Wednesday, March 31, 2010

All women must read.

What I Want In A Man!
Original List:

1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates finer things
9.. Full of thoughtful surprises

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 32)

1. Nice looking
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Listens more than talks
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Remembers birthdays and anniversaries

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42)

1. Not too ugly
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
4. Nods head when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
8.. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
10. Shaves most weekends

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52)

1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
5. Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off the couch on weekends
7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
9. Remembers your name on occasion
10. Shaves some weekends

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62)

1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when asleep
5. Remembers why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears some clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers that it's the weekend

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72)

1. Breathing.
2. Doesn't miss the toilet.





Tuesday, March 30, 2010

I like sleeping.

Most older folks used to say, as they grow older they tend to sleep lesser. They sleep early in the night and get up before dawn. They only need to sleep less than five hours. Definitely not me! I love sleeping and i need to sleep at least eight hours a day. Usually i sleep after writing my blog at midnight and please don't disturb me until the next morning at eight. Perhaps i am still a growing child who requires to sleep more than seven hours. Otherwise i would not be a happy person on the day.

I have a friend Lee who claims that sleeping is a waste of time. Sleeping is unproductive he said. He spends every minute a day doing something useful. When everybody in his house is asleep, he would still be working at something. He usually sleeps at 2am and gets up at 4am. I wonder how the two hours of sleep is sufficient for him. Believe or not, he is still in tip top condition at age of 57 currently. One person who doesn't enjoy sleeping.

I had also read articles which confirmed that there are few living males in the world who don't need to sleep at all. Sleeping is never in their mind. Their bodies are built in such a way that they could survive as normal people without rest. In order to pass the day, all of them have three different employments to occupy themselves. Thanks God I am not one of them.

Come this morning i will be going to the airport soon. I have booked a flight to Bangkok where i intend to stay for about four nights. Purpose is to relax and sleep as much as possible before coming home. You think i am stupid? No!!!! Sleeping allows one to recharge and distress ourselves. Perhaps this is one reason i am still young and healthy.

Consider this - “I divide my time as follows: half the time I sleep, the other half I dream. I never dream when I sleep, for that would be a pity, for sleeping is the highest accomplishment of genius.” - Soren Kierkegaard quotes

Monday, March 29, 2010

I need encouragement too.

Steph is a very strong character lady who claims she is one person that doesn't need encouragement and admiration from others. She shuns and rejects all compliments given to her. I don't think she is telling the truth because i believe everyone on earth needs to be appreciated one way or another. The only different is, one who is being admired would accept and appreciate the givers whole heartily. They accept the compliments with a big 'Thank You' from their heart. The other one only feels good in their heart silently and refuse to speak over it. They normally stare at the givers without even returning a smile. Meaning, they like to hear sweet nice words given but do not like to revive their inner happiness.

Not me! I like to be recognised and being admired. Recognisation and admiration motivate me to improve further. They create positive energies, which could inspire beyond imagination.

Few days back i received an unexpected email from a reader, and i like to share my happiness over her compliment for me. She wrote....

Hi Robert,
Glad you are back in KL again. I am 1 month behind you in reading your blog. Just imagine you need time to think and write but I only read yet could not catch up. Before you went to China, I am at par with you but recently I have been busy with work organising for my company's BMW showroom opening but I am determined to catch up with you by using BMW's twin engine turbo speed.!!!

Well I always like to read your blog 1st thing in the morning or lunch time as it is entertaining as well as amusing, naughty sometimes, enlightening and knowledgeable. It covers a wide range of topics that are applicable to our life that is why you called it Wisdom of Life...... I like to see the pictures as well as cartoons that are so funny. It applies to the topic that you are writing. The only thing that I don't like is when you write on selling life insurance as this does not apply to me but I read it anyhow.

Keep on writing and I am sure you have many readers out there who appreciate what you have written and that is someone like me.

Lai Har

I replied her immediately...Hi My Dear Lai Hai,
This letter from you really makes my day. The thoughtfulness of you makes my blog worth writing for everyone to read everyday. Is true! Isn't easy to write everyday. You need to create the time and interest to do it. Most important to have the right and interesting ideas and topics to benefit the readers. Is tough but please keep encouraging me from time to time. Thank you so much again.

Warmest Regards,

Robert. Still trying to be naughty.

Gives encouragement -"The higher your energy level, the more efficient your body. The more efficient your body, the better you feel and the more you will use your talent to produce outstanding results." - Anthony Robbins

Sunday, March 28, 2010

Last Hours.

