Love what you do & you will do well....

One of my niece who is 28 is frustrated with her job and had tendered her resignation letter. Today is her last day at work. She told me this is her second employment, and she hasn't found a new replacement yet. Having a bit of time I shared with her my experience.

I hadn't not been working for the past 30 years because ever since 30 years ago when I had found a hobby, I spend my entire present life concentrating on it. Hobby is one's interest when one can enjoy doing it for life and yet won't get bored. Though I hadn't been working for these many years, my hobby allows me to earn enough to take care of me and my family, especially when my children were young then. Through my hobby's earning, I managed to educate and sent all my children to overseas studies. This hobby up keeps my present life's style comfortably and no one controls and decides my destiny. Imagine not working for 30 years and having fun all this while and yet be paid!

My niece was confused and she wanted to know how is it possible!!!

Talking is my interest. Talking is my passion. Selling life insurance allows me to talk endlessly, until I decide when to stop doing it. Others are thinking why I have to work so hard, when all my children are already established in their lives. They thought I should have retired long time ago and enjoy my golden age. Sorry to say, they really don't understand the real meaning of life. My career as life insurance agent is never a work to me, but rather it's a passion and energy for me. Out of this passion, I have so much of fun and excitement. It has never occurred in my mind that I am at work. Rather I am enjoying every moment with it. Seeing my clients is a joy, seeing my client's children grow and getting marry is even more enlightening. Knowing all my clients, who are my great friends now, when they are listening and willing to take my advices, are something money could not buy. How true this quote relates... "The most beautiful thing in the world cannot be seen or touched. It could only be felt in the heart." And Thanks God I have it through my hobby as selling life insurance.

Advising the young lady, I said... "Enjoy your work, and you will not need to work for a lifetime."

Modern Woman.................

Today one of my daughter in law using a new phone's application ( called WeChat ), she sent over some interesting messages. One of them was with this quote....

'Some people are old 

at 18 and some are 

young at 90 ... time 

is a concept that humans

created' 

I like collecting proverbs. I replied her.. My mind is 65 but my heart just turns 35. So! My dear where do I stand now?

She was fast to say.. Young of course!

Next she sent me another greater poster....

Today's Modern Woman

Clean house.

Healthy dinner on the table (at dinner time).

Fit, trim & well groomed.

Works full-time.

Laundry done and put away.

Great sex life.

... Pick any two.

My reply was... "May I have all dear?".

She said... "Haha!!! U more greedy than your son. He chose 2 for wife and 2 for girlfriend".

RF said.. "Good things must not be wasted.  I beat my son then".

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To those gentlemen out there... May I know which two would you pick please for your Modern Woman? Please don't be shy lah.

The Spinster......................

Man cannot live without women but I guess women can live without man. I could not believe until I read a recent news over our local paper with this headline... Woman confirms bacheloret​te status – for life.

A 43-YEAR-OLD woman has took up an advertisement in Oriental Daily, announcing that she will never get married but instead focus on her career.

This is strictly my own decision. It has nothing to do with anybody, Chen Lee Fah said in the advertisement.

There is little information about her in the advertisement.

She merely gave her identity card number, which indicated that she is from Selangor.

Her occupation is also not known.

Chen's advertisement was titled “ No marriage in this lifetime”.

“ I do not want to be troubled by any relationship,” she said in the small notice that measured 6.5cm by 4cm.

“ That is why I am placing this advertisement.”

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P.S. This time I wonder who would provide me with more interesting comments than the last post.

Intelligence might not come with responsibility...

While exercising at the gym inside my club house, came two new young male members. I believe they are  university students. The way they spoke with an American slang, let me guess they could be our local children who came home for their vacation break. They look like rich family children with a strong intelligent personality. As they were pumping those irons, dumbbells, short and long iron bars, and various weights were all thrown across the floor. Since they were seriously working on the weights, I moved further away and instead ran on the treadmill. One hour later, I could see they were packing their belongings and were preparing to leave the gym. As they were moving out, they just left those weights and irons on the floor without putting them back to the original places. 

I was very disturbed by their manner. Before they could reach the exist, I stopped them for a moment. I said.. "Young man! Have your finished?" One of them replied as Yes. I continued, "If you had done your exercise, please put back those used items where you had taken them. This is our club's rules & regulations."

