Are u a playboy or payboy?

Relax on a Sunday with some cheekiness.

Chin is happily married with two children. He travels all over Asia for business and he loves woman. I asked him recently, "Chin, are you a playboy?" He smiled and replied, "No! I am not playboy but a payboy." Something I learned from a much younger man. A playboy has many girlfriends who stick with him. Whereas a payboy, pays his women once and gets himself release. Chin asked me, "What am I?" I told him, I am not good to be a playboy, neither I like to be a payboy. I like to be a passionate boy to the one I love most, who is reading my blog now.

From a SYT I learned. A soulmate isn't complete, if they are not checkmates to themselves. Understanding and loving each other isn't enough. Soulmate needs to check, recheck and uncheck as often as possible to bond the grow of sex excitement within themselves. Many lovers fail in their love relationship, because they don't apply the checking system on the credit and balance of love & sex needs. Have to remind little darling to be checkmate as well.

Food for the thought - "One way to open your eyes is to ask yourself, what if I had never seen this before? What if I knew I would never see it again?" - Rachel Carson

Help me! Love sick I am.

Kevin is a friendly and a committed floor supervisor who works in a Japanese restaurant. Me and my little darling love to dine at this place. More so of Kevin, because he knows how to serve and care for all his customers. Last night when we were there, we noticed Kevin wasn't smiling. His hair was untidy and his eyes were dull. We asked, "Kevin something isn't good on you. What happen?"

Kevin replied, "Robert, i am surprised you can see. I had broke off with my girlfriend and love sick i am. Can you help?" I shook my head, "Since when? How young are you and your girlfriend? How long is your relationship with her?"

According to Kelvin, his girl friend left him since a month ago. They were staying together for more than three years. She is only 20 and he is 23 currently. There is no third party involved here.

Looking at my little darling, I said,"Sweetheart, if for some reasons I had angered you and you leave me. Tell me! What is the best and ideal way to win you back again?"

Little darling was sharp to know my intention. She replied, "Darling, if that happened, you have to be thick skin, take away your pride and self esteem, and keep coming back to me. I may not accept you totally but you should try to reach me as a friend first. You have to start all over again to win my confidence and trust. You have to give me more yeses than before. You have to give me more attention and concern. If you do that my love, I would surrender to you one more time."

Kevin was listening and he knew it was meant for him. I continued, "That is the first option from an intelligent lady here. You should do it accordingly. As a friendly advice, don't just stick to one girl friend. You are still very young, when you should know more friends. This is not the right time to fall in love. You should concentrate more on your career and learning of life. Take your present love mistake as a learning process. The next time when you have found another love, you will be a better and more an understanding man to hold your love and romance. I was like you, when I had made plunders and had caused miseries. Thanks God! Today I am ready to love my little darling the way it should be."

I sincerely hope this true story had enlightened Kevin. At the same time allowing my readers to know, this could happen to anyone of us.

Some meaningful proverbs I had gathered - "Marry a man/woman you love to talk to" & "When you say 'I Love You' mean it" & "Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but its the only way to live life completely."

Life insurance is a perpetual need.

Someone asked when I am going to stop selling insurance. Sorry! I am not selling insurance but rather selling life insurance is a hobby to me. Talking is my interest and this hobby allows me to continue talking and communicating with the world as long as i remain here. Life insurance is a perpetual product. As long as there are lives or as long as human being still in existence, life insurance will be needed. Lives have uncertainties and are unpredictable. Nothing is certain but death is. And along the way before it happen, we have to face the challenges of ill health and accidents. As human being is created with emotion and feeling, love is part of our lives. So! As long as there is love in this world, the need for life insurance is there. You can't stop from dying but you could create a fund from life insurance to benefit the one you love most while you are alive. I will never trade my career for another product because i strongly believe life insurance is the most beautiful creation specially tailor for mankind. Thanks God! I am a life insurance agent.

Food for the thought - "I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence, but it comes from within. It's there all the time" - Anna Freud.

The mental & physical world.

A sweet young thing asked, "When i accomplish anything in the mental world, its done in the physical world. It is true?"

