Afraid to lose my love.

"All my life I was afraid that I would never find love....and now that I've found it, I 'm afraid that I will lose it." This statement can be applied to many or even to you readers if you are in love now. I think when one is too deeply in love, our emotion can be over possessive at times. You can also be selfish in thought, trying to control your love without realising, you can actually hurt the other party. Perhaps you might not want to reveal your inner intention, afraid and shameful to tell about these weaknesses. I believe very few could honestly claim that they trust love, coz saying it and doing it are two different things. Meaning you can say, you trust and understand your love, but deep down your mind and heart, I guess you still have a little bit of fear which others can't see and feel. Nobody in this world is perfect. So! As long as you try to love whole heartily, don't be afraid you will lose your love. After all our mind sometimes can play dirty with ourselves.

This can happen again. "When two friends fall in love, they learn they are meant for each other. When they fell out of love, they realise they want to keep each other forever." Possessiveness and selfishness are the evil of such distrust. If you can, avoid them!

Need you or love you!

This is one statement which will confuse many lovers. "I Love you not because I need you, BUT, I need you because I love you." To a true gentleman who loves his lady for not just lust and desire, he can claim this as sincere; "I love you not because I need you." His love for her is from the heart, to care for her, to protect her, to give her affection, to make her happy, and to love her whole heartily. To the lady who falls for his love, she has to say, "I need you because I love you." Haven't seen him for awhile, she bounds to miss chatting with him, misses his touch, misses his body, misses his cuddle, misses his smell and misses everything from him. She is sad because she needs him. This is love!

Sometimes we wonder whether we need each other or we love each other. You have to find out yourself. I strongly believe we have to prove our love before we could need our love. One thing for sure, "I will never love a love that loves and I will never hurt a love that loves."

Accident can happen in our home.

Fam had 8 stitches on his forehead and lost one of his front tooth, while going to his toilet in the middle of the night. Prior to his call of nature, he had a muscle cram on his left leg while sleeping. With his muscle pain, he walked to the attached bathroom without the light on. Upon reaching the toilet bow, he had a black-out and accidentally fell onto the bow cover. As Fam is a bachelor, he was knocked unconscious and was bleeding with a deep cut, without anyone to assist him. When he awoke later, he was shocked and surprised, he was lying on the floor rather than on his bed.

Yes! This can happen any time to us. The safest place is the home and yet could be the most dangerous place too. The reason could be simply, we assume the home is a place without danger where its a paradise to us. Fam case was a recent domestic accident but I had countless serious home accidents which I had encounted.

Another interesting case. Muljit slipped from her first floor stairway to the lower ground. The maid had cleaned the entire floor so well. It was shinning and was slippery. She skied all the way down with legs first. Upon reaching the lower floor, her entire body crushed against the wall. The impact was so great, she broke one of her leg and fracture her spine. She had to go for several surgery corrections before she could walk properly again. Her medical cost was a bomb.

Another one to laugh! Mazura was cooking at home. She saw her cat leaping towards their dinning table where food were laid. Spontaneously she turned to chase her away. As she was moving, without her realising, her sarong slipped and loosen. Accidently she stepped upon the lower part of her sarong. She lost her control due to the fast twist and turn of her body movement. Her fall was a painful one because she broke her left arm and right leg. An accident she did not want.

I could give you more cases. The fact is, accident can happen in your home. Don't take for granted but be careful at all times when you are back in your house. My above three clients were lucky. Because non needed to pay for the high medical charges incurred. I took care of them because they have been strong believers in life insurance.

Remember my belief - "Take life insurance when you don't need it coz when you need it, you can't buy."

Birds & bees came into my life.

My home has been very quiet since my children have migrated. Not like before when the place was like a war zone with all my grand children around. Lately I had countless uninvited guests and I was happy that they came. Although my house was just a simple linked house with a small garden, birds and bees surprisingly make home here. Perhaps they want to accompany me.

Two little blue and white colour birds, make their nest just in front my front door, where I have many potted plants. Later two eggs were laid, hatched and their family is now of four. I could see the dad and mum are taking turns to feed their young chicks. They are a very happy family without doubt. I never see them quarrel, yell or shout. The male is very protective and he looks very faithful to his mate. How I wish, man and woman can live like them! They don't have greed, hate and sadness. Their love for each other is strong and bonded till death. Mankind is considered as smarter and yet we can't have the heart of the birds which is so pure and sincere.

Further out in the garden, those bees have built a sizable nest. They started small in number but gradually they increase by the days. I was lucky, they did not sting me even when I was moving around their nest. I believe they have senses as well, knowing I am the master of the house and they are only my guests. With a little knowledge I learned when I was younger, bees are like an army who survives with a purpose. They come in different status and ranking. Each has a role to play, in order to protect their colony. Their colony is ruled by a queen. All bees are prepared to protect and to die for their queen, in the event if they are being attacked. Their team work is marvellous and their planning is systematic. If only our world could live like the bees, there will be more peace and harmony all round.

