Successful man with his happy woman

This proverb says, "For every successful man there is always a woman behind" but i have to add, "For every happy woman, there is always an understanding man besides".

The man is successful because the woman behind loves him willingly. Her loves excite him, her loves motivate him and her loves inspire him endlessly. Is not easy to walk the life path, when unforeseen obstacles and problems come everyday. If the man has a happy woman who could provide sincere admiration and appreciation, everything is possible for him. However the sad part is, when the woman isn't happy and has forgotten to play the role of admirer, appreciator, motivator and to inspire her man, the successful man might turn to be unsuccessful again. So if the successful man is a smart person, he has to be always understanding to know what his woman wants and needs. He has to make her happy all the time, making sure she remains to be the woman behind who spurs and peps up his live till the end.

A friendly advice to the ladies, spot the strength and value of your hero but tune down his weaknesses and defects. He needs your admiration and appreciation more than your complain and criticism. The world could be against him but your support and affection overrule all difficulties ahead. If you can't do it, then you are not his woman behind to lead him to success.

A brotherly suggestion to the men, love your woman as though she is the last female for you. Making happy a woman is to love her with all your might, protect her and let her have the sense of security, give her your fullest trust and strongest belief, and be faithful and sincere from the heart and soul.

With this combination of love between the man and woman, success and happiness are assured. I do hope, the one whom i love most is reading this message which i wrote from my heart too.

Food for the heart - "Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could." - Barbara De Angelis

Women prefer a darker man.

Sharon is a beautiful mixture of Portuguese and Indian origin. She isn't fair like the European but she looks more darker like our local Malay's appearance. I remember twenty years ago when two men who were trying their level best to court her, it took awhile for Sharon to pick the right candidate. Jeswant was a handsome, fair and intelligent medical doctor who was the first to know Sharon then. Came later Mohan who was a black Negro Indian, also interested in this sweet young girl. Jeswant had a magnificent personality, well polished in character and kind hearted. Mohan, a sub-contractor who was rough in maner was uneducated. Everyone guessed Sharon would definitely marry Jeswant one day. To our surprised, finally Sharon got marry to Mohan. I was the boss to Sharon at that time, and i was curious to know the reason. This was what she told me. Read on.

As Jeswant was fair in appearance, Sharon being dark in colour, the man would over shadow her personality. Whereas Mohan was charcoal black, Sharon would stand out fairer against her man. She would be more attractive when she was with Mohan. With Jeswant she looked ugly and uncomfortable, though he was much an ideal lover over Mohan. Mind! What a way women pick and select their men! Perhaps the sight is more important than the heart. Now i know why my little darling has fallen in love with me. My handicaps make her more prettier and sexier when she stands beside me.

Interesting proverb - "Woman cannot be content with health and agility: she must make exorbitant efforts to appear something that never could exist without a diligent perversion of nature. Is it too much to ask that women be spared the daily struggle for superhuman beauty in order to offer it to the caresses of a subhumanly ugly mate?" - Germaine Greer

At 72 he still needs love too to stay alive.

YS is a retired widower, aged 72 years young. Since his wife passed away seven years ago, he was living a very quiet live by himself. He had a bypass six year ago and currently is suffering from Parkinson's disease. Though he is restricted in many ways, slow in movement and action, he could still put on a beautiful smile whenever i met him. He still keeps his old car and drive out to the town. He spoke with pride and always full of enthusiasm, and never allowed his handicap to deter his living. I was puzzled at first where he got all his energies, until i was introduced to his girlfriend, Jenny whom she has known for more than a year.

See! Nothing works until the charming lady came to touch his heart and soul. Jenny is twenty years younger, a divorcee for more than twenty years too, finds that YS is a gentleman who is caring and wise. Everyday they both communicate on the hand phone and they would meet during the weekend when Jenny needs not work. Last Saturday they drove off to the beach to experience the intimacy of the evening and night together the first time. YS gave his gentle and fatherly advices and Jenny spurred him with her feminine charm. Before leaving for the trip, YS promised he would try his level best to regain his manhood and to satisfy the woman who had missed the forbidden apple for so long in her lives. To make sure he could succeed, he had bought four blue diamond shaped pills, namely VIAGRA from his usual pharmacist. He believed these magical pills plus the true love from his partner would definitely bring joy and hope to them. I wish them best of luck here.

Moral of my story; No person on earth could live alone happily. Man and woman need each other. Love & romance motivates the younger couples to do well in career and to the older ones, they need love as well to keep them alive.

Food for the heart - "The more connections you and your lover make, not just between your bodies, but between your minds, your hearts, and your souls, the more you will strengthen the fabric of your relationship, and the more real moments you will experience together." - Barbara De Angelis.

How to stop aging & stay on track.

I had a poem written on 31 Mar 2005 when one of our senior director was called to retire. Out of his feeling i penned these few words...

"Looks like when a person is aging, his value also decreases.
But the fact is, it takes time to learn and only when you are old, perhaps you might gain some wisdom of life. But again when you are there, your value is no longer needed.
These are misery facts of life".

