The hidden knowledge of sex's cry

Over an exciting discussion with some friends on romance, love and sexual intimacy, a hot topic was shared and gathered. When a couple is having love making, should they cry aloud when they reach their highest climax? Some said 'no' because isn't favourable to reveal one's personal feeling. 'Yes' is ideal but to be softly and mildly sounded. Should cry as much as you like to show your true emotion and satisfaction.

Our sharing were amazing cause we realized every individual behaves differently. Most of us like to cry with our feeling but the shyness holds us back. On the hand, we accepted that sex cries and sounding have wonderful effect on the intimate partners. Sex's cry distresses our tension and frustration. We feel much better when we yell or cry during the climax stage.

Imagine if you were to be driving on the highway trying to clock at 120km maximum speed but someone holds the handbrake to slow you down. Would it be easy for you to have a smoother drive? Or a mother caned a little child who was not allowed to cry. Do you think it is easy for the child to hold back his tears.

Similarly when we are extremely excited in our intimacy, it is not recommended to hold back our yelling or crying. Be like the little child who was beaten, don't be shy but cry to relieve the sensational pain. These are hidden knowledge not written or spoken.

Sir Edmund Hillary said, "I did not conquer the mountain. I simply overcome the fear."

The art of listening the phone.

The telephone is a very useful communication tool to deal business. In selling we use it practically all the time to communicate with the people we deal with. Knowing how to talk on phone is important but more so to listen effectively is even greater. Listening with ability allows you to understand your clients. If you take a bit of time to experiment on all your future calls, learn to listen and feel whether your clients are happy or upset when they talk. Their voices and words relate their feeling of their minds. If you could sense they are happy, most likely you would secure your intention of calling him. On the hand, if you know they are unhappy, then you should console them with understanding, rather than pushing them for unnecessary proposal. Or the best to call them again on some other days. If you are even more experience in listening, you will be surprised, talking by standing or sitting has some differences. The tune of voice is lower when you are sitting. Words spoken while relaxing on the bed are not serious. The tune tends to be irregular and softer. Talking in a room or talking in a large working office vibrates different sound. Within a room, the voice is more compact and clearer.

If the next time, you call a prospect who has a compact and clear voice, you know he sits in a room. Most likely he holds a managerial position upward to be entitled for this space. If you hear his voice is lower, you can more or less know he is sitting in his room. If your hearing is perfect, when you could sense he is at tip top mood, plus you do have also a powerful confident voice yourself, securing an appointment with him is definitey there. Should you by chance to hear voice which is irregular and soft, I suggest that you should cut short your call. Because prospect might be sleeping or even making love. You have call the wrong time of the day!

Useful quote, " Before you write, Think! & Before you speak, Listen!"

Love in our heart will give us the extra miles.

Jr is a hard working man and Ww is a dedicated lady worker. Both were our ex staffs who left for another company. I had not seen them for quite awhile. Lately we had lunch together, when they invited me as one of the platform speaker for their new company seminar. Upon meeting up with them, I could see the excitement over their faces. I am sure they are extremely happy with their new jobs.

What caught me most was Ww who looked so sweet and attractive through both her eyes. On her face I asked Ww, "U are in love my dear. Are you?" With a gentle smile, she said, "Yes! but how do you know Robert?" I replied, "Your eyes tell and your face is so full of love."

I am so glad for Ww because this is her first experience in love. She was so devoted to her career all these years that she had forgotten what is true love with a man. I told her she is lucky because when she is in love, she can perform better in her new appointment. I believe, "A beautiful world can only be seen through the eyes of a happy heart." She is a very capable and experienced person, and with this magical charm of love in her heart at the moment, I am sure nothing will stop her to gain success and achievement.

Meanwhile Jr was impatience, he interrupted, "Robert what about me?" I stared at him and pondered a minute, "Ah! You have the experience and knowledge too. I know you are willing to work. However you lack the final push. Your eyes tell me you still have not found the love of your heart yet. Sorry to say, your eyes are dull without the extra drive."

Sometimes in life, the miracle of love can create wanders. Money can be the prime mover but added with the magical love in our heart, it can move mountains and clear all rivers without tiredness. Even myself, how I wish I can still fall in love again.

It was written, "The Eskimo has 52 names for snow because it is important to them. There ought to be as many for love as well."

Cultivate good saving habits early in life.

One of my client called me in the early morning to tell me his son has been granted a place in Australia to study aero-engineering. The entire package will cost him more than RM 400,000. He wanted to know whether his three policies with me could raise that much of fund or perhaps he could borrow from our insurance company.

Life is very funny! If our children don't do well in studies, we will not be happy. On the other hand, if they do too well, we may be worried too because a lot of funding is needed in pursuing their education.

I found it difficult to answer my above client request. Although I had known him for more than twenty years, he was not willing to save from beginning till current. When he was much younger, saving wasn't his priority. He felt that insurance was not attractive. He thought there were better option to save and to invest elsewhere. By the time he realised, age has caught up on him. It was the last few years, he seriously considered some medical and protection covers. The time was too short for him to accumulate the fund. Surprisingly he had not invested in other venues, except owning a house which is still under mortgage.

