Black & White.

Black & white are matching colours, if only you know when and how to use them.

See whether you like this true story here. Twenty years ago, I had a young secretary, named Sharon who was working for me in my old office. She is a mixture of Portuguese and Eurasian. Her complexion was dark with a Malay look. She was sexy, sociable and attractive. Among many admirers who were chasing for her, there were two crazy guys who were madly in love over her. The first gentleman was a medical doctor, a Punjabi who was tall, handsome and very fair in look. The second man was a sub contractor, a half Negro and half Indian, not so handsome, not only dark but black. To cut the story short...Sharon eventually married to the second candidate. She was more comfortable to the black one because she stood fairer with him. As her complexion was dark, the black contrasted and brought her beauty out as a lady. She felt more secure and an ease with the black husband. All attention would be on her when she was with this man. However when she was with the medical doctor who was fair, she seemed to be much more darker in feature. She did not look attractive and appealing. Attention was drawn more to the man than the lady. Although he was the eligible man in comparison, his colour defeated his approach to the woman.

Love could be blind sometimes, but the compatibility of skin colour matching between male and female applies too. Oh I am lucky! Though I am dark but my little darling is fair. I know wherever we go, she will draw a lot of admiration because the contrast of black and white could easily be seen and noticed. I am proud to be with her and equally she is happy with me around. Whether I am right or wrong, please take a bit of time to see this fact of life does apply or not.

Contrast in meaning - "His boots shone splendidly, in contrast to his intellect, which did not. — Joseph Wright Alsop (1910-1989).

Can money change a person's character?

Someone was asking this question? Can money change a person's character? I am sure it can. Many years ago, over our radio's talk show, they were debating on this topic. Many were claiming they won't as religion or upbringing were the main factors which hold their dignities and self control. Out came a young lady of early thirties who was frank to speak her mind. She believed most people were bullshitting, hypocrites and were not telling the truth. Although she was a religious, homely, responsible, caring and a kind hearted person, if someone out there was prepared to pay her a million dollar and wanted her to change her character from good to the worst...she would do it. Though she had been working very hard for many years as secretary, she had never seen this much of money before. She did not mind to change her total self character, personality or whatever ways she was instructed to do so, as long as she could have those cash in hand. It was easy for others to say they won't, because...the fact was, nobody was given cash to do it in the first place. If cash was there, everything was possible and this is true fact of life.

I have to agree with this brave lady who was telling the truth. Even myself had experienced such happening. KW is a childhood friend since the school days. After we had left school, all of us went our different ways to make our careers. Of all our school mates, KW did very well in his career and later ventured into business. He became rich, famous and was also awarded the Datukship twenty years ago. I had not got a chance to meet him until about eighteen years ago, when I accidentally saw him in a private club having lunch with some attractive ladies. Out of courtesy and respect, I went over his table to greet him. Though his age had caught up but he still looked the same as like a boy to me. I called him by his nick name from our schooling day, "Hi! KW how are you? Is great to see you here. Can you recognise me? I am Robert Foo from CRS school." Out of surprise he stared with an unfriendly glimpse, and said, "I am sorry...I don't know you, please leave us alone." I was taken aback with that statement. I was sure he knew who I was because I addressed him with our childhood name. Perhaps he might have felt offended when I did not call him by the first status name, Datuk. I could not imagine KW had changed from a humble simple friend when I first known him to now an arrogance and high headed person. The different was, last time he was poor but now he is rich and famous. Through some of our common friends, it was confirmed, our successful KW no longer like to associate with his old friends who knew too much about his past. Money has definitely changed his personality.

My belief - "Money can makes the world goes round. Too much money can also turn our senses down. Money isn't money if isn't utilized. Money spend can contribute to economical growth. More so, if it is spend to save a person's life. Too much money can be evil. Too little money can be sorrowful. Just have enough and would do"

Unhappy relationship!

Is sex important in a marriage or a relationship? I mean good active sex!!!

In my dealing with couples while selling life insurance, I observe things that most people don't see. You might see a couple happy from the outside but deep down inside them, there might be some hidden and unspoken personal problems. Not only couples are unhappy with the normal misunderstanding of facts of life like, my spouse is inconsiderate, impatience, not responsible, financial constraint, bad temper, not loving, possessive, not romantic and many more.... but whether good and effective sex is applied to satisfy each other.

