Cyber love is artificial.

Can we fall in love through Cyber space? My sweetheart used to text and email to me with loving words. Like;"I love you sweetheart and I love u and I love uuuuuuUUUUUU... cyber hugs and kissssesss...:-))"

I told her, she could be writing endlessly with all her virtual heart, I will never be able to fall madly in love with her. Virtual love can only be felt by reading words. Words can be touching and fanciful. Whereas emotion could be more intense when we could smell, see and touch. Her words, 'I love you' could be felt with pride and sensation. But her cyber hugs could not be smelled. I need to smell her feminine perfume to get excited. At the same time, I have to see her from top to bottom when I could acknowledge her beauty. Cyber hugs and kisses have no real touch. The touch of skin arouse the excitement of our mind. Smell, sight and touch create greater feeling. The feeling will bond love closer. Sweetheart, I need the real love of life, not Cyber love which is just imagination and artificial. Its frightening how our world has changed from true love to unseen love.

To those who want real love; "Telling someone you love them comes from the heart. The place that make you love them from the start."

Children can be young only once in their life time.

The above are not my children but they are my heroes. Sent over by my daughter-in-law who is staying afar. I have five and a half grand children from two sons. The half is on the way soon. Looking at them relate the past memories when my children were as young as them. They were cute and active too. However I regretted for not spending enough time when they were still growing up. I had opportunities to rub shoulders with them but I did not. Many a time, they asked me to take them to the park, I gave excuses that dad was busy. They wanted to go for the movies but I gave money instead of accompanying them. Instead of shopping together I dropped them to the malls and went prospecting for business. Instead of teaching them swimming, I paid others to teach them. When they were at lost in studies, I was not aware of it. By the time I realised I had to be with them, they no longer have time for me, for they have all grown to be adults. They have their own mindset and thinking now. They have their families to manage too. We only communicate by emails or to chat on the net, coz they are too busy with their careers as well. My first chapter of life had gone passed. I had worked successfully but I took time for granted. I should have spend more time with my children when they needed me most. Although I had made this valuable mistakes which money can't buy, I certainly wish my children and all those who read my blog now; "Please take every moment of time preciously with our growing family, for the children can only be young once in their life time with us."

Foot for the heart: "The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for." - Maureen Dowd

The art of selling by understanding your prospects.

Most salesperson identify their market before selling to the right segment of people. They pick their prospects according to their requirements. Can the prospects afford to purchase? Are the prospects the responsible type? Are they reachable and friendly? Is he the smart or not so smart prospect? Prospects could be screened by the way they dressed, the way they talked and the place they worked. These might be termed as pre selling assessment before the actual sales.

Of course, its ideal to identify and pre assess our prospects before the actual selling. However most salesperson are not aware that while they are assessing their prospects, the prospects are also there to determine and to appraise whether you are the rightful salesperson to handle their sales. Perhaps without you knowing, prospects are also seeing how you dress to look decent, responsible and smart. Are you able to talk with confidence? Are your command of language perfect? Is your communication skill good? Does your words show the care and passion over your profession? Overall have you depicted your true success as a person to them?

Most salesperson failed to realise the important of the two ways transaction of all selling. Not only you must be efficient to determine the fruitful prospects, but you also need to have the skill to portrait a successful image of a salesperson. Remember you look at them, but they are also be looking at you as well. This is the art of true selling by understanding our prospects.

Aristotle wrote, "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence therefore, is not an act but a habit."

How the ladies look at man?

I thought it is only men who appreciate and admire the external beauty of woman, ladies equally like to stare at male physical. These are some interesting views gathered from ladies I know. Most females look at man face first. Are they handsome or just so so? They prefer darker complexion which has the macho look. Has the man got the intelligent or sneaky eyes? A long nose relates a long penis. A broad nose might have a bigger penis head. Most women like men with a wide and broader shoulder. It depicts strength. Although man would not have a bigger breast to show, ladies admire man by the way we walk. They could identify a strong personality by the posture of us. If a man who wears a tight jean or pant, you won't be surprised that women would also stare at your bottom. To feel and imagine how strong is your sexual organ. The best place to observe each other will be at the beaches or the swimming pools. The man admires the female, and at the same time she assesses him. Something I learned from a great lady, the bigger the man toes, the larger are our penis. Gentleman who have smaller dicks, suggest that they should always wear shoes and not slippers.

