His glory will be shown in her face.

William had not seen my son, Alvin for two years. He was too eager to know about his well being. I had not seen my son for quite awhile too, as he has migrated afar. We only chat online. Alvin could be a smart boy to me but he was always the mischievous and the playful one. However I noticed lately through our chat, he has grown to be more wiser, humble, simpler and more homely in nature. Something that surprised me! Then came another day, I had the opportunity to chat with his wife, Fionna at home. Casually I asked her about Alvin. She was very happy with the husband because he came home early for dinner most of the time. He often bought flowers for her. They held hand whenever they went out. He is more caring and tends to be more romantic than before. This is definitely good news.

As William is an experience man, he remarked, "I am sure your son has changed. Judge him by the lady's words." Not all men would tell the truth of their behaviour. To "check & balance" of the man, ask his woman and the truth would be revealed. The emotion of the lady depicts the happiness from her man. If she is joyful and delighted in voice and facial, most likely she is treated well by her man. Otherwise it could be the reverse effect. Meaning, the glory of a man is shown in the face of his lover.

Food for the heart - "Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may escape but what's in your heart will remain forever."

At age 60, what excite me everyday?

A sweet young thing (SYT) asked, "At your age 60, what excite me everyday?"

I told the SYT, everything excites me. What the young could do, I equally can! What I could do, the young may not! I have the mind of wisdom and the heart of 37 turning 36. The young could feel young but not all older person could. Unless the old have the courage to do so. I have been selling for 40 years. My greatest sale isn't the 10 million plan or the number one insurance agent of my company, but rather to sell myself to my little darling who willingly accept my soul. I consider this as my greatest achievement in life. To do so, I need all the things I had learned in lives to convince her. Not only knowledge and wisdom, but the true heart and purity of the soul to touch her spirit.

Finally she wrote to tell her thought, "Sweetheart..if you are confident and have fate in our partnership and love affair as soul mate...I will be also babe..I just know that since we are together...I have found love and happiness and confidence...especially the support that you have given me...thank you sweetheart."

Those words inspire me. They create excitement and spur me to feel younger and accepted. My mind start to create dreams and hopes. I have more fantasies and goals to long for. Suddenly I feel I am starting a new live again. My talks are sweeter and my interaction tends to be warmer. I am more health conscious and exercise more regularly. My muscle is firm and my stamina is strong. My thought is active with creativeness. I have great desire to share when I could blog almost every night. I sell more effectively and my after sale services are remarkable. My humour is fantastic which could make you laugh crazily. While my wisdom of life could solve most of your sorrow. I appreciate every single minute of my lives and render assistance and help to others without people asking. Everyday is an exciting day. All these are possible because I have made my soul mate to love me more.

This is how I excite myself to live. At whatever age you are, you need different way to live happily and meaningfully. Measurement of success to man is; At age 3, success is don't shit in the pant. At age 12, success is how to make friends. At age 20, success is sex. At age 30, success is money. At age 50, success is money. At age 60, success is sex. At age 75, success is how to make friends. At age 85, success is don't shit in the pant. So! What is yours?

Food for the thought - "We don't stop playing because we grow old. We grow old because we stop playing" - George Bernard Shaw.

The heart is more important than the look.

When you buy a new motor car, is the external design more important than internal the engine? I believe most would be captured more by the design than anything else. Not many take the trouble to look at the specifications. The intelligent buyers might have the appeal for a new model, but they will take time to seriously review the car specs. To them the performance, safety features and suspension of the vehicle are more vital than its outside beauty. Meaning, they judge their ideal car from the inside first rather than the external.

Similarly most people look at the beauty of a person from the outside rather than the inside. A man looks at the attractiveness of a woman and the lady is more attracted to the handsome man. The outside beauty could be temporary. The inside of a good heart is more permanent. If you are a buyer who only depends on the fashionable look of a new car, most likely you would also pick a woman you love from just the outside beauty. A car without the quality of a good engine, might not last for long. A person without a true heart, might not be a faithful lover. The beauty of a person should be judged more from the inside.

My little darling is a very attractive and beautiful lady of her class. To me, her beauty as a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of her must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides. With all her qualities, I really consider myself as very fortunate for I have found a soul mate. Have you?

Food of the thought - "You came from no where, and in no time got close..., not to me, but to my heart."

Know your strength & mistakes from your clients.

Selling tips for my fellow colleagues.

Each time I closed a case, especially a new client, I would try to assess his strength and his weaknesses. I compliment his strength but also advise his weaknesses if there are. It is easy to offer goodness to another but not many darn to highlight another person weaknesses. Close friends will offer both assistance. If you are truly a sincere agent, you should not be afraid to compliment and advise at the same time. If it is done tactfully with professionalism, your client normally would appreciate your endeavour.

Finally before I leave, I would always ask my client whether he is happy with my services. In order for me to improve my services, I would be glad if he could be frank to outline my strength too. By telling my strength, I could capitalize further on them. However I wish also to know whether I had made any mistakes as well. Telling my mistakes or defects are one way I could correct myself. I assure my clients, I would never feel offended in any way, if they could provide these plus and minus in my selling. Their comments are always benefiting and rewarding to our relationship building.

