Woman or life?

Another naughty friend sent over this cartoon to me. While I was laughing over it, these five rules came to my mind again...."Five Rules For Men To Follow For A Happy Life:
1. Get a woman who helps at home, cooks and clean up.
2. Get a woman, who can make you smile and laugh.
3. Get a woman who you can trust and who does not lie to you.
4. Get a woman who is good in bed and who likes to be with you.
5. It is very important that these four women do no know each other".

Might not be possible for all men. Recently a male friend, Mr A was having a severe uproar with his new wife Madam F. She seemed a soft little kitten prior to her marriage, but after her birth of a new born child, she was very possessive of the husband. As he is a frequent traveller, who is always exposed to the entertainment world, he has many girlfriends all over the world. Out of carelessness, when he was sleeping in the house, his sneaky wife saw all his romantic text messages and those sexy lady pictures stored in the hand phone. Without giving him a chance to explain, the furious wife took a pistol to aim at his face, confronting who those bitches were. The above cartoon depicts the exact situation of Mr A, his wife and girlfriend. He is caught sweating.. is the sensational girlfriend more important than his disturbed wife!!!

Mr A had made a big blunder because he did not follow the last rule 5, which stated,"It is very important that these four women do not know each other". Man being man, we are always the mischievous one, making life interesting and sometimes causing pain to our loved one.

The Chinese has a proverb.."A picture is better than a thousand words". Please take this topic as a joke but is also a true fact of life.

How Loveable Are U?

How Loveable Are You? This is going to be interesting.....
Take our quiz to know
by S.K. Smith

Are you giving off signs that you're open to love - or repelling it? Inherently, as human beings, we're all loveable. But the simple truth is, the way you feel about yourself has a lot to do with how you're perceived as a potential partner and your success in attracting (and keeping) an appropriate mate. Take our quick quiz and find out if you're really as ready for love (energetically) as you think you are!

1. In terms of relationships, I see myself as…

a.A catch. I don't really stress about love. I have a lot to offer and am excited to share myself. (10)
b.A wallflower. I'm always in the wedding party. It seems like I'll never find someone to care about me. (0)
c.Relationships can be tough for me, but I'm working on that and most of the time I think there is, ultimately, a match for me. (5)

2.Dating is…
a.Frustrating sometimes, but fun! (10)
b.A chore. I hate it. (2)
c.A frantic search for a life mate. (0)
d.Fantastic. I never want to settle down. (5)

3. My attitude about taking care of myself physically is…

a.Screw it. The right person will love me just as I am. (5)
b.It's everything. If I'm not attractive, how will I meet someone? (0)
c.It's important, but not everything. My aim is to do the best I can. (10)

4. The idea of spending my life alone makes me feel…
a.Desperate. Which is pretty much how I feel all the time. (0)
b.Nervous. I mean, I like my life, but I'd really like to be with someone. (10)
c.Nothing. Who cares? I'm fine on my own. (5)

5. True or false: I have a sense of humor about myself.
a.True. I try not to take myself too seriously most of the time. (10)
b.True. My life, after all, is a joke. (0)
c.False. I'm embarrassed about my shortcomings, but I'm working on not being so hard on myself. (5)
d.False. What's so funny? (0)

6. I believe I deserve happiness - and feel it in my heart.
a.Always. (10)
b.Sometimes. (5)
c.Never. (0)

7. True or false: I have a long checklist of qualities I expect in a partner.
a.True - absolutely. And why wouldn't I? (0)
b.True - sort of. I mean it's not long. But there are a few things I know I want. (10)
c.False - I'll take anyone. (0)
d.False - That stuff goes out the window when you fall in love. (5)

8. Sexually, I am…
a.Open but selective. (10)
b.Ready any time any place. (5)
c.Disinterested. (2)
d.I use it to get what I want. (0)

SCORING Keeping yourself down (0-24 Points)
The reason you're not succeeding in love is not that you're not loveable, it's that you don't feel good about yourself. As such, you won't attract a mate who feels good about you (or themselves!). As cliché as this sounds, no one can complete you, other than yourself! The good news is, provided you take the necessary steps to uncover some inner truths, you can change things, starting with the way you feel. It's time for some soul searching. Where do your self-doubts come from? What can you do to prove yourself wrong? It takes courage to break bad patterns, but you can do it. Only by working from the inside out, will you discover a new outcome.

