My nation 50 years of Independence.

Today is our nation, Malaysia's 50 years of Independence. We have gone a long way and we are proud of our achievement in every aspect of life. We have gained much and also lost some of our past. In the pursuit of progress, we have acquired tremendous amount of knowledge in every direction. From agricultural base, we are at industrial base now and advancing into high tech related technology.

In the pursuit of knowledge, I think we have lost the wisdom of understanding in simplicity of life. I can still remember those days when I was a little kid, our neighbour knew each other well. From one street corner to the other end, we knew each and every one of us. We shared and lived together like one big family. Although we were poorer and our life styles were simple, we never degraded and discriminated. During all festivals, we rest assured we were there to celebrate together. The harmony and kinship within us were beyond the admiration of the outside world.

Today we are proud to have low illiteracy with most having a degree in hand. We are knowledgeable in mind and thinking, and we have higher expectation in life too. Of course it is good that we have reached this level of thought, but we have lost the simplicity of mind as well. Today, we tend to be more arrogance, impatience, unfriendly, discriminate and selfish in nature.

My present neighbourhood is termed as higher middle class residents. Sad to say, we never mix at all. I don't even know the name of my next door neighbours. All our homes are built with higher retention walls which looked more like prison, rather than like a friendly home. If we ever happened to meet, instead of a smile, a hostile stare would be given. I wonder where all our wisdom of life has gone. Is this the side effect of progress and advancement? Or is it, too much of knowledge create self-esteem of the individual to loose the wisdom of thinking? Is scary but this is the true facts of life happening.

Napolean Hill said, "Life reflects your own thoughts back to you."

Do u know when to use hihi and haha?

Life has many splendors. It comes with our hihi, hehe, haha or hoho! We laugh within us or we let others to laugh. We laugh in physical face2face or in written words to express our inner feeling. The verbal laugh could be natural from our heart and mind. Not the written laugh because most of us wrote without really understood them. I used to receive emails or online chatting or the often text messages, written with laugh expression which I believe did not depict the real purposes. With a little practise by sounding those actual words, I could differentiate their meaning and effect.

To me, hihi or hehe are similar in nature. Written by man or woman to woman is alright but woman to man sounds inappropriate. Each time a lady who wrote such expression to me, I felt a bit of unfeminine feeling towards her. I think hihi or hehe denotes cunningness, crafty, tricky or suspicious in character.

Haha sounds better. If you doubt me, please try to throw out haha yourself and you will feel the joyfulness in you. Those who received the haha, know that the senders are meant to be happy in mood. Hoho is different. The senders are not laughing but he laughs against his receivers.

Out of these normal expression, I like to receive the "Huuuummm!", especially sent by ladies to me. It sounds very feminine and gentle in mood. More so if it is sent out in the night cause it reflexes the loving and romantic thought of love making.

I also like to receive the next best expression from ladies, "Muuuuurscch!" It has a sensational feeling of acceptance. It might not be a true and real kiss but the heart heals in every way.

The best and the killer will always be worded with the full contents. Write and send them over as "I Love You." These few words will definitely overrule the hihi or haha. These are also the facts of life in our telecommunication world.

Quote to be remembered, "The fragrance always remains on the hand that gives the rose." Spoken by Mahatma Gandhi

Life comes together with good & bad.

Hi readers! I am back in action again after a short break. Searching, reaching and observing how the world passed along. I strongly believe for whatever happened, there must be a reason, whether is good or bad. Just last nite, while returning home from our local airport, I witnessed a minor motor accident on the way. It created a commotion when all passing motorists slowing their vehicles just to stare at the accident. The polices were there to control the heavy traffic. The ambulance was there to provide medical assistance. The toll trucker was there to remove those damaged motor cars. A lot of bystanders watching and doing nothing. I am sure, they did not want to cause this accident with intention. On the other hand, without this accident all these people would not be around there. With the accident, the polices had a responsibility to shoulder, the ambulance brought medical attention and the toll trucker had extra job. Every one of them had an opportunity to provide services and attention which in turn translated into money or income. For this accident to happen, it allowed others to earn and live or to be in business. The accident could be considered as bad but on the other hand, the opportunity for others to assist the accident might be good. Its bad for some but could be good for others.

Looking at the world passes by, we definitely cannot escape the good and bad way of life. Whether you like it or not, we have to appreciate our life journey as a package of good and bad. Today you might be happy but tomorrow if you were to face with some sadness, do accept them as happiness as well.

Quoted by Hugh Downs, "A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes."

Would u dare to say I Love You?

