The Beginning Of Logic

Raheleh is one of my great lady friend. She is talented, attractive and full of laughter all the time. Each time i visited her office, she and all her female colleagues love talking with me. One day Raheleh asked me, what type of friendship glue and charm do i have that makes all ladies admire and adore my presence. That was a good question! I told her, i am only a simple man who has a genuine heart, full of sincerity, patience, humble, kind, fun, humorous and plenty of wisdom to share.

She said i am different because most men still practise the old fashion way. I really didn't understand what she was saying, until yesterday she sent me this cartoon which demonstrated the meaning of her thought. The Chinese proverb says.."One picture is better than a thousand words.

Raheleh...I know you're smiling! And i hope everyone is also smiling too with your cartoon.

Health first or sex first?

I was brought up in a typical Chinese environment, where belief in superstition was strong. Luckily my mum sent me to the English school, where i was taught the knowledge to believe in practical and logic.

The Old Chinese saying, "Less sex and one should live a longer life." Is it true? I think it's nonsense because i seldom saw old folks those days were happy and strong. By the time they were in the fifties, they were already considered as old when they totally abstained from sex. The husband and wife would be sleeping in different room and bed, avoiding physical contact of each other. At that stage of life, sex should be erased from their mind when they should concentrate on their health and well being. Frankly speaking i never saw my father and mum were happy as loving couple when they were old. I guessed they didn't even know what was love and sex. So sad for them!

Today SEX is an important word to every one of us. Now my question is.."Is Good health first or Good sex first? Sex is important but without good health sex is out of the way. On the hand good sex provides a better understanding for a couple, which leads to further development of a better life. According to a recent medical talk conducted by a professional gynecologist, she said regular and frequent active sex is definitely an enhancement to the overall health for the man and woman. They tend to be less stressful and are more energised instead. More sex could help the person lives longer and happier. However she reminded, to have a strong and effective sex life, one has to be healthy as well. Good food and nourishment, plus plenty of exercise could only strengthen good sex. So whether is Sex first or Health first, they both come together as a way of life.

Thanks God! I didn't listen to those old folks to abstain from active sex as we are aging. Otherwise i might be like them living an uninteresting life without love. What about you?

Funny isn't it!!! "God gave us a penis and a brain, but not enough blood to use both at the same time" - Robin Williams

The Malaysian darn devil drivers

Malaysian Road Divider is Stronger than the Malaysian Car!!!!! Yes, these were seen on our local scenes most of the the time and is frightening. One of my good friend, Capt Azhah replied my mail. He said...

Its very unfortunate that Malaysian drivers some time turned into devils once they are behind the wheel. I have encountered umpteen times that Kancil or Viva or Wira or Waja or whatever little Malaysian cars being driven as if they are on the F1 race track, even in the rain. Even with my Mercedes and BMW, I found it difficult to keep up with the "supersonic" speed of these cars on the highway. Albeit unethical to say that they deserve to hit the road dividers, empirically their lack of concern for their safety while on the road paved the way to their own peril. Some even modified their cars in order to increase performance, but they forgot about safety. We can see a lot of these little cars being turbo-charged or their engines changed to those of bigger capacity. With these modifications, they hit the road with gusto, thinking they are driving a Ferrari. To borrow a Malay proverb, their behaviour on the road is like "Kera kena belacan". Of course much to the chagrin of other law abiding road users.

I told him my title "Ruthless Malaysian Drivers was posted on April 14th 2007. I said...

By nature Malaysian is considered as friendly. All our various races live in harmony to the envy of the world. However when we drive on the road, we turn 'animal' with instinct to attack and to be ruthless.

I really don't understand why we behave such rude manner. Even myself, when I was younger I reacted rudely too when I drove. Today with some understanding of life, I have softened a lot but still not perfect yet lah. Have to confess here! May be bad habit is difficult to change. Don't forget, I am only at 38 and turning 37 soon. Still have the vigorous heart in mind.

I have a girl friend who is nice and spiritually an inclined person. When she is on the wheel, she would also lose her commotion without realising it herself. She would yell, point finger, attack and throw all four letters words to release her tension. At that moment, it was sad that she lost all her feminine charm as a lady. I hope, she won't be reading this. Hihi!

I have another similar example. My previous ex driver was innocently a young man. I employed him for his religious trust and honest behaviour. Shameful to relate, he was the same too. In fact, he could change his entire personality from soft to arrogant, when he was on the wheel. He was a good driver who followed rules and regulations. However, when another driver cut into his path, he would easily get agitated. Instead of giving way, he would resist and attack. The boss here also could not calm him down. No joke! This style of driving is dangerous, which causes the many motor accidents in our country. That is why our PM is having a big headache whenever our Malaysian goes 'balik kampong.' Pity the old man!

Incidentally I have an old classmate who had a stroke. He is still unmarried and had been a great judo expert cum instructor since school days. With his judo philosophically training and teaching, he should be a calmer and more of a controllable person. According to his girlfriend, he was like a crazy or a mad driver when he drove. He had this stroke while driving for he had been driving with stress for more than 40 years. What a pity! I wonder whether he could still love his young girl friend now. Gentleman out there, be careful the way you drive. Otherwise you might not see your girl friend too.

I had travelled to many Asian populated cities where their traffics are even much higher than us. Surprisingly, their motorists are more pleasant and well manner compare to us. They understand the language of good driving. Their attitude is right. They have things that we don't have. They know how to be patience and know how to relax when on wheel.

