Saturday, October 31, 2009

I had lost a good friend.



Last night i received a shocking message, a trainee pilot crashed near a golf course. The pilot was Mohd Ishan, a young man of 22 only. On checking with the news online, it was confirmed he was on a solo flight from Ipoh to Subang on a Eagle twin seater light plane.

I was trembling and my heart was beating fast while reading this unpleasant news. I had known Ishan since he was a baby. His father a self made man, was running a mini market in the other part of our town. Unfortunately he passed away three years ago with a heart attack, leaving a wife, a daughter who was 4 years old then, and Ishan. The only son was 19 then, had to shoulder the father business because the mother was an illiterate from India. With some life insurance paid to his family, I had been treating Ishan like a son, teaching him to replace his late father's role. He was a father to the family, protecting his timid mother and cute small sister, was a young boss to the shop and managing a handful of workers who were much older than him, was a college student who was still keen to learn and complete his education. For the past three years, i had been guiding and teaching him all about life. I love him so much because he was a unique boy who was rich in heart, intelligence, creative, prepared to work and to share, full of responsibility and willing to walk the extra miles.

Today while attending his funeral, his mother cried furiously when she saw me. She said, Ishan took up flying one year ago with the Royal Selangor Flying Club. At first the mother refused to allow the son to fly, but with much persuasion and sweet talk, he got the green light from her. He made the mother to promise not to tell two important persons about his flying. Otherwise he was sure, they would never allow him to take up this interesting hobby. These two persons are Kabeer, his uncle and the second is Robert Foo, his mentor and life insurance agent. I could not resist myself to cry as well when i heard this from the mother.

I am still pondering at the moment. I had given hope and respect to their family when his father left them three years ago. There was hope because the son had the potential to offer and there was respect because the family could live with dignity. My question now; should this tragedy happened so soon? who is right or wrong? is it fair to the family?

While writing now, i just could not control my tears. Though Ishan isn't my son, is so painful to have lost him. Through our relationship, our bonding has emotionally affected my feeling for this bright son. For whatever happened, there ought to be a reason and i believe God could have needed Ishan much more in another place. Over his body, i promised to see his mother with uncle Kabeer tomorrow, to provide advices and assistance.

Specially to my beloved Ishan - "Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever" - Mahatma Gandhi quotes.

Friday, October 30, 2009

Jealous heart.


I introduced Wati to Faisal a few months ago. Faisal got crazy with Wati shortly after meeting her, because she is a young beautiful and a sexy girl. Being a fast worker, he managed to win over the gorgeous lady. Good for both of them.

Out of curiosity, this afternoon i posted a personal question to this in love friend. "Faisal, when you are with Wati who dresses so beautifully all the time. Do you feel honour to be with her?"

This was his reply, "I feel proud and happy whenever i am with sexy ladies. More so with Wati whom i love so much. I feel great and fantastic when all eyes are on her. My heart is excited because she is my girlfriend to show."

Next question to Faisal. "You are not with her, when all eyes are at her. Tell me how do you feel then."

Reluctantly he admitted, "I am jealous when other men are staring at her. I prefer she doesn't dress too sexy, especially when i am not with her."

Funny isn't it! He can be looking at other pretty women but he cannot allow other men to be watching his lover. The only one word i could think of is Selfish of him. Selfishness comes when a man isn't confidence of himself. As long as he lacks the personal confidence of a gentleman to court an eligible lady, he is worried that another more qualified man might take her away from him.

Some tips for my friend. Love is patient and kind. It doesn't envy, it doesn't boast, it isn't proud. It isn't rude, it isn't self seeking, it isn't easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

If both Faisal and Wati have the above understanding, then TRUST will be there between both of them, instead of Selfishness.

Specially for Faisal - "Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile" - Franklin P. Jones.

Thursday, October 29, 2009

What is success?

