Purity, love & peace

"Where there is no love, there cannot be peace. Where there is no purity, there cannot be love."

This is a short proverb relating to life but it has so much meaning, which could be helpful to many who are at lost in their day to day living. It is most applicable to my fellow colleagues who many a time came personally to seek my assistance and advice. I would try my level best to write in words and let it open to the world to read.

The first sentence of the proverb could be understood as; you would be a disturbed person when you are not happy in life. When you are not a happy person, you would lack love in your self. Only person who has a loving heart could see the world beautifully. When the world you see is beautiful, you could manage your life well. The people you associate with, would like you because you are different in personality. Your family and your loved one would live in harmony with you. You should enjoy your work and success could be achieved. However, when you have no love and not happy at the same time, your mind would not live in peace or whatever you do could seem unpleasant to yourself and to others. The reason is, your mind is being disturbed.

The second sentence is, "Where there is no purity, there cannot be love." Purity of the mind comprises of many feelings. Do you have hatreds, anger, greed, jealousy, temptation, cheat, dishonesty or ill-thoughts in your mind? If you have all these negatives in your mind, you would never have purity in thinking. Once you have no purity, your heart would have no love.

Purity of mind is a blessing. Not all people would have it. Perhaps there are those who might have started with purity in lives but due to environment and circumstances, they would also be affected or losing their purity in thought. Especially due to working condition when one doesn't know how to manage time.

Let me relate one typical case. Miss A is a single parent who has two children and a mother to support. Her previous occupation was a full time secretary when she was happy, devoted, spiritual inclined, purity in thinking, calm and had plenty of love to offer. Couple of years back, she was recruited to the selling world. Currently she is representing two different companies selling two different products. When she first started these careers, she was doing well because she had some friends to support her sales. However without her realising, handling two different companies and selling two different products are no joke. At the beginning it was easy because she need not service her clients but today her client's expectation is much higher. There are new rules and regulation enforced by the authorities, when she has to spend time to learn. Within her companies and agencies, it is compulsory that she has to attend all meetings and trainings. She has to meet monthly and yearly targets. She has to spend time with her growing children, fetching them to schools and tuition plus extra curriculum. Community services on Sunday as well.

Today she is an exhausted lady who is not doing well in both companies she works. Her charming spirit no longer shows. She is desperate to close cases by using any means. She is an arrogance and hot temper person now. Without her realising, she has multiple personalities, depending on when and where she is. She can be an angel to the one who gives her the sales but she can also be a devil at times. It is terrible to see her change so drastically. She has lost her purity of mind and true love of the heart has diminished. When love is not with her, her mind is always being disturbed. The peace is not in her. What a sad story to relate!

Whether it is a true story or not, it is up to my readers to believe. Any way, this is true facts of life that we have to be aware. I repeat; "Where there is no love, there cannot be peace. Where there is no purity, there cannot be love."

Birds have true love in them

I am fascinated by birds of their matching love. In any art or painting depicting birds, they are always painted by a pair. They would be flying together with love and faithfulness which man could not understand. Although man being smarter, they lack true love against birds.

If is true that God created the world with all kind of animals, birds, insects, man and others; why are we as smarter, yet could not be purer than birds. I could only self answer myself, as Adam and Eve both ate the forbidden apple, when the birds did not. Both them were throw out of Eden of Paradise but not the obedience birds. I think, birds are still staying in Paradise where innocent and emotion do not exist in them. They lead a care free lives without sin unlike human being.

As man, I had encountered endless love stories, with man and woman declaring their love between themselves. The woman could write to her lover, "I am more than willing to hold your hand in hard times, calm you in distress times. Offer my love and help you even when your pride may keep you from asking for it....muurscch!" It could sound affirmative with sweetness but from my experiences, emotion and circumstances could change the original intention of these love words later.

Imagine if I were a male bird, when I declared my love to my female,"Darling, I would love you for the better or for the worst, until end of the Universe!"...birds would honour every single word they said till death. Nothing could separate them. No emotion or under any circumstances could affect their true love. They are faithful by instinct and are very attached to each other. This is love of birds. How I wish, if only man could live like birds, then our world would have love and peace all round.

"Where there is no love, there cannot be peace. Where there is no purity, there cannot be love."

Tongue can excite

Mobile phone is a must in our day to day lives. Text messages are sent for purposes of communication and for amusement too. One message I received from the Philippine; "The Eyes are the organs of seeing. The ears are the organs of hearing. The nose is the the organ of smelling. The tongue is the organ of tasting the other organ."

In comparison to one Malaysian message, I received three years ago, which might be still on circulation; "The strongest muscle is a man's Tongue. It can raise woman's legs with just one lick. The lightest muscle is a man's Penis. It can be raised by a woman's Tongue."