Reluctantly they both turned back to pick up those dumbbells and placed them at the appropriate place. I could see many other heavy weights and irons were still on the floor. And I knew they both were not happy with my instruction. As they passed my way, I gave them my good thumb's sign with a smiling gesture for them. They left without a smile.

Morale of the story: They could be very intelligence but without responsibility, they had lost my respect for them. This incident could almost confirmed that one might have the intelligence, might not have a full sense of responsibility. Intelligent people are usually prideful and boastful. Intelligent person has the ability to learn but seldom they apply what they have learned. 

Forgotten to relate this part. Non of the other gym members who were there and who had also seen the happening, took the effort to pause these youngsters. You know what? They could be smart to see the wrong of them, but they didn't have the guts to approach and speak their mind. Being smart and not having courage isn't smart then. Smartness is the ability to apply what you had learned. I'm not intelligence but I think I have a little smartness, plus a lot of braveness and courage. 

Food for thought -

"It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities" - Josiah Charles Stamp quote.

NASA's prediction​......

I just read something interesting....

US scientists  predict Universe change, total blackout of planet for 3days from Dec 23 2012.

It is not the end of the world, it is an alignment of the Universe, where the Sun and the earth will align for the first time. The earth will shift from the current third dimension to zero dimension, then shift to the forth dimension. During this transition, the entire Universe will face a big change, and we will see a entire brand new world......!

The 3 days blackout is predicted to happen on Dec 23, 24, 25....during this time, staying calm is most important, hug each other, pray pray pray, sleep for 3 nights... and those who survive will face a brand new world.... for those not prepared, many will die because of fear. Be happy, enjoy every moment now. Don't worry, pray to God everyday. There is a lot of talk about what will happen in 2012, but many people don't believe it, and don't want to talk about it for fear of creating fear and panic.

We don't know what will happen, but it is worth listening to USA's NASA talk about preparation.......

Whether it's true or not, better be prepared. No panic, stay calm, just pray..... !! Remember to smile more, love more, forgive more... everyday.

Better avoid traveling during December.

Listen to the master's explanation  below:

This talk  was delivered last year (2011).

My Personal view:  "ISN'T IT NICE & FORTUNATE FOR  US TO

      EXPERIENCE SUCH A WONDERFUL AND

      RARE NATURAL PHENOMENON DURING

      OUR LIFE TIME IF THE NASA'S PREDICTION

      TURNS OUT TO BE TRUE ....... !!! "

You will laugh endlessly......

They said vulgar words aren't acceptable on blog. Yes! But one word you have to listen to laugh out of your pant. According to Rajnish this one word is the most sweetest in the English language. And yet some who commented lately were furious over my application on this special word.

I had joined in the Soundcloub and had converted Rajnish's clip into a pleasant recording for you guys to witness. Listen for yourself and see whether you like it. I'm sure you would laugh and be entertained by him. I'm naughty but I consider these are all clean naughtiness which won't harm our souls. Happy holiday in Malaysia.

I am back again my friends.....

Hi everybody. So nice to come back again after a short break. During this period I do learn something and also to confirm what I had learned and today I have to relearn again.

As I had spoken before, our world comprises of the good and evil forces. They are unbreakable and have to be linked together, otherwise you and me won't be here in the first place. A good man cannot cheat because he will feel extremely guilty if he does it. And a bad person would find it difficult to be honest. The good type of people gain their energy by having a good heart, while those who are bad live happily by not playing sincere. The polices and lawyers would not survive if there are no criminals, and no thief could live when everyone is also criminal to him.Whether we like it or not, man comes by many characters and faces.

I remembered when I was a child our entire township was controlled by gangsters. You can call them as hooligans too. In order not to be disturbed and harassed by them, all the shop owners had to pay protection money to the gang. In our local dialect we addressed them as Sam Seng, who are equally intelligent type of people. They spoke well, tough and had super brain. Today though these gangsters are no longer in operation, they still exist in our world. They are even more intelligence, educated and brave. Last year my personal email was hacked, and my blog which was linked to it was also being taken away from my hand. Thanks God! Google assisted me to retrieve it. Now! My posts were being humiliated, condemned and criticised. By whom? Good readers won't do it but the Sam Seng would. Good readers appreciate my sharing. After all no one pays me. I write everyday because it's my passion and to me sharing is part of happiness. For what reasons why Sam Seng put so much effort to degrade me. I really don't need to know because the fact is... Evil always are there to cause unnecessary trouble to the good. They just could enjoy themselves for seeing me suffering in pain and shame. BUT! I have to tell this sole Sam Seng that I too enjoy playing along with him. He makes my blog more interesting and I'm also learning how Sam Seng reacts as well. I only wish he darn to reveal his true identity. Why attack a man who could face you in the open, when you know who he is while you hide under the mystery. Since you write so well and think so intelligently, be brave and wise to share your mind too Sam Seng. 