Room for improvement (25-56 Points)

There's no doubt that you know your own worth… most of the time. What you may be doing however, if you're having trouble mating and relating, is erecting barriers without realizing it. If your checklist for love is too long (or non-existent!) you're setting yourself up for failure. Life is a reciprocal activity between you and the universe. You will only get what you give. And that goes for love, too. Work on giving as well as receiving, or receiving as well as giving - only you know which you tend to favor. Sometimes, we can confuse self-interest with being in tune with the world. Creating your own reality in love includes being open to someone else's.

Giving off love (57+ Points)

You're confident. You're self-sufficient. And yet you're open to letting someone in. Congratulations, you're giving off love - and lovability. Always remember that everyone has imperfections though, including you. A little "go with the flow" goes a long way!

Loves build determination.

Ah Fei has been selling life insurance for almost 8 years without much head way. Lately he worked quite closely with me, when I could understand him more. He is certainly a jovial guy, always full of cheers and humour. With his personality and intelligence, he should have done better but his mind isn't very focus on his job. He is already 35, still unmarried and rather playful in character. He is more interested to chase for sexy ladies, rather than looking for a decent woman to settle down. I noticed, the only motivation that could move him to work is through the external forces. He needs all the time, the incentives and promotions given by the company or sometimes by his agency manager. Without their inspiration and encouragement, he tends to be contented and reluctance to excel. I told him his problem...he hasn't the self determination from the inner force of himself.

The logical sense is, external motivation is useful and effective when one is young, example at early twenties or so. Those incentive of oversea trips, extra cash bonuses and recognitions are exciting for the younger agents. Not when one has gone passed the growing age of the twenties, especially when one is at the thirties and above. Ah Fei lacks self determination because he is still not married, when he needs not be responsible to any person. Should he be married and has a family, I believe he would think differently. Love is a miracle in life! The minute he has a loving wife and a small baby, they would definitely make him to realize that love creates responsibility for him. His family is the centre of energy and unity, which in turn stimulates his instinct to improve and to do well. This is termed as self determination from the within.

I am sorry Ah Fei, you don't have the self determination. You need more of those temporary incentives to spur you from time to time. If you consider me as your sifu, my advice is.. high time that you have to be serious in you personal life. Go out! Look for your ideal lady, one who is going to standby you, love you whole heartily, spur you to greater height, willing to build a home together with you....she is your inner inspirator when you don't need those outside forces anymore.

Food of the thought - "We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort." - Jesse Owens

My birthday.

The sweetest day of the year I believe is one's birthday. In my 27 years of selling life insurance, I have never forgotten all my friends' birthday. Prior to me selling insurance, I was a salesman selling Hallmark Cards which is the most prestigious card in the world. I learned the important of birthday's feeling and the expression in words to make it more meaningful. Today I send all my friends' birthday cards, specially designed and worded by me personally. Not only they received these unique cards, I would not fail to call them personally to wish them the birthday on the phone. For I always believe the five senses of life are important...they saw, smelled, tasted and touched my cards to feel nice, plus the hearing of my voice, completed the satisfaction of a birthday's wish.

Today, I was equally lucky because I had three attractive and intelligent lady friends, who insisted to celebrate my belated birthday in a '6 stars' hotel. They paid for a high tea's hour, when they pampered me with food, drinks and jokes. Though they missed my birthday last month, they still wanted to make me happy because I think all of them really love me. The moment when they sang the birthday's song with full joy and enthusiasm for me...I could also feel the sensation and happiness in soul and heart. I had made many people happy in my life and I was glad it was my turn now. As I was opening their birthday's present, I asked them whether it was a toy gift to remind me as a child. They said...the gift was better than a toy. Inside the packet, it wrote a letter...."Pick anyone of us, we are too happy to be your darling for the nite because all of us love you so much". Wow!!! What a gift! I was so touched and could not believe my eyes. Before I picked one of them, all three hugged and kissed me in advance first as a gesture of present to me. Later of the afternoon, I left with one of them who became my darling for the nite. Who? Sorry lah! You guys have to guess!!!

Before ending, I have to wish a birthday wish to one of my reader, Red Lavender who is also celebrating her birthday today. Specially for you my dear..."The beauty of a woman is seen through her heart where love resides...you have".

A guardian to my client's children.

Jeanette is a great mother who raised her three children well. Working only as a private tutor, she knew it won't be easy for her to send her deserving children for oversea studies. When they were much younger, she had reminded them that they had to study hard in the government schools, to qualify for the universities later. The children were equally intelligence to understand the mother's financial constraint. One of the elder child, Jonathan whom I had seen him grown since a baby, had just completed his senior secondary education. He did extremely well in his final examination and was awarded a Canadian scholarship to study in Canada too. I was so proud of him and felt so happy for the mother.

