Two meanings one word......

A word that has two meanings. One causes Hate and the other creates Joy

A popular motivational speaker was entertaining his audience. He Said : "The best years of my life were spent in the arms of a woman who wasn't my wife!" The audience was in silence and shock. The speaker added: "And that woman was my mother!" Laughter and applause!!

Money is important to woman......

To me as a man I would say...The Beauty of a woman isn't in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to the heart - the place where love resides".

Asked a little girl of twenty what she sees in the beauty of man... Answer was he must have a lot of money. The lady who just turned thirty said.. He must be rich and wealthy. The matured woman of forty claimed that man must be filthy rich in order to be termed as successful. An auntie of fifty declared man should be loaded with tons of cash in his bank account before he could marry her daughters. Old grannies could be happier if their sons and grand sons are all millionaires. Is easy to satisfy woman! Gentlemen please buck up.

Food for thought - "Money poisons you when you've got it, and starves you when you haven't" -D. H. LAWRENCE, Lady Chatterley's Lover

Hat of convenience......

What hat do you wear? I mean what type of personality do you carry yourself. Some have more than one. Outside you are an angel to everyone but at home you are like a devil.

I remember when I was young, married with children still in school, I took life very seriously. At work, I would not joke and laugh and all my colleagues were scared of me. My boss liked my character then, a serious employee is a committed and responsible worker. In functions and parties nobody darned to challenge me for a drink because I never like drinking. My words and thoughts were firm and friends found it difficult to change my perception and thinking. In the house, all my children were afraid of me because I never played fun with them either. To avoid my presence whenever I reached home, they would be hiding in their own bedroom, pretending to be studying. Yes! I was wearing one hat of the same personality of myself. No smile and no joke, except the seriousness in me.

Later in life when I took up selling life insurance, I began to change because the career allows me to learn and to relearn all about life. I was seeing many people and families, everyone of them was different in behaviour and in character. I saw the educated and professional classes whom I thought were polished in manner but it was the not so educated and unprofessional classes who taught me the language of kindness. The rich might have the wealth and success but the poor have the heart of richness. What hat do I wear now? Yes! Today I wear the Hat Of Convenience.

The Hat of convenience is one you could change. Don't just always carry one hat. Have many hats to keep. I have the hat of respect to make people like me. The hat of trust which people believe in us. The hat of humour and fun, when everyone smiles at you. The hat of responsibility and honesty which add all values in ourselves. Thanks a million to my career, today I have many Hats to convenient my interaction with the world. Certainly I make myself a better rounded person.

Food for thought - “It's beauty that captures your attention; personality which captures your heart.”

Funeral Expenses.......

Enjoy this joke. Don't let your wife see it.

A man and his ever-nagging wife went on vacation in Jerusalem .
While they were there, the wife suddenly passed away.
The undertaker told the husband, "You can have her buried here in the Holy Land
for $150, or we can have her shipped back to your country for $5,000.
The husband thought about it and told the undertaker he would have her shipped
back home. The undertaker asked him, "why would you spend $5,000 to have her
shipped home when you could have a beautiful burial here, and it would only cost you
$150 ?". The husband replied, "I know. Long ago, a man died here, was buried here.
But three days later, rose from the dead. I just can’t take that chance !"

Why shout when angry?

A Buddha asked his disciples, 'Why do we shout in anger?
Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?'

Disciples thought for a while, one of them said, 'Because
we lose our calm, we shout for that.'

'But, why to shout when the other person is just next to you?' asked the Buddha.

'Isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?
Why do you shout at a person when you're angry?'

Disciples gave some other answers but none satisfied the Buddha.

Finally he explained, 'When two people are angry at each other, their
hearts distance a lot.

To cover that distance they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are, the stronger they will have to shout to hear
each other through that great distance.'

Then the Buddha asked, 'What happens when two people fall in love?
They don't shout at each other but talk softly, why?

Because their hearts are very close. The distance between them is very small...'

The Buddha continued, 'When they love each other even more, what happens?
They do not speak, only whisper and they get even closer to each other
in their love.

Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that's all.

That is how close two people are when they love each other.'

MORAL: When you argue do not let your hearts get distant, do not say words that distance each other.

You look younger with an older man....

Nobody likes to be old or to look older, especially for the ladies. If you are a woman who is at the late fifties, you might look pretty old to men who are forties and below. However when she is surrounded with the senior citizen males, she is a darling to all of them.

