Gives a lot and expects a little.

Chew is a good friend and client for more than 20 years. He is a very responsible warehouse manager, who has many years of experience. Lately he was upset and unhappy due to his heavy loaded responsibilities plus no appreciation from his upper management. He was on the verge of tendering his resignation, when we had a chance to meet over a cup of tea.

With some knowledge and a little wisdom, I quoted to him this powerful phrase spoken by George Washington Carver, "When u do the common things in life in an uncommon way, that is when u command the attention of the world." This statement opened his thought for further discussion.

I gave him my personal name card with the title written as; 'Seven rules to be happy...never hate, don't worry, live simple. expect a little, give a lot, always smile, have friends like Robert Foo.' In order to prove my point to him, I illustrated the monk-hood way of living. To be a monk, one has to detach more than to receive. They do not possess any earthly possession except the clothing they wear. They give a lot in divine love and expect nothing in return. In turn, the after effect brings another kind of spiritual energy, which creates unlimited happiness to them. They have no hate, no worry, contented and always smile. Chew would gain the extra special energy, if only he knows how to give a lot without expecting much from his work. It might sound foolish to most ears, but if one darns to do the common things in an uncommon way, that is when one could command the attention of others. Chew was enlightened with delight. Before he left, he said, "I have learned one important fact of life from u Robert. Expect the least from whatever I do, I will be a happier person. Thanks so much."

Quote to be remembered; "Do the right thing. It will gratify some people and astonish the rest."

Mark Twain (1835 -1910)

Lonesome can kill.

I had an efficient, trustworthy and responsible staff who did my errant work. It's sad he is no longer around because he passed away at the age of only 45. A client was surprised that he died so young and not married. I had known him for more than 25 years. Although his death was due to a heart attack but I believe lonesome was the main killer. He had never got a chance to fall in love and he died as a virgin, which was most unbelievable to the present society. Should he had a love with him, things could be different.

I received a mail from a gentleman who reminded me not to follow the footstep of this beloved staff. The phrase was well written; "7 Days makes one week. 7 days of sex makes one weak, but NO SEX in a week makes one sick. However, good SEX once a WEEK makes one SEEK! Have you had yours this week????" Is something that all healthy people have to consider. Please don't laugh or to think I am naughty cause these are true facts of life again. Including my dearest!!!!

The mirror of life

A closed lady friend was worried over her young daughter of ten. She was brought up by the grand mother who had pampered her all the way since baby. Like her mother, she is stubborn and hot temper. Although the mother has changed tremendously in character, she finds it difficult to change and teach her child now. In our recent discussion, she seeks my advice to guide her child.

I told her to apply the mirror of life. Without a mirror, no one could see our own faces. The mirror is our reflexion. It helps us to adjust our look physically. The mother and the daughter could not see their own faces without the mirror too. I advised the mother to be the mirror for her child and her child can also be the mirror for the mother. Tell the child that she has mistakes which she cannot see by herself. Perhaps mother can be hot temper, angry without a proper reason or unreasonable towards the family, the child shall be the mirror to relate the mistakes to the mother. If the child agrees, the mother should also propose to be the mirror for her darling as well. The mother is an attractive intelligent lady took my advices promptly.

We live in a life with errors which we might not even realise. If only we had many true good friends who are willing to be our mirror of life, we will have lesser mistakes and defects.

Quote from Edith Wharton, "There are two ways of spreading light; to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it."

Think outside the box.

I have known Mr C and Mr L for many years. They are business partners and have been in trading and technical services for almost 10years. Comparing to the beginning when their business was rather small, today they have achieved success to a certain extent. Mr C is more of an aggressive Sales Director wanted his establishment to go further than what they should be. However he tried in many ways, nothing spectacular happened. As a good friend he seek my wisdom advice.

