Are you an understanding father?

One of my Indian girl friends recommended me to see a Tamil Indian Love movie. Although it was a romance show, it highlighted greatly on family love and matters. It was a film that depicted our current society problems. The story was about love given from the father to the children in the wrong way. His children were over pampered when they had lost their right to think and to decide. From the time the children were born, everything was pre arranged and planned accordingly. The father was successful and extremely rich who could afford almost everything for the children. Without him realising, he controlled and dictated his loved one. His wife and the rest of his family had no say at home. They could only listen and follow the father words. They live in silence frustration and won't darn to sound a word of disagreement for fear of the father. In actual fact, the entire family wasn't happy at all. There was no laugh and cheer in the house, until the son's lover appeared to create the needed joy of love for the whole family later.

Although it was only a film show but I believe many fathers out there could have make the same mistakes. Is good to love our children and to provide for the family but not to love and possess them forever. Guide them, motivate them and advise them. Lead them to be independence and love them to love others. This is the role of a successful father.

On the hand, to love a lady is different. As man we try to love our mate until she needs not think for herself. My little darling always said, "Yes sweetheart...I am brainless since I know you!"

Food for the heart - "Be a great father, love your family with a true heart without condition and expectation."

Indian's head turn.

I was taken by surprised when I spoke with an elderly Indian man. Each time he acknowledged my questions, he shook his head from left to right, when he should be nodding by lowering and raising his head. All of us nod our head as in agreement and shake to determine disagreement in all discussion. When he shook his head, I thought he wasn't sure. Until he opened his mouth with an affirmative yes and still shaking his head to confirm his certainty with me. To make sure he was agreeable and understood my statements, I told him to speak verbally rather than applying his head language. The nodding and shaking were confusing with our discussion. Later I was told, most typical Indian shake their head for 'yes' and also for the 'no' as an answer. I call this as Indian head shake which other races can't act. If you don't believe, try to move your head from left to right and see whether you can say with 'yeses' comfortably at the same time. Perhaps our logical left brain isn't trained to do so. This is the funny part of life which most of us don't realise. So the next time, when you speak to an Indian, be careful with his nod or shake of his head. To you may be is a 'no' but to him is a 'yes', coz it has double meaning in his language.

Oprah Windfrey - "Turn your wounds into wisdom."

Women love to be admired by the right way.

Do you realise all men like to look at women? Especially to women who are sexy and the attractive one. According to my little darling, there are two types of men. The first are those gentlemen who look to admire ladies. They are the decent type who has no bad intention in any way. Not the second type. They stare hungrily at all women, as thought they could imagine that women are naked. Surprisingly women also have their senses to know whether those men are behaving. If you are the male admirer for ladies, they would be proud and be happy with you. Admiration are meant to be beautiful and attractive. The more you look at them, the more happier ladies will be. On the hand, if you are the one who stare at females from top to bottom, please be aware because they have the mind to shoot you down as well.

The funny thing is, not all women darn to look or stare at men. According to my little darling, females also like to admire their heroes, who are macho or handsome in look. Perhaps they won't look directly at men for fear of being noticed. I am sure in their heart, they wish those heroes would look at them instead. Their thoughts are, "Hey! handsome, I am here. I am approachable and available. Stare at me and I will smile for you." After all, women also have feeling like men but just that men have to start the ball rolling first.

As far as I am concerned, I am a gentleman who admires ladies with courage. I don't admire in silence but admire with action. When I first saw my little darling, she was so attractive and sexy to me. From far I saw her beauty of a true woman and I took the attempt to approach her. With a red rose in hand I spoke to her, "My dear, can you allow me to offer you this rose? Coz you are as beautiful as this rose. I was watching you with admiration. I can't resist not to tell you, you are a very pretty lady to me." That was history. Now I called her as my little darling.

For those gentlemen who admire their ladies, don't just look to admire but be brave to let your ladies know you do admire them. Mark my words, ladies love to be admired in all ways. These are true facts of life.

James Allen - "The more tranquil a man becomes, the greater is his success, his influence, his power for good. Calmness of mind is one of the beautiful jewels of wisdom."

What is the most beautiful thing in the world?

Three different people send me different messages recently. The first was my elder son whom I could see has grown to be more mature in life now. He said, "We live in a very temporary world and if we can't enjoy in this world, why bother to go to a better world. Live for the present and do your best out of it." Son, I am glad you can see life deeper as you experience the world.

At the same time my little darling wrote, "I love you so deeply in my heart until I would feel electricity running all over me." I must had done something that had touched her heart. I can't resist this statement. To make it more permanent, I decided to write them on my blog for all lovers to read. Love has magic!