A Sunday's laugh....

Morris returns from the doctor and tells his wife that the doctor has told him that he has only 24 hours to live.

Given the prognosis, Morris asks his wife for sex. Naturally, she agrees, so they make love.

About 6 hours later, the husband goes to his wife and says, 'Honey, you know I now have only 18 hours to live. Could we please do it one more time?'

Of course, the wife agrees, and they do it again.

Later, as the man gets into bed, he looks at his watch and realizes that he now has only 8 hours left.

He touches his wife's shoulder and asks, 'Honey, please... just one more time before I die.' She says, 'Of course, Dear,' and they make love for the third time. After this session, the wife rolls over and falls to sleep. Morris, however, worried about his impending death, tosses and turns, until he's down to 4 more hours. He taps his wife, who rouses. 'Honey, I have only 4 more hours.
Do you think we could...'

At this point the wife sits up and says, 'Listen Morris, enough is enough I have to get up in the morning... you don't.'

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Love, sex and the male brain.

To understand the male brain, suggest to read on...

(CNN) -- Although women the world over have been doing it for centuries, we can't really blame a guy for being a guy. And this is especially true now that we know that the male and female brains have some profound differences.

Our brains are mostly alike. We are the same species, after all. But the differences can sometimes make it seem like we are worlds apart.

The "defend your turf" area -- dorsal premammillary nucleus -- is larger in the male brain and contains special circuits to detect territorial challenges by other males. And his amygdala, the alarm system for threats, fear and danger is also larger in men. These brain differences make men more alert than women to potential turf threats.

Meanwhile, the "I feel what you feel" part of the brain -- mirror-neuron system -- is larger and more active in the female brain. So women can naturally get in sync with others' emotions by reading facial expressions, interpreting tone of voice and other nonverbal emotional cues.

Perhaps the biggest difference between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. Not only that, but beginning in their teens, they produce 200 to 250 percent more testosterone than they did during pre-adolescence.

If testosterone were beer, a 9-year-old boy would be getting the equivalent of a cup a day. But a 15-year-old would be getting the equivalent of nearly two gallons a day. This fuels their sexual engines and makes it impossible for them to stop thinking about female body parts and sex.

There's the 'Man Trance,' that glazed-eye look a man gets when he sees breasts. -- Louann Brizendine.

Editor's note: Dr. Louann Brizendine is a member of the American Board of Psychiatry and Neurology and the National Board of Medical Examiners, and a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of California, San Francisco. She is founder and director of the Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic. She wrote "The Female Brain" and, just released, "The Male Brain."

My personal view for the ladies..So the next round when we, the men are staring at you, please forgive us because we really can't control our brain as we are 2.5 times more sexual pursuit over yours. As for those gentlemen, don't try to suppress your brain when you are attracted to a gorgeous sexy lady. Its our natural instinct to think likewise.

Suggested my Dr. Louanu Brizendine....

The human brain is the best learning machine on the planet and human beings are capable of making major changes in our lives. But there are some things that the male brain and female brain are not likely to change anytime soon. And it makes more sense to deal with these brain realities, than to argue with them or ignoring them.

The best advice I have for women is make peace with the male brain. Let men be men.

Friday, March 26, 2010

Down but not defeated.

Khor is a beautiful fair lady. Though she is in her late fifties, she looks so much younger. She has all the beauties of a true hearted woman and yet she is still single, not willing to get marry when she was even younger. The reason was simply Khor was born as a polio victim. Her left leg is badly affected and she has to walk with a limp. With a very inferior complex, she seldom mixes and works independently as a self employed tailor operates through a little apartment.

Her both parents had gone, and all her brothers and sisters are happily married staying on their own, leaving Khor to age by herself. I had a chance to speak with her lately, when i could sense she was speaking with so much of truth from the heart. According to her, she never had many opportunities to speak with men because most males avoided her when they saw her defect. Her heartaches and her mind ponders with sorrow. She never wish to live long in life, as living is miserable to her.

This was what i told her. You are considered a special child at birth. As a polio victim, you live without sin, you speak from the heart whereas most normal people speak with the mind. The heart is always pure and sincere, whereas the mind could be corrupted and sinful in thought. Though you have a deformity on your leg, you have a beautiful heart and soul which is more important. I judge a person not from her look but rather from her within and i am sure there are many wisdom people would think likewise. Khor was flattered and i promised to call her as often as possible to make sure life is worth living no matter what happened.

Specially to my friend Khor - "The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."

