Be faithful to the one you truly love.

A reader posted in my comment..."May i ask you an interesting question ?If you meet a lady who is sexier, prettier,more beautiful,more attractive and has a kinder heart than your little darling, will you fall 4 her ? ha...ha !"

I wonder who this reader is! Is a she or a he? Nevertheless i like to take this opportunity to reply this supportive reader. First i believe no two persons could be the same and nobody on earth is perfect and there is no comparison of either parties. Even twins could have different characters and personality. The person who claims he/she is perfect is a great liar. Comparison leads to frustration and discontentment.

My answer to the above interesting question is a positive NO!! That lady could be more sexier, prettier, more beautiful, more attractive and has a kinder heart....she is still not my little darling. Love won't just appear by the first sight. In fact, i don't believe at first sight in love. Sighting this fantastic lady is exciting but i could only admire and appreciate her attractiveness and beauty of her heart. To love a person, one has to take the patience to listen and to understand the inner beauty. To nurture a love relationship, both have to put effort to romance with each other. We are not just lovers, but also she is my best friend, buddy, darling, sweetheart and soul mate. It took us a long time to understand the compatibility and compassion in us. She makes me laugh whenever i am sad. She creates fun to make my life more exciting. She has the patience ears to listen to my endless stories. She will be there when i face any problems. She encourages me when I am down. She is a very wild intimate "tong tong cheang" partner who is not shy to 'yok' (disturb) my desire. She is not replaceable coz I truly love her dearly. It is by fate with the miracle of love, we met...thank you for your offer. I have to say no again to your question.

To promote growth - "A tree uses what comes its way to nurture itself. . . . Absorb, absorb, absorb. That is the secret of the tree. — Deng Ming-Dao, Taoist master & author of several books aboutTa. I think loving a person is the same.

Is she beautiful, pretty or attractive?

Are you beautiful or should it be pretty or attractive? They sound alike but when should we apply them! On checking the dictionary, all three words have quite similar meaning. In adjective term, it is...Having qualities that delight the eye or pleasing to the eye or mind.

From an intelligent lady, she said, beautiful comes with gracefulness, soft, enjoy and admire, looking deeper into the heart. Pretty can be just one glance at first sight only, with sexiness and fast admiration. Attractive is the energy and elegant of the woman. Mmmmm!! the words from her.

A young man of thirty described differently to me. According to him beautiful, pretty and attractive are the same, but it depends on one's mood and circumstances to say them. When and where to apply are more relevance. Is he right?

Since all females like to be admired, knowing how to offer these three qualities as compliment is beneficiary. With some insight of the woman's world, I think attractiveness is more of the outside beauty of a lady. She dresses to be attractive and be admired. A woman might not be attractive externally, but she could still be beautiful with a kind heart. It's never spoken as attractive heart. Rather as a beautiful heart. Pretty is natural and graceful, without even any cosmetic touch up.

One typical example. My little darling is an intelligent lady who dresses very attractively every morning. Her attractiveness draws attention from admirers because it has sexiness and charm. Her hairdo, facial cosmetic, clothing with matching colour and style, fashionable handbag, diamond rings on both hand and elegant high heal shoes, make her attractive. I am lucky and proud to see her attractive in this sense. However I love her more with her beautiful self as she truly has a sincere and kind heart for everyone. If I happen to see her on bed, her pretty look with just light clothing would naturally excite me to the extreme. She is attractive during all working days but when she is with me I think she is beautiful. Given a chance, I prefer to see her in the evening coz she looks more pretty then.

These are my personal views and I am still learning. Would appreciate, if there are some understanding readers who can enlighten me by providing some comments.

I like this phrase - "Beauty. The power by which a woman charms a lover and terrifies a husband." - Ambrose Bierce

Don't worry be happy.

This can happen to anyone....