Finally with a bit of hesitation, I explained to him that all his policies will not be able to raise this high amount of needed fund. Neither can he borrow from the insurance company. Perhaps he can still try to apply an educational loan from some banks. However this amount can be doubtful without proper collateral being charged to them. He wanted my frank and sincere advices. With courage I suggested to him that his son should try the next alternatives. As the father is reaching almost 60 of age, he should not burden himself for committing further obligation and liabilities. Not forgetting he still has another two younger children who also might need his support later. Is good that his son has done well in study but if the family hasn't the means to assist, don't force the bread winner to shoulder the unnecessary toll. If he was to force himself to borrow, he might be under tremendous amount of stress and tension later. It could lead to further health and sickness problems.

That was my true feeling for a friend/client, spoken from my heart. I thought he was angry and be upset over me. Surprisingly he said, "Robert! Thank you for telling the truth. I will take your advices."

Moral of my real story. Cultivate good saving habits. Save early in life and don't turn back. Spoken by Fred Adler, "Happiness is a positive cash flow."

Teaching is a noble profession.

Lai Chun Siong has been teaching in a Chinese Government School for a few years. I was lucky to have been introduced to him late last year. Very few young male graduates would pick to be a teacher, especially teaching in a Chinese Government School. Not like before, when a teacher was always highly respected wherever one goes. Today, most young job seekers prefer to venture into the corporate world where incentives and income are better.

Not Lai Chun Siong, who loves to be a teacher. By talking to him, I could feel the passion and interest he has over this noble profession. All his students were happy learning from him. The way the students behaved and communicated, I knew he must had taught them well. Lai knew his salary and benefits might not be tempting, comparing to his friends who worked outside. He gained his satisfaction out from teaching his students. Seeing and knowing the children grow makes him happy and delighted. I am so glad, we still have dedicated and committed teachers like Lai Chun Siong around. Without him and other serious teachers, our young will never have a chance to be properly educated. Our future depends on our youth and if our young were neglected, then our future might be uncertain and unsafe.

Lai, I certainly admire and proud to be your friend and also as your life insurance agent. You do your part to teach the students and I will play my role to assist you in your financial planning. You have the passion to guide the little one around you and I have the wisdom of life to strengthen your understanding of life. Every one on earth has a responsiblity to shoulder and I do hope we can help each other along the way.

Abraham Lincoln reminded us, "And in the end, it's not the years in your life that counts. It's the life in your years."

Happiness is to see our clients grow.

Maniam has been a client/friend for almost 20 years. When I first knew him, he was only running a small little printing shop. Though he didn't complete his high school education, his mind is always very creative and active. As thick friends, we met often when I had giving my ears to him. In business there were always the up and down of working life. When he faced difficulties, I was there to support and when he gathered success, I too was there to share his glory. His first wife passed away when their children were very small due to dengue infection. That was the period when Maniam had to be father and mother to his three little kids. Not forgetting he had also to run his business outside. A good man always be blessed. Few years later, he was introduced to a lady teacher who became his wife, Susi. She was an understanding woman who took the sacrifice to resign her government teaching to become a full time housewife to his family. It was not easy at first, because she had to win over the love from the one daughter and two sons from his first earlier marriage. I did my part to advise and encourage her and children to accept the new mother and kids. From her, Maniam got another two lovely sons. Today, Maniam is a very successful business entrepreneur, having businesses locally and abroad as well. A very respected person within his own communities and industries.

This year, his eldest daughter had graduated to become a qualified medical doctor serving the government hospital now. His second child, a son is also studying medicine. Not only had I sold life insurance to Maniam before and present. Today, I have the privilege to talk to his daughter on life planning, as she is already an adult and professing as doctor. I had seen her grow from a little sweet darling to be what she is now. The parents had educated her well in life and now is my turn to offer my advices on financial planning.

I am proud of my good friend, Maniam's achievement and success. He is certainly a self make person who worked very hard in life to reach this point of pride. Equally I have to admire the lady who had contributed so much of her patience and understanding to support the family. This statement is true, "For every successful man, there is always a lady behind." She is Susi, the great wonderful wife. As their life insurance agent, I stand tall to share their happiness. I had given the best to him, and I promise I will try by level best again to serve his children from now onwards. An agent serving two generations with passion.

Ethel Percy Andrus said, "The human contribution is the essential ingredient. It is only in the giving of oneself to others that we truly live."

Helping is better than selling.

I was about to leave for a morning sales appointment, when another client called on my mobile phone. He sounded sad, "Can I see you this morning? I need to tell you something urgently." I replied, "I believe is important. Let me call you back because I need to cancel my appointment first with others."

One hour later, I was at his place for I managed to cancel the other sales meeting in town. My principle in life is to serve and assist urgent calls first. Sales can always come later for there is never an ending on selling. Not when a client or a friend who needs you when they are in despair. I was glad that I turned up to meet this client for he really had some critical personal problems which he felt that I was capable to advise. I spend a couple of hours listening and trying to understand him. He felt much better after telling me.

Although I had missed one sales appointment, I felt much happier seeing a friend who needed my advices. Gaining a new sale is nice but earning the respect from a client is even greater. I had the honour to be treated not as an agent but rather taken as his best friend whom he trusts and admires. He believes that I will always be with him for the better or for the worst. He trusts that I am more than an agent who can deliver under any circumstances. These are my work ethics and principles for lasting the past 25 years in selling life insurance.

A quote given by a school mate, which will never be forgotten, "Success is always temporary, the only thing you'll have left is your character."