Did I Marry The Right Person?

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?"

I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love... Because it's happening TO YOU .

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Think about the imagery of that __ expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship . Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown . People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or a spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you.

You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the __expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.The right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, just as certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can "make" love .

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always :

"GOD determines who walks into ur life. It is up to u to decide who u let to walk away, who u let to stay, and who u refuse to let go."

P.S... I hope this article could help some of my clients who are facing their marriage problems at the moment.

Most important part of the body

A wonderful story worth sharing......

My mother used to ask me what is the most important part of the body is.

Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct Answer. When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, 'My ears, Mommy.'

She said, 'No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon.'

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer.

So this time I told her, 'Mommy, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes.' She looked at me and told me, 'You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind.'

Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge and over the years, Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, 'No. But you are getting smarter every year, my child.'

Then one year, my grandfather died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry.

My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final good-bye to my Grandfather. She asked me, 'Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?' I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me.

She saw the confusion on my face and told me, 'This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in your life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you were wrong and I have given you an example why. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson.'

She looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears. She said, 'My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder.' I asked, 'Is it because it holds up my head?'

She replied, 'No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear. I only hope that you have enough love and friends that you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it.'

Then and there I knew the most important body part is not a selfish one. It is made for others and not for yourself. It is sympathetic to the pain of others.

"People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will NEVER forget how you made them feel."

To sell without selling

Selling tips...

The highest art of selling is to "sell without selling." One of my most obedient associate who has taken my advices and coaching, had succeeded in not closing cases but rather clients and prospects requesting her to sign up cases with them. Reason; they just love to deal business with her.

Most life insurance agents would sell their products upon meeting their prospects. They are too eager to close cases on their first attempt. They play by the number games, the more people they meet, the better the chances for them. True! This is one common method all salesperson are taught.

My special lady agent whom i trained works differently. On her first visit to all her prospects or clients, she would not utter a word of selling or even talk about her products or services. She had learned to be patience, she had mastered the skill of listening and understanding her prospective customers, she had developed the talent to study the faces of all she met, she had the senses to know the type of mood and temperament of her listeners, she sees through the eyes of the person in front and deter their inner heart and mind, and most important ... she is a willing giver without condition set.

The above qualities of this special sales agent, make all her clients very comfortable with her. They trust her, they like her, they feel great for her and they just want to do business with her without she asking for them. This is what i called...sell without selling..the finest art of selling.

Congratulation my dear! I am glad you follow my advices and i hope all my fellow colleagues would do so and not the normal way of forceful and hard selling practise most of the time.

Napoleon Hill: Quotes on Selling
"The strongest oak tree of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It's the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun."

Chinese Calligraphy

I sent some beautiful Chinese Calligraphy and Art to some of my good friends. Of all, Captain Azhar wrote me a short note.

He said...."When I was in primary school, I was taught Art & craft ( as a subject). In those days, as young boy, I wondered why was it so important to learn Art & Craft. After 50 years, I only realised that the subject is very important, especially to men. In order to go to China for reason of appreciating the "Art", the men (generally husbands) have to be "crafty" in formulating all sorts of reasons in order to deceipt their wives of their trips to China. Hence, the subject "Art & Craft" is very poignant, especially for men who regularly visit China in order to savour the fine arts of that great nation."

Yes! Is true Captain. I think you must be visiting China most of the time now. To be crafty follow his words ... "Imagination is more important than knowledge" - Albert Einstein, Scientist

Is love an emotion or good sense?

The same naughty pussy sent an early morning message, "Blessed morning my sweet sweet dear... People think love is an emotion. Love is a good sense. What do you think?"

This pussy always like catching me in my sleep. Well! Love is my favorite four letter words. Love has emotion of good senses or love has positive emotion. Is like when i say "I Love You" to my sweetheart, i will certainly have a feeling of good sense towards her. And when i say i love my career in selling life insurance, i must have a strong emotion to provide a good sense of services to all my clients.

Not satisfied with my thought, i posted this message "People think love is an emotion. Love is a good sense. What do you think my friends?" on the Gmail Buzz column. There were two followers who like this question posted.

A good friend Dato Merican commented, "Love cannot be defined in just one word. It a feeling-related experience. Where there is feeling there is a degree of emotion. Love can also hurt and the same time time bring joy and happiness. Why? because it goes to the core of your feelings and sensations. Love also creates jealousy. Why? because it nurtures attachment. I can go on expanding on love........so it cannot be defined in just a word."