The other day while I was enjoying a party with little darling, we saw a lady who was sitting alone sipping her wine. She looks old to us. We were guessing her age, wondering whether she is in her early fifties or much older. Later there came another male guest whom I believe could be touching his late seventies. Out of lonesome, both the lady and the man sat together to introduce themselves. They chat and drank happily. I told little darling to look closer at her again. I forwarded this question.."Dear! Do you think this lady looks younger now?" Little darling was amazed with the rapid change in her. "Yes! Yes! She certainly looks much younger now".

Reason was quite simple because there was another much older gentleman to create the contrast personality in her. Moral of the story... A woman to pick a lover who has to be much much older than her. Otherwise as you grow older, you might look a mother to him.

Good advice - “Better have an old man to humor than a young rake to break your heart” -proverb quotes

How to love woman... For the man.

I was a lousy male lover when I was young. Today with much more understanding of life, I make a better lover to the woman I love most now. Yesterday I was writing 'How to love man' for the ladies to read and today I like to share with the men... 'How to love woman!'

All ladies like intelligent gentlemen who could share their knowledge and wisdom. If men who are smart enough to add humour and fun into their sharing, they might even capture the heart of those ladies who listen. An intelligent man without a sweet and pleasant mouth seldom attracts the females, but those who speak with compliments, appreciation and admiration are always the blue eyed boys for the ladies. Women feel secure when they are with men who are brave and are willing to walk the extra miles with them. You might not be the richest man in town but when you have a generous heart and a kind thought, most ladies could fall for you too. Don't forget to arm and develop a short gun for yourself because no wild pussy would be satisfied with a soft and weak little john. Be exciting and romantic to lead coz you are a man.

Believe me it works! Otherwise I won't be having so many dears, honeys, darlings and one sweetheart who all loves me so much.

Funny Quote - "A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man".

How to love man... for the ladies

A single lady friend was lonesome. Successful she is in her career but not many know she craves for someone to love her. Seeking my knowledge she wanted me to teach her how to love a man.

This was what I told the lady who is at her late forties. No man would like a bossy woman. The woman could be intelligence with her friends but she has to be smart to play dumb when she is with her man. To stand out in the open, is good for any woman to be attractive, creative, knowledgeable or even enterprising but never show your authority and prowess with the man you love. All women have the feminine charm, tenderness, sexiness and most important of all is the hidden pussy, God given to them. Use your care and concern to capture the attention of him. Blow your smell of sweetness to brighten his eyes. Move your gorgeous physical from top to bottom to excite his thought. Apply your tender words and voice to stimulate his brain. Meow your pussy when the time is right. Act 'Stupid' as innocent to win his love. If only that lady friend could offer herself as what I had described, getting a man to fall in love with her is so easy. So sad! She behaves almost like a man.

For all the women - “You don't love a woman because she is beautiful, but she is beautiful because you love her”

P.S. tomorrow title - How to love woman.. for the men.

Thought & Action.....

I might look a decent and honest gentleman but believe me, 'The Devil & The Angel' play trick in my mind at time.

For instance, there came a beautiful and sexy lady whom was impossible not to stare at. The Angel in me would say... "Hey Robert! Please admire her only from the outside and don't you darn to think further than this. Behave yourself coz you are a good man!" At the same time The Devil from nowhere came to counter the thought as..."Hey young man! She is an available girl who makes a perfect match for you. Try her lah! She could thrill you to the utmost. Make a move now and she is yours!"

Or another incident when I found a heavy wallet in the Club Gym. Inside the wallet, it contained a few thousand dollars plus many important documents. My Angel was kind enough to tell me that I should handover to the Club office this lost wallet and hopefully it would be returned to the rightful party. While walking towards the office, that silly Devil came and disturbed my mind again.. "Why lah! You found it and its yours now. That few thousands can buy you a lot of goodies and fun for yourself.".

Thanks God! By my strong belief, good faith and right teaching, my inner sub-conscious helps me to relate what is right and wrong. Though the 'Devil & Angel' are always there to debate my thought, I never fail to honour my respect for others and hold my dignity in honesty. Yes! I was staring at that sexy lady with some wild imagination but I took it as just fantasy admiration for her. As for the lost wallet's incident, it was returned to the rightful owner but I reminded myself never to allow that unwanted Devil to come into my mind again.

The moral of the story is... To control our physical action is easy but to control our thought is definitely harder. Action can be seen, whereas thoughts are hidden. I'm telling the truth of myself. What about you?

Food for thought - "Thinking good thoughts is not enough, doing good deeds is not enough, seeing others follow your good examples is enough" - Douglas Horton

Man with 39 wives.....

Mizoram, India (CNN) -- The world's population hits 7 billion this week, but Ziona, the patriarch of what may be the biggest family in the world, is not bothered.

