Tuesday, June 19, 2007

The three Cs for ever lasting love

For any love relationship to last, three Cs are needed, "Compassion, Compatible and Communication." They sounded simple words but most lovers are not aware the important of them. For the purposes of those who are still in love, I suggest you read on. True love story. Three years ago, one of my close friend, Chan who had never fallen in love before, came excitingly to tell me that he had met a most wonderful girl called Fun. Both Chan and Fun were dating for a couple of months. Their love blossomed and they were happy with each other. The most ideal man for a woman is his true sincere love, which Chan has till today. Chan never failed to text Fun all the romantic and sweet words everyday. Each night before she slept, he again would call to say, "I love you" before they parted into their dreamworld. At any moment of time, be it the morning, afternoon or late night, if she called for anything, he would be there for her. Should she require any physical, financial or work assistance, he would be her saviour for sure. He assured her that he would even die for her if necessary. Chan is almost a perfect lover for any woman because he is a faithful and a sincere man.

Fun might not be young but the beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, or the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart. Chan could see this woman has this grow in her eyes. It took him 30 years to find such loving woman.

The first two years were beautiful for Chan and Fun when they had Compassion for each other. The work and time spend were Compatible to them as well. All friends envied their romance and love. However in any relationship, Communication is the most important factor for bonding and understanding. Sad to say, by the third years of Chan and Fun relationship, it started to sour with bitter argument. Both took each other for granted. He loved her so much when she fell he was like possessing her. He spent almost every night talking to her on phone, when he did not know that she was far pressed for time. His words sounded like instruction rather than as advices to her. She almost had no time for herself when she did not utter a word. Love turned into suffocation. The causes of these misunderstanding were merely because they both had not communicated with each other. They had not explained the need and adjustment for themselves. Every body on earth isn't perfect and including Chan and Fun. They had the compassion and were compatible at the beginning but they had forgotten to communicate frankly within.

It was a sad love ending but I hope this couple would read my blog to understand the defects of life. I sincerely believe they were the best lovers I ever met and I hope they could give each other another chance again. After all they only need the last 'C' to perfect this relationship.

Specially for Chan and Fun, "Life has its ups and downs. Sometimes the sun shines, sometimes the rain pours. But don't forget, it takes both sun and rain to make a Rainbow. Have your rainbow again."

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