Conclusion: clients and agent would learn much from each other. It reflects the maturity of your personality. You develop a greater confidence within your clients.

Confucious said, "Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it."

Is there a school for marriage?

I was driving into this township, where I noticed all shops and even residential homes are converted into wedding parlours. They are beautifully decorated with dresses of the bride and groom. Even my little darling who saw it, was attracted to them. I was sure, she was dreaming to get marry again, when she could have the chance to wear those latest fashionable dresses.

Yes! There are many wedding or marriage parlours to cater and arrange for new couples who have intention to get marry. You just pay and the parlours would do the rest to cater your needs according to your wedding budget. So to get marry is easy. However to stay and maintain a good marriage is uncertain. Sometimes I wonder, why there is no wedding or marriage institution to teach and educate couples first before getting marry. Rather, all who want to get marry spend so lavishly first but not knowing what is the responsibility to being getting marry. After all to be husband and wife, they have different roles to play in life. To be good friends and lovers are much easier but to be a married couple, they have to experience to understand.

The only school for marriage is from the Catholic Church. Although I am not a Catholic, I know a Catholic cannot seek for divorce once he/she is married. So when a couple who intends to get marry in their Church, the Father always insists a marriage encounter first. Is a programme that last a few weeks, when the soon to be married couple has to attend the briefing and teaching of life as being a husband and wife. The man should understand his responsibility to her and the woman knows how to love the man. Making sure the couple would not fail in their marriage lives together later. However this school of marriage teaching is not opened to the outside world. Perhaps there should be a wedding school that comes along with the wedding parlour. Then, there will be lesser misunderstanding of man and woman in this world.

Food for the heart - "Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit" - Peter Ustinov.

How much shall we love our children?

There is a Chinese saying,"No wealth can pass through three generations." I certainly have to believe in it. Especially having the experiences in selling life insurance and getting close with my clients. Let me share some of my real stories in life.

Mr Zu is currently a very successful corporate lawyer. His bungalow on top of a hill will tell his achievement. His surrounding and possession are amazing. He was born in a simple home 58 years ago. As a child he studied hard and during the school holidays, he worked part-time to earn the extra pocket money. For his excellent academic result, he was awarded a government scholarship to study law in England. Upon returning, he became an effective lawyer. Happily married with another lawyer who later turned full time housewife. Currently they have four children, the eldest is 29 and the youngest is only 12. Both the elder son and daughter have double degrees from England too. The sad thing is both are not willing to work. According to the dad, there are plenty of job opportunities for them, but they are the least interested to gain employment. The father has given everything to them, from driving expensive cars, credit cards and good saving accounts. He is extremely sad and worried over them because they lack personal drive to achieve success. I could only listen from the unhappy friend.

Madam Tham is a retired teacher and is a widow since 10 years ago. Her late husband was a wealthy man, who had left a substantial amount of assets to all his four sons. All the four children had completed their overseas studies with professional degrees again. However the mother is sad and worried too because non of them are serious in their careers. Most of the time, they prefer to be unemployed by living on their royalties. I had spoken to the lady but nothing could be done.

There are many more similar encounters I had experienced. It is so sad to see our younger generation loosing their enthusiasm and interest in lives. They are well pampered, educated and loved upon by their parents but regret their attitude is rather weak without the drive to succeed. Whose wrong was it and who were to be blamed? Can someone enlighten them?

Food for the thought - "You will never know true happiness until you have truly loved, and you will never understand what pain really is until you have lost it."

I can't work without woman.

I was well served by two Bangladeshi waiters in our club coffee house. They have good manner and always smiled. I had a good time talking with them, when I could understand better. They are both at their thirties and have been working here for almost three years. They are married, leaving the wives and children back home. Our of curiosity, I pondered them some personal questions, which they were frank to review.

Me: "Since you are away from home for so long, have you got girl friends here?"

Waiter: "Boss! If we don't have girl friends, lives will be very difficult for us."

Me: "I don't understand. Can you be more precise?"

Waiter: "Without our girl friends, our lives will be lonely. Our intimacy and sexual encounter enhance our well being. Otherwise, we have no desire to work. And working here for three years will be a torture without them."

Me: "What about your wives back home then?"

Waiter: "Wife without man is alright. As long as we sent back money to them. They will be happy with our children."

Me: "Who are your girlfriends here? Are they locals or foreigners?"

Waiter: "Boss! How can? The local girls will not eye on us. We have to pick the foreigners who are just like us. They are also lonesome too."

With the short discussion, it revealed the truth of man's needs in nature. They could be from firm religious background and up bringing back home. Their employment contract might spell strict conditions and rules of close contact with promiscuous. Nothing will stop them from searching their loves or lust. Now I know why they are smiling so sweet in face because they too have reached their satisfaction and contentment in heart. But for sure, I think it is not easy for such healthy young men to work so far from home. For those who are reading this article now. Do you think they are right or wrong?

Food for the heart. "It breaks your heart to see the one you love is happy with someone else - but it's more painful to know that the one you love is unhappy with you."