Grand mum can't make baby but grand dad can!

A little child was curious about growing and aging of lives. He asked his grand dad, "How come when we are old, some can still make babies when some can't?"

The grand dad was surprised and unsure of what he meant, asked, "What do you mean boy?"

The boy continued, "All grand mums can't make babies but many grand dads still can!"

Grand dad was shocked and amazed with his grand child curiosity about sex and lives. He had to offer a reasonable explanation and yet not so deep to confuse the little boy. Softly he whispered, "Well! All grand mums have no time to make baby because they spend a lot of time with God. Whereas most grand dads are still naughty and spend lesser time with God. They have more time to make babies outside of the home!"

Moral of the story is; sometimes in life we have to add joke and humour with wisdom to make it more interesting.

Older man still needs women

My statement is correct; "Man can't live without woman but woman can live without man."

The latest hot news in town, "retiree of 97, proposes to widow he hasn't met before." This man from Raub, Pahang who cannot hear very well and has lost almost all his teeth and hair, but he believes he still has the lovin' feeling. Retiree Yong Chai Keng feels that he can provide happiness to a 38-year-old widow he has never met before. In fact, Yong had proposed to at least two widows and another woman in the past four months, and all his proposals were turned down.

Most people were surprised and felt disgusted by the old man silly action and approaches. On the other hand, I considered him to be brave and honest to his needs. Imagine if Adam, the first man on earth could not live without woman, what makes all existing men at the moment can live without. Not many men are brave like Yong who darn to show his desire and interest. The world accepts the young but the old are treated differently. Old should retire and should not be naughty. Old should be quiet and should not have sex. Old should be holy and should not be admiring the opposite sex. How could the old be able to live on when he doesn't feel young. Most older foes are living in a hidden world with their silent sorrow. The fact is, whether how young or how old a man is, he still needs a woman around.

Yong would not have lived up this ripe age, if he had not got wives or female partners to fulfill his contentment. His look is strong and healthy. Many of his age would have been gone or having no desire to live. He is not afraid of what the world sees in him. He doesn't want to live in sorrow but rather pursuit his dreams and fancies. He has the knowledge and the wisdom of what are best for him to live on and not like the rest who just live with hypocrisy.

These are the facts of life unwritten and unspoken; "Looks like when a person is aging, his value also decreases. The fact is, it takes time to learn and only when you are old, perhaps you might gain some wisdom of life. But again, when you are there, your value is no longer needed."

Premenstrual Syndrome can damage loves

Love is sweet but sometimes it could be a misery when confronted with society problems, hidden and unknown. Let me relate one typical life story to reveal how frightening love could be.

Sharon and Ricky were intimate lovers for two and half years. He was a gentleman in nature and she was a loving lady too. The first year was a beautiful romantic year for both when they did what all lovers would do. Ricky would never miss one day to tell her, "Darling I love you." She would always be supported with a reply,"Dear I would love you for ever too." Their love was true, exciting and looked unbreakable.

However it was sad after the second years, when their love feeling went down turn. Both seemed to be quarrelling and arguing most of the time. She became not so romantic towards him. He was frustrated and sad to see her mood changed. Both just don't understand why this unpleasantness could happen to them. In fact deep down in their hearts, they still love each others. Moreover there was no third parties involved in this relationship to cause their differences.

The Sharon and Ricky's story could happen every where and to any couples. Most don't even know why they broke off. Perhaps they assumed that they are not compatible to each other.

Being selling for these many years, I had learned that life has many unnoticeable lives problems which many live without knowing or realising themselves. Let me explain here. Woman is created differently in term of physical and chemistry. Woman has to experience monthly menstrual when man is lucky enough not to have it. Many women could be suffering from a sickness called 'Premenstrual Syndrome' (PMS) without knowing themselves.

What is this stupid PMS then? PMS is a collection of physical, psychological and emotion systems that many women experience during the first or second week before a menstrual period. During this period there are cyclic changes in female sex hormones. Emotional symptoms could be experience with; fatigue, mood swings, irritability. depression, hostility, crying spells. difficulty concentrating, forgetfulness, increasing appetite and changes in libido (sex desire). All females from age 19 onwards could be suffering with PMS, either mild or hyper in level.

Sharon was a hyper sufferer of PMS, when she and her lover didn't realise it. She was getting tired and stressful most of the time. Her mood swing from time to time and became irritable. She was sad for no reason. She was unfriendly and lost her affection over her man. She could not concentrate even in her career and forgetful in her daily chores. She almost lost her desire to make love. All this while, Ricky was not aware she was suffering in PMS. He was thinking that she had lost interest in him. He confronted her with extra pressure and anger which led to more misunderstanding between the both. She was frustrated because he could not understand the poor girl. Both their hearts were broken hearted with pain. This trauma is caused by PMS and not the true feeling of the loving lady.

Sometimes I wonder why women have to go through this torture. Is it a punishment by GOD? For Eve was the one who ate the forbidden apple first. Or is it for men to understand women better? Life has many mysteries. I believe one has to pursuit knowledge and wisdom to understand life better. If only Ricky could have learned to understand that there is a sickness called PMS, he could be more understanding to his love. Instead of being angry and confronting her with pressure, he should be more caring and offer extra assurance to her. Love never fails.

I hope my above information could be useful to lovers, especially to the men. Understand her and love her. I would myself, if given another chance.

To those who are in love; "Game of love. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure. But when you fine a new love, you view the past as a teacher. Love will always find a way. Will always win."

Don't lose your wisdom?