I think the three most difficult words to be spoken are; "I LOVE YOU." We were taught to say them when we were young, we know they are meant to be nice, we want to say them and yet we find them so difficult to express them. It's easier to scold with the four bad letters word but to admit I love you is shameful. Is true! Cause whenever I wished my clients and friends their birthdays, I suggested to them to greet their spouses with the 'I Love You' added when they celebrated the night, not one darn to say them to their respective wives or husbands. They claimed, "Aiyah! too old for such romantic words" were their excuses.

The husband might want to say them and the wife would certainly love hearing these three words. However as Asian, we are the unromantic kind who prefers to keep "I Love You" in the heart and mind. Most of us would rather express our love and concern by action and attention to the one we loved. The words are hidden and we have to guess and sense them ourselves. It looks silly but that is the way we live.

With some understanding of life, today I realised that sound with words are important. As sound travels faster than physical action, it is more logical and practical to say and express my intention to the one I care. If I love my family, my girlfriends, my clients or associates, why wait to tell them. The minute I relate to them that I Love Them, which are so pleasant to hear, I know they will feel good with me. In such a win win situation, don't you think we should say I Love You more. You feel good after you say them, especially to the one you love most now.

The constitution of love code, "If you love someone, show them and say so!"

P/S Would be taking a short break when I won't be posting for a few days. Hopefully I would meet someone who can be so sweet and brave, as to tell me she loves me too. Bye!

U can sell better with a sense of humour.

Laughter is the best medicine for our heart. I gave them by applying sense of humour to all my approaches in every meeting, whether they were friends or strangers. Before I proceeded to the main reasons for each call, I always started with some jokes relevant to our meets. Depending on each personality and character, I created jokes and laughter related to their liking. To the good boys, my jokes were clean and fun and to the naughty guys, my humour could be the cheeky one. Meaning, I could talk heaven or hell, angels or devils, man or women, until they laugh through their heart. These were the fastest way to break the ice or egg for building good relationship in selling or even meeting new acquaintances.

To have good sense of humour, one has to develop this skill gradually. You need courage and plenty of creativity. Buy some books on fun and laughter where you can gather some sensible pointers. Once you have acquired the know how, you will be on a journey of fun and laughter. Nobody would be bored by your present and everyone loves to be associated with you. If you want to be an effective salesperson, learn to develop the art of having fun and laughter. Not only you can be successful in your career, you will be happier and heathier as well. Start to laugh now!

"Laughter is the shortest distance between two people." said Victor Borge.

Do u need the sales more than your clients?

Zig Ziglar said, "You can get everything you want, if you would just help enough people get what they want." It was well written, read, heard and listened but most of us still failed to follow these powerful words.

Many sale people had attended seminars and training related to inspiration and motivation to encourage them to work with determination. In fact, they certainly had but instead they have changed the above statement to, "You can get everything you want, if you would just help enough people can what 'YOU' want." Please read properly the definition again. It is YOU and not THEY. The you and they is a vast different.

I observed better from my life insurance industry to relate my experiences. Most rookie agents who came to this selling career, were highly motivated by money and glamour. They were told that they can get everything they want, like income, incentives, holidays, bonuses, recognition and extra benefits, if they could just bring in more sales. Each time a sale was brought back, a pat and congratulation was given to energize another sale again. How ethical and honest were the sales were unknown. What matter most were the sales again. Many were carried away at the beginning by forcing friends and relatives to purchase their products. Those were the easy and high stakes premium from people they knew. Without them realising, the truth would prevail when they have to depend on themselves later.

Selling life insurance isn't just the product of insurance plans. It is how much you understand life and death. The needs of the young, the dreams of the adult and the planning towards death later. If only rookie agents were not just motivated by money but rather being preached with life insurance as a religion, they would have understood the value of this miracle product. Instead of selling they should have listened and understood the people they met. Providing assistances, offering solutions, giving encouragement and selling benefits to the people.

The bottom line remains as, "You can get everything you want, if you would just help enough people get what THEY want." Believe these words in your doing and we won't be wrong for the future. I have had been doing these for the past 40 years and I won't reget doing it again for the next many years to come.

The selfish, greedy and stingy of us.

Quite sometimes back, I was asked, "Why most of us are selfish in this world?" Is true! All of us live by incentives. Without the carols, we might not strive for the extra miles. As children, we were promised of gifts and rewards, if we excelled in our studies and sports. Even as adults, we needed the recognition and bonuses to tempt us to work harder. Or even in the spiritual sense, we are promised of a better world, if we live right. It looks like the educational system, teaching and the way we were brought up, make us to be selfish, greedy and stingy.

As I was reading, I came across this meaningful statement of happiness which I like to share.

"People go through up and downs of life and constantly keep on searching happiness. While the way to happiness is: Keep your heart free from hate, Your mind from worry. Expect a little, give much. Fill your life with love. Scatter sunshine. Forget self, think of others. Do as you would done by. Live a simple life. Try this for a week and you will be surprised."