Dreams have to be changed.

Is good to create dream. Dream excites our life and desire. However it isn't necessary all dreams could be practical. When I was in the thirty, I wanted to have a big house with a beautiful garden plus a swimming pool. I went as far as to purchase an acre of resort home. I had a fantastic house plan drawn and approved. By my fate, before I could materialise my dream house, a close politician friend insisted that I should sell the whole package to him. The price offered was too tempting for me to resist. Today, he is the proud owner of this huge villa.

Alternatively I down-sized my dream to buy a semi detached home instead. Using the balance of profit, I sent all my children to further their studies abroad. Although my current home is only a semi d but it has a plot of garden with five big rooms. The dinning and the living rooms are equally spacious. The first ten years of my stay here was pleasant and warm. All my three children were staying with me. Our cars were parked all over the surrounding, especially during the weekend when my children friends would be around. The dinner when every one came home, the laughter and chatting were heard aloud. We had to control the music and the tv sound.

As time passed, two of my sons got married and moved out to their own homes. Today they had even half migrated, one to China and the other had left for Singapore. My last son seldom comes home because he enjoys staying over with his buddies outside. My wife loves to spend time with his children, would be hopping all over the places. Finally, I am left with this house with only the maid to accompany me. Sometimes I wonder, why I should have such a big house when nobody is around. In fact, I am toying with the idea I should be staying in an apartment rather on a landed home.

Conclusion: too big a dream might be a burden later.

This famous happiness quote by Bette Davis is right, "You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation."

Young and older have different roles to play to be successful

As I looked back my 40 years of working life, I could see and understand the different of my past and present. Perhaps some of my following words and sharing can be useful.

When I was very much younger, I have to admit that I certainly could not think like today. My knowledge was still relatively weak and shallow. My strongest point of me then, I was willing to work, responsible and full of enthusiasm and personal drive. I worked without complaint but rather offered faithfulness, honesty and sincerity in all my doing. Out of my integrity and hard work, many people soon gave me a chance to deal business with them.

Gradually when I turned mid way into my career, my knowledge had expanded which reflected my professionalism. My ethic and principle in life and work, established my solid trust and respect from my clients. My work was easier without much persuasion and I began to love my career even more. I prospected less when clients kept recommending friends to me. In fact, they were not just clients but more of good friends and associates whom we had developed.

Today, I have found a new hobby. My hobby is talking and my career as a life insurance agent, allows me to have a license to speak to any one I like. I have refined my years of knowledge with wisdom. My clients don't like to listen on insurance but they prefer to learn the art of living. My present work no longer is a chore but rather is a joy to be working. In order to stay at peak, I maintain to be healthy and cheerful. Thanks to the Almighty Universe! My biological age could be much older but my real felt heart age last year was 38 and turning 37 this year. I believe if I keep focusing my mental thought of feeling younger, I should be still young when I reach 70 and over. The logic is, if you are old with a knowledgeable and wisdom mind, and have a youthful body and health, your words carry weight wherever you go. An older person could be weak and ill in health but if he is strong and cheerful, you rest assure he has a lot to offer in life. You consider him to be a diamond then!

Paul from The Netherlands said, "Happiness is the ultimate realization that everything was, and is, exactly as it should be."

Work with love and the effect is better.

Mother's foods are always the best. They are cooked with plenty of love added. Mother knows what are the tastes for the young and old, for the children and for the father. She spend time and effort to make the ideal meals for her loved one. As long as they enjoy her foods, all mothers will willingly continue to serve endlessly for the families.

If only we could use the same type of motherly love and interest to apply on our work, then all jobs and responsibilities would be perfectly done and be joyfully completed. Most people fail in their tasks or assignments is because they have not given enough attention and heart over them. Any thing that we do with love, the end results are always better.

Quoted by Vince Lombardi, "The quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence regardless of their chosen field of endeavor."

Touching can be sensational too.

Voice is important but we should not forget touches. Although most animals cannot be so flexible in physical movement than human being, they still have close contact with each other. The dogs and cats lick between their male and female. Whenever the male cat is licked against over his neck by his mate, we could see the soothing expression on his face. He looks calm and contented.

Again when we were at courting stage, we love to be holding hands, hugging, kissing, patting and fondling. However as time passed, we took for granted and we tend to touch lesser than before or even totally forgotten the need of touching between man and woman. In fact, I strongly believe man needs more of female touches which can create and stimulate exciting feeling. The excitement turns into another form of energy which leads to calmness and contentment of mind over body.