To make her understands easier, i use the magic of love. If her boyfriend had not prepared to love her by affection, passion, patience, tolerance, truthfulness, kindness, care, understanding, motivation and encouragement, he won't have won her heart. All these actions are considered as mental power and emotion which could be felt and sensed by her. In turn his mental vibration allows his gain of her physical love. Her beauty and attractiveness could be sighted in the physical form. Without her physical beauty, the man might find difficult to gain his mental thought.

Similarly if one has the right mental attitude and strength, that person stands a chance to have all physical possession in this world. Physical could be seen and touched. Mental could only be felt and sensed. You need to see and touch before you could get excited to feel and sense. So it is true if SYT could accomplish her skill to have a right mental attitude, she will be successful in this physical world of sight and touch. I hope my short explanation could enlighten her. Whether she believes or not, the final decision is still hers!

Food of the heart - "Be content with want you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you" - Lao Tzu

Champion has to be trained.

The greatest show on earth was the recent Beijing Olympic Games. The closing ceremony was magnificently presented to the world audience. Although i am not a keen sportsman, i was impressed by first the Jamaica's Usain for clocking an unbelievable time of 9.69 seconds for the 100 meter sprint. Making him currently the fastest man on planet earth. On the last day, Samuel Wanjiru completed the marathon run with an Olympic record time of 2'06:32. It was indeed a fantastic sport of great determination and drive. For all these champions to reach this far, i am sure they must had put in a lot of training and practices. They had to develop their stamina and built their strength. Their attitude had to be right and their self motivation had to be strong.

I believe all exercises have to be trained in order to be good at them. Including bed exercise. Those who are inexperienced or weak, might complete the run on bed as 100 meter sprint. The show ends without even clocking 10 seconds. Making the other partner hanging and be frustrated. Such players should invoke for advices. My suggestions are, you need to run more to develop your heart stamina. Go often to the gym to build your muscle for strength. With the combination of stamina and strength, your body should be able to run further on bed. With a little patience and experience, your 100 meter sprint could be extended to 10,000 meter race. I prefer to take the marathon run and that is when my little darling sometimes complained.

Food for the thought - "I hated every minute of training, but i said Don't Quit. Suffer Now and live the rest of your time as a champion" - Muhammad Ali

Jealousy of man.

I wonder this is true!

Man has always drawn to the attractiveness of woman. We love to admire their beauty, sexiness, intelligence and charm. Some are so gorgeous with their fantastic look, men could easily fall for them. Especially those who are brave to dress loosely and radiantly. Their seducing body shape could trickle our mind with temptation. The funny part of life is, men like to see attractive women they do not know without jealousy. But the women they love, they would be jealous when other men are looking at them. Meaning, you can see others but others can't see yours!

I think there are few types of man who behave differently. The first type is, he likes to look at beautiful ladies but he doesn't allow his woman to be beautiful when she goes out. The jealousy is extremely high here. The second type is, he also like to admire other beauties but he only allows his woman to dress beautifully when he is with her. Perhaps he feels proud he has a beautiful lady. The third type is those who totally trust his woman. He feels honour to have such dazzlingly beautiful lady. No restriction is set. He wants the whole world to admire his woman. I am the third type of man. I believe my little darling knows what is best for her. She knows how to carry herself in all situations with or without my presence. Jealousy is to the minimum.

So for the men! Be careful when you are looking at other women because there are men who might be jealous with your admiration. For the ladies! Why bother with us? Just dress whatever you like and make yourself as attractive as possible because women are to be admired after all.

A Greek proverb written - "wonder is the beginning of wisdom."

Mine is hers & hers is hers.

A little joke for a Sunday.

In the course of selling life insurance, I learned the different of how man and woman treat each other financially. In most cases, what belongs to the man, have to be shared. What belongs to the woman, remain with her. Sometimes they share within themselves. In typical cases, what is his is his and what is hers is hers. However my tag line to my little darling is; "what is mine is hers but what is hers is always hers." I believe most ladies love this statement. Not forgetting women are here to be loved and pampered by men.

"What is mine is hers but what is hers is always hers." Have to ask little darling, what happen if she is pregnant, is the baby mine or hers? If is yes, then this tag line is correct. Or if not when the baby has to be shared, then the tag line needs to be changed.

Food for the thought - "The secret of life is honesty & fair dealing. If you can fade that, you've got it made" - Groncho Max (1890-1977)