Be strong minded... son.

My youngest son is currently in Shanghai. He is trying to venture into some business with his elder brother. In order to assist him, I always tried to inspire him with words. Today Shanghai was cold and snowing, when he sent over some of the pictures taken from their apartment. 

While admiring those snaps taken, I wrote some words for him to understand. I said... "Snow has it's white beauty that you don't see back home. But you have to bear with it's extreme cold. In life you have to face the good & the bad. Look at the good and drop the bad, then you will see the beauty in front of you. It's like now you see the white beauty of those falling snow full of grow and excitement. Enjoy the sceneries son".

He replied, "Oh my God! Can't believe u actually thought of this. Very meaningful. Thanks again to have brighten up my day dad".

My final advices to him... "As we grow we might face obstacles and down falls. Take each fall as learning lesson. These are challenges of our lives. They make us stronger and we learn to be smarter. We gain to be wise. Is called Wisdom".

He asked.. "So! Do you think I'm a little wiser now dad?"

I said.. "Not yet! U are still learning with intelligence. Intelligence is the ability to learn. And smartness is the ability to apply what u have learned. Unless u are prepared to apply what dad had thought u, you won't be considered as smart. Remember! Smart people control intelligent people. They also earn more than the intelligent one".

I hope the above benefits my young readers too.

Merry Xmas.....

Yesterday my eldest son sent me a message from abroad... Merry Xmas dad.

I wrote him a long reply... When I was a little boy, I knew nothing about what was Xmas. I was adopted in a typical Chinese family who didn't celebrate Xmas. And Xmas was just like a normal day when I still needed to help my father's coffee shop. Later when I turned to be a teenager, Xmas was fun and parties, dancing the  Cha Cha or the Twist. When I got marry, Xmas was to buy presents for my three naughty sons. Or having great time to get drunk with friends. Now! Today Xmas for me is to make others smile and be happy. Everyday is Xmas time for me. I don't wait for the one day a year to celebrate Xmas because everyday is a giving day to me. Either I give moral support or financial assistance to others if I encountered them. I am a Santa to those who need help.

In short my son said To me everyday is a good day too.

I told him this true story... I just spoke to Mrs Lim, a family friend of many years. Her dad lives in Muar, a small town in the south, had a severe fall few days ago. He is 96 years old. The fall was bad that broke his back, and he could not walk any more. Mrs Lim, the only daughter doesn't know what to do. Her husband is a stroke patient who needs her attention at home in KL. The old man's wife passed away few years ago. Her two elder brothers in Muar are reluctant to engage full time maid to help and care for the sickly father. Their wives or the daughters in law are not in good term with the old man too. Mrs Lim is poor and she is supported by her own grown up three children. I guess the entire family of this old uncle, from children to grand children could be more than 20 members and yet could not raise fund to help. What a shame! Without hesitation on the phone, I told Mrs Lim, I'm prepared to sponsor to pay for the financial support for her dad. She could not believe that statement! If you don't feel good, please go back and tell all your family members  whether they are also prepared to go along with me to assist their father. 

Talking to my son... I said this is Xmas to me coz I am a Santa to those who need me everyday. In the spirit of Xmas, by giving is to make others smile and be happy.

Happy Xmas to all my readers. 

Lower your expectation... ladies!!!!

Some of our successful life insurance lady agents are perfectionists. They are very professional in their work indeed, high income earners and extremely intelligence they are. However they are also very demanding and aggressive in character. They expect everyone under them to be as efficient as them. To their clients they are obliging and friendly but whenever they speak or communicate with the working staffs, their approaches could be hostile and arrogance. They expect all the staffs to think and work like them, and they expect for immediate response and results. Their letters and emails aren't diplomatic and friendly but rather are rude and crafty. They have beauty but poor in brain.

For whatever happened, I believe there are consequences and endings. 'Good attracts Good' & 'Bad attracts Bad'. Because of this high expectation in these lady's demands, their lives are stressful and they are easily agitated. Is difficult for them to get good sincere friends, even more difficult to be loved by truthful man. Divorce is common for them and usually they end up living alone as single ladies. Yes! Rich and famous they are but sad and lonesome in heart all the time.  