"I don't care about overpopulation in India ... I believe God has chosen us to be like this (have big families). Those who are born into this family don't want to leave this tradition so we just keep growing and growing," he says with a smile.

Ziona, who only goes by his first name, has 39 wives, 86 children and 35 grandchildren.
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Is 160 enough? Not Ziona, the one man of the world with 39 wives. Even with one wife at home, most men find it difficult to manage. I wonder how Ziona could!!!

Rita Rudner quoted - "I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life" (Not for Ziona. He needs 39)

Women Gossip.....

A Pastor goes to the dentist for a set of false teeth. The first Sunday
after he gets his new teeth, he talks for only eight minutes. The second
Sunday, he talks for only ten minutes. The following Sunday, he talks
for 2 hours and 48 minutes.

The congregation had to mob him to get him down from the pulpit and they
asked him what happened.

The Pastor explains the first Sunday his gums hurt so bad he couldn't
talk for more than 8 minutes. The second Sunday his gums hurt too much
to talk for more than 10 minutes. But, the third Sunday, he put his
wife's teeth in by mistake and he couldn't shut up....

I have to accept this fact -"You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy"
Erica Jong quotes

Mental Exercise for Senior Citizen

Just relax, clear your mind and Begin

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  1. What do you put in a toastor?


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  If you said "toast", give up now and do something else!


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  Try not to hurt yourself.


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  *If you said bread, go to Question 2.



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  2. Say "silk" five times. Now spell "silk"


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  What do cows drink?


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  If you said "milk", don't attempt the next Question.


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  Your brain is over stressed and may even over heat!


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  *How ever if you said "water", please proceed to Question 3.



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  3. If a red house is made from red bricks... and a blue house is made from blue bricks, and a pink house is made from pink bricks, and a black house is made from black bricks, what is a green house made from?


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  If you said "green bricks, why are you still reading these???


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  *If you said "glass", go to Question 4.



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  4. It's twenty years ago, and a plane is flying at 20,000 feet over Germany. (If you recall, Germany at that time was politcally divided into West Germany and East Germany) Anyway, during the flight, two engine fail. The pilot, realizing that last remaining engine is also failing, decides on a crash landing procedure. Unfortunately the engine fails before he can do so and the plane fatally crashes smack in the middle of "no man"s land" between East Germany and West Germany. Where would you bury the survivors? East Germany, West Germany, "or no man's land"?


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  If your answer is any one of the 3, you MUST STOP now!


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  *If you said, "you don't bury survivors" proceed to next Question.



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  5. Without using a calculator.....


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  You are driving a bus from KL city to Penang.


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  In KL city, 38 people get on the bus.


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  In Rawang 12 people get off the bus and nine people get on.


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  In Tanjong Malim 2 people get off and 12 people get on.


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  In Kampar 11 people get off and 7 get on.


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  In Ipoh 21 people get off and 16 get on.


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  In Butterworth 9 people get off and 2 get on.


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  You then arrive in Penang city.



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  What was the name of the bus driver?



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  *Dont you remember your name?



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  Wonderful Quote “Life's golden age is when the kids are too old to need baby-sitters and too young to borrow the family car”

The right way to speak on telephone....

The other day I received a call from one of our management executive who was trying to relate a message to me. She introduced herself and the next second she spoke so fast like a bullet train when I couldn't even catch a word she said.

Is like..."I am Sita from the HQ. Your client #####@@@ @@#2 @@++^^!!!??~~~~ <.> <> <> @@@ dot dot tuneeeeeeee Ttattttaa aa XXXXxxxxxx!!!!!!!"

Though I attempted to stop her many times, she didn't even realised them. A bit disturbed myself, I had to raise and to yell aloud my voice over the phone before she could pause.

I told her, "My dear, you have a beautiful voice but you spoke too fast and I could not make out your words. Please take your time and stay calmly. For anyone to understand your conversation on the telephone, you have to speak slowly with pauses in between the lines. Each sentence has to be briefly suspended for a break, so that your listener could understand your explanation. The slower you speak, the easier we could understand. Speak with clarity and speak with confidence my dear. Remember you are representing a Number One Insurance Company in town and we have to speak with perfection."

Sita was happy that I corrected her mistakes. And I'm sure she would improve gradually. Many young people could be efficient on a desk job but when they are needed to communicate, they fail to speak well because not many are trained to speak professionally.

Food for thought - "The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause" -- Mark Twain

Unpleasant words can kill.....

A recent news reported.... Ten-year-old girl hangs herself.

A 10-year-old girl in the United States hung herself with a scarf after being called a slut, ugly and fat.

Shaken by the bullying, Ashlynn Conner told her mother she wanted to be home schooled but was denied.

