Monday, August 16, 2010

Fatherly advices to my friends children.

What types of children you like to have? The well behaved but soft and tender or the unmanner one but tough and out going. All parents want their children to be successful for sure.

This week i have two assignments. A mother is worried over her son who is too good a child. Ivon is in the mid twenties, an animal lover who is in his pet business. He is kind, gentle and humble, all friends would confirm he is a well behaved boy. I like speaking with him, because he has patience and tolerance in respecting the elders. However his mother claimed that Ivon is too soft, when many people might be taking advantages on him. Furthermore she finds it difficult to teach her grown up son now. She knows the son is very closed to me. Over the recent telephone call, she requested a favour from me, to guide and enlighten her boy. Her last message, "Teach my son to be a bit naughty, i mean good naughtiness like you."

The second assignment is a father who is having concern over his son. Lmi is about the same age like Ivon, who has just returned from London. Lmi was supposed to be studying abroad but due to outside influence, he failed to concentrate on his studies. Though he is an Asian, he thinks and clothed like a Westerner, a personality which the father didn't like. Due to his stubbornness, the unhappy dad insisted the child to return home. Although many of his family members might not like Lmi's character, me and Lmi gets along like good buddies. We speak from the heart and i know Lmi is a very talented and creative young man. His father sent me this message, "Please motivate my son."

Looks like i am going to be the parent to Ivon and Lmi, a task i love doing. The past experiences of me parenting my children, might be useful to them. My only advice to these parents are, treat your children more like a friend and you would win their heart.

Food for thought - "It's not only children who grow. Parents do too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can't tell my children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it, myself" ~ Joyce Maynard

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