Can I ask for sex directly?

I have a lot of friends, clients and colleagues who like to seek my elderly advices. Today, one buddy colleague sent over a text message. He wrote..."Brother, when u ask for sex from a girl directly..do u think it's a right move or will it offend her?

Instead of asking selling tips, he seek for something even more interesting. My reply to him was...read my blog and let me explain for everyone to know as well.

Courting girls is like prospecting for sales. A good salesperson knows when a prospect is sold. No prospect would say he wants to buy. Neither could the salesperson asks whether prospect wants to purchase. The salesperson has to motivate and inspire his prospect to be interested in buying. Salesperson has to detect prospect's buying signals through body's language and facial expression. Once signals are confirmed, salesperson gently and subtly leads prospect to close the sale by signing the dotted line. Follow by prospect is too willing to open his pocket to pay what is necessary. The sale is closed with both parties shaking hands with smiles all round.

For the brother who is reading this now. Don't ever ask your girl directly for sex, especially if she is not your girlfriend yet. If you do...you might end yourself with two tight slaps on your face. Motivate and inspire her with your love stories. Be a hero to her first... expect a little and give as much as possible willingly. Romance and have fun with her. All these might be termed as love making when no sex is involved. Along the way, please observe her body's language and facial expression. Is she responding your closeness? Can you touch her hand? Does she allows you to hug her? And later kiss her gently and softly. If these are possible without objection, young man (shame on you...35 still so innocent), I am sure, your little darling is ready for you to be carried onto bed. You don't need to ask for sex. It just comes naturally because love and romance has magic. The intimacy is concluded with both parties smiling with love all round.

Food for the thought - "The Englishman can get along with sex quite perfectly so long as he can pretend that it isn't sex but something else." - James Agate

Formula to live a longer life.

I was having a haircut in the barber shop, when I noticed an elderly old man having a good time chatting with the barbers. He was the only one talking and the rest were listening to his wisdom. I was told his age is 87 years young. Though his frame is small and skinny but his eyes were bright and his face still has the smiling grow.

Immediately after my haircut, I went forward to shake his hand. Spontaneously he raised both his hands to reach mine too. I offered my sincere congratulation for being so strong and healthy, living right up to this golden age. Politely I asked him, "Uncle..can you tell us your formula to stay and live healthily?" The man put up a broad smile and said, "I eat normal food but little is enough. I don't take supplement either for all these years. I don't smoke and drink. My only exercise is regular walking which I like. To stay healthy...never have hatred in the heart. Be forgiving and give as much as you can." It sounded so simple as that, but yet it is so difficult for most of us. Life is actually simple and is only mankind who makes it complicating. I was glad to have met this wise man who had enlightened me.

Food for the thought - "Early to bed and early to rise, Makes a man healthy, wealthy, and wise" — Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)

Sincere appreciation.

A dear friend send over a text message to me. It was well written as......

Time goes fast.

Life asks so much.

No wonder friends get out of touch!

But in our hearts;

deep,

true,

unseen,

friendship stays forever & u will stay forever & ever.

I felt nice to know this friend who was thoughful enough to remember me. In return, I replied her this message...

My dear should be....

Love goes so fast.

Mind asks so much.

No wonder this darling gets out of touch!

But in my heart;

deep,

true,

unseen,
My love stays forever for you coz I love u so much.

The next minute, she called to say my message had melted her heart. Life has so much of fun, is only whether you know how to live with it. She made me felt nice and I appreciated her with more.

Food for the thought -"Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts." - Henri Frederic Amiel

Meet & talk to people.

In my last 27 years of selling life insurance, I attended countless agency and company meetings. All trainers would tell their agents...to be successful in this career is to see enough people. They applied motivation and inspiration but the bottom line is to see the people and see more people. If it doesn't work, the next easiest way is to offer tempting carrots to the agents. The carrots come in the form of incentives to tickle agents to see more people and to get more sales.

Is logical to gain more sales is to to see more people. This statement is easy spoken and written but how to see people and continue to see people endlessly is the most difficult task. To see people you know is easy but to see strangers is difficult. Is also easy for trainers to instruct agents to see more people but to show an easy way to see more people isn't shown. Perhaps they do not know as well.

I think the right way to see people is first to enjoy seeing people. Are you the type of person who like to talk? Next...to you enjoy talking to entertain your listeners? If you have these two qualities in you, seeing people is as easy as ABC. Most agents fail in our business is because they only know how to talk on the products and services, and do not have the ability to interact to make people like them. Nobody like to listen to your sales. Everyone loves to be entertained and be amused. So if you could make people laugh and have fun out of your talk, seeing people is definitely enjoyable. The only way to learn this art of talking is to practise in the open. Go to the parks or shopping malls, pick any strangers you feel comfortable and just keep talking until they become your friends. I assure you, in no time talking and seeing people are such a wonderful hobby and interest to you. Who knows...you might meet your ideal man or woman while talking there!!

There is a short Chinese phrase spoken- "Have a sweet mouth that talks until birds could come down from the tree". That's how I sweet talk my little darling who flew to me.