Her mother, Stacy Conner, told WCIA-TV “I thought my kids are strong kids, and that my words for them for guidance and advice was going to have more weight than what these kids could be saying.”

Ashlynn's sister found her hanging in her closet the following day.

Her single mother told WCIA-TV she knew her daughter was being bullied, but not to that extent.

In another case last week, teenager Ashley Billasano tweeted 144 times before committing suicide. Not one of her 500 followers reached out to help her.
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See! Words can kill! I always advised others to say good things. If you had non, please keep your mouth shout. Meaningful words, sincere compliments, nice proverbs or powerful quotes can inspire and motivate our mind. While unpleasant words always hurt our emotion and feeling. Try avoiding them at all cost. Though I'm a non writer but with much admiration and appreciative comments from my readers, they spur me to write everyday since 2007.

Please remember -"Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones"

Good Manner in proper seating on dinning....

Our local news reported... Retired Ah Long gunned down at coffee shop

JOHOR BARU: A 60-year-old retired Ah Long was shot dead as he was having breakfast with his wife at a coffee shop in Taman Ungku Tun Aminah here.

Lee Shoo Tong, who was a regular at the shop along Jalan Perkasa 4 here, died at the scene at 9.15am yesterday.

Lee was sitting with his back facing the road when the shot was fired.
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Should Mr Lee knew how to locate his sitting place, he would have been alive today. In our typical Chinese culture, it's a manner to offer a proper seating for those who are older than us, especially for an older senior man. Whenever I have an opportunity to dine with a group of friends, I make sure the person who is older than me has to be placed with a seat besides a wall. I will invite him to sit first, his body behind a wall and he faces towards the open. Is bad manner to allow the young one to sit inside while the older one sitting with their back facing the open or the road. The logic is simple! Sitting inside with the wall behind is safer. It offers a direct view when one could see the entire area. You know exactly what is happening around the restaurant.

On the other hand, if I happened to be eating alone, I won't pick a seat with my back facing the road, or near to the toilet or even the kitchen place. I prefer to face toward the front or the main entrance. A seat I considered to be lucky and comfortable.

One fine tip to the man. As a gentleman myself, I always invite ladies to sit first and placing myself again to sit inside with my back facing the wall. While dinning, I have to be alert and careful to make sure that my ladies in attendance are well protected. Should anything occurred behind the ladies, I would not hesitate to casual them. Life is always uncertain, accidents could happen anytime and a first class gentleman is one who could save his friends. So! If one is smart, he should know how to position himself even sitting in a eating place.

Food for thought - "Good manners will open doors that the best education cannot" -Clarence Thomas

The Art of Selling.....

Selling tips...

Are you proud to be a salesperson? If you aren't, selling is going to be tough for you. Professional salesperson is an unique breed, one who could understand another person better than other professionals. Let me show you our special skills.

Professional salesperson has a sharp sight to determine a real and a genuine buyer. At looking the face of a person, he could see the facial expression of whether the potential customer is ready to befriend him. The various features of the face shows the character of a person. The intelligence is indicated on the eyebrows, the both eyes reveal the heart, the nose represents authority, the bone structure highlights confidence and the ears symbolise longevity and strength. This is the understanding of facial study which good sales persons could master.

Next! All professional salesperson develop a pair of patient ears. They listen and to understand the needs of their customers. They give ample time for others to speak and talk. Their patience allows their mind to understand and eventually to offer the best solutions for their clients. Their ears are sharp to differentiate whether customers are truthful in their words. A No might not be a true No, or a Yes might not be a true Yes! A good sales person knows whether potential customers are lying or cheating. This is the mastering of talking and good sales persons acquire it as an Art.

Next! All professional salesperson love talking. They don't just speak with their mind, but rather they speak with their mind and the heart together. They are intelligence in their thought and sincere in their doing. Their words are persuasive, convincing and meaningful. Their enthusiasm and excitement from their words create action and energy. Man would like them and ladies might even fall in love with them too. Mind you! Talking is an Art.

Next! A Super Professional salesperson even learns Graphology. Graphology is the pseudo scientific study and analysis of handwriting, especially in relation to human psychology. By the handwriting and signature of his friends and clients, he could assess the personality of the individual. This knowledge allows him to deal more efficiently with his customers.

If you do have these qualities and skills, selling would definitely be interesting and rewarding. I consider myself as a Super Professional salesperson because I do have all these skills. I'm proud of my job and would never trade my profession for anything on earth. What about you?

A good salesperson has this - 'They may forget what you said, but they will never forget how you made them feel" -Carl W. Buechner quotes

What I want in a Man.......?

