Offer compliment smartly.

I have an elderly auntie whom nobody likes to befriend. Only one child out of four is staying with her and this son also seldom speaks with his mum. Reason, the minute she opens her mouth, all her words smell and are insulting.

One incident happened recently. She met my sister in law's boyfriend whom she hadn't seen for quite sometime. Upon seeing this gentleman, she said,"Mr Ho, long time haven't seen you, you look older now. Your head is almost bald and your hair is grey. You look very old la!"

Mr Ho was very upset and irritated by her rude remark, but couldn't scold this relative. Perhaps she thought her concern was a compliment to this friend, without realising she was hurting and insulting the belittle man.

Yes! It could happen to all of us too. When we are being introduced to new friends, we normally look at the strong points of those acquaintances. We tend to say good things and admiration, and avoid the defects. But the funny part of life is, as we gradually get to know those new friends, we overlook their good qualities and we see more of their weaknesses. We catch and locate their mistakes more often than highlight their strength.

This occurred to me as well. Many years ago when little darling had not fallen with me yet, she was only a casual friend then. Those days when we met, she offered sweet and nice words to me all the time. She spotted all my qualities from head to toe, giving those wonderful admiration and compliments which melted my heart. Nobody is prefect and i had my defects too but they were completely blind to her. Today little darling has forgotten to look at my strong edge, rather she is damn good to spot every single error i make whenever we are together. Even a tiny hole on my shirt could never miss her two eyes.

My caring advices to my little darling; please tune down my mistakes and preferable tell me indirectly my wrongs, as to correct my shortfalls. You could inspire and motivate me greater by relating more of my strength and qualities. The fact is, everybody likes to hear compliments and appreciations more than anything else. I know she is a very intelligent lady who is smart enough to understand this title.

A likable person knows - “Insults should be written in sand, compliments should be carved in stone” - Marleen Arab Proverb quotes

Many men suffer from premature ejaculation woes.

By SYED AZHAR newsdesk@thestar.com.my

KOTA BARU: Many men aged 19 to 60 have confessed in a Universiti Sains Malaysia survey that they ejaculate even before having sexual intercourse with their partner.

“I have a recorded case of a married couple who never had a fulfilled intercourse for four years because the husband was unable to control his excitement and would often ejaculate before penetration,” said USM Men’s Health Clinic head Assoc Prof Shaiful Bahari Ismail who did the study on premature ejaculation.

“Some men hardly last a minute after intra-vaginal activity,” he said, adding that this caused distress and sexual boredom that might lead to divorce if the wife had a high sex drive.

According to his Premature Ejaculation Perception and Attitude study, about 29% of Malaysians aged between 19 and 60 suffer from some sort of premature ejaculation.

The percentage could be higher, considering many are unable to practise healthy and regular intercourse and also because they lead very stressful lives, he said in an interview here.

A World Health Organisation report said early ejaculation was the most common of all sexual difficulties among men and it was estimated that between 25% and 33% of men ejaculated “before they want to”.

Shaiful said that based on his studies, women who experienced problems of sexual fulfilment were more open to talk about the issue when interviewed without the presence of their husband or partner.

“This is in contrast to men who would rather be in a denial mode even in one-to-one interviews.
“When this denial is allowed to fester, it would lead to other problems like unnecessary stress.

“This could lead to psychological problems and, if not controlled, would eventually affect their manhood and self-esteem,” added Shaiful.

He said that premature ejaculation was becoming a threat to Malaysians and might be one of the causes of the increasing divorce rate.

He said Malaysian men felt that it was taboo to speak about the condition and preferred to “sweep the problem under the carpet”.

He added that married women also preferred to be silent because it could affect their husbands’ self-esteem.

Shaiful, a family medicine specialist, said there was no cure for premature ejaculation because it was “all in the mind”.

P/S. Not true, premature ejeculation could be solved. Can be treated by traditional penis massage, plus plenty of physical exercise on cardio and strength training.

Food for thought - "A man needs the sexual conquest to prove that he can still do it, that he can still get it up. It's like having a duel with himself. He has to prove it all the time. We don't have to prove it" - Princess Elizabeth of Yugoslavia