The last post was a very meaningful one, where I saw who were my true friends. Wan, thank you for always stood by me. Michelle I love your comment, it was very encouraging. Shirazi first time seeing you here. MdKhan, Sam Seng cannot break me lah. Thank you to Brandon and Gypsy who darn to speak their mind. Really do not know who Anti Anonymous was but you were sharp to reveal the retarded Sam Seng who tried to fool all of us at first. Thank you so much Anti Anonymous. You guys were the one who asked me to continue to write and the one who encouraged me to lay off for good is no other than Sam Seng himself. How can I drop off  so easily when passion and love are so strong in my heart. Sorry lah Sam Seng! You have to work harder to suppress me. Otherwise join us then. Ok?

Naughty people are creative...........

Do you know naughty people are more creative? They think and respond faster!

The logical type of people who use their left brain only, seldom go out of the way to create unnecessary fun. They think playing fun and being naughty isn't right. They go by the rules, they stick to regulations and always behave well. Logically they are right.

However those who are the playful and the naughty types, go beyond their logical senses. They break rules and sometimes disregard regulations. Besides their logical mind, they utilise the creative thought which is from the right brain. You can say... they think outside the box.

When I was a little child I was naughty. Today I'm still naughty and playful as ever, but all my naughtiness and playfulness are the clean and humorous types, and are harmless to others. Without these special ingredients and substances in me, I won't have been more of a creative person. And if I am not a creative man, I'm sure I would have nothing to write everyday for you readers to read and to laugh. True or not?

Food for thought - Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision  with action can change the world! - Joel Arthur Barker.

Trial Marriage..................

TS is an attractive young lady, single at 28 years young. Recently she found a new boyfriend who is 9 years older than her. All this while, TS has been staying with her parents. Few days ago, she sounded to her mum that she wants to move out of the house. The couple wishes to rent their own apartment and has intention to stay in together. The mother asked what is the real reason for moving out, when the home gives her so much of freedom and comfort. More so she doesn't need to pay a single cent staying at home.

The daughter was very direct to her mother. Mum! I want to live in together with my boyfriend. Before I get marry to this man, I must see whether I could stay along with him in one shelter. Living together allows me to understand him faster. If it fails, then he won't be my future husband.

The mother was shocked! Unable to speak a word. Took her awhile before she could raise her objection. Both daughter and mother argued and quarrelled for the past one week and yet the problem isn't solved. They are my relatives and I'm caught in the in between. Mother requested me to talk to her and the daughter wanted me to explain to the older lady of the house.

Me! I am at lost as well. I'm seeking you readers to offer me some views and advices. Please??

I only know this proverb - "True Love burns the brightest, but the brightest flames leave the deepest scars."

The best way to teach our kids to study.......

Do you have young children who are still at the primary school or even lower? If yes. please continue to read here....

What is the best way to teach your kids to study well? Never apply force or instruct children to do their homework. An expert suggested to have fun and play with your children first. Just spend a couple of minutes with them prior to their studies makes them feel good in their system. Mother can make monkey's  faces and the dad can play like little child. Make them laugh for awhile. BUT!!! Remember, it's only a short moment of fun time. Then slowly bring them back to their studies seriously. Believe me! The feel good feeling in them could result in better concentration and focus in their self learning. 

So!  This proverb... "All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy" is really true.

Introducing my special lady......

How do you introduce your woman to your friend?

The old folks might say, she is my woman or she is my old lady.

Most married men, could introduce the lady behinds him as... This is my wife.

Me! I prefer this way... She is my darling, my baby, my buddy, my sweet sweetheart, my lover, my sunshine, my rainbow and my laughing partner.

Don't you think it sounds better???