While dinning in a Japanese Restaurant, I collected something interesting and would like to share with everyone.....

What I want in a man, Original List....
1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financial successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dress in style
8. Appreciate finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises

What I want in a man, Revised List (age 32)....
1. Nice looking
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Listens more than talks
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Remembers birthday and anniversaries

What I want in a man, Revised List (age 42)....

1. Not too ugly

2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car

3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally

4. Nods head when I'm talking

5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes

6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture

7. Wears a shirt that cover his stomach

8. Knows not to buy champagne with a screw-top lids

9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down

10. Shaves most weekends

What I want in a man, Revised List (age 52)....

1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed

2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public

3. Doesn't borrow money too often

4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting

5. Doesn't re-tell the same joke too many times

6. Is in good enough shape to get off the couch on weekends

7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear

8. Appreciates a good TV dinner

9. Remembers your name on occasion

10. Shaves some weekends

What I want in a man, Revised List (age 62)....

1. Doesn't scare small children

2. Remembers where bathroom is

3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep

4. Only snores lightly when asleep

5. Remembers why he's laughing

6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself

7. Usually wears some clothes

8. Likes soft foods

9. Remembers where he left his teeth

10. Remembers that it's the weekend

What I want in a man, Revised List (age 72)....

1. Breathing

2. Doesn't miss the toilet
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If you check it with my little darling, she would tell you my Revised List is under the age 32. What about yours?

The Polish Divorce

The Polish Divorce
A Polish man moved to the USA and married an American girl.
Although his English was far from perfect, they got along very well.
One day he rushed into a lawyer's office and asked him if he could arrange a divorce for him.
The lawyer said that getting a divorce would depend on the circumstances, and asked him the following questions:

Have you any grounds?
Yes, an acre and half and nice little home.

No, I mean what is the foundation of this case?
It made of concrete.

I don't think you understand..
Does either of you have a real grudge?
No, we have carport, and not need one.

I mean what are your relations like?
All my relations still in Poland .

Is there any infidelity in your marriage?
We have hi-fidelity stereo and good DVD player.

Does your wife beat you up?
No, I always up before her.

Is your wife a nagger?
No, she white.

Why do you want this divorce?
She going to kill me.

What makes you think that?
I got proof.