John was a most number one ideal husband for Janet. He provides everything from top to bottom to the family, making sure the family is taken care. He loves Janet, romantic to a certain extent, responsible, caring and sincere. However Janet sexual needs is stronger than John, which makes him feel small in some ways. Janet still has many boyfriends outside and John has no control over her. This is a true story related by my little darling coz Janet is her good friend.

May is an attractive and intelligent girlfriend to Low. They have been in love for few years but Low is still trying to avoid the wedding bell. Low loves May in every way for she is a perfect girl who has the soft and tender care for him. Inside Low's heart is May whereas his mind is always seeking for other women who could offer him crazy and wild sex. May could look a sweet decent girl but her sex drive is extremely low. Both of them are my clients.

Is always easy to meet man and woman or ladies for gentlemen but is never easy to meet a couple who is genuinely compatiable and be truly in love. One could be a nice person but not a good sex maker or one is marvellous in sex but a horrible person in character. Some might say sex is not so important in a relationship, but I have seen women who are happy staying with men who are considered as good for nothing, except a fantastic sex lover.

So you want a good ideal partner in character or a sensational sex partner or you want both to be together? To identify an ideal character is possible, throught sighting and listening. Given time, one could judge the person behaviour and manner. However is not possible to verify and measure the sexual strength of a partner whom you have not touched yet. Life is a mystery; you thought you know, but when you finally know, you know you have picked the wrong know.

Food for the thought - "Secrecy is the element of all goodness; even virtue, even beauty is mysterious" - Thomas Carlyle

Even hawkers sell with love & passion.

In most part of South East Asia, food courts are a way of life to us. Our food is cheap, exotic, tasty and available every corner of most township. Come to our capital Kuala Lumpur, you would be amazed how our various types of food are served. Usually at most food courts or hawkers, they would be packed with customers especially during the lunch or dinner time. You can order your food from one or few food stores, sit any where you like, and they would send your dishes to the place you sit. The court could be crowded and busy but they have the skill and attention to identify each and every of their different customers. They might be just seeing you for a short moment when you order your food at their stands, they are still capable to remember your presence later. This is what I call...professionalism in their own way. Though they are only food hawkers, they are very focus, serious and know their business well. On top of it, their food and drinks have to be good before reaching your palate.

I have known one coffee shop, lady owner whom I patronize for many years, who knows my favorite drinks. If she sees me in the morning, before I could even reach her shop, my hot coffee is already served on the table for me. Or in the afternoon, without ordering, she brings over my expected tea. She knows what her customers like because she loves her business too well. Over at another Cafe Corner, Roy is the part owner who always smiles to his customers. He addresses us whenever we visit his place. We like going to Joy Restaurant who serves food with passion because Joy and her husband cook their food for the customers. They make us feel at home whenever we are at their shop.

All these food caters are doing well because they know what they are doing. Is a competitive business and to survive they have to be good in quality and services. Those who sell with love and passion will succeed and be remembered. What about our life insurance business? I strongly believe...unless those who are serious, committed, focus and love selling life insurance...you might not make it. Because life insurance deals with the understanding of lives, if you don't have the care and concern for your clients, most likely you would find it very tough to prolong and retain in our passionate business. If you happened to be one agent who doesn't know what I meant, please go out to the food courts and see how others conduct their successful business happily day after day. This is a true fact of life.

Food for the thought - "You are successful the moment you start moving toward a worthwhile goal" — Chuck Carlson

Gives a helping hand.

Are you an energy giver? I might be just an ordinary person, but I know our words and action could be inspiring to most people who are down. This morning, one of my niece who sent me a text message, saying she was lazy and might not be able to work because a friend had made her very upset and frustrated. She seek my advice as how to overcome her emotion. I replied her with this message..."Hi my dear. Is a beautiful morning. Don't you think so? Always try to think of the good side of life. If you think is wonderful...u will feel nice. Or if u prefer to look ugly...u will feel lousy. The choice is yours and simple as that! Successful people have a stronger positive mind than the unsuccessful one. I trained to be stronger and mightier. I believe u can, because you have the first name like mine, 'Foo'. Right?" This simple worded sms inspired and motivated her, she left for work willingly.

Later of the day, I spoke to another cousin, Tony whose wife was having her birthday. Tony is a car salesman, who sounded not so happy because his current sales were not so encouraging. When he asked how am I, I told him with a confident voice, "Yes! Very Good! I am on top of the world". He was taken aback with that statement. I explained to him, wherever we stood on this planet earth, we got to feel that we are actually standing on top of the world. I made him laugh which was good for him.