This was what I told him. All well established International Corporation have one objective. To make more profit. To make more, they focus all their attention towards the world. Their brains are make to think outwardly. To serve efficiently and to satisfy all their customers. They have little problems internally because all their working staffs from the lowest to the highest are all well taken care. Their basic needs and income are paid according to their effort. Their shareholders, directors or partners have the same standard vision and they know exactly what they want and aim in life. In turn all concern, apply the 100 % energy and concentration for the benefit of their customers and not just within themselves. That is why they are ranked the top producer worldwide. They think outside of the box.

Mr C and Mr L could be able to reach that level too. Just that they should put aside their personal problems and all differences in the company have to be solved soonest. Instead of spending time inwardly, they should concentrate more towards the outside. Objectives are how to increase sales and how to improve services Once they know where to apply their energy and effort, I am sure their business would expand even further.

Whether is a company or a self employed person, I believe the above apply. Just like today, another sweet aggressive colleague sent me a message, "Dear, I am having tension bcoz i am not closing enough sales." I replied her, "You sell for the love of selling and not sell for you personal agenda." I believe she understood the meaning. Sell for the needs of your clients and not to sell for your personal glory of the year end incentives. I hope this lady and Mr C know what to do now.

Powerful Quote from Li Ka Shing, "Vision is perhaps our greatest strength....it has kept us alive to the power and continuity of thought through the centuries, it makes us peer into the future and lends shape to the unknown."

To be in love again.

Love is a splendor and to be in love is splendorous. When a person is in love, his eyes show the grow. His heart flows with happiness and joy which stimulates his mind with blissfulness. The thought of his love excites his life. Everything he sees is beautiful and looks like there is no obstacle ahead. He looks forward to a new day as a challenge. To be with his love and to make her happy. In turn, she creates hopes for the man. Hope is like another force which can work wander to both lovers. Love is translated into positive energy which can enhance a person well being. His personality is pleasant, calm in nature, sweetness in words and confidence in personal drive. Over all his performance in work will definitely be better and his life will be more meaningful as well. All successful person have someone to love in order to go for the extra miles.

Nobody could live alone and be happy. The smarter one won't. If you happen to be reading this blog now and are not in love yet, don't be stubborn, give yourself a chance to allow another human being of your opposite sex to fall in love with you. You will be surprised, how much you have missed out in life. In order for me to have a heartfelt age of 38 turning 37, I have to fall in love again. I hope the lady whom I love dearest be reading my romantic blog too. Dear darling, thank you for allowing me to fall in love again one more time.

The words from an admirable lady spurs me, "No man can be truly happy until he translates the words from the Golden Rules into deeds and shares happiness with others."

Well Wishes that laugh on Xmas.

Christmas and New Year is the time when everyone exchanged greeting and well wishes. The fastest and cheapest way is by text messaging. Since last night, I had being receiving flow of messages from near and afar. The type and style of wording can depict the character and personality of my senders. Those who are soft spoken and careful type of person would write in a traditional manner. Like one I received, "Wishing you and family a very blessed Merry Christmas." The creative, courageous and cheeky one will have something interesting. Let me show u some laughing messages from my friends;

Idris: "My dear friend. Later Mr Chung & his family will visit me. I'll ask them to visit u too! The Chung family members are; Chung Ma Piu, Chung Tai Choi, Chung ToTo & Chung 4D. They'll be there to wish u Gook Luck for 2008. Don't worry! One of the members will not visit u for the whole year. Chung SaMan is out of town this year:) Merry Xmas & A Happy New year to u & family!"

Me: "Thanks so much. Please request Mr Chung and his members to drop by."

IreneTan: "If a fat man in red comes into your room in the middle of the night and shoves u into a bag, don't be scared coz i told Santa I wanted a friend like u for Xmas!"

Me: "I will be ready for him then."

JulianQuah: "May this Christmas blessings bring peace, joy, good health & prosperity to u & your family" Note - really too dull for me. I replied with something different.

Me: "Thanks young man. I prefer Happier, Merrier & Naughtier Year ahead. Can u re wish for me again? Thanks."

JulianQuah: "May your wish be granted as miracle happens at this time of year! Its definite u'll have a Happier, Merrier & Naughtier year ahead."