For those men who lack female touches and voices, they are prepared to pay for a price from women who work professionally to serve them. Those social female escorts who work at the karaoke centres or nightclubs are professional touch and voice givers to their male customers. Each time when they meet customers who patronise their places, they are willing to call the unknown strangers as "Honeey! or Darlinnng!" in a very sensational tune. A little longer, they can offer intimate patting, hugging and kissing. Although these are unnatural romances but the hungry males are still quite happy towards these artificial touches and sounding.

As all human being need the sense of touch and voice to enhance our positive feeling and thoughts, we should try to be more romantic and loving to our mates or lovers. Don't just call by his or her name. Rather call him or her as my dear, darling or honey. Don't take each other for granted, hold hands as often as possible, rub her and squeeze him, pat whenever you can, hug tightly, fondle until others envy you both and kiss without the shyness. If you could do it, miracle would happen, cause this is the magic of 'voice and touch' created as part of life. You have done it before and you can do it again.

Meaningful quote; "Let's define happiness as a feeling of contentment created when all of one's physical, emotional, psychological, intellectual and spiritual needs have been gratified." Try touching and the voice.

Voice is sensational to the ears.

Voice or sound is important factor in our life. Voice can excite and stimulate mind. Even animals know how to draw attention from their own sounding. When a female cat needs to arouse all the male cats, she meows to the right pitch. Not just meow nor meoooow but rather a sensational 'meooooooooooow! meooooooooooow! meooooooooooooooooooow! All male cats be thrilled by that meow of wander.

If the animal kingdom knows how to create their excitement from voice and sound, the more the human race needs them as well. However is sad that we have slowly loss touch of what we should do to appease each others. How often would our spouses or lovers excite us with their voices. Perhaps when we were courting at the beginning, these addresses were often called, "My dear, honey, darling, sweetie, my love, sayang, yang or chinta." As the relationships drifted further, the romantic voices and sounding gradually diminishes. Is a sad thing really! We love to hear these fantastic addresses and yet we are reluctant to give.

How I wish my love, wife or my girl friends can address me as, "Honeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeey I "missssssss you a lot." Those simple few words will thrill me to the top of the world. If you don't believe me, why not try to say this to your love now, "Sayaaaaaaaannny I rinduuuuuuu you!" I bet with you! You would not regret it for the rest of your life.

Spoken by Mark Twain, "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too."

Not telling the truth is a way of life

In the English version, telling 'The Truth is the best policy' but in Chinese, there is another saying, 'Too Truthful in life turns one to be a beggar'.

No new properties can be sold with telling the truth. For any new housing projects being launched, sellers always claimed that not many units are still available. At their site offices, most of the units are marked as sold, when they are not. The intention is to create a sense of high false demand which can excite interested buyers. Not telling the truth helps to sell faster.

You might be calling a professional for arranging an appointment to seek his advices and services. Perhaps he can be free on that day but he prefers to inform you that he is busy for the next few days. You would be too happy to see him next week or so because you feel that he is a successful professional due to his tight schedules. Not telling the truth helps him to be wanted.

Your girlfriend calls you at the wrong time of the night when your wife is still awake. She asks, "darling! who is that?" You reply, "that was a wrong number from a stupid guy." Not telling the truth saves your life. These are all facts of life we have to face.

Meaningful quote; "Real integrity is doing the right thing, knowing that nobody's going to know whether you did it or not." Spoken by Oprah Winfrey

Honesty might not be the best policy.

Not all the time efficiency, knowledge and honesty are practical in life. In the Western World, perhaps it works but with Asian it's not acceptable most of the time.

In the USA, if a motorist has a problem with his car which rattles while driving, he would be too happy to pay a mechanic who can detect and repair his car sooner. The cause can be a little nut that loosen, which can easily be tightened but the motorist will be too happy to pay, even with a higher charges. Because he appreciates the mechanic efficiency, knowledge and honesty on his work. By doing so, the mechanic solves his problem faster and motorist has more time for other productive tasks.

However over in Malaysia, the same scenarios could be different. Motorist sent his car to the workshop where mechanic located the loosen nut too. Instead of telling the truth, he said, "Oh! Big problem! It would take a while for us to check. Please come back later of the day and we would try our best." The minute the motorist left, the nut was tightened. Later of the day when he returned, mechanic smilingly claimed, "Friend, it was a big big problem but we manage to solve all the necessary now. For the heavy repair, it is only RM100 charges." The car owner paid happily without question cause he appreciated, the inefficiency, knowledge and no honesty principle of our kind. If you don't believe me, ask yourself, "Am I like that?"

Conclusion; "Honesty might not be the best policy at times."