Willing loser is the real winner.

Lisa is a new interesting friend, I have just known. She is at mid thirty young and yet could understand much about facts of life. She shared with me the principle of 'Loosing & Winning' attitude of life. She illustrated with the challenge of arms wrestling as an example. In any friendly arms wrestling, both friends would attempt to beat each other to win. Its natural by human instinct, we want to win to feel proud. To loose is shameful. In the match of arm twisting, there odd to have a winner and a loser. I am sure in the heat of the challenge, both friends would try not to loose. According to Lisa, the real winner is not so much of the guy who beats the loser. Is the one who understands the pride of winning, when he knows he can win but he allows his opponent to topple him to win instead. As a silent loser, he congratulates his friend who does not know the actual intention. Seeing the friend laughs and cheers, makes him happy in heart and mind. In reality, the real winner is the one who gives way for the other to win. Coz he has the great heart to give willingly without selfishness in mind.

How true Lisa! In life, all of us want to win and most of us are not prepared to give. If only we are not selfish and yet willing to give, then the real winner is you. The next time, when someone cuts in your way, try not to be upset but instead let him bypasses you with a smile from your face. Or your friend hasn't contacted you for a long time. Don't wait further, call him immediately and tell him you are thinking of him. Or you need some motivation, don't wait for someone to tickle you, rather give those who are now with you. Or you wish your lover would tell how much she loves you, don't wait for that to happen. Phone her now and tell her how much you love her instead. These are the true winners of lives.

Mmmmm!! Not this, if ever happened. If your love is been approached by another admirer, don't give way. Otherwise you will be the real loser, if you don't attempt to challenge the opponent. Right sweetheart?

Mark Twain's powerful phrase; "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer someone else up."

Don't trust your aging eyes to feel young.

When you are above 60 at age, to stay young isn't easy. In the first place, you have to be brave to be young. What the young does, you have to behave similar. Not only your mind has to feel like them, preferably dress like them if you could. However don't let your eyes to deceive your look. Meaning, if you are 60 or above, you might feel young but your sight and senses are still be thinking old. I did not believe this logic, until I went to purchase clothing with a young darling to test my sight and senses. At the men store, I selected a range of pants and shirts according to my liking in colour and style. I thought I had felt to be young to pick these selection. I asked the sweet young darling, "Dear, if you buy these clothing for your brother who is around 37 of age. Would you think he likes them?" She shook her head, "Definitely not darling! The colour and styles are too old for him." I was taken a back. Out of curiosity I requested her to pick and select the best for him instead. Beyond my imagination, she selected a good range which I could never pick. The reason was, my mind would never be able to sight and sense the feeling of the young. Finally I decided to take the courage to buy those she had selected. And I am wearing them now. I am glad that I certainly look younger than my real age, especially with the new look of the dressing. In fact, I had borrowed her younger mind, sight and senses to feel young.

Moral of the story. The old has the wisdom of life but he still needs the young to remind him to feel young again. Then his wisdom could last a longer journey in life.

"Once you choose hope, anythings' possible" - Christopher Reeve.

Handbag is the pride for ladies.

Women are beautiful because they spend a lot of time to be. From their hair, face, body, hands, legs and, even fingernails and toenails, they love to decorate themselves. The hair do is always done according to fashion and look. Regular facial cleansing and cosmetic touch-up is a must. Their clothing are never the same. No dress will be worn within the week. Lotion and oil are constantly applied to tune their legs and hands. They even have packages for their pedicure and manicure. One thing for sure, will never be missing, is the handbag whenever they are out.

If you could check with any career ladies, all love their handbags. Without a handbag when they are going out, is like going out without clothing. Each of them could have a collection of dozen different handbags at home. They come in size, colour, branding, casual, business type for different occasion and outing. No handbag is purchased, if the touch's confidence is not felt by the buying lady. Each class of career females has different taste and requirement. The super intelligent one goes for the expensive branded design. By looking the way a lady carries her handbag, it tells the personality of the person. A successful understanding career lady, carries her handbag according to need and purpose of outing. Matching her status, colour to suit her dress and shoes she wears, plus the way she carries it while moving around. Not forgetting each morning when she changes her bag for the day, she cleans the inside of the bag and transfers all the necessary belonging from one bag to the new one. Just the handbag alone, women have to take extra effort, time and discipline to be good at. No wonder, why women are always beautiful. Being beautiful as they are, it allows them to think, plan and stay focus. Today most females are smarter and more successful than men coz men never border to be beautiful. We just remain to be handsome, which is easier to reach and to maintain.

Moral of the story; to be successful in life, one has to think, plan, effort, desire and be focus. Be beautiful like the woman. Learn from your sweetheart, you would be amazed, to be beautiful it takes a lot of energy to do it.

"The Quality of a person's life is in direct proportion to their commitment to excellence, regardless of their chosen field of endeavour" - Vince Lombardi.

Words inspire and create determination.

Wan is my new personal driver. He is physically strong, aged 40, happily married and willing to work for me. During the first week while working, I understand he has been a smoker since when he was only 15. At one time, he was heavily smoking for 8 packets of cigarette a day. Now he has reduced to 4 packets which I considered as still high. Especially to a non smoker like me. During these two weeks of working along together, Wan was inspired by the way I worked. Although I was socialising and mixing freely with many people of all walks of life, I don't smoke and neither I need to drink to secure business. I earned my respect with a clean personality plus the heart to mix with people. I told Wan many times, smoking is a bad habit and definitely not good for health too. Almost half his income has gone to smoking, when he should be saving the extra for his family.