Thursday, March 25, 2010

No man is indispensible.

I spoke with my good friend, Hanafiah this morning. On phone he told me that he was sad and frustrated because his partner had left him.

I was wondering which partner at first! Was it his business partner or his sweetheart partner at home? Thanks God! It was his business partner. A business partner can come and go but not a sweetheart. When a business partner left him, he might be lost for a moment. Emotionally he could feel angry, frustrated, upset and rejected. If his sweetheart leaves him, not only his mind is disturbed, his heart would be at severe pain.

Meaning.. Hanafiah currently is only having pain in his mind but his heart is as loving as ever because his sweetheart is still besides him.

Suggestion to my good friend. Nothing is permanent. Since he could not get along with his working partner, he still has friends like us to cheer him up. More so the sweetheart at home should stand by him now. Don't forget... nobody is indispensable in this world. Hanafiah, you do have the ability to work by yourself because you have the intelligence and smartness too.

Edward Bulwer-Lytton (1803-1873) Quoted - "The pen is mightier than the sword"

Hanafiah... are you the pen or the sword?

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Unprofessional & unethical practices.

So sad to read such news....

SOME insurance companies in Johor are recruiting female agents to have sex with potential customers, Guang Ming Daily re-ported.

The companies also arranged for the agents to party with the would-be clients at nightclubs and karaoke outlets.

Sources told the newspaper that the female agents were recruited among divorcees, single mothers or those helping their boyfriends repay debts.

“These are women who will do anything for money,” the sources said, adding that the agents went after middle-aged small entrepreneurs who were not very highly educated.

Agents who failed to “hit” their targets would be punished by having to “showcase” themselves in adult diapers or lingerie.

They were also forced to pay fines of between RM1,000 and RM3,000 to their company.

My personal opinion: These unprofessional and unethical practices are unacceptable. I am sure they would not last long in this career and sales closed should have high lapses. And in any businesses there bound to have some black sheeps.

Perfection quote - “Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, of faith, of desire. Practice is a means of inviting the perfection desired.” - Martha Graham.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

A Happy Heart Sees A Beautiful World.

The last weekend i was in Singapore again, having fun with my three little brothers, i mean my grand children. The eldest boy who is nine this year asked, "Kor Kor. Do you like to be here in Singapore or you prefer Malaysia?

When this question was thrown to me at that moment, my in law the lady of the house was around with us. Instead of replying him, i smiled to their grand mum and seek her opinion. She was proud to said, "As a Singaporean, i love to be here."

They looked at me and insisted a response. This was my answer...A happy heart will see a beautiful world. I am lucky to be blessed with a happy heart. Whether is Malaysia or in Singapore i am equally happy because i could see joy and excitement wherever i go. In Singapore i have the joy to be with my son and family. Playing with these three little brothers gives me laughter and satisfaction. Back in Malaysia and in Kuala Lumpur, i get all the excitement from my career by selling life insurance. Meeting my clients and friends is a hobby to me. Yes! Unless your heart is happy, my little brother, you will never be able to see the beauty of this world.

I sincerely hope they understood what my meaning was all about. For that i add, "Happiness cannot be seen or touched. It can only be felt with our heart."

Monday, March 22, 2010

The Test of Three.

In ancient Greece (469 - 399 BC), Socrates was widely lauded for his wisdom.

One day the great philosopher came upon an acquaintance, who ran up to him excitedly and said, "Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students...? "

"Wait a moment," Socrates replied. "Before you tell me, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Test of Three."

"Test of Three?"

"That's correct," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my student let's take a moment to test what you're going to say.. The first test is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man replied, "actually I just heard about it."

"All right," said Socrates.. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second test, the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my student something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him even though you're not certain it's true?"

The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.

Socrates continued, "You may still pass though because there is a third test - the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really..."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell it to me at all?"

The man was defeated and ashamed and said no more.

This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher and held in such high esteem.
(Keep this philosophy in mind the next time you hear, or are out to repeat a rumour.)

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Caught the wrong guy.

Relax & have some fun again...

One morning at a doctor's surgery a patient arrives complaining of serious back-pain. The doctor examines him and asks him "OK, what happened to your back?"

The patient replies "You know that I work for a local night club? This morning I got home to my apartment early and heard a noise in my bedroom. On entering I knew someone had been with my wife and the balcony door was open. I rushed out the balcony door and did not find anyone. As I looked down from the balcony I saw a man running out and he was dressing himself. I grabbed the cupboard and threw it at him, that’s how I strained my back"

The 2nd patient arrives looking as if he has been in a car wreck. The doctor said "My previous patient looked bad, but you look terrible. What the hell happened to you?"