My only advices for these successful career ladies... Expect a little, never hate, live simple and give a lot. Adopting these four golden rules would make you a happier person gradually.

Food for thought -  “Anger always comes from frustrated expectations” - Elliott Larson Quotes.

Free Oranges & Grandma

Sunday laugh.....

One day, the police raided the brothel and took all the girls outside and made them line up. 

Suddenly, Lulu's grandma came by.

Grandma asked, "Why are you standing in line here, dear?"

Not willing to let her grandma know the truth, Lulu told her that the

police were passing out free oranges and she

was just lining up for some.

"Why, that's awfully nice of them. I think I'll get some for myself,"

Grandma said, and she proceeded to the back of the line.

A policeman was going down the line asking for information from all the prostitutes. When he got to grandma, he was bewildered and exclaimed, "Wow, still going at it at your age? How do you do it old girl?"

Grandma replied, "Oh, it's easy, dear. I just take my dentures out, rip the skin back and suck em' dry."

The policeman fainted.

Computers replace human.....

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By 2018, computers will touch, see, hear, taste and smell

In its annual '5 in 5' predictions, IBM forecasted that in five years, computers will gain the five senses and be able to experience the world as humans. 

To me, God gave human the five senses but soon computers might have these senses too. God never create the computer but it was invented by man. Are we as good as God now! I doubt so. God is always The Almighty. Then will the above statement by IBM be truthful and be possible. May be someone out there could enlighten us. 

Words can inspire and motivate......

I have known Gurdip for more than 25 years. Started as a small scale money lender, today Gurdip got his finance license and is operating his finance company with a big team. At his office, he was showing me his new company logo and requested me to give some suggestions to improve on the marketing layout.

I told him I'm not an art director, neither am I an artist but rather I'm a creative wise man who believes in the power of words. Words can inspire and can motivate the mind. I suggested to him to pick a good and meaningful proverb, preferable quoted by great and renowned person, and then print out those words as the tag line for his company. As a finance company, a quote related to money would be ideal. His company might be a new establishment but if the proverb is quoted by someone who is famous, those words might carry a lot of attraction to his business. Meaning you borrow strength from another greater force. Immediately the idea caught Gurdip and he wanted me to look for a proper proverb for him.

This morning I sent him this line quoted by Benjamin Franklin who said, "If you would be wealthy, think of saving as well as getting". Don't forget this famous quote was written 300 years ago and these wise words still applied of today. Without hesitation my good friend took my advice. 

Close Relationships......

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Taking Charge Of Your Responses In Close Relationships In relationships with your loved ones, when looking at the other, sometimes positive emotions are generated and sometimes negative. On the one hand, joy, love and happiness is generated on being with them; but then attachment, dependency and expectations are generated. In such situations, you are more focused on others and are always looking at the other person's behaviour, you stop seeing yourself and being aware of your reactions and taking the responsibility for the responses that you create. You get frustrated when the other person does not meet your expectations. As you depend on them, if they don't act as you would like, if they don't reach home or call you at the time you would like; all this frustrates you. You radiate this energy to the other: "they are not doing what they should be doing," and so you feel frustrated and discontented. All the while that you hold the other one responsible for your frustration, you are not in charge of your own reactions, because you have given power to the other to dominate your emotional world. It is there that you lose your freedom. You lose your freedom because you give to the other, in the name of love, power over your own moods. You allow the others' energy to enter your inner world and cause inside you frustration, bad moods, irritation, sorrow and a mental and emotional dependence where you are constantly thinking about where they are, what they have to do, what they have to say, where they have to go, and all this consumes a lot of your mental energy. Wanting to control the other and the frustration that it brings with it uses up a lot of emotional energy. Never try to control other’s life e.g. some parents try to control their kids (life) even after their marriage and thus create lot of confusions. Instead of trying to change everyone, let us change ourselves to live a Happy Life as also allowing others!