I did not know Wan took my advices seriously, until he did not turn up to work a week ago. His wife told me her husband is very sick. He is shivering, high fever, pain all over the body, could not sleep and eat at the same time. He has decided to stop smoking completely. Without the nicotine from his regular cigarettes, Wan is losing his energy and instead he is going through the draw-out process. I spoke with him on the phone, when he sounded weak and lifeless. He is currently under heavy medication with much determination needed. I was certainly impressed with his strong desire to change. To give him the extra support, I told him that I will wait for him until he is fully recovered. The job is always his with another increment if he starts clean without smoking any more. Wan promised me he will, coz I was the one who had convinced him to stop smoking.

Moral of the story. Words are powerful. They move mountains and challenge the unknown seas. As a faith healer myself, I managed to change his bad habit and gave him determination to win in lives.

A meaningful phrase I collected from one of my constant blog reader and admirer, Young Kat; "No beauty is like the beauty of a loving heart & A strong will is all powerful."

Ladies natural senses & instinct are stronger than males.

There are two types of man who see woman differently. One just looks at the lady face and appreciates her beauty. The face reflexes the character of the person. Her calmness could be shown with her relaxing features. Her smile depicts friendliness and gentleness. Her eyes tell her happiness and love of her heart. A sensible normal gentleman communicates with ladies by using eyes to eyes contact.

Beware! There is the second type of man who sees females not with the face alone. They stare ladies from top to bottom. Their concentration are the woman blossom and the lower abdomen. Perhaps these are the type of men who really cannot control themselves from getting nearer to females. They get excited easily, especially if the females have a fantastic body line. As females are created with extra natural senses and instinct, which are stronger than the males, they could realise and detect such sex maniac onlookers. If such incidents happened, ladies will feel very uncomfortable with these male contacts. As though the ladies are being seen as naked through the eyes of those men. A friendly advice for the male, you can look at ladies but make sure you appreciate them as what they are and not as a sex object.

Something I gathered from the ladies. When ladies look at man facial, not only they could see your intelligence, smartness, sincerity and heart, they could also see your length and size of your penis. Coz the length, shape and size of our nose reveals our bottom. If you don't believe, check it for yourself. Seeing is believing!

Quotable uttering of the famous; "I have come to believe that the whole world is an enigma, a harmless enigma that is made terrible by our own mad attempt to interpret it as though it had an underlying truth." - Umberto Eco.

Happiest & saddest moments in selling life insurance.

I was asked these questions. 'What are my happiest and saddest moments in selling life insurance?' To the many aspiring agents, they would have considered selling a big policy and later to be cheered within their agencies. Or to achieve target and given an incentive trip. Or to be in the league for being the million dollars producers. Or the highest recognition for the year for being the champion of the company. These are the happiest moments for most agents. Perhaps I was like them too when I was younger in the business. Most agents need glory and glamour to be motivated in sales.

Not me any longer. My happiest moment currently will be to meet people and share my experiences of life. To make them realised that life is like a garden where roses are surrounded with thorns. We need to move carefully to appreciate the roses and not injure by the thorns of misery. I speak with passion and understanding. I speak with humbleness to reflex kindness. I speak the truth to earn honesty. I reach and touch their heart of all races and faiths. I do not discriminate but use fairness as my yardstick of judgement. With all my sincerity, I just hope to those I met and spoke, would accept me as their good and true friend. If ever my name could be left in one corner of their heart, that realization will be my happiest moment. Whether they purchase life insurance with me is not important any more.

My saddest moment is when prospect degrade a life insurance agent. So far, I had only encountered once in my life time in selling insurance. It was twenty six years ago when I approached a friend who did not buy from me. The remark he told me could never be erased from my mind. He said, "Selling life insurance is worst than begging. I would rather beg on the street but not sell life insurance." I could not work for days after being disgraced by that statement of shame. Later with courage and determination, I took those words as a challenge. I make sure, I will never be told in such manner again. Today I feel proud to be a life insurance agent who is there to preach hopes and life for others to survive. Thank God I am a true life insurance agent, I had proven to my friend I am not a begger.

This happy thought by Marty Varnadoe Dow, "I give thanks for the joy and happiness in life and trust God does indeed want me to be happy."

Can you talk effectively?

My sweetheart said, "Dear, did you know you had spoken with me for two hours already on the line. Aren't you tired love?" What a remark on April Fool's Day!!!

I told her, "When you speak to the one you like and love, you will not get tire. And the one who listens, has interest over the speaker, will not get bored either." Is true readers coz I am not fooling you.

Whenever I had the chance to meet people or even strangers, I like to talk. More so, if I know through my instinct, that they are good listeners, I would spend more time with them. Talking allows one to express one's feeling. Is only through talking one could share thoughts and ideas. Talking sells oneself to be a likable person to others. Talking helps another to understand life. Talking sells your products and services. Talking creates hopes and inspire. Talking can make the other party to love you. Talking is a hobby which costs nothing, except the interest to talk. However to talk with effectiveness, one has to have the passion to talk. The passion is gathered from love and desire of the heart. If one is truly spoken from the heart, the energy vibrated could be felt as sincere and kind. With a little experience, perhaps one could even develop the art of talking and speaking. That is when excitement and enthusiasm are added to refine your words and tune. Of course most important, one must have the genuine desire to talk when necessary. Otherwise you could cause unnecessary time and inconvenient to your listeners. By the way, I have three best friends who love talking. Myself, me and I could be invited to talk at any time. Please try on us!

I was told; "For a long term relationship of a man and a woman. One has to be a keen talker and the other has to be a good listener. They rest assure the partnership will last forever."