He replied, "You know I have been unemployed for a while now .Today was the first day at my new job. I forgot to set my alarm and was running late. I was running out of the building, getting dressed at the same time, and you won't believe it but I was hit by a cupboard."

The 3rd patient arrives; he looks even worse than the other two patients do. The doctor is shocked. Again asks, "What the hell happened to you.... .?"

"Well I was sitting inside a cupboard & someone threw it from the 3rd floor"

This quote is meant for the joke - "The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend" - (Henri Bergson)

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Learn to pay attention.

I bet you! You will laugh....

First year students of MBBS were attending their first Anatomy class. They all gathered around the surgery table with a real dead dog.

The Professor began the class by telling about the two important qualities of a Doctor. The first he said, 'NEVER BE DISGUSTED AT ANYTHING ABOUT THE BODY'. To prove his point he inserted his finger into the dog's arse and on drawing back tasted it with his mouth. Then he told them to do the same.

The students hesitated at first for several minutes but eventually everyone inserted their fingers in the dog's arse and then tasted it.

When everyone had finished, the Professor looked at them and said 'The most important next quality is OBSERVATION. I inserted my middle finger in but tasted with my Index finger. Now learn to pay attention.

Moral: Life is tough but it's a lot tougher when you are not paying attention.

Friday, March 19, 2010

The Power of Our Thoughts

Thoughts carry tremendous creative power. Consciously or not, before every spoken word, there is a thought. In the same way, there is a thought proceeding every action. Since thoughts shape our words and behaviors, they inevitably shape our environment, relationships and

As part of our unique human power, our higher reasoning process separates us from other species. With our birth gifts of higher thoughts, inventions are made and modern civilization becomes a reality.

Unfortunately, most of us do not utilize the power of thoughts effectively. Instead of managing our thoughts positively and using them to create a better reality, we have become powerless with our thoughts. For example, how many of us catch ourselves daydreaming often and allow our mind to wonder from places to places without much control? On the other hand, how many of us try to control our lives ineffectively by allowing repetitively negative thoughts to dominate our mind such as worrying obsessively. Without learning to master the power of our thoughts, no wonder we feel anxious and depressed most of the time!

The power of our thoughts truly deserves our better attention as the quality of our thoughts determines the quality of our life. Negative thoughts create negative state of mind; therefore, they produce negative actions following by negative results. This sounds bad, doesn’t it? The good news is that in the same way, high quality thoughts create high quality state of mind; therefore, they produce positive actions and wonderful and positive results. Isn’t this a great incentive for us to pay attention and learn to monitor our thoughts carefully?

A good exercise is to start paying attention to the quality of our thoughts for a day. Your job is to reject any negative or limited thoughts as soon as they surface. Any “I can’t” or “too” judgments are out of the windows immediately. You might be surprised by how many negative thoughts you think daily. You might also discover that some of these thoughts are not even originally yours! What a relief! When I first started this exercise, I noticed that there were more negative thoughts than positive ones. Most of the negative thoughts were not even valid. Unfortunately, they had become part of my “thinking habits”. Eventually, I learned that the price I had paid for my habitual negative thoughts were way too high as they robbed away my happiness and my ability to create a good life.

Becoming conscious of the power of our thoughts is a necessity to improve the quality of our lives. Starting today, pay good attention to your thought quality. Use the power of your thoughts to create a good life because it is your birth right! As each of us becomes more conscious and becomes the master of our mind, we together can use our mind in creating more beauty, joy and goodness in the world.

Food for thought - "Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one's thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world" - Goethe

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Never Worry how many people Dislike you.

A man hated his wife's cat and he decided to get rid of it. He drove 20 blocks away from home and dropped the cat there. The cat was already walking up the driveway when he approached his home.

The next day, he decided to drop the cat 40 blocks away but the same thing happened.. He kept increasing the number of blocks but the cat kept coming home before him.

At last he decided to drive a few miles away, turn right, then left, past the bridge, then right again and another right and so on until he reached what he thought was a perfect spot and dropped the cat there.

An hour later.... The man calls his wife at home and asked her, "Jen is the cat there?" "Yes, why do you ask?" answered the wife.

Frustrated the man said, "Put that damn cat on the phone, I am lost and I need directions to reach home!!!"

Moral: "How much ever we dislike somebody, someday we will need their assistance. So never worry how many people dislike you... "

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Mother's love.

