A kiss for Valentine Day....

Fifty years ago, when I was a young teenager, I knew nothing about Valentines Day was. Today if I forget 14th Feb, all my dears, honeys, darlings and one sweetheart that I know would be very upset with me.

I might not know what other part of the world think and feel about the important of Valentines Day, but for sure I could tell you a bit of how our Malaysian react.

To the typical China man or business man, Valentines Day is a commercial day. They have an opportunity to make more and sell more in products related to this occasion. One rose could be sold for ten dollars, while other day could be so cheap. All the restaurants are fully booked in advance, and couples won't mind to pay for whatever the asking price for the romantic dinning. 

The young girls who have got no boyfriend, would wish a Valentino might appear from no where. For the brave and naughty young boys, today is the day when they might approach the girls whom they have in mind. 

The young ladies in love, expect to be pampered and showered with more attention today. And for the gentlemen, you better get ready with all those roses, gifts and presents. 

Talk to the older grannies, they wish their old mates could still remember them or at least to hold their hands. Or if the old partners are romantic enough to say... "I love you!", all these grand mums will be the happiest women in town. So sad! These old men have all lost their jest of live. They rather be at the coffee shop sipping coffee and talking grand mother stories with all their old gangs instead.

What about me? To me Valentine day is a day of love. A day when I should be sharing my emotion, love and concern to everyone I know. If my parents were still around, I will tell them that I love them. To my family, they are my roses in heart. To all my female friends, they are all my dears in mind. To all my male friends, they are always very important to me. To all my readers, you are my inspirator and motivator. To my little darling, she is my diamond forever. I might not be able to be with all of you today but I can write to let all of you to read. I love you. Happy Valentine Day to everyone of you there.

Too dependable on maids....

This was in the paper's headline... Indonesian maids will arrive next month, says Papa. All is in order for the arrival of the first batch of Indonesian maids expected next month, The Foreign Maid Agencies Association (Papa) guaranteed.


The above news could be a joy for most working mothers here. Last year I had a lady's client who was crying furiously when I visited her home. She cried because her only maid left her after a quarrel in the house. She could not believe until the maid disappeared with all her belongings. She cried because she did not know how    to take care of her own big house. She doesn't know how to cook either. The children would be unattended and the clothing would be unwashed. Though she is a great lawyer in town, she never lives like a mother to her own home. A successful corporate lady but too dependable on a working maid. Believe me! There are many ladies out there who could be falling into the same trap like my friend here. So sad! Ladies have forgotten their original roles as a woman. 

Life Can Begin at 50/60/70....

1. Never say ‘I am aged':

There are three ages, chronological, biological, and psychological. The first is calculated based on our date of birth; the second is determined by the health conditions and the third is how old you feel you are. While we don't have control over the first, we can take care of our health with good diet, exercise and a cheerful attitude. A positive attitude and optimistic thinking can reverse the third age.  

 2. Health is wealth:

If you really love your kids and kin, taking care of yourself and your  health should be your priority. Thus, you will not be a burden to them. Have an annual health check-up and take the prescribed medicines regularly. Do take health insurance cover.  

3. Money is important:

Money is essential for meeting the basic necessities of life, keeping good health and earning family respect and security. Don't spend beyond your means even for your children. You have lived for them all through and it is time you enjoyed a harmonious life with your spouse. If your children are grateful and they take care of you, you are blessed. But never take it for granted.  

4. Relaxation and recreation:

The most relaxing and recreating forces are a healthy religious attitude, good sleep, music and laughter. Have faith in God, learn to sleep well, love good music and see the funny side of life. 

  5. Time is precious:

It is almost like holding a horse's reins. When they are in your hands, you can control them. Imagine that every day you are born again. Yesterday is a cancelled cheque. Tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is ready cash — use it profitably. Live this moment.  

 6. Change is the only permanent thing:

We should accept change — it is inevitable. The only way to make sense out of change is to join the dance. Change has brought about many pleasant things. We should be happy that our children are blessed.  

 7. Enlightened selfishness:

All of us are basically selfish. Whatever we do, we expect something in return. We should definitely be grateful to those who stood by us. But our focus should be on the internal satisfaction and happiness we derive by doing good to others, without expecting anything in return.  

8. Forget and forgive:

Don't be bothered too much about others' mistakes. We are not spiritual enough to show our other cheek when we are slapped in one. But for the sake of our own health and happiness, let us forgive and forgetthem. Otherwise, we will be only increasing our BP.  

 9. Everything has a reason. A purpose:

Take life as it comes. Accept yourself as you are and also accept others for what they are. Everybody is unique and right in his own way.  

10. Overcome the fear of death:

We all know that one day we have to leave this world. Still we are afraid of death. We think that our spouse and children will be unable to withstand our loss. But the truth is no one is going to die for you; they may be depressed for some time. Time heals everything and they will carry on.

