Daughter is better than son!

Fifty year ago, it was a bundle of joy to give birth to a boy. Not today any more coz daughters are more valuable as they have proven to be more caring and loving than sons.

One typical example was a classmate of mine. A Ceylonese father had four sons who all became doctors. Sons are important to the Ceylonese race. When all the sons got married, it was customary that the brides had to offer dowries to the grooms. They were lucky husbands who received handsome gains. Their father at that time was the most happiest and proudest man in town. Fifteen years ago, the father passed away. Before he left, I visited him at the hospital. These were the words I would never forget in my life. He said, "How I wish all my sons were daughters instead!"

I believe when one is dying, money or glory are not important any more. What he wanted was care and concern. He could not get the physical love from his sons. No doubt, the children could offer medical and financial support. But they did not have the time to love the dying father. If only he had one or four daughters, his death could be more peaceful. I face the same dilemma like this family coz I have three sons and no daughter. Am I too late to have one little daughter now? Any suggestion?

This is true. Spoken by Maria Robinson, "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."

How I see the beauty of a lady friend.

All women love to be beautiful and attractive. I have a known a lady friend for many years. She forwarded an email to me and attached two of her recent photos. She asked whether I admire her pictures and with my knowledge and wisdom, can I be able to assess her beauty. She has been my keen and supportive blog reader. With her permission, she allows me to describe what is the beauty of a woman.

My dear friend, your look is charming and sweet. Of course all young girls are always pretty and lovely. But to be beautiful forever is something beyond your control. All of us have to face the aging process of life. As we age gracefully, the beauty comes in a different manner. When I was younger in age, I let my eyes to deceive me to judge the beauty of a woman from the outer look. Today, I no longer let that to happen to deceive my mind.

To those who understand the wisdom of life, "The beauty of a woman isn't in the clothes she wears, or the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, coz that is the doorway to her heart. The place where love resides.The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows."

My dear friend, you do have the beauty of the outside and the inside. I prefer the beauty of the inside more coz it will be forever.

Do u need the sales more than your clients?

During my course of work, many of my fellow colleagues would seek my advices, especially the year end closing. One came with this little obstacle; I had a new case which our insurance company accepted but with condition over the cover. I could not get in touch with my client. I think she was not picking up my calls, when I had tried many times and had send many text messages to her. What do you think I should do, cause there is the date line I have to meet? A friendly advice to this agent. I am sure the client is unhappy for some reasons. Reach to her first, your case is secondary.

Another was even a more obvious case. The agent is currently short of sales to achieve his/her year end closing. He/she wanted the best formula to capture the require amount of sale by this month for rewards and incentive purposes.

I was a bit disturbed by the way most agents carried themselves in making sales. Life insurance is a need selling product. Is intangible and comes with hopes and dreams. As agents, we sell because our clients need to be protected and not because we need the sales more than our clients need the plans. The above two cases reflected the greed of the agents who wanted the sales more than the clients. Of course is good to be aggressive in selling but never for the sake of personal glory and self gratification in gaining those sales. Our clients' needs and interest are the most important requirement and priority in the art of selling. After all, selling life insurance is a life long career. We can't be depending on one case or on one particular month to survive. We need to have the passion and love over our work, which is the only way to last in this professional career. I sincerely hope these fellow colleagues or those who are selling life insurance would apply the words I used. Trust me, they work! Otherwise, I won't have been selling for the past 40 years and are prepared to sell for many more years, if only The Almighty Universe permits.

Power quote from the great; "The secret of life is honesty and fair dealing. If you can face that, you've got it make." Groncho Max (1890 - 1977 ) His words cannot be wrong.

I borrow positive energy from a special magical lady.

Every stage of life is different. When we were a little child, being so innocent and naive, simple little things could motivate us. During the teenage period, our parents could be our prime mover of life. We would be listening from them until we completed our education. When we turned adults and be facing the working world, we were quite easily be influenced by friends around. Once married, the drawing attention was on the family. During these period of life, when we were working and to be responsible to the family, money is the most important factor to excite and to encourage us to challenge the world. However aging is unvoidable, it comes a time when the families are mature and all the children are fully independence, most men at this stage of life will find difficult to seek for their personal drive. They could be highly motivated earlier in life but during the later part of age, career, money, glory and fame may not be necessary to move the aging men. This is the stage, I termed it to be the silence sorrow of man.

Not me! I believe our mindset have to be strong, in order to continue to strive for our needs and wants. Most older men could have called it a day and do nothing but drain their potential and abilities, which they had gathered through the many years of working. In order for me to tap the outer energy different from my past, I have to borrow the universal strength from the younger people, especially the females. I have many friends but I tend to mix more within the younger group. I share my knowledge and wisdom with them and they gave me their vibration and hope.

This afternoon itself, I was spurred with excitement when one of my lady secret admirer who called to tell me that she loves to read my blog everyday. She had learned tremendously from my sharing and I had also greatly impressed upon her. Her statement inspired me, "Dearrrr, can you write everyday coz I want to read them everyday." Her voice touched my heart and her concern created hope for me. We talked not just like friends but more like good intimate friends who understand. I take this opportunity to thank this special magical lady who has one way or another given me the positive energy to live. YES! I can and I will. To live on happily and to give my best to the world. Proven again, Love has got miracle.

