Trust leads to a comfortable relationship.

I believe the way we sit, will tell how comfortable we are toward our friends. Most of the time, when we visit others in their homes, we tend to behave in an unnatural way to depict good looking. We speak politely, carefully, tactfully and we sit mannerly, posture up right and elegantly. The female acts lady and the man represents gentleman like. They seldom move around the host homes. When you happened to see these type of guests, I rest assure they are not closed to the hosts yet. However, when you see guests who could sit with legs and arms opened, body not in the up right position, voice are aloud with humour, moving around the house or even mingle into the kitchen, I am damn sure they are more than just friends to the host. Meaning, when you are comfortable to a host, you tend to be more relaxed to show your true self. The earlier good looking personality is only a mask being covered. In fact, the true self is all up to you to decide. If you could even sleep on your host sofa, you are truly his best buddy and not mere friends.

Similarly, when you have a girl friend who sits politely while you are driving, I think she is not closed to you yet. If you could win her heart a little more, she should be sitting with her both legs cross over on the passenger seat. This is a signal to tell she likes you. If you could go further, when she feeds you while you are still driving, I think she really has interest over you. Once she is very comfortable with you, she could even stretch both her legs onto the dashboard. Or one hand over your shoulder while you drive. Or one hand stretch to rub your tight while you giggle with laughter silently in your heart. Meaning, the way the girl friend sits while you drive, could determine how intimate they are. However a strict reminder to those gentleman drivers who have intimate lovers beside, please learn to drive with one hand coz most likely they would not have a chance to use both hands to drive. One hand would be on the wheel and the other hand should be exploring the intimacy of romance. Funny as it is, but these are the facts of life that we might experience.

"Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away." - Antoine de Saint Exupery

Life is like a growing tree.

This is my second posting on this title which has a lot to tell about life. My earlier posting was June 03 2007. I am sure, many of my readers have not read it yet.

Life is like a growing tree. The deeper its root, the stronger it will remain. Most Malaysian trees are not deeply rooted because we have plenty of rainfall to cater its water retention. They look green and elegant from the outside but if a huge storm arises, these trees would also be rooted quite easily. Not like countries where rainfall is scarce, their trees grow deeper and wider. Their leaves may not be as green as ours but they can withstand even a hurricane storm.

Growing up is like a growing tree. Our youths of today are given too much of pampering. They have not seen the suffering of the yesteryear. They have not eaten the bitter taste nor they have gone through any hardship. Comfort and luxuries are always available right at their doors. Parents would be too happy to chauffeur them in and out. Perhaps they don't even need to think when their minds are so dependable on their computers and games. They would never have a chance to grow deeper to understand the real truth of living and surviving. Their lives are not rooted. Consequently at the later part of their lives, if they face the uncertainties and the unknowns, they shall be torn apart easily.

Too much water for a growing tree is bad. Similarly too much love and affection for the growing children is treacherous. For these are the facts of life you can't escape.

A poem I like to share; "The realization of Happiness happens only after experience of pain. If we desire to blossom like flower in the garden of life, then we must learn the art of adjusting our life with the Thorns!"

Sexiness is admirable by all men.

I think ladies have two types of sexiness. One is the external beauty of the woman. The way she combs her hair. The way she dresses herself. The shoes she wears plus all the necessary that beautifies her entire personality. Her elegant cat walk which attracts. She poses with a tempting smile that melts most heart. Her voice is soft and tender which captures attention. Her blossom are half seen and her hip is gorgeous. The swing of her back draws admiration. This is truly the outside sexiness of woman, when all men like to appreciate and to fantasize.

The other sexiness of woman could be seen only by her love. In the privacy of their room, the beauty of that woman is reflected by her magical charm. The transparent flimsy night-wear could arouse temptation. The perfume and odour from her body stimulates excitement of her man. Her loose hair, black bra and pantie are irresistible. With dim light and musical background, the entire room is just perfect for making love. In such sexiness of the woman beauty, all men will definitely fall madly with her. No wonder why man could not live without woman. We not only need beautiful women, we also need sexy ladies. Without these beauties, I wonder how men could survive.