It was a lovely morning for my little darling. She slept well last nite coz I gave her all the kisses and hugs when I left her home. Before I could wake up, she sent this sweet message to my hand phone for me to read. It was written..."Is indeed another beautiful day coz knowing my sweet sweetheart is with me and I am blessed with all his love, care, support and protection... YippppYYYYayayaYa....:)"

The text showed she was happy and was looking forward for the day. I felt good for her. The next few minutes I received another shorter message from her again. She wrote, "I am upset and fed up with the housing loan..Just let London knows, if there is no news, pls do not call any more." London was the bank agent who arranged her bank funding. He had taken several months and still hadn't got the loan finalised. The lawyer who represented them was not efficient. Immediately I replied her..."Darling, pls relax. Don't let them anger and disturb your beautiful day."

Although she woke up with a bright and romantic feeling, a phone call with an unpleasant conversation changed her temperament which spoiled her entire day. Though I gave her an afternoon call later, she wasn't prepared to talk. I am sure, she had a moody and depressing day too. Working under such unhappy emotion, might not be fruitful and productive. One could get tired very fast.

Starting the day with a smiling morning is important. Positive energy is required to last the day or week. Letting a negative thought to sink into our mind, could be detrimental in our work. I will avoid at all cost for talking to the wrongful parties...especially in the morning. The simplest way is to call people who are pleasant and nice. Start with the easy one first and drop off those who are a nuisance or troublemakers.

I always carry this name card with me...Seven rules to be happy. 1. Never hate. 2.Don't worry. 3.Live simple. 4.Expect a little. 5.Give a lot. 6 Always smile. 7. Have friends like Robert Foo.

I wish all those little darlings out there to keep my Seven Rules and you be happy all the time.

Best investment during difficult time is humour.

I had a chance to attend a recent Toastmasters' meeting around town. We had an impromptu session, when various topics were given to 10 selected members to talk for two minutes. The most humorous non prepared title was spoken by a young lady who really made everyone laugh for the evening.

The subject was, "What is the best investment during this difficult period of time." She didn't even have to think. Immediately she spoke with confidence...."The best investment during difficult time is to invest in humour!" We were caught in amazement by this word 'humour!' Why humour? According to this interesting lady, she said, why be sad and be unhappy during this difficult financial periods. In life, there are good and bad time, which we have to live along with them. No point of being worried and be frustrated over this economical down turn. Instead have fun, gather some cheap parties at home if you can't make the expensive one. Dance and swing along with music and laughter. The humour you create strengthen your mind and body. So! When the market recover eventually, you should be strong enough to get what you want later.

It might be a joke but I think she was right in some ways. Why worry! Be happy and things might turn better if we are still strong and healthy. However as far as I am concerned, "The best investment is an investment that pays when it's needed most" Life insurance is an investment which will pay when a person is dead or criticall ill. These are the time when money is needed most. Whether is good or bad time, always consider to invest on some important life insurance. Buy it when you don't need it coz when you need it, you can't buy.... this is life insurance.

Some advice - "The best insurance policy for tomorrow is to make the most productive use of today" — Geoffrey Norman

Praise & flattery sell.

It was a Sunday morning at the market with my little darling. There was this simple food store selling wanton noodle which captured my attention. It was packed with many customers waiting to be served by two elderly couple. I believed they were husband and wife at worked. Their roaring business tells me that the food must be good. As I love eating wanton noodle, I joined in the crowd as well. While waiting my turn to be served, I noticed the noodle store owner though busy boiling and cooking the noodle, he was greeting and flattering his customers who were nearer to him. Each time he saw a female, whether was young or old, he would praise them as "leng looi." Leng Looi in Chinese is pretty woman. I could see the auntie was smiling and her eyes were sparkling with joy. Perhaps it was a long time, since such compliment was given to her. Another fat young simple girl was holding her breath when "leng looi" was thrown to her. She could not believe she was beautiful!! I know why the food store was selling so well, even the wanton noodle that I ate wasn't so fantastic. He added the spices "leng looi" which sold the food. Food could be tasty but words are more pleasant to hear.