A child was walking along the park with his mother. Accidentally he dripped, fell and had a minor cut on his leg. The mother was furious for a moment, shouted at him,"Why are you so careless?" The boy cried aloud when he realised he was also bleeding slightly. Immediately the mother tried to help by touching him but he cried even louder as thought the pain was unbearable.

There were many people around but not one bother to assist the mother and her child. At a distance, there was an older man who was aware what was happening. He took a bottle of drinking water and a first aid box from his car. Subsequently he approached the mother and said, "Can I help?" Both mother and son were astonished, when she replied with a smile, meaning yes. Holding one hand with the bottle of water and the other hand with the medicine, he politely spoke to the scary child, "Boy! are you alright. You should be brave. Your cut is a very minor one. Uncle here should be able to help you."

With just the few words spoken, the man could wash and clean the boy's wound and applied what was necessary. He was a total stranger and yet the boy accepted him without a cry. Not the mother. Don't you think it was strange?

The moral of this story; the mother had the knowledge but without the understanding of facts of life. Whereas that man also had knowledge but he understood the inner wisdom of life. Knowledge is good but without the wisdom of your inner self, one could create anger and frustration. The mother wanted to help her child but she started with anger and applying the wrongful words. On the other hand, the man assisted with blissfulness and concern. His words were more assuring and kind. This is another good example of "love never fails."

"Contentment and bliss go hand in hand. These qualities create great fascination for you among others."

Apply Love in our selling

Many fellow colleagues used to ask me, "Sir, how do you manage to sell life insurance for such a long period of time." Spontaneously I replied, "I don't sell insurance but I am preaching the religion of love."

Perhaps these young people might not understand that short simple reply. Let me offer a little wisdom to my words here. Basically life insurance is a product of love and the understanding of life itself. The journey of life is related to birth, living, suffering and death. During this living path, we face many obstacles to survive. Non of us can escape this journey. Either you could live with loves or to live with hatreds.

The word love sounds simple enough but is not that simple as we thought. Love has feeling and emotion. Love is beautiful if you know how to use it. Love is giving and sharing. Love has no jealousy. Love has no ill thought. Love always has affection to care and to concern. Love has forgiveness. Love has no greed. Love has no pride. Love can inspire and motivate. Love has the willing desire to move. Love has kindness and humbleness. Love has patience and tolerance. Love depicts peace rather than violence. Love has no envy and not boastful. Love isn't proud or rude. Love has no self seeking. Love will not easily angered. Love keeps no record of wrong. Love doesn't delight in evil but rather rejoices with the truth. Love always hope and always perseveres.

Love never fails. To prove my points, lets look at history to learn and to believe. Buddha was preaching 'simplicity and contentment', today three thousand years later, his great name is still known. Jesus was preaching 'love' two thousand five hundred years ago, today the world still remember him. Prophet Mohammad was preaching 'peace' one thousand four hundred years back, one third of the world today are his followers. Mahatma Ghani was preaching 'non violence'. With his humbleness India got their independence. Mother Theresa's kindness melts the heart of all. All of them were preaching LOVE and they are forever to be remembered.

I am not a scholar, neither am I an academician. I am just a simple person but with a warm sincere heart to preach my faith in love. I strongly believe, love would never fail, if I applied it on my course in selling Life Insurance.

How I wish if only our Life Insurance Industry could put more 'love' into our selling, rather than just trying to meet our target sales. Perhaps then, there would be more agents who could last a longer journey in their selling. "Love is forever and greed is temporary."

My belief,"It is good to earn money for his needs. It is the hunger for wealth that is bad."

Thank you Deen

Deen, thank you for your meaningful comments on my recent title, "Birthday is our sweetest day of the year." Yes! We are friends for already 17 years and this friendship is going to last until the end of The Universe. Not only by fate we met but it was almost a miracle. Just imagine the chances of knowing each other out of the billion people in this world. We really have to treasure this relationship.

I believe there must be a purpose for friends to know each other. However the sad things are, people don't seem to respect and to cherish friendship sincerely. Most people live with a mask to interact with each other. Their surfaces look nice but the hearts are insincere. The worst would be those who treat you like shit when you give them your heart. There are also those who take more than they should be giving. Any way the world has many types of people and not all could be living the same manner and style. As long as we use our mind and heart to treat our friends, sincerity and kindness would definitely be shown. Like you too.

A beautiful proverb for you; "Don't write your name on sand, waves will wash it away. Don't write your name in sky, wind may blow it away. Write your name in the hearts of people you come in touch with. That's where it will stay."

Hidden rules on fame and sex

In my experience of 40 years selling, I learned the unwritten and hidden rules, regarding human behaviour and characteristics of those who are successful and powerful.

For a successful man, most likely he loves women and sex. The strong sexual urge is linked to his personal drive. Meaning, the stronger his urge, his drive is even greater. Without his sexual desire, most likely he would not reach the peak in his success or power. In order to satisfy his sexual needs, he has to earn well to appease his one or more women. The stronger his desires, the more he does well in his personal success.

I think for woman could be a little different. Successful ladies love luxurious life styles. Diamonds would be their best friends for replacing man. Exclusive cars could be better than sex. They prefer to live by themselves rather than to be in love with man.

I can't imagine how our world has evolved since the creation of Adam & Eve, when woman was there to love and satisfy man. Today successful women could live without man. And successful men are getting more difficult to look for deserving women, who are willing to satisfy their unwritten and hidden needs and fancies.

There is a French proverb: "To live happy, live hidden. Where can Brigitte Bardot hide?"

This is not-so-happy thought by Brigitte Bardot.