Does your man makes you happy?

Specially to all ladies who are in love...

My little darling was asked this question, "Does your handsome hero makes you happy?" There was a long pause. Everyone was wondering why she could not answer this simple question! Is she really not happy?

The silence was broken. She spoke aloud, "No he didn't make me happy. I make myself happy." All her friends were astonished and surprised. They thought her hero was a fantastic gentleman.

She continued to elaborate further. I am happy because I have a soul mate who is loving, understanding, kind, humble, caring, humorous, fun, intelligence, generous, forgiving and willing to stand by me all the time. Under all circumstances and environment, I am happy because he is my hero. He loves me without condition laid, he loves me whole heartily and this is enough to make me happy in life. Happiness is in the mind. Its up to our emotional thought and feeling. I pick the choice to be happy rather than to be sad. Even when we are sick, we could still be happy. I would be going for a long trip soon. Though he isn't around me when I would be missing him, the thinking of him would eventually make me happy too. Yes! I am happy because of him.

Wow! What a lucky young man I am? I am so proud little darling understands the wisdom of happiness. For those ladies out there...Are you happy yourself or you want your loves to make you happy? The choice is yours.

Food for thought - "The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance; the wise grows it under his feet" ~ James Openheim.

Counselling while selling life insurance.

I received a recent text message from a good client. She wrote, "Do you know any gynaecology? We have decided to have a child but before that I need to know at my age whether worth taking the risk."

My reply was, though I might not know any gynaecology, I am also a half doctor if you could trust me. Is never too late to have a baby now. Just that you have to monitor constantly your pregnancy. By the way, who is the lucky man! I thought you had broken your 1st love a week ago. Which is which my dear?

She responded,"Thanks. The lucky guy is still my first love. We are back together. Do not know what it is that keeps up getting back and unable to stay away from each other."

Continued by me, both of you do love each other. Pride is the main factor which is keeping both apart at times.

She was quick to tell, "Yes! That is very true. For years we have talked about having a child but never got close to doing so. This time we realised life is just too short to waste away and knowing that we love each other, it would only make sense that we have our own child."

My advices for her. Hi! My dear, for whatever happened, there ought to have a reason. I am sure is of good reason. Perhaps is ideal time now, especially for you. Imagine 20 years later, when you are alone, you still have a child to live along with you. But please be prepared to live as a single mother, otherwise the journey might not be easy. Ok?

She still had a doubt, "Do you think we are being selfish at our age to have a child?"

Note: The lady is 42 and the boyfriend is 55, married with children grown up.

Another encouragement for the lady. A woman won't be complete without going through motherhood. A child will bond the father & mother closer together. The child would make the man younger. Go ahead with this plan my dear.

Her final decision, "Thanks for the advice Robert. Truly appreciate it. Yes! I am prepared to be a single mother."

They said love is blind - "When love is not madness, it is not love" - Pedro Calderon de la Barca.

Be contented with what we have.

Wondering what are these pictures???

Yes! These are flats in Hong Kong. Space is so scarce, limited and expensive, the people there have to be contented to living in pigeon holes, they called them as flat. They are about the space of 100 sq feet in size, where the living and dinning room is, together with the kitchen. Whether they like it or not, they have to make good with these shelters as home.

Fifteen years ago, I had a chance to visit a relative in Hong Kong, where I stayed for a week. Those days the flats were slightly larger of 200 sq feet, with two rooms, living hall, a bathroom and a tiny kitchen, which allowed only one person to work within. I still remembered before I left, I wanted to buy a pair of shoe for my uncle who furiously refused to accept my gift. The reason was, there was no space or a single slot in his home which could keep this shoe, though it was only a small box. According to him, they would not buy anything which occupied space for the entire flat had been fully utilized to the maximum. Don't forget this was a flat built many years back. The present flats are even much smaller, which could be shown from my pictures posted above. Ah! Forgotten to tell you. My uncle's flat is currently rented out as kinder garden school for little children. I am equally curious how many students could be enrolled in a space of 200 sq feet. Well! In Hong Kong this is possible.

A good friend, Captain Azhar who read my email, saw these flats, wrote.. "Poor Honkies. The filty rich have so much space while these guys live in junkyards. Why is this world is so unfair?"

I replied him,"So! Consider yourself lucky if you are living in a 700 sq feet flat with three rooms, two toilets, a living hall, a kitchen and lucky one with a balcony."

I will always remember - "I cried because I had no shoes until I met a man who had no feet" -Anonymous.

I treat my children as friends.

Madam Tan was worried and upset over her only son who isn't behaving right. He is only 19, just finished his high school and not interested in pursuing his studies anymore. He is currently mixing with some friends who influenced him to make big money, coming home late and not listening to his parents.

Over a cup of coffee, I advised Tan to be relax and reminding her that most teenagers are like her son, who prefers to listen to outsiders rather than their parents. The best way to win her son's trust and understanding, is to befriend him, treat him more like a friend and not so much like a son.

Tan said its not easy to do it! Obviously its not going to be easy, unless she is prepared to throw away "the devil" in herself first. Take away her pride, self-esteem and arrogance as a mother. In fact the choice is hers!!! Once is done, talk patiently with love and request nicely with the son to allow her to be a friend instead. Joke with him. Play fun with him. Have humour with your advices. Tune down your voice. Hug and kiss him. Tell him you love him so much, please don't keep in the heart. Go with him wherever he likes to go, and not go wherever you like to. Spend evening time together.