Mobile phone can cause misunderstanding.

Can you live without a mobile phone? I think....I can't! And I believe you can't either. It is supposed to be a communication tool for the world but it can create a nuisance and at times could cause more harm than good. For instance...if you are not careful with writing proper text messages...the receiver might misunderstand your meaning in words. Many thoughts and feeling could easily be sent but to write meaningfully and being understood might be difficult. Many times had I offended someone without me realizing myself. I had on several occasions quarrelled with little darling on text messaging not properly expressed in texting on my handphone.

Each time when we call someone on handphone, we expect the other parties to answer. If for some reasons, the calls are not responded, most likely we tend to feel uneasy. Some might even call again for few times, wondering why their calls are not picked up over on the other side. There could be many reasons...the main reason is...the caller at that time is free but the receiver might not. The fact is...nobody is at this moment not doing anything...everyone has to do something. So when a mobile rings...it depends whether the receiver is free at that minute of time.

When I am on urgent business or discussion, I usually change my handphone to silent mode. The purpose is to avoid distraction and to concentrate on my work with those who are around me. However sometimes it might cause confusion with callers who wondered why I wasn't picking up their calls. Especially from my little darling when I did not answer her caring calls for a longer period. The misunderstand disturbed her emotion and could cause anxiety for no reason. Many business opportunities could be affected and many romances could be broken if the usage of mobile phone is not properly understood.

I hope all my friends, clients, relatives, loved one and little darling know...when I don't pick your calls immediately...I am actually on urgent matters and definitely I have not forgotten you all. All calls are very important to me coz I know...when you call me...you are already thinking of me. Just give me a bit of time...I rest assure you...I promise...I will return the calls back to you later.

Though the mobile phone might create some nuisance and misunderstanding, in proper usage it offers more convenient and benefits than without. It looks like whether I like it or not..it has to be with me for the rest of my live here on planet earth. Don't you think so???

Food for the thought - "There are four ways, and only four ways, in which we have contact with the world. We are evaluated and classified by these four contacts: what we do, how we look, what we say, and how we say it." - Dale Carnegie

Confused in love..spiritual & physical.

YF is a divorcee in her mid forty with two teenage growing children. She is a successful self employed attractive and intelligent professional. At the moment she is caught in between the spiritual and the physical world. She loves her religion and follows strictly by its rules and at the same time she is in love silently with a man who is married. The man is loving, understanding, caring with all qualities to be worthy for her. Except he is married with all his children already grown up. To love him whole heartily, she is guilty of herself and to forget him is painful. Not doing anything is also difficult because the thought would always be there for holiness and him. Though she looks happy to others but in actual fact she is unhappy and frustrating. Some friends discourage her to drop the man and some said yes. The different opinions confused her more. More so the man is patiently waiting for her without forcing her in any way if she is not ready. They are currently good friends without intimacy involved. However deep down in YF heart, she needs a man to hold and hug her tightly because she has plenty of love to give. After all no intimate love is "complete" without the warm of a man and woman. She is crying and wish there is an answer to her sorrow. This is a true story between spiritual and physical love.

Perhaps there are someone out there who may be able to enlighten YF. Your comment is most appreciated. Food for the thought - "When people are taken out of their depths they lose their heads, no matter how charming a bluff they may put up." - Source Unknown

Cold calling is hardwork but it helps.

All successful salesperson start with the cold calls first. It takes a lot of guts and courage to do it! Without starting from this strange and scary approaches, no salesperson could understand what is selling. I started with cold calls in my first job in selling 40 years ago.

Two days ago while I was having dinner with little darling at an open food court, a young girl at the most not more than twenty years old, was trying to sell her products to us. She was carrying a light bag, both hands holding packets of sock. Her face showed she was scared and shy. I gave her some encouragement and persuaded her to talk. We were trying to listen her presentation but she was fumbling nervously and not a word could be heard. We gave her time to finish her words and we politely told her we really don't need those products. Although her selling wasn't successful but for sure I could see, it was a real achievement for her. Perhaps it was her first cold call sale, when someone allowed her to complete her talk. She might not know, she had made the mistakes of not speaking confidently and clearly, but at least she had the braveness to see strangers which matters most in selling. Deep down in my heart, I knew she would make it if she continues to see more strangers persistently.

In selling and marketing, it's not how much you know on theory and knowledge, it's on how much you understand the practical part of it. Theory and knowledge could be taught but the practical has to be done by yourself. Most salesperson fail in selling because they have not overcome the fear in cold calls. Especially selling life insurance which needs total mastery in selling. I am glad, I started cold calls before venturing into the natural market, which later developed me into an effective life insurance agent. For those who are currently selling life insurance and have not done cold call before, I suggest is good you should try it now.

A poem... "Hardwork Helps"

Hardwork is like the stairs.

Luck is like a lift.

Lift may fail sometimes,

But whatever may be the occasions,

Stairs will always get u to the top.

Luck might help u once,

Hardwork helps always.