My dear pussy there, i hope you are satisfied with these replies. Specially for you.. "One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." - Sophocles

A sweetheart is a bottle of wine.

A pussy asks..they said girlfriend is a bottle of wine and the wife is a wine bottle. Would i agree? I have to scratch my head to get the answer.

Thinking of wine i have to think of women. What makes a wine instill romance? Some wines are sensuous, and can help lubricate the path to passion. They don’t necessarily need to be expensive, or sparkling, or have a nude Marilyn Monroe photograph to be sexy wines. There is a selection of romantic wines that'll put you and your partner in the mood for love any time of year. If you need more ammunition, serve some sexy foods, dim the lights and put on a sexy movie as well.

Yes! Girlfriend is a bottle of wine which instills romance and love. Your girl and wine, both create a life of sophistication and elegance. Sad to say the wife is a wine bottle, when all the wine is taken, leaving only an empty bottle to show. The wife has forgotten the excitement of the yesteryear when she was romantic and loving.

My personal view: whether you are a girl, lady or a wife never allows the bottle to be emptied with the exotic sweet sexy wine you have. Refill and add on, for good wine is always available. Don't be just a wife, be a sweetheart as well. Charles Baudelaire quoted - "A sweetheart is a bottle of wine, a wife is a wine bottle."

Best $6000 you'll ever spend.

Best $6000 You'll Ever Spend

These are pictures of a Swedish doll made of silicone.

The texture of the skin is similar to 99.8% OF THE HUMAN SKIN. It will last two years if used constantly and consistently every day....

Completely adjustable to any position you want.

100 sensors spread around the body. There are 30 sensors on the private parts.
Each sensor makes her move in a specific way, up to 20 positions..

On penetration she emits a light gentle sound that echoes gently in your ears. Comes with inbuilt sound in the throat and recognizes up to 16 commands that are extremely personal up
to two meters away from her ears.

When there is any type of pulsation sensed in her private parts she emits light moans of stimulation.

Above all that she gets wet with a slight touch over any of the sensors..

Most important she has a voice password which should be protected from disclosure.

Principal characteristics: She has three entries (vaginal , anal, and oral)

She can move her head in any direction you choose..


Completely customizable to your liking so you can choose the following:
SIZE
HEIGHT
SKIN COLOR
EYES COLOR
HAIR COLOR
PUBIC HAIR COLOR OR COMPLETELY SHAVEN.

NUMEROUS ADVANTAGES AND FEW DISADVANTAGES.

ADVANTAGES..
She does not speak
She does not get fat
She never has periods
She does not pass gas
She never goes shopping
She does not get pregnant
She does not have a mother
She never ever gets headaches
She does not go to the hairdresser
She does not watch soaps or Oprah
She does not care what we watch on TV
She does not frequent internet chat rooms
She will never get elderly human physical attributes
She will not get jealous if you bring home another woman
She will not nag if you go out and she won't care when you return.

My Personal view: I still prefer my little darling, a real woman and not a silicone one.

My two best friends.

Would like to introduce two of my best friends to all of you. On the right, i have known him for twelve interesting years. The one on the left has been my buddy for almost 39 years, he has learned to follow all my character and behaviour. Though they are naughty and mischievous at times, both have good heart for everyone. One is my son and the other is my grandson, and i am so proud of them for following my footstep in life.

My belief - "A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty".

How to live younger?

Few days ago i was introduced to a most admirable gentleman, my son had been talking about ever since arriving in Shanghai. A successful man almost similar to my character and personality that i eagerly wanting to meet. His name is CY and is well known in most part of China. A self made man who started life from the hard way. Before i came to Shanghai i was told CY is older than me by four years, but his physical and heart's age is much much younger than me.

Over a lunch we met and upon seeing and shaking his hand, i was so impressed by his real self. His face shows the strength and wealth in him. His personality is magnificent and dynamic. He spoke with wisdom, and i could feel his humbleness. According to CY, he always feel young and behave and act young all the time. I seek to learn from this great master and mentor. The secret of his success is never to think of retiring, always look to the brighter side of life, have a good heart, go to the gym four times or more a week, avoid meeting those old foes who have no challenges in life, mix only with younger people who are sincere and aggressive, never stop having sex and be brave to fall for younger ladies who are intelligence and beautiful.

Wow! Fantastic! I thought i was wrong in the way i live but brother CY had given me the endorsement and confirmation that life is actually an interesting path of living. Be daring and be happy. Thank you CY for accepting me as a good friend and a brother as well. I will never fail you and see you again.

For my readers - "The secret of staying young is to live honestly, eat slowly, and lie about your age."

Women Are Very Difficult to Understand.

If you kiss her,You are not a gentleman. If you don't,You are not a man.

If you praise her, She thinks you are lying. If you don't,You are good for nothing.

If you agree to all her likes,You are a wimp. If you don't, You are not understanding.

If you visit her often, She thinks you are boring. If you don't, She accuses you of double-crossing.

Love Humor? Join our Group Funzug! If you are well dressed, She says you are a playboy. If you don't,You are a dull boy.

If you are jealous, She says it's bad. If you don't, She thinks you do not love her.

If you attempt a romance, She says you didn't respect her. If you don't, She thinks you do not like her.

If you are a minute late, She complains it's hard to wait. If she is late, She says that's a girl's way.

If you visit another man, You're not putting in "quality time". If she is visited by another woman,"oh it's natural, we are girls".

Love Humor? Join our Group Funzug! If you kiss her once in a while, She professes you are cold. If you kiss her often, She yells that you are taking advantage.

If you fail to help her in crossing the street, You lack ethics. If you do, She thinks it's just one of men's tactics for seduction.

If you stare at another woman, She accuses you of flirting. If she is stared by other men, She says that they are just admiring.

If you talk, She wants you to listen. If you listen, She wants you to talk.

In short: So simple, yet so complex. So weak, yet so powerfu. So confusing, yet so desirable. So damning, yet so wonderful... .....WOMEN!

For me: Yes! Women are difficult to understand but i still like them so much, especially my little darling. They make my life worth living.

Sex Therapy

Have a holiday laugh..

A couple went to a sex therapists office at ABC Hospital. The doctor asked, "What can I do for you"

The man said, "Will you watch us having sex, for your expert analysis?"

The doctor looked puzzled, but agreed. When the couple finished, the doctor said, "There's nothing wrong with the way you have intercourse" and charged them RM60.00.

This happened several weeks in a row. The couple would make an Appointment, have intercourse with no problems, pay the doctor and then leave.

Finally the doctor asked, "Just exactly what are you trying to find out?"

The man said, "We're not trying to find out anything. She's married and we can't go to her house - I'm married and we can't go to my house. Shangri-la Putrajaya charges RM250.00, Mandarin Oriental charges RM280.00, Le Meridian charges M230.00. We do it here for RM60.00 and I get that back from "Medical Claim".......!

Interesting quote - "I'm just like you. I enjoy the forbidden fruits in life, too" - Mike Tyson

The Shanghainese women.

Something i learned while moving around Shanghai. The Shanghainese girls have a different type of culture. They are not taught to cook and aren't be responsible to take care of the home. As little children, their mothers make sure all their daughters look beautiful and charming from the outside beauty. As girls they are trained to look for successful man who could provide financially and physically.

Though Shanghai has a population of 17 million, many are actually migrated from other parts of China. The typical Shanghai woman is the proudest female of all Chinese women because their men have to take care of them.

Quote you one true story i saw. An oversea Chinese friend got marry to one local beauty here. At courting stage, the girl was so pleasant with her boyfriend. She was thrifty, helpful, understanding, kind and romantic. Not now anymore! The husband has to contribute 70% of his monthly income to the wife and her parents. After work he has to come home immediately to take care of the household chores. He has to wash and cook, almost like a house maid of the first class. He has to serve the wife's meals right up to her bed, just like room services in a hotel. I wonder whether he has to bathe her as well. Perhaps he was too shy to reveal to us. On all outings, the man has to carry her handbags and shopping bags too. According to the man who agreed before married to his wife, she has no intention to have baby. Looks like she only wants the man and no baby for him.

With all these restrictions and demands, i thought the lady must be a very beautiful woman for the man to fall in love with. I dropped my eyes when i saw her! No she is not at all. I am puzzled and curious what have attracted the handsome and capable man to marry this woman. Is love blind or is The Shanghainese girl has special charm that all successful men could not resist. We have to guess!!!

You must read this book - "Don't judge a girl by her cover" (Gallagher Girls) - Ally Carter (Author)

Happy Chinese New Year & A Loving Valentine Day.

Today is the first day of the lunar year for the Chinese. Happy Chinese New Year. Ooop! I am sorry! Today is also a Valentine Day to everyone, especially to the boys & girls and to all lovers.

To the Chinese, today could be a difficult day to start with. Are you going to wish your love first for A Valentine wishes or to pay respect to the elders and parents for A Happy Chinese New Year? I am puzzled myself! Well a little advice to the younger people. Start the day with a big warm wishes to your parents for they are the most important people on earth. Without them, you are nothing here. Right? After that, don't forget your love because she is awaiting for your hug and kisses. Remember her flowers and gifts too. Better still, seals everything with a confession to her...tell her from your heart..."I Love You." These three words will melt the heart. Suggest to tell them to your parents as well.

As i moved around in Shanghai, everywhere was crowded. All shopping malls and stores were busy with last minute shopping and more shopping. I believe the most luckiest people here are the children. Children are darlings to all families in China because by law each couple is only allowed to have one child. I could see six adults of four elderly foes and a younger couple were taking care of one child in a family. They were the four grand parents from both husband and wife to share one precious child. The way they pampered these children was so affectionate and loving. I wish they are not spoiling the kids. Time has changed this great China of today. Though i am considered as an oversea Chinese, i feel excited to celebrate this eventful day of the Chinese New Year & Valentine Day with them.

I wish all my readers A Happy Chinese New Year & A Sexy and Loving Happy Valentine Day.

Chinese New Year Reunion Dinner in Shanghai.

The last i came to Shanghai was three years ago. Nothing much has changed, except surfing the net is much more difficult. To excess the international sites, i have to bypass various parties. Definitely i can't blog into my own blog directly without logging on to a proxy. Is slow and boring, comparing surfing at home. Now i appreciate more of what we could have back in Malaysia. However nothing is going to deter me from blogging!

The one thing i don't like here in Shanghai at this moment is the cold. Though is the tail end of winter, is still cold at freezing point. And i am always afraid of cold. The best place to hide myself is to tug into the electric blanket where heat is the strongest. In here i wonder, is cold a best place to make love or warm and hot a better place to get wilder. I think is warm because the last two early mornings, my little brother almost disappeared for he is so afraid of the cold as well. Not in KL where all my morning calls were awakened by him. If you do not know what i mean, then i think you are a nut!

Tonite is the eve of our Chinese New Year when all Chinese families will be having our reunion dinners. Be they afar or near, we have to come home in time to celebrate this meaningful dinner. I am equally anxious to looking forward to this dinner too. I am sure Fionna is a good cook who has the chance to show her cooking skill.

A little dear asked me this morning, what is the best advice for the children during the reunion dinner. My advice which i learned from the elders when i was a kid is...For a family to be rich and wealthy, let the woman of the house keeps his money, the chances is the man won't spend them all. If the man holds his cash, he might not be able to manage it well.

I think is true! In my selling of life insurance, i see three types of family who manage their finance. The first type is.. what the man has, it belongs to him and hers. The second type...what is his is his and what is hers is hers. And the third type.. what is his is hers and what is hers remains to be hers at all times. For your information, the first type is the one who is wealthy and successful. The second type is the one who is the poorest and the third leads to an unhappy family because the man is never a happy person.

The Chinese Proverb - "Unsullied poverty is always happy, while impure wealth brings with it many sorrows."

I love Arianne.

Is so cold here! Yes! I am not in Malaysia currently. Just arrived in Shanghai where i am going to celebrate the coming Chinese New Year with my son and family. The first important thing i have to do is to hug and kiss my last grand daughter whom i have not seen yet. She is only a year old, born in China, cute, adorable and so loving. I have to be grateful to her mum, Fionna who gave this baby to our family. I have three sons and six grand children, and only two are girls. And Arianne Foo is the last in line. See to believe from the above photo taken at her home this morning.

There is an Irish Saying - "A son is a son till he takes him a wife, a daughter is a daughter all of her life." To my most understanding daughter in law Fionna.. Thank You so much for bringing Arianne to us . She is definitely a joy and a darling to everyone.

Are you a generous spender?

Are you a good generous diner who always willing to feed the bills for your friends? Not all i believe! Some pretend to pay without taking the wallet out, whom i consider as the hypocrites. The worst one just expect you to pay the entire bill without even saying the thank you. There are those who are willing to pay for a purpose in return. The top graded are those generous diners who always love to pay without motive, except to make their friends happy. I was taught young in life, to spend willingly for all your friends whenever i have an opportunity to dine with them. I feel it's an honour and a pleasure to pay as long as i live. Unless one could feel the inner happiness of paying for others, you would not be a willing payor.

I had an opportunity to be invited by a good friend Devaraj yesterday for a lunch. Before we start ordering our food, i told Dev to allow me to pay the bill later. He said, "if the food isn't good, i pay but if the food is tasty you pay." I like this statement. Though the food wasn't very good, i lied to say that the food was marvellous. He allowed me to pay the bill with honour.

One final tip to all men. Never allow ladies to pay our bills because women are created to be pampered by man. "If women did not exist, all the money in the world would have no meaning."

Making a living and making a life.

Little pussy asked what's the difference between making a living and making a life. That's an interesting question?

Answer! When my family was a young one, i had to awake very early in the morning, worked until late night without seeing the children because they were already asleep, never had a chance to have meals with them and almost worked seven days a week. I called that making a living and i missed all the fun seeing the children grew. Should i had balanced my life, and learned to live a more meaningful life when the children were all growing up, i would have been more happier today. One might make a lot of money and yet not happy by making a living. Whereas making a life is to gather happiness while living. I pick the second choice.

There is a saying, "You should not go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back."

In case some may not understand the above phrase. The catcher's mitt is a baseball glove. Basically it means, don't keep everything of good to yourself. Share them with everyone while in making a life for yourself.

How to get along well with daughter in law!

Yes! It's not easy for parents in law to get along with daughters in law or vice verses. A good friend Kevin who works in Zen Japanese Restaurant is worried over her mum. She is currently staying with the elder son in JB, when the daughter in law could not get along with the old lady. The son is stuck in the in between, not knowing who to take side. The mother is extremely sad because as a widow, she brought up her two sons single handed. Expecting love and care, she has to face all the frustration and miseries instead. Kevin who is still single is wondering whether to bring his mum back here to stay with him. I told Kevin that he should. Also advising him to get marry to a future wife who should be loving and caring to the elders and the young as well. Otherwise he might land himself to the same situation like his elder brother.

I consider myself to be a lucky father in law because all my daughters in law love and adore me so much. Reason, I know how to tickle and melt their hearts. Let me show you how i wrote a recent mail recently and had fun with one of my most witty and humorous daughter in law.

"Hi my dear,

Uncle Ah Tee, Uncle Ah Lei and Caldwin helped to assist in shifting a lot of your house belongings over to my home at the moment. Currently Baldwin's white Buddha is kept upstairs for my safe-keeping. Buddha wants to know whether he should follow me or with your husband. We over turned your whole house but regret to inform, we could not find any hidden treasure. Everyone was expecting some gold bars hidden. There were many unused condoms under your bed. Wonder what we should do with them!!! There was one heavy stuff which needed to be carried by four strong men. Alamah! Is only an old TV lah..your mum gave away my new TV to Uncle Ah Far, and replaced to keep yours at our place instead. She said yours has more sentimental value because all the little brothers would be happy to see it again when they next visit us here. See! She loves your children more than me...so sad.

By the way, i thought of seeing and disturbing your beautiful God's mother, Mable tomorrow. May i have her lucky telephone or mobile number? She is one intelligent lady i love to meet and chat with. I hope she won't fall for me. Otherwise her husband would be looking for me, and you would also be in shit trouble. But u need not worry coz my true love always remain with my most beautiful and faithful little darling.

This late noon after we had moved most of the things from your house, i took the four of them for a quick lunch. During the lunch chat, we were talking about Caldwin who has all the bad habits and behaviour of me but no good points of the father. So sorry of him! Do you know why? The reason...Baldwin, your darling husband took all the good out of me and left the bad for Caldwin when he was born later. To solve this matter, the solution is...please transfer half the good qualities of your husband to his younger brother and Caldwin gives half of his naughtiness to his brother. Then both my sons should be normal. The fact of life is...everyone needs to understand the bad & good parts of life. How my dear???

Thank you for listening and i hope you can understand."

Dad..

Chee Ying's reply:

"Dearest dad,

We truly appreciate and thank all of you for helping us move all our junks into your home. Words cannot describe nor express our gratitude and we hope that the only way we can repay you will be never to fail you. We also hope that in a little way, our junks can remind you of how noisy and naughty our boys were and all the good times we had in our little house. We hope in time we will be able to clear all the junk as I know what a big mess we have done to your home. Thank you and sorry for the mess dad. Please also thank our uncles for helping out. Oh, we already took our 3 precious treasures along, that's why you can't find any.

I am not sure whether Mabel is still on leave today. Perhaps you can call her office at 79573838 or her mobile 012 283838. Haha..she might faint with your sweet talk.

As for Caldwin, Baldwin took all the good from you but Alvin took the best from you!! But I think since there are so much good in you, there should be some leftovers for Caldwin. Be patient with him and you will see the good in him. Haha.

Take care dad and we hope to see all of you soon. Thanks once again.

Regards, Chee Ying

PS...for the unused condom, you may use it if still in good condition but then hor, hmmm....."

What is a daughter in law to me!! "A Daughter in law is someone who marries my son and becomes my friend."

Accidents can happen at home.

The safest place could be the most dangerous place. I got a shock when i received news of one of my client who was admitted critically from a fall. It was quite late in the evening when Mike was taking a puff for a short break at the balcony outside his own office. Perhaps he was tired after a long working session, without control he went into a spell and accidentally fell over the balcony dropping all the way from the fourth floor. He survived with two bad broken legs and needed two major operations. Can't believe right!!!

Less than a year ago, one of his engineer who was still single slipped while inside his own bathroom which was wet at that time. He fell backward with severe head injury. Went into coma with two neurosurgeries done within a two weeks period. So sad! He did not survive.

A middle aged lady client slipped from her home staircase which was polished to tip top shinning. From the second floor, she slipped all the way down to the ground floor. She broke her right pelvis bone and several operations were done within a two years period. Her husband was deprived of making love with her. Another sad story.

Another young housewife broke her left leg while trying to chase away her cat which was eating their kitchen food. She accidentally stepped on her own sarong, without balance she fell heavily on the floor. She could not walk for almost half a year and the husband had to turn maid for the home.

I can continue with more domestic accidents i had seen so far in my career as a life insurance agent. But thanks God! All these accidents were adequately covered with proper medical insurance. Otherwise it would cause my friends a bomb to pay for the hospital charges. Please be careful, even when you are in the office or at home. Accidents can happen!!!

Food for thought - "You don't need to pray to God any more when there are storms in the sky, but you do have to be insured" - Bertolt Brecht (1898-1956) German writer.

Nudist Colony Rules.

Sunday humour and i bet you would laugh....

A man joined a very exclusive nudist colony. On his first day he took off his clothes and started to wander around the area. A gorgeous petite blonde walked by, and the man immediately got an erection.

The woman noticed his erection, came over to him and asked, 'did you call for me?'

The man replied, 'No, what do you mean?'

She said, 'You must be new here. Let me explain. It's a rule here that if you get an erection, it implies you called for me.'

Smiling, she led him to the side of the swimming pool, laid down on a towel, eagerly pulled him to her and happily let him have his way with her.

Later, the man continued to explore the colony's facilities. He entered the sauna and as he sat down, he farted. Within seconds a huge, hairy man lumbered out of the steam room toward him.

'Did you call for me? ' asked the hairy man.

'No, what do you mean?' replied the newcomer.

'You must be new.' answered the hairy man, 'It's a rule that if you fart, it implies that you called for me.' The huge man easily spun him around, put him over a bench and had his way with the newcomer.

The newcomer staggered back to the colony office where he was greeted by a smiling, naked receptionist, 'May I help you?' she asked.

'Here's my membership card. You can have the key back and you can keep the $500 membership fee.'

'But, Sir,' she replied, 'you've only been here a few hours. You haven't had a chance to see all our facilities.'

'Listen lady, I'm 68 years old. I only get an erection once a month, but I fart 15 times a day. I'm outta here.'

Quoting from Genesis, "They were nude but they were not ashamed." Furthermore, because God created it, "The human body can remain nude and uncovered and preserve its splendor and its beauty." - Pope John Paul II

The pretty lady & the monks

Once upon a time a big monk and a little monk were traveling together. They came to the bank of a river and found the bridge was damaged. They had to wade across the river. There was a pretty lady who was stuck at the damaged bridge and couldn't cross the river.

The big monk offered to carry her across the river on his back. The lady accepted. The little monk was shocked by the move of the big monk. 'How can big brother carry a lady when we are supposed to avoid all intimacy with females?' thought the little monk. But he kept quiet.. The big monk carried the lady across the river and the small monk followed unhappily. When they crossed the river, the big monk let the lady down and they parted ways with her. All along the way for several miles, the little monk was very unhappy with the act of the big monk.

He was making up all kinds of accusations about big monk in his head. This got him madder and madder. But he still kept quiet. And the big monk had no inclination to explain his situation.

Finally, at a rest point many hours later, the little monk could not stand it any further, he burst out angrily at the big monk. 'How can you claim yourself a devout monk, when you seize the first opportunity to touch a female, especially when she is very pretty? All your teachings to me make you a big hypocrite.

The big monk looked surprised and said, 'I had put down the pretty lady at the river bank many hours ago, how come you are still carrying her along?'

Moral of the story - (This very old Chinese Zen story reflects the thinking of many people today. We encounter many unpleasant things in our life, they irritate us and they make us angry. Sometimes, they cause us a lot of hurt, sometimes they cause us to be bitter or jealous. But like the little monk, we are not willing to let them go away.We keep on carrying the baggage of the 'pretty lady' with us. We let them keep on coming back to hurt us, make us angry, make us bitter and cause us a lot of agony.Why?

Simply because we are not willing to put down or let go of the baggage of the 'pretty lady'. We should let go of the pretty lady immediately after crossing the river. This will immediately remove all our agonies.There is no need to be further hurt by the unpleasant event after it is over.)

New dad of today

Master Lee is a Chinese physician who runs a clinical services. While walking into his place today, i saw him sweeping the floor himself. At the corner, i saw his teenage son taking an afternoon nap over the comfortable sofa.

Jokingly i told Lee, those days father would sleep and son had to sweep and clean the shop. Today son sleeps and the father has to sweep without complaint. Lee laughed and fully agreed to my statement. He added, you and me have been sweeping and cleaning for two generations. Meaning, when we were young, we had to serve our parents and today we have to please our children. Looks like it's not a fair deal!!!

Those days it was compulsory, children had to help their parents in every way. Children who didn't, would be considered as disobedient and disrespectful kids. We took turns to assist our household chores or if our fathers had business shops, we worked together without any instruction given. Today parents have to maintain their homes by themselves and not expecting their children to assist. As long as their children are behaving and are studying, they prefer not to disturb the kids. Those who could afford it, would even employ maids to take care of their young. I think this current generation, most children are being pampered to a certain extent. Yes! They are much cleverer and intelligence than our yesteryear, they definitely are not tougher and more independence than us. Would you agree?

Food for thought - “Where does discipline end? Where does cruelty begin? Somewhere between these, thousands of children inhabit a voiceless hell” - Francois Muriac quotes.

Inventor unveils $7,000 talking sex robot

Las Vegas, Nevada (CNN) -- To some men, she might seem like the perfect woman: She's a willowy 5 feet 7 and 120 pounds. She'll chat with you endlessly about your interests. And she'll have sex whenever you please -- as long as her battery doesn't run out.

Meet Roxxxy, who may be the world's most sophisticated talking female sex robot. For $7,000, she's all yours.

"She doesn't vacuum or cook, but she does almost everything else," said her inventor, Douglas Hines, who unveiled Roxxxy last month at the Adult Entertainment Expo in Las Vegas, Nevada.
Lifelike dolls, artificial sex organs and sex-chat phone lines have been keeping the lonely company for decades. But Roxxxy takes virtual companionship to a new level.

My personal view:
See! A robot female could replace the woman's world. Robot could never be the same as a life blooded sexy lady but what other choices have men got. Women of today is so independence, they almost can live without man. And personally i know it's not easy to appease most females when they have so much to ask from men. And not all men have the patience and tolerance to satisfy their attending women. Because of these many obstacles and life problems, the need of this sex robot is invented. Before they could start manufacturing, the order of sales are already taken in advance. It shows how bad men needed sex, even if is unnatural and artificial. However i still prefer my little darling who is real, lively and warm hearted. Wondering how women react now???

Brendan Behan's quote is related to the above subject - “The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money usually costs a lot less.”

Are you a sex addict?

We don't read this type of news everyday. It's interesting! Please read on...

AN average of 10 sex addicts sought treatment at the Raffles Hospital in Singapore each month, reported Sin Chew Daily.

A doctor also revealed to the newspaper that out of the 10 patients seeking treatment, two were women.

The daily also quoted an international survey showing that most sex addicts were likely to be married men who could not control their sexual desire.