What is the Secret of SUCCESS...... ? "RIGHT DECISIONS"
How do you make Right Decisions... ? "EXPERIENCE"
How do you get Experience.. . ? "WRONG DECISIONS
Dr. ABDUL KALAM ....

Over a gathering, all my buddies were talking about success. Success to most of them is their dream home, business, career and be billionaires. Came my turn, i told them my success is to earn enough money to let my little darling spend, when i won't be feeling the pain. Sorry i am not successful yet! Because each time my little darling spend, either to buy her best clothing, or shop until she is breathless, or enjoying her spa and massage, or visiting her beauty parlour, or on holiday, i could still feel the slight pain in the heart. Until when i learn not to have this pain, i consider myself as not successful yet. What about you?

David Brinkley said - "A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him."

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

Mount Kinabalu here i come.


Have you climbed mountain before? I have not but after listening a mountain climbing story from KM Lee, I am considering to climb one.

KM Lee is a 54 years old businessman, who was encouraged to climb Mount Kinabalu recently. Mount Kinabalu is the highest mountain in South East Asia, and one has to be fit and strong to conquer the peak. Lee was the oldest among his group of young climbers. Prior to this climbing, Lee is a hatch runner who believes he had the stamina to scale the scary height. He was only worried whether he had the determination and spirit to reach to the top.

On the day of climbing everyone was excited with full of enthusiasm. They promised each other that all would make it to the final. Half way the journey, everyone was breathing hard, especially when the air was getting thinner and the temperature was cold. As Lee was the oldest, he wasn't afraid that he could not make it, but he was more afraid that he was going to be a burden to the group. Rather being left out on the walking path behind, he walked and moved faster than the younger team. Without him knowing, his fast pace and speedy run, spurred the younger friends to run faster as well.

The older climber did not want to burden the young, and the younger climbers were too embarrassed to loose to an older climber. Because of this mental pressure, it created an extra energy and determination to all these highly motivated climbers. They reached the top faster than expected. Lee was third to reach there too.

Moral of the story; Success is easier when the young and the old meet and work together.

There is a German Proverb - "The old forget, the young don't know".

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

I don't know where to place my eyes.

Wow!!! She is sexy and beautiful, isn't it? Talking to her could be a problem. As man, i really don't know where to place my eyes over her, if i am directly in front with her.

Many a time, we happened to be confronted by such gorgeous beauties over a conversation. We could either be seated or stood one arm away from each other. Should we see eye to eye and talk! I don't think it could be easy, because the bust line is really too irresistible to avoid. The shoulder is fair and the boob is tempting. Her perfume is sensational, her clothing is admirable, her hairdo is attractive, and her waist line curve is appealing. With all these marvellous qualities of a pretty lady, it is natural that all men are attracted to her.

If i do not look directly at her face while talking with her, she might think i am not serious. If i stare at her boob, she might think i am disrespectful and naughty. If i peep at her lower part, she might think i am up to something bad. Well! What should i do then ladies?

I spoke to some lady friends recently on this issue. They suggested that i should be brave to tell the truth to this sexy woman. Tell her she is a very admirable person. Tell her she is beautiful and tempting. Tell her she has a fantastic body. Tell her she is a beauty that all men would like to look at. They assure me the lady would love to hear all these compliments. For those men who are not courageous like me, i advise you then to focus your sight only on her forehead front when you are confronted by sexy women. The temple of the face is a safe place to look at.

Food for thought -“When somebody gives you a sexy look, you know they're trying. It's terrible! But when you smile, it's so much sexier!” - Joseph Addison.

Monday, October 26, 2009

How to sell a blank paper with a value price?

TC Cheng, one of my blog reader wrote to me with this question, "How to sell a blank paper with a value price… ?What do u thk.."

Mmmmmm! Sound interesting! With a creative naughty mind, the first thought that came to me was "Love & Romance". Love is a blank paper, which could be expressed by our five senses; sight, listen, smell, taste and touch. True love comes with a beautiful romance which is priceless.

