I am cheeky & naughty.

Hi readers! Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life. Stop taking yourself so seriously. After all laughing is good for the heart.

Well quoted - "Laughter is an orgasm triggered by the intercourse of sense and nonsense. ~Author Unknown.

If you still could not laugh after seeing this cartoon posted, you really have no sense of humour.

The Art Of Forgiving.

Something good for the heart and soul..........

THE ART OF FORGIVING.

The most creative power given to the human spirit is the power to heal the wounds of a past it cannot change.

We do our forgiving alone inside our hearts and minds; what happens to the people we forgive depends on them.

The first person to benefit from forgiving is the one who forgives.

Forgiving happens in three stages: we rediscover the humanity of the person who wronged us; we surrender our right to get even; and we wish that person well.

Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey.

Forgiving does not require us to reunite with the person who broke our trust.

We do not forgive because we are supposed to; we forgive when we are ready to be healed.

Waiting for someone to repent before we forgive is to surrender our future to the person who wronged us.

Forgiving is not a way to avoid pain but to heal the pain.

Forgiving someone who breaks a trust does not mean that we give him his job back.

Forgiving is the only way to be fair to ourselves.

Forgivers are not doormats; to forgive a person is not a signal that we are willing to put up with what he or she does.

Forgiving is essential; talking about it is optional.

When we forgive, we set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner we set free is ourselves.

When we forgive we walk in stride with our forgiving Almighty.

I strongly believe this quote - "To forgive is the highest, most beautiful form of love. In return, you will receive untold peace & happiness" - Robert Muller.

The small one but's it's a big problem!

Can lives be miserable when you have a small one, i mean a small tiny dick? Some say yes and some say no! I personally think is a big problem. To check with a special person, when i was afraid to speak in person, i wrote to little darling for her comment and view.

This was her exact reply; "It takes two to tango. If the other half loves him because of his personality and loves him as he is. This might not be a big issue. After all God is always great. Something has been created as 'TOOLS' to use for. Although sex life plays a big part of the relationship. Effective communication will be most needed to satisfy, to understand, to sacrify. Well oral is good too!!!! It can be tough love. But when there is love, nothing is too much trouble and there is always time.....".

Very Good! Its a remarkable comment little darling. Is a relieve to most men who might have a small one. Isn't really a big problem if only you find an understanding and caring partner who truly loves you. Wondering whether anyone out there who are brave to offer some comments to this issue.

Specially for little darling - "You have a small mind but a big heart".

Trust & Thrust.

Trust and thrust are two different meaning. I am sure Ah Fei would like to know. You have to gain trust before you can apply thrust. No lady would allow Ah Fei to put in his thrust, if she doesn't trust him. Thrust is pleasurable but to gain the trust you have to earn for it. Thrust is sensational when trust is with them both. On thrust you have to be forceful but with trust, patience and tolerance are unavoidable. Ah Fei, if your thrust is strong and powerful, the receiver might yell and scream, but make sure you do it whole heartily with trust all the way.

I wonder what Ah Fei thinks!!! In case if he thinks wild and crazy, i just want to remind him, selling needs trust and thrust. Meaning...before you close the sales, build trust with our clients. Once they are comfortable with you, thrusting your proposal might be much easier. A trust leads to another thrust. Sound funny! But it works all the time...including love & romance.

Food for thought - "Be not afraid of greatness: . . . Some are born great, Some achieve greatness, And some have greatness thrust upon them. — William Shakespeare (1564-1616).

Mind decides & Emotion negotiates.

I am preparing another talk for tomorrow with three of my closed associates. Ah Fei is one of them, the youngest at 36, single, creative, naughty but lack confidence. During my briefing, i asked him this question. What is the different of the mind and our emotion? He was speechless!

In simple language i related to him. The mind is the decider and our emotion is the negotiator. One good example for him was...he is interested in a new found girl, Wati whom i recommended through the phone. His mind decided to know her. They spoke for many days and spent hours chatting on the hand phone. While interacting and communicating with her, his emotional feeling gradually developed. His emotion started to question; is she attractive and sexy? does she accept my not so handsome personality? is she a choosy lady? is she expecting high hope on me? and endless thoughts. His own emotion is negotiating with his mind.