They used to claim that 'bird & bee' are related to love and sex. I wonder why they came together into my life at this moment of time. Are they telling me that I should love more and continue to have more sex too. Please someone tell me.

Food of the thought -"Live, Laughter & Love. Live happily! Laugh a lot! Love more."

Every day is an exciting & happy day.

This afternoon I called my secretary, Fizah, "Hi my dear, how is this morning?" Her voice was a bit soft, "Boss! Is too quiet today". I was quick to respond, "Hey! How could it be dear? There is no such thing as a quiet day. Unless you wanted it to be quiet!"

Is true! There is no such day as a quiet day for me, unless I am sick or upset. Whether is a quiet day, or exciting day or even a happy day, is actually up to the individual to decide. It might be a quiet day for Fizah, but she can turn it to be a busy day. If only she is prepared to look for the extra work in the office. I don't go into the office everyday, I trust my secretary who is capable to man the place herself. It might be an uneventful day, when not many agents called. However if she wanted it to be exciting a day, she should have called others rather than to wait for the calls. She can always take the initiative or proactive to disturb others. When I said disturbing, it means to create fun out of our work. Along the way, perhaps she could make others happy and I am sure the day would turn to be a happy day at the end.

Most people get bore with their work because they do not know how to have fun out of their job. Don't take our work too seriously. How uninteresting is your work, I am sure there is still a spot where you can energize yourself. The only different between a happy person and an unhappy one is, a happy person don't wait for others to make him happy. Instead he makes others happy first. Whereas the unhappy one, always wait for happiness to come by itself. It applies to excitement and amusement too. It works very well with me coz I have proven myself that I don't wait for my little darling's love to come. Rather I approached her first and later I got all my happiness and excitement. Ask her, she would tell you that this is definitely true.

The happiness definition by Robert G. Ingersoil - "Happiness is the only good. The time to be happy is now. The place to be happy is here. The way to be happy is to make others so."

We have forgotten our roots.

I was entertaining my guests at my usual club. My favorite restaurant is the coffee house where most waiters always served me with smiles. Lately they have taken in many foreign workers mainly from Bangladesh. Surprisingly within a very short span of time, they could also communicate with us in our local languages. I am sad to see our local boys and girls do not work as hard and as efficient as them. I could see the different in their working habits. The locals talk more than they work. The Bangladeshi move faster and more alert. They never complain and are prepared to go the extra miles to serve. More so they are fitter, stronger and obedience. They work differently because they are proud of what they are doing. Not the locals who have self esteem and pride.

As our nation is progressing, we have forgotten our roots. When we were poorer, we were humble and simple. Now that we are slightly richer, we are arrogance and stubborn. As we are advancing to be a fully develop nation, we need to have the right positive attitude in our people. Otherwise the suffers will still be us again.

Just imagine, I wanted to tip the Bangladeshi who served me with delight, yet he politely told me, he could work happily without the extra tips. He explained that the bill had already included with the service charges and it was his duty to serve. I was so touched with his friendly statement. How I wish our people could be the same.

Food for the thought - "In order to do what really matters to you, you have to, first of all, know what really matters to you" - Dr Ed Hallowell

Please Take Care of Me!

Is easy to fall in love. Is also easy for man to say 'I Love You' to his lady. However is not so easy for woman to fall in love. Ladies are sensitive lovers. They tend to be more mature than men. Before a sensible female picks her mate, she often observes, communicates and understands her partner first. A man confesses his intimate love to his new found lover. In return she asks, "Please Take Care of Me!"

Those few words sound simple and direct but if you are an immature man, you might take it very lightly without realising the real implication. It took me a long time to understand as well. Perhaps I was a lousy lover who had to learn the hard way. Let me share a little with the wisdom of love here.

"Please Take Care of Me!" is meant to be very serious when spoken by a female. She has to be in love intimately before she could utter to her man. She is telling her mate that she loves him and expects him to care for her from now onwards. She expects him to take care of her personal interest. Protect her whenever is necessary. Guide and lead her to the right path of life. Fulfill her dreams and goals by constantly providing motivation and advices. When she is down or upset, tickle her with fun and laughter. Offer her financial support if needed. Care and heal her when she is sick. Give her the sense of security when she is with you. Let her feel proud with your intelligence. In physical and in soul she must be happy with her man.

Gentleman, if you are not sure, please don't simply say "I love you" to any lady. Because if she turns around to say "Please Take Care of Me!", you might find it difficult to shoulder these unwanted burdens. However to my little darling I darn to say, "I will take care of you".

Food for the heart - "Everyone can be great, because everyone can serve" - Martin Luther King