Many would have received them too. Perhaps you might say now, "Ayah! I had seen them before. These are old stuffs lah!" The fact is, "Can you differentiate them?"

My insight to their words. The Philippine is more refine and gentle in personality. The Malaysian is rough and unpolished. Both are creative but the Malaysian is more courageous than the Philippine. Both have interest over sex but the Philippine is more romantic than us. We would be wild and aggressive on bed whereas they would be gentle and soft.

Funny isn't it! Words define your thoughts and character. There is a saying, "A picture is better than a thousand words." However when you have no picture, then words are still important in our lives.

Mobile phone is a nuisance!

Reading my son's blog, mobchina.blogspot.com on his recent, "2.7 billion mobile subscribers worldwide for 2006" is interesting. 2.7 billion representing 41.4% of human race is unbelievable.

I bought my first Atur's car phone, way back in 1985 costing RM13000. I was the first few in my company as an agent using car phone. It was a real prestige and status conscious of owning one those days. If ever you talked on the phone while driving, all eyes would be on you. Remarks like,"Wow! Car phone!" or "See! That guy is driving with a car phone."

Things changed today. The super successful or one with power, need not carry any mobile phone because they have PA or bodyguard to carry for them. Is only those who have not make it to that position need to carry one. Person like me or you, who are reading my blog now.

I think the usage of mobile phone could relate the personality and achievement of a person. For those youngsters who are not working yet, carrying the phone and not using them are already a pride. Deep down in their heart, they are happy and proud to hold a phone. They want the whole world to know that they have one. Without them realising, they are telling the adults that I am still a kid.

For those who are working and still struggling in life, carrying the phone is a must. Each time the phone rings or when a text message is sounded, they would get excited. They are not the least be disturbed by any calls or messages. More calls and messages are their survival in business or career.

On the hand, those who are living in the fast lane, find that the mobile phones are a nuisance. They need to carry one because they have to be very mobile. There are too many people who need to communicate with them. How they wish, when they could talk less on phone or without using them.

Likewise I mentioned earlier, if you are truly the successful one, your PA would carry one for you. Instead of being disturbed, your PA screen the in-calls for you first. So! The next time, you want to act successful, don't try to show your expensive phone but rather don't use any phone, then you are term as the successful one.

My wife had never carry any mobile phone before. Sad to say, lately she had been succumbed to carry one because for the sake of reaching her grand children is greater. I thought she was one powerful lady but not true either!

The IT & Communication have really changed the landscape of our world.

Exercising prolong sexual pleasure - final

No sportsmen could contest in any tournament, if they are not trained to be fit and well. Whether you are playing badminton or golf or a marathon runner, you need to train on stamina and strength endurance. Running the distance is a must to built stamina. Working out in the gym is to improve your strength.

The world asked, "What is the definition of exercising?" The International Sport Council responded: "Minimum 20 minutes of strenuous body movement of any kind. When the heart has to beat to a certain intensity rate, resulting into deep breathing and perspiring."

If this is the definition, the world asked an interesting question, "Is sexual intercourse considered as a form of exercising? There are many who could work on the bed by hours non stop. Their action and movement are like aerobic style. They have hard breathing and perspired energetically like a sportsmen. Their heart rate is definitely high."

Conclusion from the sport council, "Well! If both parties concerned, could work within our definition as specified, certainly this type of sexual intercourse is exercising."

Good news! My readers! The next round you are on bed, you know you are also exercising your heart and body. Of course, provided you could work within this specification. However can you be able to prolong your sex, if you do not have your stamina and strength. In order for you to last and perform, there is no short-cut on marathon sexual exercise. Training is the secret!

All marathon runners are discipline before they run the actual race. Are you? They trained to be fit and strong to last the distance. They know how to control their stamina for the two and half hours race. They reserved their strength till the last home turn before they burst their last breath to win. They have the experience as well. If you intend to run the marathon sexual race on bed, then you too have to train to be fit and strong first. Is it logical!

Dr Bob Delmonteque, currently 85 years young. His book Lifelong Fitness on his last chapter written, "One of the most exciting developments I've discovered in the research on hormones and aging is that you've got the ability to build your confidence and improve your love life through physical conditioning. Whether you're 40 and suffer from low self-esteem, or 60 and suffering from physical changes associated with aging, you don't have to be deprived of sexual enjoyment. Working out can lead to better cardiovascular response and better blood flow. Furthermore, sex requires a certain amount of stamina and muscle movement. Doesn't it make sense, then a physically fit person is guaranteed better sexual encounters and greater sexual enjoyment? "


Buy his book and you would see his posture yourself. Believe me, he has a lot of lady admirers and still can make baby, if he wants to even at this golden age.