Something different i learned from a good wise friend. Kabeer is sixty years young, and his mother had just passed away two years ago. Kabeer is residing in Malaysia since a little boy. He never failed to see his mother who was living in India. He made it a point to fly home to be with his parents as often as possible, though his family and business is here. Each time when he was at home with his mum, he allowed the old lady to bath him like a child. He would wear a sarong while his mum would pour water over his head. Closing his eyes, the lady of almost 80 years would clean his head and shoulder. According to Kabeer, the bathing of him by his mum created a sense of bonding. The water was a blessing from her and the touches kept her young at heart. And the great lady had been bathing the son since baby until the last journey of her life. At his last bath by his mum, Kabeer was already 58.

The virtue and teaching of the mother nurtured Kabeer to be a most understanding and thoughtful man i have ever known. He is a very successful man with a humble and kind hearted personality. How i wished my mum is still around to give me a spiritual bathe.

Food for thought - "When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child" ~ Sophia Loren, Women and Beauty

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

'Why Women Emigrate To Australia'

THEY GROW ON TREES!!! This hilarious picture was sent over by a naughty lady.

To think about it, I believe most marriages and relationships are broken partly because women are not satisfied with the one they have at home. A man could be a perfect person but without the joyful stick in order, he would never be a happy man. Gentlemen please take care of yours.

Quotable quote - "God gave men both a penis and a brain, but unfortunately not enough blood supply to run both at the same time" - Robin Williams.

Monday, March 15, 2010

Be joyful dear.

How i wish the person i love so much would not be so crazy of her sales, her expensive holidays, her dream car, her ideal house, her latest dresses and fashion, her handbags, her shoes but rather her health, respect, pride, kindness, intelligence, self-esteem and the purity of her heart. Most people would chase for their earthly possessions to be happy and forgotten that the real happiness comes from the heart.

Would wish to remind her - "Joy is not in things; it is in us" ~ Richard Wagner.

Sunday, March 14, 2010


A good wise friend Ranjit Singh shared these with me & Makes so much sense........!!!!!! The last one is so important to note, spend it on yourself, you deserve it!


.No point using limited life to chase unlimited money.

.No point earning so much money you cannot live to spend it.

.Money is not yours until you spend it.

.When you are young, you use your health to chase your wealth;when you are old, you use your wealth to buy back your health. Difference is that, it is too late.

.How happy a man is, is not how much he has but how little he needs.

.No point working so hard to provide for the people who have no time to spend with you!!!

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Camilla & Charles.

Have a laugh...

Camilla bought a new pair of shoes for her wedding which got increasingly tighter & tighter as the day went on.
That night after the festivities were finally over, she and Charles had retired to their room at the palace.
Camilla flopped on the bed and said 'Please remove my shoes darling, they are killing me.'
Ever obedient, the Prince of Wales attacked her right shoe with vigour.
But it would not budge. 'Harder' yelled Camilla. 'Harder?' Charles yelled back, 'I'm trying darling! But it's just so bloody tight!' 'Come on, give it all you've got ' she cried.

Finally when it released, Charles let out a big groan, and Camilla exclaimed 'Oh God, that feels so good.'
In their bedroom next door, The Queen turned to Prince Phillip and said, 'See, I told you she would still be a virgin with a face like that!'
Meanwhile back in the other bedroom Charles was attempting to remove the other shoe when he cried out 'Oh god, darling this one's even tighter'. At which point, Prince Phillip turned and said to the Queen: 'That's my boy, once a Navy man, always a Navy man!'

Friday, March 12, 2010

The art of meeting people.

Selling tips...

Is 'drinking & smoking' the fastest way to connect into the business circle? Talking to most younger people, they said yes. According to them clubbing is the fast way to net work yourself. Socializing in the night by drinking helps to build relationship with their clients and friends. Whether is true or not, i think it's debatable and depending on the individual liking.

I am not a drinker and i dislike smoking, and yet i have been selling for the past 40 years without having to entertain my clients and associates by such habits. Give me a prospect or someone i haven't met before, with my heart and mind, i am sure to make him like me instantly. A sincere heart plus a creative mind are my tools to connect to people. I don't need the cigarette to start a conversation, neither do i need a glass of beer to cheer a soul. Just allow me a short moment, my soothing smiles would open your eyes, my senses could see through your heart to feel whether you are happy, my words come with wisdom to enlighten and strengthen your mind, my humour would make you laugh until you won't forget me and before i leave i would make sure my name is implanted in one corner of your heart.