AbdRahim: "My family & I wish U & your family joyful Merry Xmas." Too plain from him

Me: "Not just Merrier but Naughtier as well."

AbdRahim: "More naughtier in the new year! I guess once reaches 60 wisdom will counter balance it.. so wishing u Happy Notorious New Year (sound strange) he he."

This is the top on my list;

Pris: "Dear..this is what I received during Christmas: He laid her on the table, so white clean & bare. His forehead wet with beads of sweat, he rubbed her here & there. He touched her neck & felt her breast, and then drooling felt her thigh. The slit was wet & all was set, he gave a joyous cry. The hole was wide ... He looked inside, all was dark amd murky. He rubbed his hands & stretched his arms... then he stuffed the turkey. Merry Xmas and Happy New Year!"

Me: "Wow! That was a good wishes. That friend of yours must be a creative and playful type like me."

Pris: "Yip... both of u can match together."

Me: "But I am sure he is much younger than me. Wonder whether he still be as creative and brave to apply when he is like my age. Unless he knows how to grow up and not growing old. Betul tak sayang?"

Pris: "Yes love.." End.

Which ever way we write is up to the individual but as long as the thought is sincere and kind, the feeling of acceptance is definitely be felt. Words have power and effect, even how short it is.

Peter Thomas said, "In a world where the big things have little diference - It's the little things that make a big different."

GASTT as a Xmas gift.

Xmas is the most happiest festival. Is time when Santa Claus would be giving gifts and presents for everyone. I take this opportunity to share and offer 'GASTT', a gift of LOVE to those who read my blog today. Whether you are young or old or whether you are man or woman, we are all hungry of love. To give and receive love, one has to know the art of giving and receiving. Because love has language by itself. Unless one speaks the language of love, one might not know how to give or to receive. I was enlightened, Love has five languages applicable internationally. GASTT is Giving, Affirmation, Service, Touch and Time. Surprising, isn't it!

Giving is a love language from the heart. To get the attention of the children, buy the gifts and toys they like and give them sincerely and they will love you for life. Diamond could be the best friend to some women. If the man who is willing to give a five carat diamond to his lady, he stands a pretty good chance to love her. Those giving could mean a lot to those who received.

Affirmation is different. It comes in voice and words. Affirmative people like to be called with loving and romantic words. Dear, darling, honey or sweetheart are words pleasant to their ears and feeling. The next time, if you happened to have an affirmative lover, call him or her as darling, and he or she will melt in heart. This is the love language for them.

Service is a language of love that comes in the form of rendering help and assistance. Your mother could be busy cooking in the kitchen alone. Although you are also a busy person working, but you still have the thought to help and assist your mother, she might be the happiest mum. You have already given her the love in service kind.

Time is a language of love that should not be forgotten. You could be a busy dad working in a big corporation. On the day when your little child is having a singing contest show, you spare the time to come and witness his participation, would definitely bring him joy and confidence. Time is love when you spend them with the one that needed it.

Touch is sensational to the one who understands the love language. Touch can be fondling, hugging, patting, kissing or skin contacts. To those who speak the language of touch in love, they would be happier and feel loved if they are touched more often. A little pat over the shoulder could mean a lot to a tired person. Hugging and kissing bond a couple who understand their needs for each other.

The world speaks in many languages to communicate. If only we know how to understand the languages of love and apply them right, our world would definitely be more peaceful and a better place to live. So the next time, when you see another person, not only you need to speak but understand his or her language of love. Your chances of making him or her happier and merrier will be greater.

GASTT was given to me by a special friend who cares and understands life. It is by chance and luck I know her. She had taught me to understand love deeper and to apply love more effectively. Thank you my dearest. At the same time, I like to wish everyone A Merry Xmas and A Happy New Year.

A naughty phrase, "If a fat man in red comes into your room in the middle of the nite and shoves you into a bag, don't be scared coz i told Santa i wanted a friend like you for Christmas."