Not to long, another SYT, Irene called. She was unhappy with her boyfriend who tends to be very possessive. He almost tried to control her in every way, especially meeting another male clients in her business. I told her, why be bothered by one who is most unreasonable, when there is legion of lovable gentlemen around. I reminded her, she is beautiful, attractive and intelligence. These are her beauties when most men find them difficult to resist. Those sweet words melted her heart.

My belief - "Help others get ahead. You will always stand taller with someone else on your shoulders" - Bob Moawad

To buy or not to buy!

Though I am a salesman who approaches and sells to others most of the time, I also allow others to prospect and try their luck on me. I was invited by a friend to meet her upper liner who were both marketing a new Biodisc products. They claimed to be fully involved and are committed to this new marketing company. I openly allowed them to present their sales to me, insisting that I had only one hour for them. In my mind, I wanted to see how they sell and to learn something new if possible.

The two salesladies were presentable, in their mid forties and spoke well. They gave a very good explanation on the benefits of these Biodisc Products. Something I really had not heard off but sounded too good to be true. The products are helpful to personal health and could upkeep a better environment for the household needs. They talked more than one hour of the exceeded time when I had to give an excuse to leave. Leaving the sale as not concluded.

Later in my car, I was pondering over their sales presentation. I asked myself...had I been sold for the products? Yes, it was but I had two different thoughts in my mind when I was with them.

The angel of me said 'Yes', please buy because they are good ladies who needed the sales. Moreover the products are useful to you, and in the long run it benefits me more. However the devil of me claimed 'NO', don't buy...they are taking you for a ride. Don't take defeat or you would loose your pride. During the one hour with them, my mind was debating within myself. Perhaps I was at the 50 over 50% chances of buying but the two attractive salesladies were not aware of what I was thinking at that moment of thought. Should they had noticed my buying signals and body language, and knew how to subtly suppress my negative thinking, I believe the sales should have been successful. Now they had lost and I had won.

Conclusion; they were good speakers but not a salesperson. They talked more than they should be selling. They were too excited and over explained on the benefits. They had forgotten or perhaps they did not know how to conclude a sale. I was surprised, they did not even mention the prices on their products. Most sales are lost when one who do not know how to ask their prospects to buy. I hope these little points could be usefull to all sales people.

My belief - "A professional salesperson helps clients to buy".

Happy New Year 2009.

Wow!!! Is 2009 and today is the first day of the New Year. They said this year might be a gloomy year for the world...not for me. For a start, I feel younger today and I am glad to be turning 35 from 36, just one nite ago. Last nite when I met Johnny Woo, who greeted me with a warm handshake, "Uncle! A Happy New Year to you". Immediately I paused him with this reply,"Brother! I am not your uncle coz tomorrow I will be turning 35 from 36. You are 32 and tomorrow u will be 33. I am only two years apart from you. I am as young and naughty as u brother. Unless you are brave to feel excited".

Is true, no matter of what age or what year one is at, as long as the mind feel good and positive, things will work out wonderfully. I am looking forward enthusiastically for the next 365 days ahead. I believe optimism will attract goodness which ultimately triump over evil. My resolution for this new year...to be more playful with fun and to share and give more from the heart. For a start I have offered myself to one of my oversea reader, who is inviting me to share my wisdom to her people. She gives me value and I offer my heart sincerely.

By chance, I was given a playful and naughty picture which is posted on top here. You might think is crazy but it can make you laugh. Even when my little darling saw it, she said, "This is great darling....in time to come, we could have these as part of our fun exciting sexiting costume to arouse each other...what say you sweetheart? I told her, "Little darling....why wait...we start now....we start to be like teenages...when we can play play with each other".

My playfulness has just started and I feel terribly young in heart because the New Year is today. I wish all my readers can feel as sensational as us. I take this opportunity to wish everyone of you a 12 months of happiness, 52 weeks of fun, 365 days of success, 8760 hours of good health, 525600 minutes of good luck, 31536000 seconds of joy. Happy New Year!!!

Food for the thought - "I am optimistic and confident in all that I do. I affirm only the best for myself and others. I am the creator of my life and my world. I meet daily challenges gracefully and with complete confidence. I fill my mind with positive, nurturing, and healing thoughts." - Alice Potter