1910 FORD MODEL R.

THE YEAR IS 1910
This will boggle your mind, I know it did mine!
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The year is 1910 One hundred years ago. What a difference a century makes! Here are some statistics for the Year 1910:
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The average life expectancy for men was 47 years.
Fuel for this car was sold in drug stores only.
Only 14 percent of the homes had a bathtub.
Only 8 percent of the homes had a telephone.
There were only 8,000 cars and only 144 miles of paved roads.
The maximum speed limit in most cities was 10 mph.
The tallest structure in the world was the Eiffel Tower !
The average US wage in 1910 was 22 cents per hour.
The average US worker made between $200 and $400 per year ..
A competent accountant could expect to earn $2000 per year,A dentist $2,500 per year, a veterinarian between $1,500 and $4,000 per year, and a mechanical engineer about $5,000 per year.
More than 95 percent of all births took place at HOME .
Ninety percent of all Doctors had NO COLLEGE EDUCATION!
Instead, they attended so-called medical schools, many of which were condemned in the press AND the government as 'substandard.'
Sugar cost four cents a pound.
Eggs were fourteen cents a dozen.
Coffee was fifteen cents a pound.
Most women only washed their hair once a month, and used Borax or egg yolks for shampoo.
Canada passed a law that prohibited poor people from entering into their country for any reason.
The Five leading causes of death were:
1. Pneumonia and influenza 2. Tuberculosis3. Diarrhea4. Heart disease 5. Stroke
The American flag had 45 stars ....
The population of Las Vegas , Nevada , was only 30!!!!
Crossword puzzles, canned beer, and iced tea hadn't been invented yet.
There was no Mother's Day or Father's Day.
Two out of every 10 adults couldn't read or write and
Only 6 percent of all Americans had graduated from high school..
Marijuana, heroin, and morphine were all available over the counter at the local corner drugstores.
Back then pharmacists said, 'Heroin clears the complexion, gives buoyancy to the mind,
Regulates the stomach and bowels, and is, in fact, a perfect guardian of health'
(Shocking? DUH! )
Eighteen percent of households had at least one full-time servant or domestic help ....
There were about 230 reported murders in the ENTIRE U.S.A. ! (reported)

I am now going to forward this to someone else without typing it myself. From there, it will be sent to others all over the WORLD - all in a matter of seconds!

You could read on my blog without searching these facts by yourself!
Try to imagine what it may be like in another 100 years.

IT STAGGERS THE MIND

New Bed for Men:

Can you sleep well every night? Not me! I have to toss and turn many many times to be able to reach the dreamworld. A beautiful associate recently sent me this new bed and i wish it could be true. According to her, somebody has finally made an orthopedic bed just for MEN.

Can be ordered in three firmness levels... "saline, silicone or natural"
in sizes C - DDDD ............ Anyone wanting less than a C should just sleep on the floor.

Available only at 'Butts, Boobs & Beyond'

Any buyers out there?

I am sure you like this too - "The bed is a bundle of paradoxes: we go to it with reluctance, yet we quit it with regret; we make up our minds every night to leave it early, but we make up our bodies every morning to keep it late" ~ Charles Caleb Colton

The Tailor and His Scissors.

A tailor was at work. He took a piece of cloth and with a pair of shining, costly, scissors, he cut the cloth into various bits.

Then he put the pair of scissors at his feet. Then he took a small needle and thread and started to sew the bits of cloth, into a fine shirt. When the spell of sewing was over, he stuck the needle on to his turban.

The tailor's son who was watching it asked him: "Father, the scissors are costly and look so beautiful. But you throw them down at your feet. This needle is worth almost nothing; you can get a dozen for an Anna. Yet, you place it carefully on your head itself. Is there any reason for this illogical behaviour?"

"Yes, my son. The scissors have their function, no doubt; but they only cut the cloth into bits. The needle, on the contrary, unites the bits and enhances the value of the cloth. Therefore, the needle to me is more precious and valuable. The value of a thing depends on its utility, son, not on its cost-price or appearance."

Similarly, there are two classes of people in the world-those who create dissensions and disharmony, who separate man from man; and those who bring about peace and harmony, who unite people.

The former are generally the rich people, powerful politicians and kings; the latter are Generally the poor devotees of God, the penniless wandering monks, and mendicants. The Lord makes use of both to carry on his function of providing the field for the evolution of individual souls.

He throws down on the dust the mighty kings and millionaires who create wars and disharmony; and He keeps the poor, pious devotee over His own head. In His eyes the scale of values is entirely different.

Food for thought - "Have compassion for all beings, rich and poor alike; each has their suffering. Some suffer too much, others too little" - Buddha

Medicare in action.

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Do i know you?

As i was walking with a friend in a shopping mall, i happened to be greeted by many friends who were also making their rounds there. This friend was amazed with my popularity, he said "A lot of people know you!"

My question to my readers; What's the different between "A lot of people know you" over "You know a lot of people?" Sounds alike isn't it! Please take a bit of time to ponder over this question and you might notice the different.

I think when you know a lot of people, you need plenty of hard work and patience to build those friendship. With endless effort and sincerity rendered, these friends would know you forever. However there are some well known celebrities who are famous because of their profession, might be just lonely and frustrating people. The whole world knows who they are, but they do not have many closed friends whom they could trust.

Yes! A lot of people know me because i took much of a trouble to know them as well. On my blog i am writing to share what is inside my mind and hopefully i could reach those who would like to know me too. If you feel i do deserve to be your humble friend, please kindly write your name so that i could also remember you too. The two ways of knowing each other is better than one way. If you happen to be a lady, let me be your dear to understand you more and if you are a man, let's be brothers to support each other.

Conclusion: knowing me isn't enough, let me know you too please.

Food for thought - "Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart" - Eleanor Roosevelt quotes