I was like Madam Tan when all my children were little kids. Thanks God! I have changed my status as a father. Today all my sons are no longer son, they are all my best friends. They aren't afraid to tell all their naughtiness and secrets to this dad because I am just as naughty as they are. In order for me to befriend with my children, I have to change first and to accept the facts of life. No children would darn to treat their parents as friends, unless the parents could show and educate them in the first place. Madam Tan, I am sure you could as well and is definitely not late at all. Please act immediately...Today!

Food for thought - "You don't really understand human nature unless you know why a child on a merry-go-round will wave at his parents every time around - and why his parents will always wave back" - William D. Tammeus

"It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself" ~ Joyce Maynard.

Give the boy a PhD ... must read lah!!!

A first-grade teacher, Ms Neelam (Age 28) was having trouble with one of her students

The teacher asked, "Boy what is your problem?"

Boy answered, "I'm too smart for the first-grade. My sister is in the third-grade and I'm smarter than she is! I think I should be in the third-grade too!"

Ms Neelam had enough. She took Boy to the Principal's office. The principal told Ms Neelam he would give the boy a test and if he failed to answer any of his questions he was to go back to the first-grade and behave. She agreed.

Boy was brought in and the conditions were explained to him and he agreed to take the test:

Principal: "What is 3x3?"

Boy: "9"

Principal: "What is 6x6?"

Boy: "36"

And so it went with every question the principal thought a third-grade should know. The principal looks at Ms Neelam and tells her, "I think the boy can go to the third-grade."

Ms Neelam says to the principal, "I have some of my own questions. Can I ask him?" The principal and Boy both agree.

Ms Neelam asks: "What does a cow have four of that I have only two of?

Boy, after a moment: "Legs"!

Ms Neelam: "What is in your pants that you have but I do not have?"

Boy: "Pockets"!

Ms Neelam: "What starts with a C and ends with a T, is hairy, oval, delicious and contains thin whitish liquid?"

Boy: Coconut

Ms Neelam: " What goes in hard and pink then comes out soft and sticky?" The Principal's eyes open really wide and before he could stop the answer, Boy quickly answered..

Boy: Bubblegum

Ms Neelam: "What does a man do standing up, a woman does sitting down and a dog does on three legs?" The Principal's eyes again open really wide and before he could stop the answer....

Boy: Shake hands

Ms Neelam: "Now I will ask some "Who am I" sort of questions, okay?"

Boy: "Yep"

Ms Neelam: "You stick Your poles inside me. You tie me down to get me up.. I get wet before you do."

Boy: "Tent"

Ms Neelam: "A finger goes in me. You fiddle with me when you're bored. The best man always has me first." The Principal was looking restless, a bit tense and took one large Patiala Vodka peg.

Boy: "Wedding Ring"

Ms Neelam: "I come in many sizes. When I'm not well, I drip. When you blow me, you feel good."

Boy: "Nose"

Ms Neelam: "I have a stiff shaft. My tip penetrates. I come with a quiver."

Boy: "Arrow"

Ms Neelam: "What word starts with a 'F' and ends in 'K' that means lot of heat and excitement?"

Boy: "Firetruck"

Ms Neelam: "What word starts with a 'F' and ends in 'K' & if u don't get it u have to use your hand"

Boy: "Fork"

Ms Neelam: "What is it that all men have. It's longer for some men than on others. The nuns dont need it. The pope doesn't use his and a man gives it to his wife after they're married?"

Boy: "SURNAME"

Ms Neelam: "What part of the man has no bone but has muscles, has lots of veins, like pumping, & is responsible for making love?"

Boy: "HEART"

The principal breathed a sigh of relief and said to the teacher:

"Send this Boy to University, I got the last ten questions wrong myself!"

He he he!!!! Please laugh lah.

One Paragraph That Explains Life!

Arthur Ashe, the legendary Wimbledon player was dying of AIDS which he got due to infected blood he received during a heart surgery in 1983..

From world over, he received letters from his fans, one of which conveyed: "Why does GOD have to select you for such a bad disease"?

To this Arthur Ashe replied:

"The world over, 50 million children start playing tennis, 5 million learn to play tennis, 500,000 learn professional tennis, 50,000 come to the circuit, 5000 reach the grand slam, 50 reach Wimbledon, 4 to semi final, 2 to the finals, when I was holding a cup I never asked GOD 'Why me?'. And today in pain I should not be asking GOD 'Why me?' "

"Happiness keeps you Sweet,
Trials keep you Strong,
Sorrow keeps you Human,
Failure keeps you humble and Success keeps you glowing,
But only Faith & Attitude Keeps you going...”

No idea is an idea unless is shared.

I really dislike those who claimed they know everything, especially upon hearing someone who is sharing some thoughts. In most seminars and talks I had attended, some seniors who thought they knew so much of lives, ought to be thrown out of the hall. Their remarks were; the speakers were lousy, the ideas are so so, I had heard of it long time ago and the subjects are not new. They would be complaining and criticising but would not be bother to share with others of what they know.

I could never forget my good friend, the late Adam Cheah from Prudential, who once mentioned this statement to me. "No idea is an idea unless is shared willingly." A great man might have a fantastic idea stored in his brilliant mind, but without sharing and speaking his thought out for others, his idea is as good as dead when he passes away one day. However if he is not selfish and prepared to share whole heartily with someone, his idea remains forever to the surviving world. His great name and legacy lives on.

So if you are the type who don't like to share, it would be better to keep you mouth shut rather than being a nuisance to the learning world.

My favorite belief - "The mind grows by taking in, but the heart grows by giving out."