Monday, January 05, 2009

Unhappy relationship!


Is sex important in a marriage or a relationship? I mean good active sex!!!

In my dealing with couples while selling life insurance, I observe things that most people don't see. You might see a couple happy from the outside but deep down inside them, there might be some hidden and unspoken personal problems. Not only couples are unhappy with the normal misunderstanding of facts of life like, my spouse is inconsiderate, impatience, not responsible, financial constraint, bad temper, not loving, possessive, not romantic and many more.... but whether good and effective sex is applied to satisfy each other.

John was a most number one ideal husband for Janet. He provides everything from top to bottom to the family, making sure the family is taken care. He loves Janet, romantic to a certain extent, responsible, caring and sincere. However Janet sexual needs is stronger than John, which makes him feel small in some ways. Janet still has many boyfriends outside and John has no control over her. This is a true story related by my little darling coz Janet is her good friend.

May is an attractive and intelligent girlfriend to Low. They have been in love for few years but Low is still trying to avoid the wedding bell. Low loves May in every way for she is a perfect girl who has the soft and tender care for him. Inside Low's heart is May whereas his mind is always seeking for other women who could offer him crazy and wild sex. May could look a sweet decent girl but her sex drive is extremely low. Both of them are my clients.

Is always easy to meet man and woman or ladies for gentlemen but is never easy to meet a couple who is genuinely compatiable and be truly in love. One could be a nice person but not a good sex maker or one is marvellous in sex but a horrible person in character. Some might say sex is not so important in a relationship, but I have seen women who are happy staying with men who are considered as good for nothing, except a fantastic sex lover.

So you want a good ideal partner in character or a sensational sex partner or you want both to be together? To identify an ideal character is possible, throught sighting and listening. Given time, one could judge the person behaviour and manner. However is not possible to verify and measure the sexual strength of a partner whom you have not touched yet. Life is a mystery; you thought you know, but when you finally know, you know you have picked the wrong know.

Food for the thought - "Secrecy is the element of all goodness; even virtue, even beauty is mysterious" - Thomas Carlyle

4 comments:

LMc1381 said...

Wow - very interesting! I think sex is important in a relationship as you have to be sexually compatible along with mentally, physically, psychologically, philosophically, and religiously compatible. That does not mean that you need to have the exact same desires or beliefs, but you do need to compliment each other. If a sex addict is dating someone that is content with sex once a month, I don't see it working.

Robert Foo said...

Hi LMc1381...

The funny part on life is...love first and sex later or marriage first sex later. Love could be felt without touching and sex could be known only when we do it.

Your comment is most appreciated, especially for our Asian readers who tend to be shy and conservative in nature. Thank you my dear.

LMc1381 said...

I don't know what is normal for the rest of the world, but I think Americans have sex way too early in relationships. My friends and I follow the 6 date rule where need to go out on 6 dates before you have sex with someone. You sometimes are not in love, and you aren't married... so, sex is built into the foundation of the relationship. It is something to build upon and it is also something that could break you up. Does that make sense?

Robert Foo said...

Hi LMc1381,

Is so nice talking with you coz u are a very opened lady with intelligence.

Would be happy, if you could write all about your 6 date rules before sex...so that we can learn from you my dear. Thanks again.