George Washington Carver said, "When you do the common things in life in an uncommon way, that is when you command the attention of the world."

Create incentives to live a better life.

A lady friend lost hope in her husband who turned unloving and violent after suffering from a stroke a few years ago. Before his sickness, he was a good father and husband to the family. Sometimes stroke patients could become a nuisance when they felt that they are no longer have value and respect to society. It takes a lot of patience and determination for their immediate families to overcome this uncontrollable health problem.

In order for me to encourage this sorrowful wife to overcome this matter, I spoke to her with some unexpected questions. Although she was a simple and a typical Chinese housewife, she likes to play the Chinese game of mahjong. I asked her, "Mrs Lim, U love to play mahjong. Isn't it? If you are holding a bad or lousy set of card, would you still try to win or to lose on that game? She replied, "I will try to win, no matter how bad my card is!" With a broad smile I continued with her, "Very good! That was a positive way of thinking. In life is also the same, you might currently be facing a family problem with the unreasonable husband at home. Why can't you try to win to help and assist him to overcome his mental weaknesses?" She was caught without a reply.

From this conversation, I understand most people need to have incentives to live. We like to win rather than to lose in any gambling. The incentives are merely money and rewards. The man chases his lady coz he needs her love. The child learns hard to pass his exam, when his parents would reward his effort. The sales person goes for his sales to fulfill his yearly target and dreams. Even the spiritual guy who has no dream and yet too willingly to give his divine love to the world, still has his incentive. His ultimate goal perhaps is a place in heaven. Whether is right or wrong, it is up to the individual to create his or her own incentives to live for a purposeful lives.

I always remember this quote, "A lousy player with a deck of good card might not win. But a lousy deck of card, holds by a good player might still win."

Die with a smile.

While recuperating from my recent surgery, I was glad that there were many concerned friends and relatives who visited me at home. One of the most common question asked, "What happened?" Coz they had never seen me getting seriously sick or ever admitted to hospital before. To make things more livelier to everyone, I told them this story.

There was this lovely cyst which I think was like a crystal diamond developing within my right knee cap. For whatever happened, there must be a reason! I rather chose a good reasoning than a bad one. For this admission and operation, I had contributed my part to assist the growth and survival of the medical industry. Although my medical fees could be minor, it helped to pay the overall funding of the hospital. Not forgetting there are hundreds of families within this medical centre, which depends the sicks to support their financial needs. It was fair on my side because it took me almost sixty years to pay this due to them. Perhaps this is my first and last contribution in medical payment. I am sure everyone has to be sick one day and we have to take turns to do it. Haha!! Anyway, all my medical charges were paid by my insurance company. They were too happy to do it because I had diligently paid my insurance premium to them. Now was the time, they had to prove to me that what they had promised was true and reliable. Of course, I am totally convinced. With my stronger belief, I am going to enlighten more people to insure the necessary. See! This crystal diamond had created a real impact on my life. It served a purpose for being here.

My explanation sounded logically with lots of humour. Everyone was laughing. Again I had proven to myself, "Happiness is only the feeling of our mind." I chose to be cheerful rather than sad, even when I am unwell. My goal in life, "To die with a smile or before I depart from this world, I must have a smiling face to go with it."

A wonderful experience of a recent surgery.

In all my life, I had visited hundreds who had been hospitalized but not myself. I broke my record this week when I needed to remove a lovely cyst which was hidden in my right knee. It had to be done by a minor surgery. Advising and encouraging others for medical attention were easy for me. However when my turn came for this admission, it was really an unforgetable experience for me. Although I managed to put up a false confident self, I was under pressure and fear prior to my operation. On the final hour when I was chaired into the operational theatre, I took a deep breath and sought for the Almighty strength, preparing and letting go myself for this surgery. I was treated by the general anesthetic when I was under deep anesthesia, an unconsciousness, deeper than any normal sleep. During the period of anesthesia, there was total silence, relax and peace of the mind. An experience which I like because of the unconsciousness. When I came back to my senses two hours later, I was surprised that the entire operation was over. It was such a relieve after that. It was like coming back to lives again.

From this admission, I know that nobody could avoid being sick and unwell. But when you are not, don't take lives for granted. Always appreciate good health and living. Medical isn't cheap either, if your financial strength is weak but you are still strong and healthy, please consider some good medical insurance for the future. You won't know, the one day you might need it. Otherwise when you have no money and no medical insurance, then don't get sick at all. For your information, I was very much treated like a VIP patient during my stay at the hospital because I was covered by a first class medical insurance. The hospital might not know me but they know my insurance company well, which made the difference. One good piece of news from the hospital. Prior to the surgery, I was thoroughly medically tested on my health first. The final result was; I am fit even to get marry another one more time. I was laughing all the way with the medical staffs.

From Derrick Lam who gave this quote, "A cheerful disposition is the medicine to our heart".