who became my clients, I promised to remain faithful and loyal to them. I promised to serve rather than to be served. I promised to be there whenever I'm needed in any eventualities happened. From the thousand of clients we grew together, when I offer them the peace of mind and in return they rewarded me well financially. Today, all my sons had completed their decent overseas studies and I had a chance to have travelled round the world. Though I'm not rich as some of my wealthy clients, I am contented because I have a comfortable house to call as a successful home. All these are made possible because all my existing clients are willing to pay their premium in full and hadn't asked for discount.
Conclusion: A weak agent might consider to give discount in order to clinch a desperate sale, while a successful agent offers sincerity and seriousness to the satisfied clients.
Food for thought - "For every sale you miss because you're too enthusiastic, you will miss a hundred because you're not enthusiastic enough" - Zig Ziglar quotes
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Thirty years ago when I took up the challenge to sell life insurance was because I was highly inspired by the products. The products were mainly on protection, providing security to the individuals and the families. Should a father die on an untimely death, the benefits would immediately pay cash to the surviving family members. The family would have shelter and food, the children could continue their studies and the entire family could still live in dignity. Or if the individual fell severely sick, he needed not to worry about the high cost of medical bills to come. I was greatly motivated to sell that 'peace of mind' to everyone I encountered those days.
So sad of today! We no longer talked about protection or the sum insured, rather the companies are offering values to inspire agents to sell. The values come in the form of premium income, the more premium we bring in, the more commission would be paid. The premium could be high, and yet the protection could be lower. Those days, premium was much lower but the protection was much higher instead. All the seminars seldom mentioned saving and protecting lives, rather they created motivation with dreams and financial success. On top of it, they threw in expensive and tempting trips and holidays to excite more sales.
Conclusion: I think it's much easier to motivate the mind than the heart. Most younger agents could easily be inspired with dreams and thoughts but to sink into the heart one needs plenty of understanding of life. The mind could be corrupted but not the heart.
Food for the thought - “When the heart speaks, the mind finds it indecent to object.” - Milan Kundera