My understanding of life, "The thing that counts most in the pursuit of happiness is choosing the right companion." Thanks God I am blessed to have one sweetheart who not only is attractive and intelligence, she is damn sexy and admirable in every way.

The Wisdom life of a man at 76.

While exercising at our gym in the club today, I noticed there was a new member with us. What attracted me most was this particular member was definitely much older than me. I am one of the most oldest member who still patronised the gym at the moment. Not when I first joined the club eighteen years ago, when there were many who were older than me then. As through the years, the senior members disappeared for reasons like giving up exercising, left for another world unknown to us yet, ill health or joined another clubs. I stand tall among the present membership now because I am still a regular here. Much older! No, should be I am still growing up, with full of humour, determination and willing to assist new members who are not comfortable with us yet. With opened arms, I greeted this senior veteran together with a warm handshake. I didn't take long to make this new comer to feel comfortable. He is a retiree aged 76 with super physical fitness. With his present, I told him he is going to be my inspirator and mentor from now onwards. I was actually looking for someone to show me the way to live pass the age of 75. Those who are around, are not qualified because they are much younger than me. Those who are older, are also not fit to advise me because of health reason. In fact, I am the one who is motivating others at the moment. Perhaps God has answer my prayer. HE sent him here to inspire me and to acknowledge that we can live a long healthy life. Just that we must know how to take care of our mind and physical.

Not many men of 60 and above could exercise regularly in a gym. One that runs regularly to control his cardiovascular and on weight to strengthen muscle. To have this senior veteran of 76 to be around in our club is a blessing. I got to know his name as Senior Yap. Without hesitation I asked him the secret of health and longevity of life.

The following are what Senior Yap advised. Live simple and be contented with what you have. Never compare with others but be yourself. Never stop exercising. Laugh as much as you can. After all laughing is free. Mix with friends who have understanding and humour, like Robert Foo. Expects a little and if you can, give a lot. Have fun and be naughty if you still have the desire.

I did not catch his meaning here. I asked, "Are you still interested in sex?" He was not shy at all. With confidence he replied, "Yes! Without sex, I think life is meaningless."

A power phrase from Zarina,"To love without condition. To talk without intention. To give without reason. And to care without expectation."

The effect of giving whole heartily.

I always believe happiness will be gathered if we make others happy first. Seeing others succeed in life because of ourselves, will create contentment and satisfaction in our heart. Many who asked me where I get my motivation and energy everyday to be cheerful and happy. I told them it is easy. As long as you are willing to give outwardly, the world in return will give you the happiness and energy of life back naturally.

This was how I started my day to cheer a friend who is suffering from cancer and is on treatment currently. I sent Amrit a message while on the early run in my car, "My dear, how are you lately? Please be strong and have a strong mindset. I am sure you will make it. Please read my blog under this title, 'An ounce of courage to remove ton of distress'. It will help to build your strength." She replied, "Thanks uncle. By the way, I spend one hour reading your blog site. Very motivating. Thank you."

I received another message from a new friend whom I still have not met yet. The telemarketing executive from Citibank whom I had motivated about two weeks ago. I pushed him an extra mile to learn something more for himself. His message, "Blessed day, Robert I sell more effectively and more confident after I've spoken with you. Thank you Sir - Daniel Citibank."

I had a morning talk with our branch office. Sharing the title, 'Agent Philosophy' to some young agents I had not met before. Later in the afternoon, one of them sent me this message, "Hi Robert. Sim here. Thanks for your today great sharing with us. Many of your points are part of my life which is happening now. Hopefully I can achieve like you one day."

Thank you Amrit, Daniel and Sim. Your messages gave me strength. Although they were just text message in words, they created values and hopes for me. These are the little thought and appreciation which could motivate a person, including myself. If I had not started to think for them first, these positive force would not have gathered. Their sweet words really made my day and I am sure there will be more to come tomorrow. Don't wait for something to happen, rather make something interesting happen and you would be amazed how powerful they are.

I received this lovely phrase from Zarina who cares, "Sweet words are easy to say; sweet things are easy to buy; but sweet people are difficult to find."