I practise his way... “When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, you will command the attention of the world”  - George Washington Carver.

Pick the right apples in selling.....

Selling tips...

Our parents used to advise us to mix with the right friends. Good friends will lead you to do well and lazy friends might slow you down. In simple proverb, it said... "One rotten (or bad) apple spoils the barrel."


In selling, it's the same. Mix with the successful sales teams, cause success breads success. Secondly learn to prospect potential good clients. Good clients are those who appreciate your values, willing to listen to your suggestions & advices, reasonable people, understanding & open minded, and most important of all...  have the potential to do well. These classes of good clients are usually under the top 10% of the entire client's base. For these special clients, I will spend most of the time with them. Periodically I will drop by to their offices, to listen and to understand them more. I also consider them as my circles of influence, cause they would lead me to further sales else where. 


However when I happened to prospect those unreliable, unfriendly and demanding customers,  I would never make them to my clients. As friends yes but never, I repeat never will I be their sales agent for I know they would make life miserable for me later. I have to accept this proverb in my business to.. "One rotten (or bad) apple spoils the barrel."

I love my mother in law......

According to my good friend Ranjit, a Punjabi by race, he said the mother is always the Queen in the house. 

I fully agreed with him. At my home, I have a special wooden plaque, en grafted with these few words... "I am the master of this house, but when my wife says No, I will also say No."

So! The day Ranjit got marry to his beautiful wife 15 years ago, he advised her these few words. They are.. "The Daughter in law who knows how to tackle the Mother in law, is like holding God in you hand." 

Being an intelligent wedded wife, who simply understood that statement, both daughter in law & the mother built up fantastic relationship within a very short time. She almost could get whatever she wants, when all the males in the house find it difficult. 

For those daughters in law who could understand the above quote and are willing to apply it, you will be the most happiest woman in your husband home. Try if you can and good luck.

Little Johnny story...

All works no play, makes Jack a dull boy. Let's have some fun on Sunday....

Teacher: If I gave you 2 cats and another 2 cats and another 2, how many will you have?

Johnny: Seven, Sir.

Teacher: No, listen carefully.

If I gave you 2 cats, and another 2 cats and another 2, how many will you have?

Johnny: Seven

Teacher: Let me put it to you differently.

If I gave you 2 apples, and another 2 apples and another 2, how many will you have?

Johnny: Six.Teacher: Good. Now if I gave you 2 cats, and another 2 cats and another 2,

how many will you have?

Johnny: Seven!!!

A very angry Teacher: Where in the hell do you get seven from?!?!?

A very angry Johnny: Because,....I've already got a fuckin' cat!!!

Woman's point of view................

Someone sent this to me...

From a woman's point of view;

- The most perfect man in the world is her father 

- The most abused husband in the world is her brother   

- The most handsome man in the world is her son 

- The luckiest and happiest man in the world is her sister's husband 

- The most thankful man in the world is her son in law 

- And the worst, most selfish, heartless, total jerk and the man with worst behavior in the world is her husband 

Me.... I like the top five and dislike the last one...

The Asian Culture of how we bring up our children...

The topic of abusive parents drew much attention lately. Is it true? Personally I think not all places would be the same. Perhaps the West and the East could be different. Being that I'm an Asian, I rather talk about us and let's see how the West could assess us. I'm sure both the West & the East have our strength and weaknesses.

I can't deny there is totally no parents abusing children in our country, Malaysia. It's very scarce and rarely happened. Our laws protect child's abuses, and when parents or adults who are caught for abusing under aged children, the penalty could be very heavy. Culturally and religiously, it's the responsibilities of the parents to bring up good children of them, and it's the obligation of the children to love and care for their ageing parents. It's an honour and pride for the parents to have noble children brought up and it's greatness for the good children to take care of their parents till death. 

Our Chinese belief is.. When you love your parents sincerely, you would be blessed with good children later, who would follow your footsteps.