To fall in love or to let another person to fall in love with you, the five senses have to be placed accordingly. To identify the rightful loving person, we have to see and observe the other opposite sex. Each and everyone of us feels differently, but our eyes are the first to capture the attention of the other person. Seeing is believing! However to reinforce the sighting of a pretty lady, listening is even more important to determine the inner of this beauty. At the same time, let the smell and taste of the human senses to explore and venture. Lastly the brave and courageous one would attempt to apply the touch to create a sensation love within the two. I believe, if a man could sincerely apply the magic of these five senses to any beauty with passion and desire, he would be able to sell his LOVE to her. Love is relatively a blank paper, but beautifully express from heart to heart with "I Love You." The price always ends with a fantastic romance until infinity. Yes the man sells a blank paper with a value price in that sense.

I consider myself a very lucky and blessed gentleman who sells 'love & romance'. Selling life insurance is related to love & romance. Just like the above illustration of making people fall in love, selling insurance is to make my clients fall in love with me. My Godly given five senses help me to reflex my character of humbleness, kindness, intelligence, humour, creativeness, understanding, commitment, responsible and plenty of passion to shower. My sincere love has touched all my clients who are willing to accept my 'blank paper' with a promise. A promise that i will be there for them, if they need me most when an untimely death or accident happens to them. I promise to make sure their surviving families will live in dignity and respect, when they are no longer around. I promise their children will be able to continue their studies. I promise to be their guardian until i no longer around as well. My love and promises are priceless. I could do it because i am a life insurance agent. Indirectly i am also selling a blank paper with a value price.

TC Cheng
... I hope you accept my views and had answered to your question too.

Food for thought - "Success, happiness, peace of mind and fulfillment - the most priceless of human treasures - are available to all among us, without exception, who make things happen - who make "good" things happen - in the world around them” - Joe Klock.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Don't mix drinking & driving.


A Very Touching Poem

I went to a party Mom,
I remembered what you said.
You told me not to drink, Mom,
So I drank soda instead.

I really felt proud inside, Mom,
The way you said I would.
I didn't drink and drive, Mom,
Even though the others said I should.

I know I did the right thing, Mom,
I know you are always right.
Now the party is finally ending, Mom,
As everyone is driving out of sight.

As I got into my car, Mom,
I knew I'd get home in one piece.
Because of the way you raised me,
So responsible and sweet.

I started to drive away, Mom,
But as I pulled out into the road,
The other car didn't see me, Mom,
And hit me like a load.

As I lay there on the pavement, Mom,
I hear the policeman say,
"The other guy is drunk," Mom,
And now I'm the one who will pay.

I'm lying here dying, Mom....
I wish you'd get here soon.
How could this happen to me, Mom?
My life just burst like a balloon.

There is blood all around me, Mom,
And most of it is mine.
I hear the medic say, Mom,
I'll die in a short time.

I just wanted to tell you, Mom,
I swear I didn't drink.
It was the others, Mom.
The others didn't think.

He was probably at the same party as I.
The only difference is, he drank
And I will die.

Why do people drink, Mom?
It can ruin your whole life.
I'm feeling sharp pains now.
Pains just like a knife.

The guy who hit me is walking, Mom,
And I don't think it's fair.
I'm lying here dying
And all he can do is stare.

Tell my brother not to cry, Mom.
Tell Daddy to be brave.
And when I go to heaven, Mom,
Put "GOOD BOY " on my grave.

Someone should have told him, Mom,
Not to drink and drive.
If only they had told him, Mom,
I would still be alive.

My breath is getting shorter, Mom.
I'm becoming very scared.
Please don't cry for me, Mom.
When I needed you, you were always there.

I have one last question, Mom.
Before I say good bye.
I didn't drink and drive,
So why am I the one to die?

Moral of the poem; "When you drink, don't drive or when you drive, don't drink."