Last tip for those who are keen on bed room exercise. Before you start the game on the bed, ten minutes of warming up is vital important. All marathon runners have to warm up first before they start the actual run. Otherwise they might not make the distance. So ladies and gentlemen, if you intend to have a long marathon, the trick is have your warming up first.

I hope the information works for you, especially the one who is reading my blog now. Try!

Exercising prolong sexual pleasure

I was never a sportsman before, until I turned 44 when I became serious in regular exercising. It was not easy at the beginning because stupid mind kept telling myself to delay, even I knew exercising was good for health. After going through these 16 years, I think I could share some advices and tips to my readers.

From books and friendly information gathered: there are three stages of awareness before one could reach a level of full commitment in regular exercising without distraction.

At stage one; you know exercising is important but some how or rather, the drive and interest isn't there to push you. Only at times for some good reasons, you might do some workout, run or play some form of games or sports with friends. The urgency won't be there. You might even consider exercising as a waste of time.

At stage two; you have developed a better habit to exercise. May be with some influence and encouragement from others. At times you could be serious working out long hours. However the danger is, sometimes certain excuses would lay you off. Once that happened, it is difficult to come back again.

At stage three; the regular exercise benefits your health for certain. You are convinced that exercising is part of living. Just like you need food to survive, and regular exercising keeps you strong and healthy. You are committed for life. From now onwards, you don't need persuasion and encouragement any more. You would feel guilty, if you do not exercise. Once you reach this stage of awareness, there would be no turning back. It is at this stage that one should try to reach for perfection.

It took me almost one year to reach stage three to exercise regularly. On three times a week, I won't fail to go to my gym in the club. I would run to strengthen my cardio-vascular and pump iron to build my muscle. Running improves stamina but is advisable to know the right way to run. Measure your heartbeats when you run. The younger you are, the higher your heartbeat should be when you are running. You can buy a heartbeat's wrist watch to time your run. You have to run at least 20 minutes for the heart to beat at the appropriate intensity to gain the optimum result. You might be walking or slow run for hours but not having the right intensity of heartbeat, your heart would not be properly regulated. If you are a normal healthy person, you would not feel dizzy while running fast or stopping immediately after a long run. Is good to check your recovery time on your heart after each run. If your heartbeats could return to normal after a rest of 3 minutes, you would be term as normal healthy person. I am sure your stamina would be good. Walking three floors up with a brief case isn't difficult for you then.

Strength exercise is equally important. This could be done by using iron workout in the gym. You can exercise according to your needs and physical weakness. The purpose is to build strength on to your physical parts. As we age, our body mass and muscle would soften. Strength exercise prolong and maintain the mass within us. Basically these are the two types of exercise for our body; heart exercise for stamina and strength for the body muscle.

My regular exercises had helped me tremendously in living and working. Many would wonder where I gained my strength and enthusiasm. It is the exercise that vitalize and energize my personality. I feel my present physical is much better than when I was younger. Wisdom mind of 60 and energetic body of a 37. What else should I ask for in life coz 'health is wealth.'
Long term exercising could improve and prolong sexual pleasure; The main aim in life for any normal person. Want to find out more on this interesting subject, please blog onto my next preview again. I assure you, you have a lot to gain and to laugh as well.

Just listen to your heart

This blog title is a reply for a special lady whom I admire. Annie is a very committed management staff with our company, who conducts training for our agencies. She asked whether I listened from my heart for inspiration to write.

Yes! My dear, not only I listen from my heart, but I also see with my eyes, and utilize my mind to think. Most people depend on their mind to work. Mind alone could be corrupted and eyes could deceive at times. Heart is pure. The combination of the mind, eyes and heart would be more profound.

Most younger people start with their eyes to seek for a better career. Normally they are carried away by the glamour they see. They look at all the attractive possessions others have; like expensive cars, luxurious home and classic holidays. Later they use their mind to create their own dreams to satisfy their desire. Mind alone could be dangerous because it corrupts. They could do things beyond imagination.

If the younger generation could understand to apply and listen with their hearts, their eyes and mind would reflect with a purer thought. Their character and behaviour would be more sincere and caring in nature. The logic is; the heart is the place where love resides. My belief, "The happy and loving heart of a person sees the world more beautifully." And when you have sincerity and concern, kindness would be shown. "Kindness is a language, when the blind can sees and the deaf can hears."

I wish all my fellow agents not only work with their eyes and mind but listen with their heart too. If you are, I am sure your life journey would be a pleasant one. Best of luck to Annie and her branch.