What kind of proof?
She going to poison me..
She buy a bottle at drugstore
and put on shelf in bathroom.
I can read... it say:
~~~Polish Remover~~~

A piece of paper saves my day.....

This picture makes me laugh. The other day I was almost caught without paper and water after finishing my job. Angry I was but I couldn't be scolding anyone and I was to be blamed for not taking extra caution when going into an unattended toilet. Searching my pocket, I found a tiny unused white paper in my wallet. That paper saved my day.

Carry a paper please - "I put a piece of paper under my pillow, and when I could not sleep I wrote in the dark" - Henry David Thoreau

Time has changed......

I was having a business talk with my client at The Starbucks Coffee. I noticed there were many students around and all seemed to be engrossed to their books. My client's daughter was one of them. The father introduced his attractive girl to me, then only I knew these students were here to study for the next week SPM examination. SPM is equivalence to the Senior Cambridge or the Form Five Final examination. She was also here to take her passport size photograph from one of the photo shop in the shopping complex. According to her, the photograph is needed when entering the exam hall. All students have to place their personal photos on top of their desks. The purpose is to verify and confirm that the candidate is the legitimate student taking the papers.

Wow! Things have really changed. Forty eight years ago when I took the Senior Cambridge, we need not show any identification. We just walked into the hall and picked the desks that labelled our exam serial number. No one would ask us anything and we leave the hall after the papers were completed.

Time has changed! Today I believe our children are more intelligence and smarter, but they lack the creditability and trust. In order to prevent manipulating or cheating on the examination, the authorities have set rules and regulations. Not our days when cheating was uncommon and everyone trust each other. We had to burn the late nite candles to study at home, while today's children had the comfort to study with coffee served by The Starbucks. I wish to be a child again.

Moral of the story... The more intelligence one is, the more crafty and untruthful you are. The more smarter one is, the more you know how to enjoy life.

A funny proverb to laugh at -
The more you learn, the more you know,
The more you know, the more you forget
The more you forget, the less you know.

A good laugh can determine true happiness....

Mary is little darling's good friend, whom I have known three years ago. We never failed to visit her family during the Deepavali's celebration. The last visit to her home, I could sense she was much a happier lady. I told her, she is a A Happy Woman today comparing the last two years. She was curious to know how I could see her mind.

My explanation... A laugh can determine whether a person is truly happy or not! A flick laugh is usually from the mind. It's just a gesture to acknowledge another person. Or to pretend that you are happy. This hypocritical laughter doesn't come with a sincere smile and the voice is flat and doesn't sound cheerful. The flick laugh comes like "Haha Haha!!!" On the other hand, a truly happy laugh is one that vibrates and translates from the heart. It is more sweeter and tastier. This laughter could not be controlled because it's a natural sounding from the mind and the heart. The facial shows the expression of joyfulness, the pitch of the voice is relatively high and the movement of the body is graceful and charming. The laughter goes like "Hahahaha Hahahaaaaa!!!!!!!"

Yes! My dear sister Mary, I'm so glad you finally found your love and happiness. Remember this quote... "A happy heart would see a beautiful world."

What is ego......???

Little darling was asking whether egoism is bad! If you refer to some encyclopedia, their definition could be described as... Egoism is an excessive sense of self-importance and to solely act in one &apos;s own interest even if it hurts other people. People describe egoism as being "selfish."

My answer to her is Yes and No! An aggressive salesperson who has no high ego, might not challenge himself to be the top sales producer. I believe all successful people have high ego as well. Their inner pride and self esteem which are also considered as their personal ego, gives them their extra energy and force to strive for their goals and achievement. This ethical egoism creates prestigious and glamorous instinct to win all the time.

On the other hand if for some reasons, little darling has offended me and not willing to seek for forgiveness. Then I have to say, she is definitely a lady who has a lot of ego and pride, when she refuses to accept her mistakes. Her self importance is playing on her, accepting defeat is rather difficult to admit. As she is a most understanding person, she is always prepared to say the word 'Sorry' when she is at wrong. In fact to say 'Sorry' is a strength and not as most people thought it's a weakness. To say Sorry, one needs to have the courage and less of egoism to do it.

Food for thought - "Every man of action has a strong dose of egoism, pride, hardness, and cunning. But all those things will be regarded as high qualities if he can make them the means to achieve great ends" - Giorgos Seferis quotes.

A cheating husband.....

On my path in selling life insurance, I encountered unlimited cases when girls, women, ladies or wives were complaining that their men were not faithful with them. Boys dated other girls when they had special girlfriends. Women and ladies who claimed to have their soul mates, caught their men flirting with other females. Wives were frustrated to see their husbands sleeping with prostitutes or keeping another women outside. They could be sad, angry and jealous but nothing could be more devastating than this. Read on to find out yourself....

From our local news....
FOR the past few months, a 29-year-old woman suspected that her husband was having an affair.

Liza, a mother of two, noticed changes in her husband's behaviour.

“He became very hot tempered and tried to pick a fight with me over small matters.

“I also found condoms in his car,” she said, as reported by Harian Metro.

One night Liza decided to spy on him, telling him that she had to work late.

And she found out about his secret life when she found him with a naked man in their bedroom.

“When I caught them in the room together, my husband tried to give excuses, saying his friend had come over to rest in our home,” she said.

Liza also found racy SMS messages in his phone and private messages on his Facebook account with other men.