Regret to say, we Malaysian has dual types of personality. Friendly when not driving but when driving we are no longer friendly. High time Malaysian has to learn and to understand these two simple words; "Patience & Relax" Betul tak?

After Capt Azhad read the above, he wrote his mind. Its interesting....

The Government have "tried" all sorts of systems in order to encourage and inculcate save driving, but to no avail. Numerous traffic laws were passed in parliament, but we still have errant drivers roaming the highways and the byways. Why? To me, it all boils down to the implementation of the law and the attitude of Malaysians at large. I have lived in Germany, in the UK and in the USA. The law enforcers there are very intimate in enforcing the law without fear or favour. And the drivers take the law seriously as they know the hands of the law would get to them if they flouted any of the traffic regulations. But here in Malaysia, law enforcement seems to be seasonal. Traffic offenders could get away, even when caught by the law enforcers, once a few portraits of the Agong changed hands between the enforcers and the offenders. Even school children are oblivious to the law. Just see the number of school children riding motor bikes without wearing crash helmets as required by the law. No body says anything about it. The parents, the teachers and the Malaysian at large tend to ignore the flouting of the law by these would be future drivers and riders at such a young age. What can we expect when these children grow up. Will they respect the law or flout it as they used to do when they were young? The "kapcai" mentality in them would normally prevail.

Hence, 2 most important actions need to be pursuit. Educating the young (if they flout the law, nip them early) and enforcing the law. ...."bukan saman ekor sahaja"...but it must be done holistically. If these failed....what else? Well, ban all traffic from hitting the roads.

Thank you Capt for sharing your thought. I hope our attitude would change in due course.

Food for thought - Brian Tracy said "You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you."

The "Rodeo Position"

Two Texans were out on the range talking about their favorite sex positions.

One said, 'I think I enjoy the rodeo position the best.'

'I don't think I have ever heard of that one,' said the other cowboy. 'What is it ?'

'Well, it's where you get your wife down on all fours and you mount her from behind. Then you reach around and cup each one of her breasts in your hands and whisper in her ear: "Boy, these feel just like your sister's."

Then you try and stay on for 8 seconds.

P.S. I wonder how many got the joke & can give me some scores!!!

Divine humor

Forgiveness.

The preacher, in his Sunday sermon, used "Forgive Your Enemies" as his subject.

After a long sermon, he asked how many were willing to forgive their enemies.

About half held up their hands.

Not satisfied, he harangued for another twenty minutes and repeated his question... This time he received a response of eighty percent.

Still unsatisfied, he lectured for fifteen minutes and repeated his question.

With thoughts of Sunday dinner, all responded except one old gentleman in the rear.

Mr. Jones, are you not willing to forgive your enemies?"

"I don't have any."

"Mr. Jones, that is very unusual. How old are you?"

"Eighty-six."

Mr. Jones, please come down in front and tell the congregation how a man can live to be 86 and not have an enemy in the world.

The old man teetered down the aisle and slowly turned around.

"It's easy. I outlived all of them...."

How punctual are you?

Talking about punctuality, are you a punctual person! Well! How late is considered as late for an appointment made? To some, one minute is already considered as late, whereas five, ten or half an hour might not be late for you, as long as you arrive for the appointment. Right?

Not me! I am very particular in timing. I try to be earlier in all my meetings and dates. If i am late even for one second, i feel so guilty for the late arrival. No words or explanation could forgive the late coming coz it reflects on my commitment towards meeting those friends.

A punctual person has right attitude, and those who have right attitude are responsible people. I can't imagine those who are late but call to tell they are few minutes away and to arrive only one to two hours later. Upon reaching they are the least be bothered how others feel toward them, and at the same time they are not shameful and guilty of being late either. To them is, as long as we came, being late isn't the issue anymore. Be careful with such people because they are the most irresponsible human being on earth.

For the lovers... if the man is late, throw him away but if the lady is late, she is only trying to test the man's patience. Thanks God! I was never late on all my love dates.

Food for thought - "I could never think well of a man's intellectual or moral character, if he was habitually unfaithful to his appointments" ~ Nathaniel Emmons

I haven't found my soulmate yet!

Su is a very attractive lady who works as a special PA for one of my wealthy client in town. Over her desk she asked me, why she could not get an ideal man to get marry.

Su is still single, in her early thirties, sexy and a fun person. Though she is craving for love, that special soulmate hasn't appeared in sight yet. This was what i told the lonely friend there. She is too intelligence for most men her age. In measuring intelligence, lets assume a score of maximum of ten points, i have to rate this lady with a 7 points scoring. No joke! She speaks well, in many different languages, creative, smart, independence, high earner, full of enthusiasm and very focus in life.

I suggested two proposals for her. One to get a much younger man, with lesser IQ than her, say a score of 3.5 points. Having a lower esteemed man, would allow her to dictate and control her partner. As long as this man is around, she should feel secure in some way, with love and romance lead by her. Or to get a much older man who could easily be reaching 50 and above, and most likely be married as well. An older man who has the intelligence score of 9.9 points would definitely inspire her with wisdom of life. She won't be bored by a man of intelligence and wisdom. Otherwise if she continues seeking men of her age, no man would be capable to outwit her. This is the main reason why the past 10 years, Su still hasn't found her ideal love.

Before i left her office, i gave her another last option. If she failed the two proposals laid, please consider me as the last candidate in line for her to pick. She returned a big "YES!" to me.

Have you found your soulmate? - “Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person.” - Richard Bach quotes