I was brought up by the cane.

Johnny Woo, a young tenant who is staying in my house is a well behaved gentleman, and i almost treated him like a son. Over a dinner, as we were discussing the subject of raising and teaching children, he wasn't shy to reveal how he was caned by his dad and uncle when he was a child. The caning and punishment made him a well discipline person of today, he never hated his dad and uncle for correcting his wrongs.

Yes! Those were the days when caning was the way to teach youngsters who were not behaving. I was caned in the school for fooling around. When i was only four, my mum was so furious over my wrong, tied my both hands, hanged me up without touching the floor and caned me properly until today i would never forget this episode. I was sad, frightened and a bit angry over mum but without those heavy and severe punishment, i would have not landed to what i am of today. "Thank you mum, you had taught me to me right".

All my three sons had the similar treatment like when i was young. Non had escaped my powerful cane. I even went to their schools each new year to approach their class teachers, to give permission to them, to punish my sons if they were at wrong. I promised them i would not take action against them for caning my children, but rather i had to be thankful to the teachers for teaching my sons. Of my three sons, the eldest one Alvin was the most naughtiest. He had the most caning from me. Mind you! Today he is the bravest, out going, aggressive, ambitious and talented man. The other two are equally well behaved and kind hearted. Non regretted for being caned by their father.

Today i don't see the cane anymore. Though two of my sons are married, their children are lucky not to see the cane in their homes. Their dads are scolding and nagging their children and they had forgotten how to cane their young. Sorry sons! I can't do it for you anymore. Time has changed. They have replaced the cane with Love but i hope it works for these children.

You have another choice - "Then spare the rod and spoil the child." - Samuel Butler

Everyday is an exciting and a happy day.

Warren Wong called me yesterday, he asked "How was my weekend?:)"

I replied, "The weekend was wonderful, i believe everyday is an exciting day. You have to make it happen. Today is another interesting day and i am sure it would. What about you hero? He didn't respond back.

He might be wondering how everyday could be an exciting and interesting day! To me the eventful and unforgettable day has to be made and created by myself. Excitement or Happiness won't come by itself, neither would i expect others to make it happen for me. In order to make a happy day today, i have to make others happier and merrier. To have an exciting day, i create unexpected excitement for my friends. To have a fun day, i make sure everyone i meet is going to laugh because of my sense of humour and jokes. To have an interesting day, i share the best of my knowledge and wisdom to those who need them. To have an appreciative day, i entertain and offer meals or drinks to my buddies. To be loved upon, i give my whole heart to those who deserve it. I end my day with so much to ponder about, the best is to write them on my blog now and let the world to read. The day has passed but i am sure tomorrow will be another interesting and a happy day for me. What about you? Don't let the ideal time and day to slip away from your hand.

A powerful phrase i learned from a good friend, Dato Abu Zaki - "The hand that gives is better than the hand which receives".

Traditional verses the western medication.

Yaacob called in panic to inform me that her daughter was admitted to the hospital. She was only nineteen, and suffering from acute tonsillitis. Because of the infection and swelling of her tonsils were very bad, the attending doctor advised the father to allow them to conduct a tonsillectomy immediately while she was still in their care. As the daughter was preparing her coming school examination, she hesitated on this surgery.

Over the telephone, i told the father to stay calm, and advised him not to proceed to the operation. I explained, there are two types of medical doctors in Malaysia. One would be the western trained and the second is the Russian or Chinese taught. The westerner depends solely on machines and immediate surgery, whereas the Russian or Chinese which you might consider as traditional and old fashion, they work on verbal and touches. Meaning they would first ask to understand the root and the cause of sickness, plus the feel and senses by touching the sick physically. Is only when medication could not be solved, they would consider the machine and operation. I prefer the second treatment.

I told Yaacob i am a half doctor by experience on my work. Due to the acute tonsillitis of the poor girl, her nose was blocked and she could not breath properly. I instructed the father to see a pharmacist outside where he could be recommended some good medication on Nasal Spray, Suspension. This medical spray could immediately relieve her blocked nose. For her daily vitamin consumption, she has to take the Vitamin C of 1000mg everyday to strengthen her immune system. Her body weight tells me she wasn't exercising, she needs to run everyday. As her nose was sensitive, it was better for her not to sleep in the air-conditioner bedroom. Although the air-con was comfortable to her sleep, she was actually breathing dry and not fresh air.

Few weeks later, Yaacob told me her daughter had fully recovered from her sickness. The tonsillectomy wasn't necessary. Bad for the hospital and the doctors because they had not made the money from the patient. I had also save some medical charges and fees for my Insurance Company.

Moral of the story; Intelligence isn't enough, you have to be smart to understand the facts of lives. Not all advices given by the intelligent are true, you have to be smarter to outwit them.

I learned this story when i was a little boy - "Bre'r Rabbit prides himself in being able to outwit Bre'r Fox every time".