Regardless How Far The Journey Is OR How Capable We Are, We Do Our Best To Reach Our Goal. This Is Perseverance At Its Best ...— Anonymous 

New-age Daughter in law

Some daughters-in-law are well trained and well mannered....

They don't come to change the family, they are here to ... ( READ ON !)

The new wife was being welcomed at the husband's home in a traditional

manner. As expected she gave a speech;

'My dear family members, I thank you for welcoming me in my new home

and family. Firstly, my being here does not mean that I want to change

your way of life, your routine ..'No, I will never do that, never in a

million years.'

'What do you mean my child?' asked the father-in-law.

'What I mean dad is (looking at her in-laws);

Those who used to wash the dishes must carry on washing them.

Those who used to do the laundry must carry on doing it.

Those who cooked should not stop at my account, AND

Those who used to clean should continue cleaning!!!

'And what are you here for?' enquired the mother-in-law.

' I'M HERE TO ENTERTAIN YOUR SON!!!!!'

Can you get along with your in laws?

Can you get along with your in laws? Is a tough question!

In my years of interacting with my clients while selling life insurance, I had encountered so many complaints between daughters in law and their husbands' parents. The young one would claim the older one being so old fashion, unfriendly, firm and unreasonable, while the older folks remarked that the younger ladies had stole their sons away from them. The confusion and conflicts in the one married family made the sons difficult to take side. The wife is important to the son, and his parents are equally important too. However when things go 'haywire' beyond control, the only solution is for the son and the wife to stay away from the elderly parents.

I have four daughters in law from two sons. Have I confused you! Yes! I had! One of my son married three times with two divorces, letting me to have two ex daughters in law from his previous marriages and one current outstanding wife. The other non playful son only married once, and his wife is my daughter in law. Add them up, I have four beautiful daughters in law. Right?

Do I have problems with all my ex and present daughters in law? No! Never! All of them love me like crazy. So! What is the secret? Before all these intelligent ladies got marry to my sons, I befriended them first. When they were in their courting stage, and they came to my house, I treated all these ladies with special attention. I won them with my heart, my kindness made them felt comfortable and I talked with the same wave length with them. Later when they married my children, I promised myself that I would love them much more than their own fathers. Though I have no daughter in my life but God have given me four wonderful daughters in law who stole my sons from me.

You must know - "Adam was the luckiest man: he had no mother-in-law" - Mark Twain quotes.

Sex for man & money for woman....

I was down with a serious cough and fever last week. Unable to work because the coughing was very frustrating not allowing me to talk. Not forgetting that talking is my hobby. You can bar me from eating but definitely not stopping me from talking. Being my mind was still active, I used my hand phone to disturb some friends on the SMS. Sometimes handling five unlucky friends at one go. I was on full medication and yet my mind was still playful. However the only sad thing was, my little brother down there was totally down and flat. The uncomfortable physical of me had temporary reduced the size of the little brother. On normal day, especially reaching the morning dawn, I could always feel the strength of him awakening. Not the last week, poor little brother was equally sick like me. Both had to stay back at home, unproductive in every sense. 

Thanks God! On my second visit to my physician, he gave me a stronger dosage of medication which helped tremendously. The medicine allowed me to sleep through the whole night long. There was no coughing and the fever had left for good. Coming to dawn again, I had a marvellous sensational feeling. I could feel my little brother was awoke earlier than me. Boldly he stood with the erection without fail, confirming I had fully recovered from my sickness. 

Moral of the story: No man is a healthy man when he could not have a strong penile erection.

Second true story.

Madam Loo is my in law. She is 70 of age and has been a cancer patient for almost nine years. She had done twice surgeries to remove some of the tumours, countless chemotherapy sessions, experienced all types of drugs and medication to counter cancer and currently the Singapore Hospital is trying a new drug not tested before on her. Her body had gone through heavy abuses through toxic medication. Not many cancer patients could last these many treatments like her. Though she has lost a lot of weight, the lady could still survive and smile today. During the last Chinese New Year, when I was with her she told me she had received many ang pows ( red packets ) from her relatives. The biggest any pow contained 800 dollars from her niece. I asked her whether money was still important to her at the moment. Without hesitation she said it loud and clear "YES"

 

Moral of the story: As long as she still likes money, she would still be able to fight the threatful disease. I think woman likes money greater. Quote me if I am wrong!

See the beauty from the inside...

June is in her mid twenties, fully bloomed and is anxiously waiting for her ideal man. She hopes to get marry as soon as possible. What a dream! On phone she appealed to me whether I could introduce a handsome male to her. Introducing a friend is alright but requesting the man to be handsome is really too much!

I gave her a piece of mind. The saying goes.. The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows.

I asked June whether she has those beauties of a woman. If not, attracting another man with a golden heart is definitely out of the question. The Law of Attraction always works well. A sincere heart meets another good soul. A handsome male might not have a loving heart. Believe in your inner beauty and miracle would happen.