In both our families between myself and our in laws, our children had seen how we cared and loved our parents or their grand parents before. Today my son and his wife, have the same similar hearts like us, when they too took care of both the ageing parents of both side. Lately my daughter in law's mother had just passed away due to cancer, which she was suffering for 10 years. During this period of time, her son, daughter and my son, never complained of taking care of the sickly lady. I was there to observe and to witness, and I was proud to see them giving so much of attention to her. The last two months before she left this world, my grand son and his cousin sister, both of 11 years young only, also took their turns to bathe and clean their grand mum. I could see she was happy to be blessed with such noble children. I could not resist my tears to see my grand children who could emulate our culture of loving the elders. I am not a wealthy man but God had really blessed me with such lovely children and grand children. I really can't be asking more now. Deep in my heart I wish this sharing could touch everyone, whether you are from the East or the West.

To my good readers, Wan, Adel, Michelle, Raj or Sumukh and others who are from Asia, I am sure you have something to say too about our Asian Culture of how we live with our parents. 

Does Passion comes with luck???

The last two days I was bombarded with comments related to 'parents & children'. It won't be possible for me to reply all individually, but indeed I had learned much from these younger generation of today's world. Thank you so much for all your contribution.

Perhaps today I might try to find a way to see whether I could solve everybody's needs and  problems. Recently one special lady asked, "Does passion comes with luck?

Sounded easy but might not be easy either! First, what passion she was referring? The meaning of passion alone is... A powerful emotion, such as love, joy, hatred, or anger or could be Strong sexual desire; lust. 

If her passion is on love... Yes. Definitely not by hatred. I always believe a passionate person is always a lucky person. Luck only comes when one works hard. In our sales term, when a salesperson who calls enough prospects, his sales will grow. You might consider him as lucky but in actual fact he works hard to achieve his target. Luck will never be there when nothing is done. Right?

Why is it so, 'A passionate person is always a lucky person'? When a person has love in his or her heart, on whatever they conduct or perform, they usually do it well with full commitment. Example.. Please look at me. My heart is full of love, willing to give more than to receive. Reaching 65 and yet be able to sell untiringly. Reason, the passion in heart thrills me to move aggressively, even the younger agents loose out. Most of my fellow colleagues thought that I am lucky, but in fact passion is the factor.

Now! What has Passion got to do with parents & children? I have three grown up sons, two daughters in law,  two ex-daughters in law and five grand children. And many many dears, honeys, darlings and one sweetheart. Believe me all of them love me so much. The simple reason is, I have passion for them. I have the patience ear to listen and a powerful mind to understand, plus a willing heart to give. Nothing will block me to make them like and love me. Am I lucky? Yes! Thanks God for blessing me with this miracle of passion, which I word them as A Powerful Emotion as Love. 

My wonderful readers, this Passion is free and you don't need to pay a dime to get it. It's always  in your heart and mind. Just that you have a choice, whether you are willing to give it out as  'love or hatred'. If you are willing to think and apply Love as the right emotion to release into your system or into your life, then you would be bestowed with more luck and happiness all round. Please try and let me know what's the result... Ya?

Robert Collier said...

"All of us have bad luck and good luck. The man who persists through the bad luck - who keeps right on going - is the man who is there when the good luck comes - and is ready to receive it."

Demanding parents and the effects on their children

My yesterday post "Woman with 10 grown children collects recyclable items to survive" created much attention. I'm overwhelmed with excitement because I had a record comment for more than 50 in number. Normally readers would read and very seldom they would take the trouble to add a few words under the comment column. Without me realising, this topic caught me with surprise, when worldwide readers spoke their view and thought. 

When I first read the early few comments, I was a bit upset with how the younger generation behaves. However when finally I read all of them, I began to understand and to appreciate their contribution which were frank and truthfully expressed in mind and heart. They were from all over the world and I'm sure these are factual and real. Perhaps they were never given a chance or a platform to speak their thoughts. By chance when this topic was posted, they were brave and courageous to show their frustration and dissatisfaction between parents and children.

In life, not all parents are right and not all children are perfect too. In most cases, parents always assume they are good parents and they expect their children to love them. And most children who might be unhappy toward their parents, also find it difficult to relate their problems to the ageing parents. Reading their comments today, I could understand them better now. They had helped me to be more of a likeable and lovable father from now onwards. I hope all parents or future parents would read all those comments written. I can assure you, they might change your entire mindset and eventually be more of an understanding parent.

To all my readers who had commented, I offer to you my most sincere appreciation. You really had taught me greatly in many ways. Thank you so much.

Confucius said... "He who keeps on reviewing his old knowledge and acquiring new knowledge may become a teacher of others."