Yes! I don't need the drink and cigarette to build relationship with others when one has the sincerity to meet another person. What about you?

Food for thought - “Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives.” - William A. Foster quotes

Thursday, March 11, 2010

Healthier men want more sex for more years.

Some facts you should know...

(CNN) -- Healthier men, no matter their age, are going to have better sex more frequently and desire it more often than healthier women.

And a healthier sex life could mean a longer life.

That's according to a paper written by University of Chicago researchers that was published Tuesday in the British Medical Journal. While the supposition that men think about sex more than women isn't new, the paper's findings have wider implication for attitudes toward public health and how patients respond to doctors' advice, said Dr. Stacy Tessler Lindau, an associate professor of obstetrics and gynecology and geriatric medicine who spearheaded the research.

"If you are a man diagnosed with diabetes or high blood pressure and I tell you that you need to lose weight and take medication, and I can say the benefit is five extra years of sex life, you might be more inclined to do what I tell you," she explained.

1. The drive for sex among men doesn't diminish with age.
2. For women 60 years and older, sex drops off significantly overall, study says.
3. Study: Women whose partners are still alive are having just as much sex as men

I think is true - "Sex without love is merely healthy exercise" ~ Robert Heinlein

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

Can water be affected by our words?

Amazing! Can water be affected by our words? Dr. Masaru Emoto, a Japanese scientist, believes so. And he has proof.

Dr. Emoto took water droplets, exposed them to various words, music, and environments, and froze them for three hours. He then examined the crystal formations under a dark field microscope. And he took photographs.

The results were totally mind-blowing.

Here’s a photo of ordinary water without any prayer spoken over it. The molecular structure is in disarray.

The photos below is water after the prayer was said. It’s simply breathtaking. (I now have a great respect for praying before meals! More on this later.)

Here’s water exposed to classical music and folk dance music. Looks much better, right?

Next, Dr. Emoto stuck a piece of paper with these words: “You make me sick. I will kill you.” Here’s how the frozen water droplets looks like under the microscope
Below is how water looked like with the words “Love” over it. The difference is amazing.

This is Polluted water…

This is water from Lourdes , France . Utterly beautiful, right?
Wait A Minute— Aren’t You Made Up Of Water?
Yes! 72% of your body is made up of water. Imagine how your words affect your own body. When you say, “I’m a failure,” or “I’m hopeless,” or “I won’t get well,” imagine how these words weaken your health.
Make a choice to say the best words out there. Say often, “I’m wonderful,” and “I’m beautiful,”. It’s not only water.
Dr. Emoto also experimented with cooked rice. He placed one cup of cooked rice in two airtight jars. On one jar, he wrote, “I love you,” and on the other, “You fool.” Everyday for 30 days, Dr. Emoto would say these words to each jar of rice.
After 30 days, the “I love you” rice was still white. But the “You fool” rice was so rotten, it was black. How can you explain this?
Just as a side note: When I was a child, my mother taught me to pray before meals. Now I realize it wasn’t just a nice thing to do. When I pray over my meal, I know a material transformation takes place in the molecular level of the food that I pray for. I say, “Be blessed,” to the water and food on the table—and I expect it to be blessed.
Yeah – that’s why we always wish others well on birthdays, anniversaries, graduation, festivals, examination days, etc…. BE BLESSED, everybody!!!
On a more serious note : (from an article written by a scientist in response to skeptics debunking Emoto’s studies ) :
The Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine which ran the Emoto article also contains topics that are not mainstream medicine and science, and include a practices like acupuncture or meditation that lie outside the main areas of medical science.
The Emoto article ran as what they called a "PhotoEssay", and was not written up in conventional scientific style, but was much more informal. The label and the style strongly suggest that the article was not peer-reviewed by conventional scientists, but was simply published as received.
May the blessing of almighty be with you always.

Tuesday, March 09, 2010


In our day to day's life, effective communication is vital important. The way we speak and write has to be correct. Otherwise misunderstanding and miscommunication could occur unnecessary.

Today i was supposed to meet up with one intelligent lady. Before i left the office, i received this message from her, "My father brother wife passaway. They are bc today."

I was shocked to read the first sentence. Is she telling me her father, brother and wife all passed away at the same time due to an accident. The next sentence made me guessed and pondered further.