Life Insurance Agent Philosophy

This morning I am going to give a talk on 'Life Insurance Agent Philosophy'. I don't know why they have picked this title. I thought it was easy, until I asked myself what is the real meaning of this simple and yet so powerful word, Philosophy. I searched the Oxford Dictionary which tells the exact meaning. Philosophy is pursuit of wisdom or of knowledge. The word wisdom excited me because it is the subject I love to share. All of a sudden, I know this is one talk I will definitely enjoy to share with my fellow colleagues. Perhaps I also take this opportunity to write a little of what I have in mind to show to my readers here.

Selling Life Insurance is a professional job which needs a lot of commitment and passion. Before one is allowed to sell, a new agent has to learn. To learn about the products, the law and regulation that governed our insurance, the selling skill, the services from our company, investment and financial planning. We have extensive, intensive and constant training provided by the industry, company and agencies. The more knowledge an agent has over these trainings, the better equipped will be the agent. A committed agent needs to have the keen desire to pursue his knowledge in order to succeed in this career.

However just the pursuit of knowledge in life insurance matters isn't enough. The understanding of life is even more important. As the word is spelled as LIFE Insurance, life depicts the wisdom of lives in general. Life starts from the time a child is born. Life ends with the sorrow of death. From birth to death is a journey of uncertainties. There are happiness on the way and at times there are also the suffering. Each part of lives has different way of living. The young might not understand the needs of the future or the old might not be able to control his destiny. The poor suffers and the rich might not understand the suffering of the poor. The rich could be comfortable but he might have some silent or hidden suffering you could not see. The man needs a woman and equally she also needs him, for everyone has to be loved. You can be young once but youthfulness isn't meant to be forever, as old is more of permanent. The young needs the old but without the young, neither can the old survive by themselves. These are all considered as facts of life which cannot be taught. To earn this wisdom, an agent has to have the passion and love to pursue and understand how the world lives and survives.

With knowledge you could be intelligent but with knowledge and wisdom of life, an agent can be more profound and refine in his selling. Just with strong based knowledge, an agent might be arrogance and selfish in behaviour. But adding with wisdom in his pursuit of knowledge, the agent would be more complete in character. Most likely the refining of his mind and heart, makes him to be more humble, kind hearted, caring, responsible and more committed in all his undertaking.

Conclusion; A successful committed life insurance agent is one who constantly pursues of wisdom and knowledge to enhance this career.

Young Kat - "Difficulties mastered are opportunities won. He who has hope has everything. Happy is the man that finds wisdom."

The silent love world of the deaf & dumb.

To be an effective communicator, not only one has to speak well, he needs good facial expression plus natural body and hand's language. Most salesperson fail in selling because verbal alone isn't enough. They need to understand their other combination of facial, body and hand movement to bring out the best of their words.

To speak without verbal is an art. To discover the miracle of the silent world, lets look and the deaf and dumb people. Although they can't hear or speak, they could communicate effectively with each other. For a normal couple to make love is easy coz they could relate with words to understand each other needs and want. Loving words like; "I need you. I miss you. I want you. I love you. I want to have sex. I want more and more. I am coming darling", are easily spoken with intention. However the couple who is deaf and dumb will not be able to say. Right? They have to use the next alternative by God given instinct of facial expression, body and hand's language.

A smart little darling who shared with me. Deaf and dumb couple uses the one finger to tell they need to have sex. Flapping the hands mean I want more sex. Shaking head means I am coming my dear. Biting each other means passionate, I cannot resist and I love you. A good sincere smile after sex, depicts I am totally satisfied darling. Not a single word or yell is sounded while making love, and yet the couple is so contented with each other. I have not heard or seen such couple breaking their relationship for any reason. In fact, they are the most faithful loving couple than most normal people like us. They stay together happily by non verbal communication.

For the normal people I suggest, try a few nights love making session without talking and speaking to your partner. See whether you can understand and be happy with the outcome of the silent world. Utilize and maximize your facial expression with excitement and enthusiasm. Add body movement with smoothness plus the hands to determine and show your true love. If both of you could be contented without verbal, I believe you have mastered the art of the silent language. You have reached the highest level of effective communication. Selling is so easy to you then coz your words are refined with more natural expression and emotion of body language. This is written from my 40 years of selling experiences as a communicator.

The powerful phrase I believe so much; "Do the common things in an uncommon way. The world is at your command." - George Washington