Next example on him...he is interested to teamwork with me on future presentation and training. His mind has decided to pick me as his mentor. We had gone through many updates and discussion. However on the final countdown for tomorrow event, his emotion is playing dirty with him again. His emotion doubts him whether he could speak when comes his turn, could the listeners on the floor laugh at him, would his own agency and manager complain, and more. Though he has decided but uncertainty lies ahead because of emotion.

The above character could be applicable to everyone, including myself. The best way to overcome such situation is to have a positive mind and a positive emotion at the same time. Be decisive, stay motivated, have pride in all your doings, remain single-minded and have belief in oneself. With these few strong attributes, one should have the confidence to overcome our negative emotion. To Ah Fei, i am sure you would win over Wati and success in career is a matter of time. I am sure you would speak well tomorrow.

Food for thought - "The young man who has not wept is a savage, and the old man who will not laugh is a fool." - George Santayana.

A model who became a monk!!

Kohinoor Singh, now Ani Lhosang Dolma, carved out a name for her self in the small but quickly growing modelling world of Nepal since she was 15 years old with her catwalk shows, brand endorsing ads, TV show hosting and music video hits. She particularly shot into prominence through her music videos made by Music Nepal.

In 2002 she was credited with giving Cybernepal.com, a major Nepali site for the local cinema and the music industry, a major fillip to its rating. "After we put the blow ups of Kohinoor Singh," said Abhinav Kasaju founder of the site, "the number of visitors to the site doubled."

"Kohinoor is sensational. She's a unique blend of innocence and sexuality, "declared the Kathmandu Post who rated her one of the "Top 5 models in Nepal" in February this year. But that has now all changed, overnight. "To be peaceful and happy," she continues, "one needs to be content with whatever one has and I am following this passage."

It was a dream long since planted in her mind ever since as a little girl she encountered a woman monk always calm and smiling in a Swayambu (temple mound). A strong spiritual experience in that very same Swayambu years later, some deep soul searching, and Ani was born. "I am ready to cope with anything now, even hunger and thirst. I believe it is desire that leads to expectations and eventually chaos." In a nation where Buddhism was born, it won't be long then, that from being admired on stage, Ani will be elevated to a young guru of sorts. For now she has broken several hearts and extracted many a sigh even though, as one fan puts it, she has moved from being "a pretty model to one beautiful nun!" Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood.

Do you have a poker face?

In Chinese, there is a saying; "A mountain could be beaten by another greater mountain ahead!" Read this funny story and you might understand...

Two couples were playing poker one evening. Ah Fei accidentally dropped some cards on the floor. When he bent down under the table to pick them up, he noticed Bob's wife, Sue wasn't wearing any underwear under her dress! Shocked by this, Ah Fei upon trying to sit back up again, hit his head on the table and emerged red-faced.

Later, Ah Fei went to the kitchen to get some refreshments. Bob's wife followed and asked, 'Did you see anything that you like under there?' Surprised by her boldness, Ah Fei admitted that, well indeed he did. She said, 'Well, you can have it but it will cost you RM500.'

After taking a minute or two to assess the financial and moral costs of this offer, Ah Fei confirms that he is interested.

Sue told him that since her husband Bob worked Friday afternoons and Ah Fei didn't, Ah Fei should be at her house around 2 pm Friday afternoon.

When Friday rolled around, Ah Fei showed up at Bob's house at 2 pm sharp and after paying Sue the agreed sum of RM500 - they went to the bedroom and closed their transaction, as agreed. Ah Fei quickly dressed and left.

As usual, Bob came home from work at 6 pm and upon arriving, asked his wife: 'Did Ah Fei come by the house this afternoon?'

With a lump in her throat Sue answered 'Why yes, he did stop by for a few minutes this afternoon.' Her heart nearly skipped a beat when her husband curtly asked, 'And did he give you RM500?'

Sue, using her best poker face, replied, 'Well, yes, in fact he did give me RM500.'

Bob, with a satisfied look on his face, surprised his wife by saying, 'He came by the office this morning and borrowed RM500 from me. He promised he'd stop by our house this afternoon on his way home and pay me back.'

Any comment? Who is intelligent and who is smart out there?

Food for thought - "Simulated disorder postulates perfect discipline; simulated fear postulates courage; simulated weakness postulates strength." - Lao-Tzu.