Winning loves & sales, apply 90:10 formula

Selling Tips....

Winning a girl's heart and gaining a sale, apply the 90:10 formula. What is the 90 against 10?

To court a lady you love, you have to know what she likes and doesn't like. What are her favorite food, games, interests, hobbies, movies, colours, etc? Understand her mood and character. Able to adjust and accommodate her behaviour. Willing to entertain, help, assist and make her happy at all time. The '90' is the attention given to her, whereas the '10' is what you have to impress her.

Selling, especially selling life insurance works the same principle. To win over a client, you have to understand everything all about your client. Is he married, single, widower or perhaps he is a gay. Every status of a person is different, a married person has different obligation, and a gay has different scope of lives. You could identify their needs and wants, you could view their happiness or sadness, and accept what they are. Some are hot temper, arrogance, fearful, timid and unfriendly, but you have the skill to adapt and appease all types of character. You give your '90' fullest attention to understand them, while selling the '10' of yourself, products and services only.

My 90:10 works pretty well in my forty years of selling, including chasing for love and romance.

Please try! It works!

I apply this statement too -"By concentrating single-mindedly on your most important task, you can reduce the time required to complete it by 50 percent or more" - Brian Tracy

The art of breathing

Good things must be shared....

The nose has a left and a right side; we use both to inhale and exhale.

Actually they are different; you would be able to feel the difference.

The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon.

During a headache, try to close your right nasal passage and use your left nasal passage to breathe.

In about 5 mins, your headache will be gone? If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left passage and breathe through the right.

After a while, you will feel your mind is refreshed.

Right side belongs to 'hot', so it gets heated up easily, left side belongs to 'cold'.

Most females breathe with their left nasal passage, so they get "cooled off" faster.

Most of the guys breathe with their right , they get worked up.

Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right? ?

If left is faster, you will feel tired.

So, close your left passage and use your right for breathing, you will get refreshed quickly.

This can be taught to kids, but it is more effective when practised by adults.

This alternative natural therapy without medication is something that has been experienced.

Food for thought - "Just the act of breathing slowly and deeply can have a very calming effect".

Dog is faithful & bird is loving.

Dog is the best friend to man. No matter how poor or rich you are, as long as you are the master who feeds the dogs, they will forever be faithful and loyal to you. Everyone would accept this as a true fact of life. However the funny part is, i have not seen a faithful male dog to his bitch, which might have mated with him. On mating, the male would be very close and intimate with the bitch but when the game is over, you hardly could see him around to care for her. When the bitch is pregnant, he isn't be responsible and you rest assure he won't be the father to care and babysit the puppies when they are born.

Not the birds! Birds are very loving to each other. They would be faithful and sincere as long as they live. They build their nest together, they help and take turns to hatch their eggs, the father would look for worms and the mother protects their little birds, and he would never leave them until the little ones could be independence by themselves. However the funny part is, birds have no loyalty to man. You can be feeding and caring them from young, the minute you let open the cage, i bet they would fly away sooner as unexpected from their master.

Moral of my story; no creature, animal or bird are prefect. We as human is considered the most intelligent living being on earth, has to be smart and witty. We pick the best qualities from them; be as faithful as the dog to their masters and be as responsible and loving like the birds to care for the families and their loved ones. The combination of these characters help us to be more perfect in this animal kingdom.

Food for the thought - "Perfection consists not in doing extraordinary things, but in doing ordinary things extraordinarily well." - Angelique Arnauld

Don't take others to be Fools.

Something to ponder about...

Indian mom comes to visit her son Kumar for dinner.....who lives with an Indian girl roommate Sunita. During the course of the meal, his mother couldn't help but notice how pretty Kumar's roommate was. She had long been suspicious of a relationship between the two, and this had only made her more curious.

Over the course of the evening, while watching the two interact, she started to wonder if there was more between Kumar and his roommate than met the eye. Reading his mom's thoughts, Kumar volunteered, 'I know what you must be thinking, but I assure you, Sunita and I are just roommates'.

About a week later, Sunita came to Kumar saying, 'Ever since your mother came to dinner, I've been unable to find the silver plate. You don't suppose she took it, do you?' Kumar said,'Well, I doubt it, but I'll email her, just to be sure.'

So he sat down and wrote....

Dear Mother: I'm not saying that you 'did' take the silver plate from my house, I’m not saying that you 'did not' take the silver plate. But the fact remains that it has been missing ever since you were here for dinner.

Love, Kumar

Several days later, Kumar received an email from his Mother which read...

Dear Son: I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with Sunita, and I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with Sunita. But the fact remains that if she was sleeping in her OWN bed, she would have found the silver plate by now under the pillow...

Love, Mom.

Lesson of the day: Don't Lie to Your Mother or take others to be “FOOLS”..........