This sad poem came into my mind again because i had a few closed associates who are about my senior tender age, had left this industry, when they are no longer selling anymore. They had been working along with me for more than twenty over years in selling life insurance. They have vast experience and knowledge in work and understanding of people. However due to the environment, working conditions and rules, they had lost the interest to continue to serve.

Selling life insurance is a noble profession and it takes time to master this career. All companies are sales and profit orientated, when they seek and recognise those who could bring in the immediate results. The younger and more dynamic agents have a better edge over the aging agents. Rules and laws keep changing when the seniors find it difficult to accept the change. Most older agents feel rejected and unwanted. Though they might have all the knowledge, the companies do not know how to tap their wisdom. With restriction and strict control over their contracts, these rejected agents lost their heart and desire to continue this career. So sad for them.

My advice to those who are coming near to my wisdom age; forget your real age but feel and think young, be brave and courageous, accept changes and keep learning, be naughty and cheeky, be adventurous and prepare to take some risks, inject plenty of love and happiness into your empty heart, mix with only positive and aggressive people, willing to give more than you should be receiving, lower down your unnecessary pride and self esteem, always smile until your jaw is tired and do have friends like Robert Foo.

Food for thought - "If you succeed in judging yourself rightly, then you are indeed a man of true wisdom" — A. de Saint-Exupery.

Can you make your woman laugh?

Law of Attraction...you shine and i shine brighter.
With a bit of practice, you can always make it longer.

Sometimes our dreams can be distracted by tiny things.

Love partners have to be compatible. Otherwise they hate each others.

Jokes and cartoons relate true facts of lives. Please laugh and don't be shy about them. After all they can happen to us too.

Specially for the men to know - "If you can make a woman laugh you can do anything with her." - Nicol Williamson

In love...listen with the heart.

Last night was a beautiful night when we witnessed two love birds met the first time. On Ah Fei's birthday, he invited Wati and some friends to a simple dinner. Both Ah Fei and Wati are my friends. Ah Fei is a simple jovial man and Wati is a sweet loving lady. It was three months ago Wati requested a favour to recommend and introduce an ideal boyfriend to her. I know it wasn't an easy task because an ideal person doesn't come easy. In my mind, Ah Fei could be the ideal man but there might be many obstacles to match them together.

Most couples fall in love by sight first, they believe seeing face to face is important, and they are too eager to meet by the first knowing. The traditional couples put their fate with their parents who decide their matching. They trust their parents are wiser to pick and select their ideal partner for live. I favour the second choice, as the eyes could be deceiving, whereas the ears to listen is even more powerful.

The two love birds were chatting on phone for two month, they did not know how each look like. They used their senses on listening and hearing to imagine each other. They were having fun, laughter and stories telling to amuse themselves. They could talk till the late night without getting bored. They began to like and care more for each other. They had feeling in their heart. Though they had not met yet but they had already accepted themselves willingly as good friends. On the night yesterday, when they both met, Wati and friends who accompanied her laughed endlessly upon seeing Ah Fei. Reason... Ah Fei who is only 36 is a bald headed young man. However Wati wasn't the least be bother about the hairless man because she sees the beauty of her man from the heart and not with the face. The dinner ended beautifully and i was told later they continued to chat again from their home on phone until the early morning. I wish them best of luck. Yes! Listening is better than judging by sighting alone.

Food for the heart - "Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible -- it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could." - Barbara De Angelis

Opposite of love is hate

Today is Ah Fei 's birthday. Happy Birthday brother. I had introduced Wati to him and tonite is the first time they are going to meet over his dinner. They had been communicating for the past two months on hand phone only, and i am sure the excitement for tonite should be interesting.

Before they meet, i advised Ah Fei to be serious in this friendship or later could blossom into a relationship. Please don't use the 'Touch & Go' approach coz it would cause misery and sorrow to either party. According to him, he had never ever fallen in love before though he might have some casual girl friends of the past.

I explained to him these. Love has pleasure and pain. When you are loved upon, the joy and happiness is pleasurable but when you are thrown out off love, the pain could be unbearable. The opposite of love is hate. This happen when one is rejected out of love. A normal person could be well behaved in manner, but when hate overrules him or her mind, they could be wild, crazy, mad and unreasonable.

These can happen to anyone who is deeply affected by love. You scold with anger, your words are nasty and vulgar to your ex-lover. You might disturb, spy and stalk his/ her movement. You might be violent by punching and slapping your ex. Or perhaps you might get drunk and forget everything, Some might take revenge by sleeping with other men, or calling prostitutes to release his frustration. The worst are those who could not control themselves, they commit sucide or to attack and kill their lovers. Hate blinds and is dangerous.

I know Wati is an attractive, innocent and an adorable girl. Equally my brother, Ah Fei is an eligible intelligent man whom i have confidence with. However love is unpredictable and uncontrollable in feeling. I hope Ah Fei and Wati are mature enough to know what they want in lives. Let your five senses decide whether you both are compatible to each other. Time is the answer to your love. Best of luck to Ah Fei and Wati.

Don't Hate - "Always remember others may hate you but those who hate you don't win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself".