I have forgotten my sweetheart name.....

Too good not to share.....

An elderly lady was invited to an old friends home for dinner one evening. She was impressed by the way her lady friend preceded every request to her husband with endearing terms such as: Honey, My Love, Darling, Sweetheart, etc. The couple had been married almost 70 years and, clearly, they were still very much in love.

While the husband was in the living room, her lady friend leaned over to her hostess to say, 'I think it's wonderful that, after all these years, you still call your husband all those loving names.'

The elderly lady hung her head, 'I have to tell you the truth,' she said, 'His name slipped my mind about 10 years ago, and I'm scared to death to ask the cranky old fart what his name is.' Me.. Oh My God! I have been calling all my lady friends as dear, honey, darling and sweetheart, and possibly I could have also forgotten their names.

How to win your boss heart?

Lately my youngest son got a new job, which he thought was going to be challenging and great. However after working for a month, he realised he is working with a very unreasonable manager. The boss is only a few years older than him, hot temper, arrogance and a lousy listener. Unhappy over him, my son is intending to look for another job again. 

My advices to my child.... 

An intelligent boss speaks with authority and demanding. He could be prideful, easily agitated, arrogance and might not listen when suggestion is offered. While a smarter boss speaks with calmness and is less demanding. Instead he motivates and inspires his staffs. He is humble, opened minded and is more tolerance.

What about an intelligent employee? Quite the same. With the same authority minded character, he might not listen to his boss. Sometime he might even challenge his own boss there, causing more conflict,  misunderstanding and argument. While a smarter employee would listen patiently and to understand his boss intention. His replies are normally positive and pleasant to hear. A smart worker won't challenge his immediate boss but rather be obedient and obliging to him. He would attempt all ways to touch the boss heart and build the confidence in his mind. 

Son! Your boss is an intelligent person. Are you smart to outwit him with your smartness and intelligence?

I'm sure you can because you are my son.

Food for thought - "A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them" - John C. Maxwell

Sore throat cures....

Robin was down with a high fever due to a bad sore throat. Though he was on medication, he still could not recover. Over the phone I could hear his uncomfortable voice, he was suffering for the past few days. I told him I have a remedy for sore throat, which was taught to me by my late mother when I was a little child.

I advised him to drink hot water. Yes! Boiling hot but sip it slowing as not to burn the tongue. Drink as much as possible until the late night. The hot water can clear the infected throat. He could be on medication, but without enough water in his system, the recovery could be slow. It works well for me since young. 

Robin took my suggestion. To drink eight glasses of water at one time is difficult but if you drink it hot, eight or more glasses is much easier. Yes! He drank more than eight that day. And the next day, he was back to normal when the fever and sore throat disappeared. See! The traditional remedy works too! Sometime I wonder why doctors don't suggest this remedy for simple sickness like a sore throat. If they do... They might be out of business in no time. 

Food for thought -  "Integrity without knowledge is weak and useless, and knowledge without integrity is dangerous and dreadful" - Samuel Johnson

A forgiving heart.....

A Corporate lady friend seek my advices. She claimed that she is always sleepy and tired, though she sleeps and rests a lot. And she is only in her early forties.

I told her... A happy heart always sees a beautiful world but when your heart isn't happy, everything is ugly in front of you. When a person has hatred, the heart won't be happy. When you are a hot temper person, you have fewer friends and the heart won't be happy. When you tend to be an arrogant person, most people might avoid you, and the heart won't be happy too. All these create negative emotion, make you more stressful and suck your energy without you even realising it. Yes the lady might not need to work very hard physically but the stressful mind took the heavy burden on her. She gets tired easily for not doing much on her work.

My advices... Set free your thought. Lower your expectation in everything you see. Hold no grudges on others. See the good side of life. Avoid all negative thoughts. Be forgiving and willing to give rather than to receive. Be humorous and laugh as much as you can. Smile even when you are angry. Have fun in your work. These behaviours could possibly add more love into your heart. And when your heart has love, your mind would definitely feel lighter. You will be more lively and I'm sure you will see a beautiful world in front of you. 

For this special lady - "To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover the prisoner was you" - Unknown

We wanted to try out sex and ended up pregnant...

Last night I was invited to a friend's wedding dinner. Not him getting marry but rather was his young son who is only 17. The father had no time to send to all his guests the official invitation cards. I was invited through the phone only two weeks ago, and the dinner was on a Monday evening. Normally all wedding dinners are conducted on weekends and the invitation cards are posted two or three months earlier. To have a weekend's wedding dinner, the hosts have to place the restaurant booking in advance. Normally couples would plan a year ahead, trying to get the best hotels or restaurants in town for such occasions. Is also a manner to let guests know of their marriages by posting the cards much earlier ahead. 

I was caught in such a short span of time and Monday was also a heavy day to attend function. But being that the host is my good friend, I had to accept his kind invitation for his nite. Out of curiosity I asked him why the rush! With hesitation he said... "Accident lah!" Without going further, I knew what was the real meaning behind. And I'm sure you too. Right? The bride and groom are both only seventeen. What a age to get marry. Believe me this is happening right in our country. Only few days back I read this story in our local news. Please feel free to read on.....

MALACCA: Sixteen-year-old teenage mum Salina (not her real name) who had sex with her neighbour wasn't even aware that she was pregnant after an intimate session at a secondary jungle in Kuala Pilah, Negri Sembilan, last year.

Salina said she and the boy had planned to go to a fast-food restaurant but ended up in the jungle “to try out sex”

& ldquo;I never knew that one could get pregnant on her first time, but I was wrong. Now, I am expecting a baby,” she said yesterday.

Salina said she regretted her action.

& ldquo;I admit that I was partly to be blamed,” she said.

& ldquo;My urge to try out sex made me coerce my friend into taking us somewhere secluded to do it.”

She said it was also the reason why she stopped her family from lodging a police report against the boy.

& ldquo;He has promised to marry me once I reach the right age,” she said, adding that her family too wanted her to keep the child.

Another teenager said she got pregnant “accidentally” after watching a pornographic video with a classmate.

& ldquo;We ended up copying the act,” she said.

The 17-year-old said she and her friend had gone to stall for a drink when the boy showed her the video clip.

& ldquo;Soon after, we left to a find a suitable place to do it,” she said.

& ldquo;We did it in an unusual place under a staircase of a flat.”

She quit school when she learned that she was pregnant. “I am now waiting for my friend to marry me once we are capable of managing a family.”

Pregnancy quote - "Before you were born I carried you under my heart. From the moment you arrived in this world until the moment I leave it, I will always carry you in my heart" - Mandy Harrison

Are you a giver???

Are you are a taker or a giver? A good way to identify yourself is... Over meals and drinks with friends, how often would you pay for the bills?

There are those who thought they are smart by avoiding paying. These are the ones who are selfish, cunning and often take advantage of others. They hide themselves when billing comes. They assume nothing has happened and they often enough expect friends to spend on them.

Next you have those who pretend to pay, yelling loudly, "I Pay! I Pay! Let me pay!" Only the voice could be heard but there is no action with his hand. You don't see him pulling out his wallet. A good actor but a lousy friend.

A Gunslinger is one who could pull his wallet faster than his friends. He pays faster without a second thought.   Some who aren't Gunslinger would quietly pay the bills while excusing himself to the wash room. An experienced entertainer might even in advance deposit some heavy cash with the cashier before the meals.

Ever since I was young, I have learned to pay for all meals and drinks with those who sat together with me. Pay willingly without any intention or purposes, pay joyfully and happily and most important pay without any pain from the heart. I believe by being a sincere giver, he would be blessed more.  

From The Bible ... "It is more blessed to give than to receive" -- Acts 20:35

"God loves a cheerful giver" -- 2 Corinthians 9:7 

Thank you teachers.

To get good employees to work in our country isn't easy. Many young graduates cannot speak well and cannot write efficiently. Their personal drive and confident level are low. Many of my clients' children who have high degrees or even carried a Master could not gain employment in the corporate world. A daughter with Honour in her studies was jobless for three years, had recently took up teaching. Many like her who became teacher out of no choices. They had never wanted to be a teacher in the first place. The simple reason is, teaching isn't a honourable profession to these young people. Plus low income, while the corporate world pays much higher with more benefits. 

Now I wonder.. would a teacher who isn't really interested in teaching be made a good teacher eventually! I always believe a good teacher will bring out good students. In our childhood days, all teachers were highly respected everywhere. They loved their profession and they gave the best to educate us. They taught us like we were their children. Their endless effort wasn't just the monetary gain but rather to see us to excel well in our later life. If it wasn't  my teachers who guided and assisted me, I won't have what I'm today. 

It's so sad to have lost those types of committed teacher, but I still hope and pray that we can bring them back here again. Perhaps it's time that our country has to do something for this teaching career. Give teachers more glory and pride, and pay them well. A progressive Nation is one which have good teachers to  teach good students. 

Food for thought - "Teachers should be the highest paid employees on earth" - Tbelle

My Forever Young Club............

I noticed all my school mates have aged, they have retired and seldom have the drive to move. They look serious all the time and I hardly saw them laughed. I remembered when we were young, we were all playful and we always made fun of each other. Whatever nonsenses and jokes we created, we didn't get offended but rather we were enjoying every moment of those time together. Today! Oh my God! The slightest jokes threw on them, they would easily get irritated and offended. I avoided talking unnecessary topics to avoid misunderstanding and quarrels. 

I think the main factor why most people aged, when they looked old and haggard is... They have forgotten the child like playfulness in them. All children are born innocent, they tend to be playful and naughty as a child. However as we grow to be an adult, we listen to the old folks... Their advices are, please behave and no naughtiness. By the time when they reached middle age, their character was strict and serious. Finally when they attained their sixties, they lost all the humour and laughter in them. 

What about me? I have the mind of the old but my heart is as young as a child. I could see the depth of life and still have the playfulness of a kid. Some might think I'm naughty but I think I still have not detached my childhood playfulness in me. The combination of old and young, make my present life even more interesting and fun. Am I getting old? No way! My life just started today. For those who wish to join my club, so called as "Forever Young", please feel free to subscribe. The charges are FfL ( Free for Life). 

My belief - "Growing old is mandatory growing up is optional."

Speak from the heart or to speak like an Actor!!!!

On my recent post, The Art of Talking, two ladies  forwarded their intelligent questions to me..

Katy said...

Dear Robert.

Saying something is quite easy, but saying it with heart is challenging. The former is just an actor. The latter is original, sincere, & from the heart. And people can see these through his eyes & his body language . No way to deceive for long. The real self unfolds even without him knowing it! I wonder which one is you Dear Robert, the former or the latter?

September 15, 2012 4:48 PM

Kavita said...

My dear Robert, 'its only words, words that I have, to take your heart away' remember this Bee Gees song. I believe word are truly powerful when said with heart, not just with your lips! If you can pretend very well, like the Casanovas of old, you can still make the kill but not for long! One day the lips will slip and the lies spilled for everyone to see.Your views please!

September 16, 2012 10:57 AM

I replied them in short.. I always speak from the heart but gradually I learn to speak better than Actors. Because Actors never speak from the heart. Speaking from the heart is always touching but one still needs to master the use of words to have better effect to touch another heart.

Today I add more for everyone.

If you can't speak with the heart, please learn to speak like an Actor. Though Actors don't really speak with their heart, their good performance on speaking and acting are still accepted when people pay to see them on shows. If you are not prepared to speak sincerely at heart, and also not prepared to learn to speak well like an Actor, then most likely you would have to apply the physical action part of yourself to prove your respect and value. Workers have to use their hands to survive, while the thinkers utilise their voice to move.

Food for thought - "To speak and to speak well are two things. A fool may talk, but a wise man speaks" ~ Ben Jonson

Loyalty versus High Performance.....

When I was much younger, I was always a high performer for my company. The drive was strong, the dream was there and the energy level was super. All these qualities spurred me to stay at the top. However as I grew much older, things changed a bit. I could not perform and compare myself with the younger blood of today, who are more dynamic and more aggressive than me. I can say, I'm not a high performer like those days, but luckily I could still stay on to the maintain the Million Dollars Round Table league. 

Yes! I might not be the current company's high achievers or high performers, but I have been loyal to the company. Through thick and thin, I have been working faithfully with my one company without distraction or having the slightest thought to resign. Meaning, serving and servicing 30 years for my company and my clients happily. I consider myself to be a loyal and faithful person.

Seeking my readers' views and opinions. Is loyalty or high performance important? You tell me please!!!

Difference between happy and happiness...

I hadn't met Mazuki for a year since last October. Over a recent coffee's chat, we shared our understanding and experiences of life. These two sweet words of 'Happy & Happiness' were discussed. Everyone wants to be happy and to have happiness. Are they the same? We think they are different in some nature.

Happy in adjective is only a feeling, showing pleasure of the mind. Whereas Happiness is in a pleasant and contented mental state of mind. So! What's the different.

We can be happy at every moment of time, but to gather happiness we need time to have it. Hitting a jackpot on a slot machine, will definitely make you happy instantly. Or when a girl you like agree to accept your first date, you would be too happiest man knowing she agreed. Finally when she consents to accept your proposal to marry her, happiness will be all round at heart. The upper is a short moment of being happy, the latter is happiness which takes a longer period to achieve. To have happiness, one needs to put out effort, determination, courage and desire.

Our belief... "Happiness is to make others happier. Happiness is to help others to succeed in life, because of us."

Woman's brain is different from man....

Sunday's Laugh....

Last night I was sitting in the living room, talking to my wife about life... 

In-between, we talked about the idea of living or dying. 

I told her : Darling never let me live in a vegetative state, totally dependent on machines and liquids from a bottle. If you see me in that state I want you to disconnect all the contraptions that are keeping me alive, I'd much rather die'. 

My wife got up from the sofa with this real look of admiration towards me.... and proceeded to disconnect the TV, the Cable, the Dish, the DVD, the Computer,the Cell Phone, the iPod, and the Xbox, and then went to the bar and threw away all my whisky, rum, gin, vodka & the beer and stout in the fridge...

I ALMOST DIED!!

Morals:

1. Think about what you wish for..

2. The female brain works on a different wavelength from the male's.....:)--

Teaching a child to be smart....

Hasnah is only twelve and she looks intelligent to me. I asked her do you want to be intelligent. Yes she said. Are you smart? Again she said Yes. Then tell me what is intelligence, explain as easy as you can! She stared at me without giving a proper answer. Since you think you are smart... What is smart to you? She was laughing cause she found it difficult to explain or to describe these two simple words. Everyone wants to be intelligent and smart, but not many could define them. They have to go one big round to explain, until they themselves got confused with these two interesting words.

Helping my good friend's daughter, I explained... Intelligence is the ability to learn or to seek for knowledge & smartness is the ability to apply what you have learned.

Just to make sure she understood the above I laid to her this example. Besides attending the normal government school, Hasnah is also learning the Quran, from a Guru who taught her the Islamic teaching for children. As intelligence she is, she could memorise the entire Holy Book, which most adult might find it difficult. Yes! She has the ability to learn, storing the religious knowledge to her young mind. This is intelligence. The Holy Book taught her to respect the elders, be obedient to the parents, pray five times a day, be kind, be honest, be willing to help the poor, be loving to your family, to work and study hard, and many many more good pointers. Now... Is she smart to apply what she has learned from the entire text and contents.

I told Hasnah, if she doesn't practise what she was taught, then she is only intelligent and not smart. Those who are intelligence and smart, are usually successful people. Intelligence alone might not achieve much, but if you have two of these qualities, then life is definitely interesting and attainable. Looking at her eyes, I knew she understood my teaching. 

What about you who are reading my post now?

The Art of Talking.....

Some friends were trying to learn from me the right way to speak. Yes! Talking or speaking is easy for everyone but to speak with effectiveness needs some skill. More so  to write and explain could be even more difficult. Anyway I would attempt my best to pen it here for my keen readers to learn a bit today.

Talking and speaking is a passion. If you could develop the right way to speak, your listeners would bound to like and understand you. The words you used are important and the tone of voice to say those words are equally important too.

Example: Seeing an old uncle, you address him as "Hi Uncle!" He might not feel so special with that addressing. For me, I prefer to greet him as "Hi wonderful Uncle!" The voice has to be clear and loud. Just by adding another one word of 'wonderful' at the front, could make him feel nice and pleasant.

Example: Wife calling her elderly husband, "Why are you so late old man?" For my little darling, she would definitely say like this to me.. "Sweet, why are you so late?" That word 'sweet' is romantic and loving to hear. And yet most people are reluctant to give.

Example: Wife reminding older husband... "You are already 65 my dear!" Whereas little darling would remind me.. "You are only reaching sexy 65 sweetheart." Plus voicing with a positive and higher tone. The upper could make the husband feel very old, while the latter make me feel so young and strong. 

I hope these three examples could change the way you speak. Otherwise see me in person and let me encharm you with my passion... Talking.

Food for thought - "Words have incredible power. They can make people's hearts soar, or they can make people's hearts sore"  --Dr. Mardy Grothe 

Work and yet not working!!!!

Today a lady friend sent me this message.. "Dear can I not work and still earn lots of money?

Funny way to ask such question but nevertheless I replied her with a big "YES!"

She responded, "How la... I'm lost... no energy... not focus & also lazy!!"

I always could think of a quick answer, "Simple my dear. Just get a hobby you love and your hobby will take care of you."

This was her expression, "Eeeeeeee Eeeeeeeee!!!"

My reply to her was, "Please read my post tomorrow and you would understand."

My dear.... Never take your job as work because working in the long run could be tiring, boring, unchallenged and you might give up quite easily.

Look for something you really like or perhaps something you love doing. The best is to pick a hobby you love. Hobby is an interest that would keep you occupy a life time. Whereas working on a job has a time frame, when you need to retire one day.

I have not been working for the past 30 years, ever since I took up the hobby of preaching life insurance. I love talking and insurance allows me to meet people. I don't just talk for the sake of talking, but rather to listen and to understand people that I meet and know. Part of this hobby is to be genuinely and sincerely try to make other people happy or to help people get what they want.

Give you one good example how I enjoyed my hobby today. On the phone with Azeesur this morning, he sounded not very happy. My senses could tell that his tune of voice was sad. Immediately I drove to his shop which took me one hour to reach there. He was surprised I came. The next one hour he was pouring his sorrow and frustration over his business. Though business is good but his few workers are unreliable. He is tired and frustrated with his work too. Azeesur is only 55, who is 10 years my junior and already out of steam. Treating him as a younger brother, I motivated him with stories which I had gathered and I inspired him with proverbs and quatotations which he hadn't heard before. He was excited with my stories and emotionally he felt great with my wisdom. Yes! He was working too long in his business alone, when nobody knows how to give him the extra energy. The skills and interest I developed on my hobby could really spur and pep him up again. Before I left, I could see his face was happier with full of confidence.

Ah! My dear forgotten to tell you. Very willingly he signed up another medical policy for his wife. See! My hobby could also take care of my financial needs as well. Was I working? No my dear! I was really having a lot of fun cause he was giving me so much of attention and respect. So! Have I answered your question?

Food of thought - “Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.” - Confucius.

Malaysia's oldest man, dies aged 117.

Want to know the formula to longevity! Read on please...

BESUT: Abdul Rahman Abu Bakar (pic) or Pak Man, believed to be Malaysia's oldest man, has died at an age of 117.
He died at Kampung Denger, Bukit Puteri on Sunday.

His wife, Saadiah Hamat, 71, and one of his sons, Mohamad Deraman, 56, were by his bedside when he passed away at 5.30pm.
During his lifetime, Abdul Rahman married eight times and had two sons and three daughters, 25 grandchildren, six great-grandchildren and four great great grandchildren.
Abdul Rahman, who was believed to be born in 1895 - although his date of birth was registered on July 20, 1907 in his identity card - was awarded the Terengganu senior citizen icon by the state Health Department a few years ago. An ex-carpenter, Pak Man once attributed his longevity to avoiding sweet, salty and milky food, cold drinks, and smoking, and eating local vegetable.
Abdul Rahman never suffered diabetes, high blood pressure, stroke and any heart ailment.
He read the Quran without the aid of glasses, moved about without the aid of a walking stick and performed prayers without any help.
Pak Man was buried at the Kampung Denger Muslim Cemetery after the Zohor prayers Monday. - Bernama.
...........................................................

I learned something from here. Immaterial of what age a man is, he needs to have a woman as companion, partner, lover or a wife. Otherwise it's so difficult to live alone, especially for us.. Man.

The longest person's name.....

Recently I signed up a case and my client's name is Sreenivasan  s/o Vinayagamoorthi. To me this was the first time I got a name this long with 28 alphabets to fill on my proposal form. It was too lengthy and the spacing wasn't enough. Jokingly I asked him whether it was difficult for him to remember his name when he first went to school. Yes was his answer and it took him a long time to memorise these 28 alphabets spelling,

Out of curiosity, I wanted to know what is the longest person's name on earth.

Answer:

Person's Name

The longest name to date is Adolph Blaine Charles David Earl Frederick Jack Gerald Hubert Irvin John Kenneth Lloyd Martin Nero Oliver Paul Quincy Randolph Sherman Thomas Uncas Victor William Xerxes Yancy Zeus Wolfeschlegelsteinhausenbergerdorft Senior 

The longest one-word name is of a young Hawaiian boy named Kananinoheaokuuhomeopuukaimanaalohilo. The name means "The Beautiful Aroma of My Home at Sparkling Diamond Hill is Carried to the Eyes of Heaven". In Hawaii, it is the custom to give children long, descriptive names. Don't worry though, they call him Joe, of all things, for short. 

So my friend's name isn't that long after all. Or alternatively he could be called in short as Vasan. For me my parents gave me a very short name. In school I spelled my name as Foo Ten Wah and later when I started to  socialize I gave myself a nick name as Robert. Later I was told the name as Robert is a very playful name. Whether is true or not! I have to leave it do my readers to judge. 

John F Kennedy said "Forgive your enemies, but never forget their names."  So! Names are always important in life.

Can your Soul be stolen?

I was looking forward to Brandon's school term holiday for two months recently. He is my eldest grand son studying in Singapore. He promised to stay with us for one week in my house for a short holiday. Believe me, out of the one week when he was with me, I hardly got the time to talk to him. He got up at 11am. Immediately after his late breakfast, he would be playing his latest computer games, very high tech, and could go on line with his others friends in Singapore. The whole day, he would be on it or surf his laptop until late into the night. He is really addicted to the IT world and I could not say a word to stop him from it. And now he had gone back home to Singapore. Yes! He was with us physically but his soul was not.

I related this story to a friend who is in his mid forties. He stared at me and said, you were lucky because he is only your grand son. Ever since my wife bought an ipad home, she has almost forgotten me. She is chasing all those Korean Movies through this little gadget. At breakfast she clicked on to it, inside the toilet she clicked again and later of the evening while we were having our dinner, she clicked to it so more. It seems the shows won't end, every chapter is getting more exciting and she couldn't resist not to continue. The worst part is, she has forgotten to even make love with me cause the ipad is even more important than anyone in her life now. Physically she is at home but the soul isn't.

Big problem isn't it???

How to feel rich???

Maram is my client, friend, teacher and also my Guru. This morning he sent through my email with this wonderful words, which I like to share.....

Maram, you are so right. I don't have the millions in my account and yet I could feel so rich in my heart. 

Because... I have not been working for the past 30 years, and yet my hobby could be able to sustain my finance. My hobby is selling life insurance.

Because.. I have many clients and today they are all my good friends.

Because.. Talking is my next hobby. I have endless friends who love listening to my stories.

Because... True friend is one who talks good behind you. I have many who even pray for me. I call this as respect.

Because.. Already 65 of age and yet still wanted by clients, friends, dears, honeys, darlings and one sweetheart. 

Because... Having a much older mine but a heart felt age of 34 today. Clear mind and a healthy physical.

Because.. I have three well behaved sons and five little brothers as grand children. They are all my friends too. We can talk anything under the sun.

Because... Qualifying The Million Dollars Round Table for 29 years is so fun and interesting to me. Even today I still enjoy achieving it.

Because... Being invited as unpaid speaker to share my experiences in life.

Because... The creditability to solve other's problems with no intention of any monetary gains.

Because... Ever ready to listen and to understand others.

Because... I do have a soft heart to give more willingly than to receive.

Because... I have a non commercial blog to write as much as possible. To share my experiences to the younger generation.

Because..  My belief, "The mind grows by taking in, but the heart grows by giving out." I choose to serve rather than to be served.

Yes Maram! Thanks once again. You really made me feel so rich.

Too Possessive in love is wrong...Part 2

I had written this title.. "Too Possessive in love is wrong" on 21 April 2011 before. I had many new readers who are captured by this interesting post constantly. Few asked for help. Perhaps I should have Part 2 today to talk a little more on this common problem facing most young lovers of today.

R said...

Hi Robert,

I dunno if it was accidental that i read this post now. My relation is in trouble and its bcoz of me. i was too much possessive on her. but gradually she made me realize that it was bad. i changed a bit. but whenever we get to spend less time, my possessive attitude comes out and because of that, i hurt her a lot.

i totally don't like this. i don't want to hurt her.

i want her to be happy always. so i am thinking of breaking up and letting her feel free.

is this decision of mine correct.

Suman said...

I have the same problem like "R".

but the only difference is that my lover left me because of my over possessiveness..she dont want to stay with me anymore. frankly speaking i am having lack of confidence. i can go any extent to rectify myself.but i dont want to loose her. in our last conversation she told me that until & unless she feels love for me, she will not come back again... she is my kohinoor diamond i dont want to loose her... please help me.

September 4, 2012 5:23 AM

RF said 

Hi Suman, Young lovers normally behave this way. It takes time before they learn. It's good that you should treat her like a friend first. Meanwhile both of you should give each other the freedom to mix freely with others. By experiencing and knowing more friends, you would understand yourself better. Just like you have to study many years in education before you could gain the degree. Right? So! Don't be disheartened. Go out, move on and see the world outside. If only you could smile again, would your sweetheart loves you again. Good luck to you. And thank you for reading my blog. 

Little darling read the comments. She revealed her feeling and said...

yes sweet....it takes lot of experiences in life to know what actual love is....i am not saying that i am good but i know i have been through, experienced and understand what true love is all about.... it takes too much of pain, anxiety, hate, sacrifice,  sharing & etc to know it....But i am glad that today I am stronger, I know what I want.....I am experiencing this beautiful of love, enjoying and tasting too good from you my love....thank you baby for coming into my love and sharing your wonderful, fun and exciting love journey with me.....I love you 10wahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh......

Suman.. Do you know why little darling loves me so much? Loving a person is to trust her and give the best of myself to make her feel good all the time. Let her have all the freedom. The more you control her, the more she feels being possessed and that's when she feels miserable and upset.  Remember, love doesn't delight in evil but rather it rejoices with the truth. It always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

You like to add on please.....!!!!

Tattoos are forever....

Tesh is only 17 currently. Next year when she celebrates her 18 birthday, she intends to put on a great tattoo  on herself. At the moment, her parents are against her wishes. However she felt that when she turns 18, she would have her right to decide things for herself. Tattoo is always her fantasy and nobody might be able to change her thought. Her mother is concerned and is wondering how to stop her little sweetheart from doing such an act. To the child is an art but for the mother is shit. I really can't make any recommendation to both mother and daughter but I have found something interesting for both these ladies to see. Please see the below.

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The Chinese has a proverb..."A picture is better than a thousand words." Now I have two pictures for them to laugh. 

Civic minded drivers in Singapore.....

Have you driven a car in Kuala Lumpur? Driving in our city is madness. Most motorists have no manner, rude, unfriendly, arrogance and we hardly obey the traffic laws. So shy to tell you, this include myself too because I'm also from here. See below how we park our cars....

This is Bangsar, a very prime township and yet there is double parking all round the areas. Car owners are not the least be bothered that their cars are blocking others.

This black tiny one isn't scared too. 

This double parking is so common, making traffic difficult to move most of the time. All of us have to bear this frustration, whether we like them or not!

Last two weeks during the holidays, I drove myself to Singapore, an island just five minutes away from our land. You know how they park their cars? See for yourself below....

They have special parking bays even for ladies. All their cars are by reverse parking, meaning ..  their back are always behind, allowing easy drive out when they return. I hardly could locate cars which were parked with their back facing the front. Only those from Malaysia, like me would do that. For sure there is no double  parking, no Singapore driver would obstruct unnecessary traffic because the penalties are very costly there.

Conclusion: Singaporeans are highly civil minded and that's why their Nation is so well disciplined, making their city the safest place to live. High time we have to improve too.