To the ladies who look at us, "It is always easy for woman to get man but it is never easy to get the right man to love." So! Don't judge the man by his look. Look at his heart. A friendly advice, "True love never leaves the heart. So if you don't love me now, you did not love me then."

How men see the beauty of woman.

There are many ways man see the beauty of woman. Some would look at the facial first. Her eyes, noise and mouth. Does she has the sexy eyes or with a kissing lip? I was told thicker lips kiss better. Is her face rounded? Some prefer to stare at the hip next to the buttock. A tight hip with a eight curve dimension is very appealing to man's eyes. Small buttock tends to have smaller breasts. Some men like small buttock but many like bigger one. Breasts are the main spot which are most greatly admired. Within men, we classified breast into few types. Are they the lime, orange, mango, papaya or coconut breast. Different males like different fruits. Of course, the neck, shoulder, hands and legs are equally important. Next is the way she combs her hair, or how she dresses herself or even the way she walks can capture attention.

For the ladies, please don't be angry with us because females are created for men to admire and to appreciate. Without your external beauty, perhaps the world is less exciting. However as far as I am concerned, the external beauty of a woman is only temporary for no one is able to stop aging in the process.

I told my sweetheart how I see her; "The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart - the place where love resides."

For those who read here, "Learn to love people and use things. Not to love things and use people."

Are u prepared to buy bras & panties for your loves?

Over a dinner, a lady was telling to the men that the current males buy funny gifts to their loves. Instead of the normal practise of offering flowers or diamonds, crazy men buy bras and panties or even sanitary napkins to their ladies. She challenged us whether we darn to buy these personal usages to women. I was the first one to say YES. I told her, I will be too glad and proud to buy bras and panties or sanitary napkins, especially the latest fashion with colourful types. BUT only to the one that I truly love. Love has got no shyness. The buying of the above needs, relates that I love her and I do understand her from top to bottom. Something I learned in Shanghai. I will be too happy to also carry my lover's handbag wherever we go together. If she allows me to carry her handbag, it indicates she trusts and believes in me. At the sametime, carrying her handbag is like telling her I love her very much.

For the ladies, if you ever want to know whether your men truly love and be proud of you, try these. Test them, by asking them to buy bras and panties or sanitary napkins on your behalf. When you are with him, request him to carry your handbag. If your men are not prepared to submit to your requests, it is high time to ponder whether you have got the right lovers. These are the simple facts of life.

Sweetheart, would you agree, "It takes three seconds to say 'I LOVE YOU' but a lifetime to prove it."

Sophisticated ladies smoke.

Life is very funny. Do we need to be educated to be more health conscious? Not so! I was in Bangsar, an elite class of neighbourhood where most people dressed well. Especially the ladies who spoke well and were very fashionable in personality. They could be seen in the shopping malls or just drinking tea at those little restaurants. What caught my attention was, most of the attractive and elegant ladies here carried cigarettes and smoked openly. Perhaps the cigarettes made them looked even more sophisticated.

On the other hand, if we moved over to Kepong, another township not too far away, the people here are less educated. They are mainly the lower middle class residents. The dressing is simpler and casual in nature. You see less sophisticated ladies but more typical Chinese aunties around. I hardly seen any girls, women or ladies smoked in this conservative neighbour.

I thought when we are educated, we tend to be more knowledgeable and smoke less for a healthier reason. Or is it now that we are more educated, we are not bother to look at our health! Or is it when we are less educated, we would be more serious with our health! But thanks God! All the lady friends, especially the one I love most, do not smoke.

This could be the reason, "Having the knowledge but not applying them, is like not having knowledge."