“I also found e-mails with photographs of naked men which were sent to him from other men,” said the devastated wife.

The husband later admitted that he had had sex with many men because he was sodomised during his school days.

Immediately, Liza tested herself for HIV and she was relieved when the test came back negative.

“I love my family and I don't want a divorce but I'm very confused with this situation,” she said.
“He was always very soft-spoken and gentle but I never thought it would end up this way,” said the hospital attendant from Klang.
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See! Loosing your man to another woman is sad and hurting, but loosing him to another man is something beyond return. Reason he has a little dick, while you have the soft pussy pussy only. The only advice I could suggest to Liza is... forget that man. Right or wrong?

I really like this quote -“CNN found that Hillary Clinton is the most admired woman in America. Women admire her because she's strong and successful. Men admire her because she allows her husband to cheat and get away with it.” - Jay Leno quotes

To shoot with a willing heart.

Selling tips...

Han is our BDE, a young executive staff to assist our sales agencies. This morning he sent me this message... Quoted by Robert Townsend: "If you shoot for the stars & hit the moon, its OK. But you've got to shoot for something. A lot of people don't even shoot." Is good of him to motivate our sales team with this quotation in the early morning.

I replied Han with my message... Quoted by Robert Foo: "When the mind aims to shoot with a willing heart, you will strike everything beautifully."

It took me years to understand... Selling a product by comparison and competing is tough, whereas to sell with trust & respect is much easier. The upper needs to be learned, and the latter has to be earned. Han.. Shooting alone might end nowhere but when you aim to shoot with a willing heart, you capture the entire world. Hopefully you understand!

Smart Old Man.....

He bounces and weighs each breast and he gently pinches each nipple.

He pushes her breasts together and rubs them against each other.

After a couple of minutes of this, she says, 'Okay, okay....How oA woman decides to have a face lift for her 50th birthday.

She spends $15,000 and feels pretty good about the results.

On her way home, she stops at a newsstand to buy a newspaper.

Before leaving, she says to the clerk, 'I hope you don't mind my asking, but how old do you think I am?'

'About 32,' is the reply.

'Nope! I'm exactly 50.' the woman says happily.

A little while later she goes into McDonald's and asks the counter girl the very same question.

The girl replies, 'I'd guess about 29.'

The woman replies with a big smile, 'Nope, I'm 50.'

Now she's feeling really good about herself. She stops in a drug store on her way down the street.

She goes up to the counter to get some mints and asks the clerk this burning question.

The clerk responds, 'Oh, I'd say 30.'

Again she proudly responds, 'I'm 50, but thank you!'

While waiting for the bus to go home, she asks an old man waiting next to her the same question.

He replies, 'Lady, I'm 78 and my eyesight is going. Although, when I was young there was a sure-fire way to tell how old a woman was.

It sounds very straightforward, but it requires you to let me put my hands under your bra.

Then, and only then can I tell you EXACTLY how old you are.'

They wait in silence on the empty street until her curiosity gets the best of her.

She finally blurts out, 'What the hell, go ahead.'

He slips both of his hands under her blouse and begins to feel around very slowly and carefully.
ld am I?'

He completes one last squeeze of her breasts, removes his hands, and says, 'Madam, you are 50.'

Stunned and amazed, the woman says, 'That was incredible, how could you tell?'

The old man says, 'Promise you won't get mad?'

'I promise I won't' she says.

'I was behind you at McDonalds...'

Tech Savvy Child.......

I started to learn the computer at a late age of 50. Though was a bit late, nevertheless my young heart and mind helped me to explore and to progress this far. Good enough for me to understand the blogging world. Today, things have changed! Everyone is accessible to a computer and parents are sending their children to learn the Internet. Let me introduce you to my young friend who is a Tech Savvy Child of the year.

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Anybody who says they are a good liar obviously is not, because any legitimately savvy liar would always insist they're honest about everything.
Chuck Klosterman

Awesome Mom......

Clinging on for dear life to the side of a vertical cliff, the tiny lion cub cries out pitifully for help.

His mother arrives at the edge of the precipice with three other lionesses and a male. The females start to clamber down together but turn back daunted by the sheer drop.

Eventually one single factor determines which of them will risk her life to save the youngster – motherly love.

The drama begins: The mother arrives at the edge of the cliff as her son cries out for rescue after being trapped when he slipped.

On the brink: Four lionesses look over the edge before aborting their rescue mission because of the sheer drop.

Slowly, agonisingly, the big cat edges her way down towards her terrified son, using her powerful claws to grip the crumbling cliff side.

One slip from her and both animals could end up dead at the bottom of the ravine.

Just as the exhausted cub seems about to fall, his mother circles beneath him and he is snatched up in her jaws.

She then begins the equally perilous journey back to the top. Minutes later, they arrive and she gives the frightened creature a consoling lick on the head.

The dramatic rescue, captured by wildlife photographer Jean-Francois Largot, was played out in Kenya ’s Masai Mara game reserve.

Despite the presence of wardens to deter poachers, day-to-day life for the lions is not without its dangers … as the cub learned the hard way.

Rescue mission: The mother inches her way down the cliff face to rescue the terrified cub before locking him in her jaws and making her way back up the cliff face.

Motherly love: The mother gives her son a lick to say that all is well in the pride following the drama.

HOW AWESOME IS THIS?

Hug & kisses save your love....

Over a dinner with a couple who are my clients, the wife was complaining that the husband is easily agitated and getting angry most of the time.

Softly over her ear, I told her... "My dear! You are to be blamed."

She was taken aback, shocked and confused to hear that immediate statement.