It carried an interview with one Dr Munidasa Winslow who is a consultant psychiatrist at the Raffles Hospital.

According to her, some patients sought help because they could not stop masturbating.

My personal opinion.
Many people might not believe there are sex addicts out there. I do! There are four levels of sex drive in all human being. They are the low, middle low, middle high and the super high. If you have the experience in life, looking at another person face, you might be able to determine the level of sex drive in him or her. Is not bad or wrong if you are of the super high sex person, neither are you to be shameful if you happened to be the low key type. All of us are born differently.

I think those who have strong appetite on sex are usually the creative and intelligent people. They have extra energy and personal drive in them. They have the potential to make things happened. If they are taught and guided right, they normally end to be successful and famous.

I have a successful friend who built his wealth and fame all by himself. Though he was born poor, he was intelligence enough to complete his full education. With his creativeness and wittiness, he started a small business while he was still studying in the university. From a tiny little rented room where he conducted his business 35 years ago, today he owns industrial plants and factories. His endless energy and drive, turned him to be our local multi millionaire. I consider him to be a hypersexual person because he needs sex everyday since he was eighteen of age. According to him, without sex he would not be able to think and work for the day. The only time when he misses his session is when he falls sick. You might not believe too! He has four different women to play the role of lovers to this interesting man. Not only is he intelligence, he is smart because non of these four women know each other. Guess what? Our friend is already 55 and is still going strong. Is he a sex addict? Absolutely! You think you could follow him. Not easy! Unless you are a hypersexual type.

I like this quote spoken by Henry Louis Mencken - "Life without sex might be safer but it would be unbearably dull. It is the sex instinct which makes women seem beautiful, which they are once in a blue moon, and men seem wise and brave, which they never are at all. Throttle it, denaturalize it, take it away, and human existence would be reduced to the prosaic, laborious, boresome, imbecile level of life in an anthill."

Everyday is an exciting & a beautiful day.

It was a Sunday when one of my dear asked how was my day. I told her the day was exciting and i believe tomorrow on a Monday would be even more fun. She didn't sound too happy herself but was curious how my day became so interesting when she wasn't.

There are two types of people. One would be those who wait for action to come by. They expect others to bring happiness or to make things exciting for them. They prefer to receive rather than to give. Or they just do not know how to be interesting themselves. The second type are those who make things happen all the time. They approach and reach out to others, creating energy and enthusiasm along the way. They love to give and share willingly without condition.

I am the second type of people. Though it was a quiet Sunday at home, i contacted 12 friends on phone by sending funny messages and greeting to them. All my messages were beautifully written, creating values and humour to make the day a memorial one for all these special friends, whom i hadn't seen for quite sometime. Each contact gave me a sense of pride, knowing they were happy and also wanting to meet me sooner. Many different stories and latest news were related to me. If i didn't make the first move to reach up to them, I would not have been informed. The interaction and connecting caused the excitement. Otherwise nothing could have happened. The day ended very fulfilling for me and my friends. Yes! It was a beautiful Sunday and i made it happened. And i am sure tomorrow or the next would also be equally an exciting day. So! What about you? You want to wait or you prefer to create those excitement yourself.

Try this readers. It works - "Tell me and I forget. Show me and I remember. Involve me and I understand" - Chinese proverb

Imperfect makes perfect.

Yesterday I sent a beautiful birthday text message to Captain Azah by accident. It was written .. "Specially to this admirable friend.. Smile, its the key that fits the lock of everybody's heart.... Keep smiling coz today is your birthday. Happy birthday & have plenty of fun. Robert Foo."

Before i could resend to inform him my silly mistake, he was fast to respond me with his reply. He wrote, "Everyday is our birthday.. so smile. Take care and kind regards."

Immediately i wrote him another message, "I am sorry Captain. I love and like you so much and press the wrong key. But like you said Everyday is our birthday, including mine. Have fun."

He was kind to offer me another sweet reply, " No problem Brother. You brighten my day. Have a beautiful day."

How understanding was this wise friend of mine. He wasn't disturbed, not irritated and not offended in anyway. I continued to send him the final message..."If the world has more men like you around.. Peace could be assured. Coz my great friend could see the imperfect to be prefect. At all situation you see the brighter side of everything. I have to salute to your wisdom." Thank you Captain Azhar.

Food for thought - “We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly” - Sam Keen quotes.