Tomorrow Jonathan would be flying off to Canada. Before leaving, his mum had requested me to speak to his son. She wanted me to have 'a man to man's talk' to the boy who is turning to be a man soon. I invited the smart son to meet me over at my club where we had a friendly chat. I no longer treated him like a little child for he is a full grown person now, as tall as six feet and two inches and very mature in look, tough he is only 18.

We talked about the past, of how time passed so rapidly and we shared moments of cheers and laughter. I told him, seventeen years ago when my sons left for oversea studies, I set three rules for them before they flew off. The rules were very simples. They could do anything they like when they were abroad, but they had to promise me that they had to fulfill these three rules. The three rules were; one - don't bring home a foreign wife. Two - don't bring home HIV. Three - bring home a university's degree. On hearing my rules, Jonathan was laughing. However things had changed. Today I think, myself and his mother would be more than happy, if Jonathan agreed to accept not three rules but to accept just the last two...don't bring home HIV but bring back his educational degrees. As expected, Jonathan being young but witty, understood my advices, he shook my hand and promised the two rules will be fulfilled.

On the way home, I felt the sensation in my heart...I had the privilege and honour to act as a guardian for being a caring life insurance agent to the family. I had played my role and responsibility with sincerity and I believe the young man will make it as well. Good luck son!!!

Food for the thought - "The most sensible people are not reluctant to consider the feelings of other people; and to know how to submit to the wise guidance of others is a kind of wisdom in itsel" — Magdeleine Sable (c. 1599-1678)

She is for him.

To achieve success is never an easy task in life. Not only hard work alone, a lot of scarifies, patience, luck, courage and wisdom are needed.

Mani and Suni is one couple I am currently watching. Mani is deeply involved in the local and on international projects. He is a risk taker who has the courage to borrow on high gearing to fund his various businesses. Most of the time he has to fly often to meet up with the political and corporate connection. With a very tight schedule, his local plant is currently managed by Suni, a full time housewife turns an administrator.

Few days ago, I was at her office having a casual chat with her. She was a bit worry because the bank account was running low. She had to be tough to manage a handful of rough workers in the plant. To make thing worst, her husband was also under pressure because of the present anxiety he is facing. The recent medical checkup on him, indicated that he has a slight raise blood pressure.

As a closed friend to them, I advised Suni that she has to be strong first. I reminded her this powerful phrase; "For every successful man, there is always an intelligent lady besides him". The intelligent woman, inspires, motivates, assuring, supportive and loving to her man at all times. All these action will help him to move as he falls. When he is down, she assures him that he is her hero. When he is sad, she hugs and kisses him like a baby. When he is stressful, destresses him with love and sex. I told Suni...that intelligent lady is no other than her...she has to be there for him now.

Specially for my friends Mani & Suni....A good pussy is one which allows the master to throw in all his anger, temper, frustration, tension and anxiety to her pit hole, when joy and contentment will be released again. As long as Mani is under control with the right frame of mind, he would have all his confidence to overrule all obstacles of life, including his present business ventures. I am sure, it is a matter of time success is there for them. Good luck Mani & Suni.

Sex... "Too little sex is boring. Too much sex could be taxing. No sex is frustrating. Have some sex, they will be destressing".

Hobby & passion.

Talking is my hobby and recently I found another one more...blogging. With passion from the heart I write everyday on things I saw and felt daily. Out of my blog, I created and drew some admiration from almost all part of our globe. There are more than 18o countries which had read my blog. Today I had a keen reader, namely Renuka who commented on my recent topic on passion.

She wrote; "reading your blog everyday is one of my hobby....:) but this story really draws my attention...when you do something, you must have passion in order to achieve success...its true. I was admitted in hospital few weeks ago. During my stay there, I have seen many nurses who are doing their duty just to earn money...but there was this young, kind-hearted, Malay nurse who was doing her job with full passion. All the patients will seek for her help including me. I learned about passion and patience from her".

Thank you Renuka. Your compliment and sharing do inspire me. I am sure I will continue to write though I was never a writer before. I love talking, selling is in my blood and certainly my recent interest on blogging helps me to improve my expression in words. You keep reading my blog as a hobby and I promise to keep writing on blog as hobby too. Both need the passion and patience to do it.

Food for the thought - "Beware the hobby that eats" — Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)