I replied her, "You mean your uncle's wife passed away, and your father and brother are busy today because of her death!!!" She said "Yes!" For a minute i was frightened, but her YES relieved my fear. The typical Chinese refers uncle's wife as "father brother wife." So if she wants to refer her nephew in that sequence, most likely she might write "My Father Brother Wife Son". Thanks God! She wrote to another typical Chinese here who understood her.

Food for thought - "Remember not only to say the right thing in the right place, but far more difficult still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment" - Benjamin Franklin.

Monday, March 08, 2010

Two love birds that talk & listen.

There is a proverb which says "One who loves to talk and one who likes to listen keeps a lasting relationship."

Faat and his wife, is a loving couple i have known for 25 years. Since they had shifted home without me knowing, i had not seen them for the last 17 years. By chances, i got to meet them again when the husband called on phone to my company for some enquiries. Immediately i visited this family last week for a reunion. Upon meeting these friends with joy and happiness, i could see the man has grown to be wiser and the lady is still young and beautiful. He is 60 and the sweet wife is 55.

Faat and wife have been married for 39 years. They have six children and 12 grand children. From their faces, i could see they are still so much in love. While talking to me in their comfortable home, they were not shy to hold their hands together most of the time. They spoke with laughter and had much to share.

One of the question i asked, how did you both keep the marriage so exciting and interesting. The lady openly said, my husband never failed to make me laughed with jokes almost everyday. We slept only at 4 in the morning last nite because we were talking endlessly on bed, and his stories and jokes kept me listening without falling asleep. I was amazed! They are married for 39 years and are still going strong in love & romance. See! The above quoted proverb is true and worked marvellously. He talks and she listens whole heartily.

Yes! Faat & wife have certainly demonstated well in this thought - "The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.” - Morrie Schwartz quotes

Sunday, March 07, 2010


Seeker went to the Guru. Guru was sitting under the tree which is his permanent residence.
"I am not happy. Where can I find happiness?"
"Happiness is everywhere."
"How can I find happiness?"
Guru smiled. "Simple. There are so many ways. Helping others is one."
"But I don't get chances to help others."

Guru smiled. "Just recall the past. Haven't you helped anyone?"
After deep thinking the seeker said, "No."
" No. "
"Day before yesterday?"
" No. " The seeker said with a sad face .
"But today you have helped two human beings."
The seeker looked at the Guru with confusion.

"You have helped yourself by seeking the way for happiness and you have helped me to help you to find happiness ." The Guru said with a big grin.

The seeker returned with happiness in mind.

Food of thought - "The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up." ~Mark Twain

Saturday, March 06, 2010

Raped without complaint.

Is a true story & have a laugh..

In a late night, a 60 years old widow was awakened by two thieves who were ransacking the house. She was sleeping alone at that time. Finding no valuable thing, the two young strangers got angry. Instead they confronted the scary and frightening lady. She had only a hundred dollar to spare for these desperate robbers. Out of anger and frustration, they took turns to rape the poor elderly woman.

The next morning when her daughter came to her rescue, wanting to take the mother to report to the police, she softly uttered these few words, "Ever since your father passed away 10 years ago, I have not experienced such exciting and tempting sex with any man. They both really thrilled me into paradise with their wildness. Shall I have to tell this part to the police?"

Now readers, you have to guess what is next....!!!!

Would you agree - "When a man talks dirty to a woman, it's sexual harassment. When a woman talks dirty to a man, it's $3.95 a minute" ~Author Unknown

Friday, March 05, 2010

Please love me unconditionally.

Hi ladies out there! I am trying to study women minds. Most female friends I encountered told me this. They feel more secure when their men they loved could provide some forms of security for them to hold. The securities could be a house, car, cash or credit cards. Is it true you feel better when these are given to you. Some ladies said, the more my man gives me, the more I would love him.

Of all there is only one special lady who said, she doesn't need any materialistic possession, except the true love from her husband. I was indeed touched by her statement. When she first married her husband many years ago, he was not doing well in business. He was 22 years older than her. It was his second marriage and the first for the young wife. She married the man with one thought in mind, to be always God fearing and take the husband as important. She loves him without any condition. She prays for him everyday, she prays for his good fortune and welfare. Believe me! Today the man is a very wealthy and successful business man. Though the wife did not even ask, the man is too willing to flower his lady with all those good tastes of life now.

Comparing to those women who demand and request their dreams from their men, non of these couples is as successful as the one I mentioned above. Perhaps most women have forgotten, LOVE is unconditional and LOVE has magic. The minute you have the thought to feel secure by being loved and to love with securities given, this might not be true love in you.