Although this typical Chinese man who only knows how to sell wanton noodle, he has a sweet mouth to offer his customers too. Without him realising, I was enjoying his food and admiring his talent and skills. Before I left, I walked over to him to express my regards. "Hey! Boss, give me a second?" He was surprised. "Your place has many leng looi. But of all the many leng looi, you never address my little darling here. I think she is the prettiest leng looi of all. I would be happy, if you can also call my little darling leng looi too." The man and his wife were caught unguarded with my joke. Without further ado, he yelled aloud to the direction of my little darling..."Hey there!! You are truly a leng looi and you are lucky to have a handsome man here." Everybody was laughing, except my little darling was blushed but I knew she was happy and proud.

This experience taught me, you don't need to be a scholar or a genius to sell but rather a sweet mouth and a sincere heart to make another person melts. A happy heart see a happy world!

This cannot be wrong - "Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones." - Bible

Integrity is the key to successful selling.

Good tips...

Never ask a fruit seller whether his fruits are sweet. He will definitely say "Yes!" Neither should you ask a restaurant whether he serves tasty food coz his reply is "Yes!!" again.

All sales and services are always presented as their best of quality in marketing. Can't blame the advertisers, otherwise sales might not move. In my many years of selling, I believe a professional salesperson should have integrity and principle in his business dealing. He should tell the pros & cons in his products. I am sure nobody is perfect. He should be honest to divulge what he can and can't do. Nothing is permanent, he shall not make promises when he can't guarantee. In short, no empty promises. Most of all, he should try not to over sell himself.

One can take a customer for a ride once, but you cant' cheat all the time. Especially when you are dealing with the intellectual class of society, they know what they buy and whom they are dealing with. My clients are happy to deal with me because I always tune down my selling. I will never claim my company is the best, neither will I degrade my competitors. All life insurances are the same coz they are written by the same school of artuary. The only logic is, the more you paid the more you get. My strength is my knowledge and wisdom. Whereas my defect is my age against my younger clients. I am very serious with my business but please bear along with my naugthiness. I don't make promises but I promise to do my level best. I can't offer much but I have sincerity, honesty, patience, kindness and plenty of humour to make you laugh. So! If you happen to see another salesperson like Robert Foo.... that is the man you should deal business with.

Food for the thought - "Integrity is what we do, what we say, and what we say we do." - Don Galer

How tactful are you?

I was not having a personal driver since early this year. During these period of time, I gave myself the opportunity to drive again. To drive as fast as I like and to move wherever I wanted. Ideally I could play and act mischievously without a second person knowing. Not now anymore because I managed to employ a new young driver. Perhaps I missed my playful fun, now that a driver is besides me most of the time.

He is only twenty one of age, innocent but eager to learn. I told myself, I have to treat him like my son, groom and teach him to be a smart growing adult. Whenever I had lunch or tea with my friends, I always tried to invite this driver to eat together with us. I introduced him to my friends as he is my hero and never as a driver. Letting him feels proud to work for me. As a hero, he takes care of my live while on the road. Indirectly my live is at his hand and I considered him as a very important person to me.

Just two days ago, over breakfast together with two elderly ladies, I asked my hero this question..."Hero! Which two lady friends here is more beautiful?" The women were excited, anxious and wanting to have an answer from him. However Hero was shy and timid to say much. He shooked his head and said, "Sorry lah! I don't know what to tell." In order to save his emotion, I took over that question..."Hero! These two darlings here are both pretty, attractive and intelligence. Otherwise they would not be here with me." All of us were laughing and smiling over the food. I was sure, my two friends were not offended in anyway. Later inside the car, I explained to Hero why I threw him that question. My main purpose was to see how capable he was to encounter such situation. Luckily he did not give compliment to one lady as beautiful. By doing so, he could have offended the second woman. It was safe for him not to commit with a comment but neither was it an intelligence reply. He agreed my compliment was wonderful and nice. Equally I was happy for I had made two ladies happy with this outing and educating another younger man to understand life better.

Appreciative words are effective and how to apply them is even more important. It might take a bit of time and effort to master the useage and application of words, but certainly they will make us a more likable, lovable and a tactful person. I apply them in business to be successful and I use them in romance to be successful on love too.

Food for the thought - "Tact is the ability to stay in the middle without getting caught there" - Franklin P. Jones