This was my explanation... Most successful men are busy. Busy men are usually stressful because they are ambitious, active, enterprising and have high expectation on their work. Such men like to be appreciated and admired upon. The lucky one might get some pats from their bosses for performing. The little gentle taps or compliments could lighten the stressful mind. Not all bosses are the understanding type or if you have no boss to appreciate your excellencies, you have to work alone silently. The lonesome world might lead you to be unhappy and frustrated. However if the wife or the girlfriend understands the emotion of man, things would work differently. The touches, hugs, kisses and gentle strokes from women are considered as a gesture of affection. The more attentions and affection of such are given to the man, the less stressful would he be. Even animals, like cats and dogs lick to touch their partners all the time. When you hear the sound of Meooooow!!! from a cat, you know she is happy. Man even needs more.

Telling the wife on the face I said, "You have not touched enough with your husband. For him to be agitated easily, you are to be blamed."

For the men... Don't forget our women as well. Hug and kiss them more often. Me... Oh! I love to be hugged all the time. Do you know.. "A kiss without a hug is like a flower without the fragrance."

The power of the inner brain....

I have a keen learner who is a 10 years old boy. He knows the different between intelligence and smart. Intelligence is the ability to learn and smartness is the ability to apply what you have learned. Recently he asked again,"Sifu! How to be smart like you?"

In the simplest way to explain to my student, I said... Each time when u learn and hear something interesting, please talk and share with friends about what you have gathered. Information could be stored in our outer brain for only 48 hours. If you don't apply what you have listened, after the 48 hours you would find it difficult to remember what you had learned. However if you seriously attempt to speak and use the application within the 48 hours, those information would be automatically be pushed and stored into your inner brain for future use. The inner brain has the capacities to keep and maintain million of data and info in this powerful memory. Smartness comes when you have more ideas and thoughts which are permanently stored in this magical brain.

The 10 years old friend found it easy to learn from the above explanation. I hope you too.

Food for thought - "All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become" - Buddha quotes.

Selling needs sincerity.....

On my recent title, 'Dedication' a comment was posted by Maram who said...
Hi Young man Bob,
Many a time an insurance agent comes to me to sell their product. I always doubt their sincerity. Are they selling bcos it is really good for me & family, or it is more good for him? He is motivated becos it is his lifeline! Not quite bcos he wants to help me!! Xcept for medical n life protection, i think the savings plan are nothing but dull!
Sincerity Bob, are they sincere in their job! Nothing beats sincerity. W/o it, they are just sleek deceivers?

Maram... Just to keep you a little inform on what is happening in our company. On 9th Sept 2011, our company advertised in the paper with the headline as 'Listening reaps golden success.' The advertisement was to congratulate 244 of our stellar agents who had gained the prestigious Million Dollar Round Table (MDRT) recognition. Founded 1n 1927, MDRT is the US-based premier association for the world's leading financial professionals in the life insurance business.

I believe my company has the most qualifying MDRT agents of the year 2011 in our local industry, numbering 244. We have 13,000 contracted agents in the company. The 244 represents less than 2% of our total working agents. On worldwide calculation, it's a known fact that each year there is less than 3% of the international life insurance agents would qualify the MDRT.

Out of our 244 qualifying MDRT agents, One has been a qualifying and life member for 28 years consecutively, follow by the next one of 16 years, one 12 years, one 11 years and the rest below nine years qualification. Most of them are mainly for the first and second years qualification. Many had qualified before but not many could sustain and to maintain the qualification repeatedly every year. The qualification is based on our personal production. Maram, if you had seen that advertisement, your friend RF is the one who holds the 28 years qualification.

Yes! Certainly I'm proud and happy to be able to qualify this prestigious association every year. The fact is... Without the support and respect from my clients and friends, I know very well, I won't be able to reach there.

Next question in your mind... Why not many agents qualified like you? Maram, do you know the big money is not just selling and selling. The high earners are those who have many agents who sell for them. I have many colleagues who joined the industry almost the same time with me, are currently holding the position as Group Agency Manager or Senior Agency Manager. Each of them could be having direct or indirect agents numbering by the thousand or hundred. The overriding earning could be by the million too. Not only they earn much more than me, the companies they represent love them even more. Their forces and influence are greater than one RF who has nothing to show, except the dedication and commitment to his clients.

Why many could not sustain selling life insurance? Reasons.. Not many would have the patience and determination to learn the trick of being successful. Those who could have make some money, find it difficult to continue to see prospects endlessly. The principle company encourages agents to recruit for further expansion. They believe in numbers or sizable agencies who could bring in the sales. Recognition and glamour are always directed to Agency Managers. Those who could have reached and matured to a ripe old age in selling as agents, understand the sincerity in thought and speak the language of kindness. In this process of life, they would have lost the determination to strive, or their enthusiasm could have diminished or their physical health is rather weak by now. Not forgetting the business requires constant learning and upgrading, otherwise the aging agents might be unable to progress in this career any longer.

Maram I hope you understand. Selling life insurance isn't easy as one thinks. You might want our whims and fancy, but the one who could stay and last in this career is the one who loves and has passion in selling.

Specially for Maram - “When work, commitment, and pleasure all become one and you reach that deep well where passion lives, nothing is impossible.”