Read this quote carefully.."Behind every successful man, there is always a lady." A lady who could love him whole heartily, making sure he is leading a right path of life. She should feel the glory and pride of seeing her man achieveing success. She has the confidence the man will be standing with her at the same time. Her trust over him is her sense of security and not the house or cash given. It sounds ridiculous but is true facts of love. Any females like to say something. Please correct me if I am at wrong.

Specially for little darling - "A woman has got to love a bad man once or twice in her life, to be thankful for a good one" - Marjorie Kinnan Rawlings quotes

Thursday, March 04, 2010

A religious woman makes a better wife.

A young man asks a spiritual master, "Advise me guru. To get marry to a good wife, what is the quality that I should look from a woman? Beauty, intelligence or wealth?"

The wise guru hesitate a moment. He says, marry to a religious girl and you would be the most happiest person. A religious woman is one who will take her husband as the most important person on earth next to the God she loves. The teaching that she has been taught would make her beautiful in heart, the guidance of her belief would broaden her mind and her faithful love would inspire her man to be successful.

If the young man applies his ear to listen, he might believe this spiritual wisdom. If he depends his eyes to sight, I am sure he would still look for beauty, intelligence and wealth.

"Treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers." - From the last sermon of Prophet Mohammed .

Wednesday, March 03, 2010

Sad & Sorrowful is different from Sad & Angry.

What is sadness? Is a feeling of the mind. If you are sad, you feel unhappy, usually because something has happened that you do not like. In my course of selling, I had seen the many feelings of people. I don't think sadness comes with happiness but for sure sadness has two types. Either you are sad and sorrowful or sad and angry.

When your friends are sad and sorrowful, it's easy to approach them. Allow your shoulder and ears and most likely they would heal their sadness. However be extremely careful with those who are sad and angry, their minds are violent and their thoughts are always unforgiving. Any unwanted words and statement might disturb amd aggravate their emotion further. Is never easy to console a sad angry person because that person speaks faster than you could listen. Offering your shoulder to an angry man or woman is of no use. Perhap the best way is to keep silent and just listen to him or her. Time is the only remedy to deal with such situation.

If you are still sad & angry, this might help you - “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Hate multiplies hate, violence multiplies violence, and toughness multiplies toughness in a descending spiral of destruction...The chain reaction of evil...hate begetting hate, wars producing more wars... must be broken, or we shall be plunged into the dark abyss of annihilation.”
Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

Centenarian ‘Tea King’ marries woman half his age

Recent news..CENTENARIAN “King of Tea” Zhang Tianfu married acrobatic performer Zhang Xiaohong, who is almost half his age, in a grand ceremony attended by friends and relatives.

Zhang used to be a close friend of Xiao­hong’s husband, who died of illness two years ago, China Press reported.

He had apparently wanted to take care of the widow soon after his friend’s passing and proposed to Xiaohong at a teahouse.

The 57-year-old widow had initially rejected the proposal due to the huge age gap between her and Zhang.

However, she later agreed to the marriage after feeling touched by Zhang’s continuous overtures. Zhang’s wife died nine years ago.

The couple held their wedding ceremony at a five-star hotel in Fuzhou, China last Sunday. The marriage had drawn widespread attention in China, especially among the local tea industry players.

My person view: Who say the old cannot get marry? Just that they need courage, determination and full of love in the heart. Once you lose these attributes in yourself, the desire to live diminishes.

The song i never will forget - "Wise men say, only fools rush in. But I can't help falling in love with you." - Elvis Presley.

Monday, March 01, 2010

Carrot or Threat?

Life is all about "Carrot or Threat". I think to raise a child, love alone isn't sufficient. At times, the child has to be given the carrot to encourage him to study. A price or a special gift could make him studies harder. If the carrot doesn't work, perhaps the threat has to come into force. The cane or no pocket money could correct his mistakes.

Effective companies apply "carrot or threat" to their staffs as well. Extra bonuses or incentives are given to those who are productive, I termed them as carrots. De-promotion and termination of employment are considered as threat.

Don't be surprised "love & romance" has "carrot or threat" too. For the men...if you could sweeten her, sex is on the way for you but if you are naughty and misbehaved, she might throw you out of the house.

For those who are spiritual inclined, hell is the threat and heaven is the carrot. Whether you like it or not, our lives are always encountered with these two miracle forces. Threat injects us the fear and the carrot spurs us to move.

Food for thought - "Follow your instincts. That's where true wisdom manifests itself" ~ Oprah Winfrey