From another new found friend, Zarina who likes me so much. She send me this lovely poem describing what is friend. "FRIENDS... They love you, but they are not your lover. They care for you, but they are not from your family. They are ready to share your pain, but they are not in your blood relation. They are FRIENDS, True friend scolds like a DAD, Cares like a MUM. Teases like a SISTER, Irritates like a BROTHER. And finally loves u more than a lover. Thank you for being my friend all this while." Zarina, you are truly my good friend coz good friends do not come easy.

This was a wonderful week when I had a son, little darling and a good friend to give me - "The best & most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen & even touched. They must be felt with our heart."

Creative replies inspire others.

To ask effectively is to gain result and replying creatively is to inspire. There are many ways to answer a question. To add character and sweetness in answering could bring better acceptance. The most popular question ask is, "How are you?" Is commonly replied with I am fine or ok or I am alright, thank you. Personally I feel those replies are rather flat and uninteresting. I always put extra effort to reply that question. I prefer to say, "I am fine. More so to see you calling me at the moment." Or perhaps, "Your call make me feel so wonderful." Or, "Nothing is happier to see you around."

Replying with 'I am fine' is one way energy to the receiver. On the hand, 'Your call make me feel so wonderful' is two ways energy. The receiver gains and the giver also benefits in return. Any thing that has two ways with 'give&take' is a positive attitude of two minds.

Lovers could be more intimate if they communicate with the right answering. Some darlings could be asking, 'how much do you love me?' If you are an unromantic lover, your reply could be just, 'I love you a lot.' If my little darling asks me, I will tell her, "I love you from your head right to you toe, deep into your heart until I go crazy."

Asking and replying are a skill. If you know how to combine them well, most likely you will stand tall among your community. Hope my readers would try.

Food for thought - "Only knowledge is thoughtfully absorbed, can it become your own wisdom."

Asking the uncommon way to be effective.

To sell effectively, one has to know the right way to ask. I practise this simple phase all the time, 'Do the common things, in an uncommon way and I will be different." Let me show my readers some illustration.

For instance, is usual to ask for an appointment like this, "Mr Prospect, can I meet you tomorrow or the next day?" I find it very direct and too business incline. I prefer to address without the Mister in front. Let say his name is Mr John. I like to ask, "Hi! John, can you allow me to visit you tomorrow or the next day?" The 'Hi!' signifies friendliness and closeness to him. Calling him without Mister, reflexes my personal confidence and sociability. 'Can I' is optional to John, whereas 'can you allow me' is no option given. Meaning, it is not a manner to reply a 'no' when someone asks to allow a visit. 'Meeting you' is like selling, whereas 'visit you' is courtesy. It might sound heavy to most salesperson, but the uncommon way of approach makes me a special person. Of course the way you voice your tune is equally importance too. A soft jittery voice depicts nervousness. If you could speak with a precise, clear, confidence and a powerful tune, it relates success of the caller immediately.

The above approach is also applicable to courting of lovers. If a man is interested to date a lady, he might ask the normal way as, "Miss Pris, shall I have an honour to date you for a dinner tonite." If the opportunity is given to me to date this lady, I will never go by this old fashion way. Instead, I rather apply a bit of my playfulness and sense of humour to sound it sweeter to her. I will ask her, "Hi! Little darling, your attractiveness draws my attention. Can you allow me to have the honour to make you a happy lady for the nite, by dating you with a dinner? I am sure with a sincere thought plus going with a happy heart, Miss Pris won't reject my request.

I have learned in life - "Tranquillity comes when the mind concentrates."

Meow!!! Cat's greeting with the head.

Hugging is good but heads knock with each other is even better. I learned it from cats when I was young. My late mother loved cats. We used to keep few cats at home. Cats like to cuddle with each other when they sleep together. When both mates play, they prefer to lean on to one another. They move their heads against each other necks and their tails twist cross together. At this posture, they look relax and calm. Usually they acknowledge their contentment by sounding their meow...meowwwwww!!! I believe cats are very passionate animals.

As a little boy, I like being tapped upon my head with my mum forehead. The touching of our heads could be felt with acceptance and affection. The few seconds of closeness were so meaningful to me then. Each time, when I had done well, my mum would acknowledge me the head touch too. Although my mother had left long time ago, I still could remember her caring knocks on my forehead.

Today all lovers know the hugs and kisses in romance. Not many understand the head touch of love. I am lucky my little darling accepted this gesture of cat behaviour. We hug together with a head knock which created a stronger impact and warm. To personal friends we met, we knocked and rubbed their heads, instead of the common way of shaking hands. They just like the new way to meet.

Elbert Hubbard - "The love we give is the only love we keep."